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How do I go about this ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've always fantasied about sharing and getting into the world of swinging with my gorgeous wife. For years now actually! It's been on the tip of my tongue lots of times when d*unk and when we're playing ect . I just don't know how to go about asking without it being a drama ect ... How did you guys go about it ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

My partner talked to me.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Have the conversation, basically I'd you can't talk about wanting to try then you've no chance.

Communication and trust is a huge part of swinging if there lacking then don't try.

If she knows your already on here then maybe get her to have a look around, watch a program like open house to start the conversation.

If she doesn't know your here then just dont.

Mrs

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge

It was my partner who told me about it during a particularly nice sex session, it could always be claimed to be just fantasy if you are nervous.

Talking is really the best way , because unless you do it could be very awkward!

Hope you both work it out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

When we first met we talked about our past sexual experiences. Seemed we had a common vision of trying swinging so we decided to join fab. John let me set up the profile and gives me total control over running it. He gives me the final say on meets ect. And here we are loving it abd embracing the lifestyle. Joanne.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's never been a question for us as we met here but maybe when you are being intimate talk about fantasies you might have seen the general lay of the land, see what her reaction might be (but then fantasy and reality can be two different things)

Or, just talk to her, communication is everything, if she shuts you down straight away, you have your answer but you never know.

Good luck

Danish x

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By *weeteamCouple
over a year ago

Liverpool

Few drinks with a bit of porn and see where the convo goes.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Few drinks with a bit of porn and see where the convo goes."

then venture online and say look at this as you've found a swinging site ask her if she fancies exploring what on it I'm sure she'd be intrigued

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By *ntrigued888Woman
over a year ago

Herts, Beds & Bucks

The main question I guess is does she know you're on here?

You've had your account for awhile, maybe before you got together?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The main question I guess is does she know you're on here?

You've had your account for awhile, maybe before you got together?

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Yeah I was on here before I met her .

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By *ntrigued888Woman
over a year ago

Herts, Beds & Bucks

Ok.....does she know about this account?

Whether you've played on here or not while you've been together, she may think you've cheated on her and could open the can of worms.

You could just open a brand new couples account and make this journey be a new one for you both

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"The main question I guess is does she know you're on here?

You've had your account for awhile, maybe before you got together?

Yeah I was on here before I met her . "

Then just be open and honest with her as you've mentioned she may give you a choice but then you'd need to decide what is more important just remember you are being honest with her and this counts a lot and you just didn't know how to bring up the subject so you've went all in with your honesty

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By *cnugatugMan
over a year ago

Chatham

Sit down and have a serious talk with her ask her what she feels about it don't involve a drink or anything that doesn't help much you both need to talk about it and if both agree then start laying down some bound etc

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By *andS1Couple
over a year ago

Poole

An easy way to do it is watch the series 'Open House' on channel 4. Then it opens to topic of swing. Jokingly ask if she would do it. That's how we got into swinging but was a different program.

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By *otwife and sexy beastCouple
over a year ago

rochester

We first spoke about it during sex. That broke the ice and paved the way for us to discuss it in more detail afterwards.

Obviously for us it worked, but that doesn't necessarily mean it'll work for you and your wife. There's always the risk of prompting a "WTF?" response from her even during sex.

Good luck and hope you start a new journey together.

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