FabSwingers.com forum: Few sentences in then it all goes wrong

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Does anyone else ever get this?

Speaking to someone after receiving a nice polite message and reading their profile that’s looks good. Getting on Great then get the..“I’m wanking just now want to come and help “

yeah I’ll just jump in my car mate drive 50 miles to finish you off

Some people can’t help themselves

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

what a wanker,,

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By *yanShireMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

"Does anyone else ever get this?

Speaking to someone after receiving a nice polite message and reading their profile that’s looks good. Getting on Great then get the..“I’m wanking just now want to come and help “

yeah I’ll just jump in my car mate drive 50 miles to finish you off

Some people can’t help themselves "

- idiots! Lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"what a wanker,,"

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By *ndianLuxCouple
over a year ago

West midlands

Yes. It all starts with a polite message or appreciation.

The second message would be " I would eat that ass "

WTF

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to say, it is so obvious when wanking is in motion and then when the inevitable climax has happened and the convo goes very dry very quick

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

"Does anyone else ever get this?

Speaking to someone after receiving a nice polite message and reading their profile that’s looks good. Getting on Great then get the..“I’m wanking just now want to come and help “

yeah I’ll just jump in my car mate drive 50 miles to finish you off

Some people can’t help themselves "

I just don't know how you managed to resist jumping in the car

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Yeah totally puts me off jumping in with the I want you to do this or that crap.

Mrs

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

That’s why I never engage in any kind of sex chat, photos or video calls ever, in fact I’m as sexless as I can be until we decide to meet and it’s always socially first anyway.

It’s a good filter as not many will even make it to the coffee meet stage. Some people are just keyboard wankers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have to say, it is so obvious when wanking is in motion and then when the inevitable climax has happened and the convo goes very dry very quick"

Drier than his wank sock anyway.

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By *quirtyfun69Couple
over a year ago

Burnley

Usually the first message tell us if it's gonna go well

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

[Removed by poster at 26/08/23 10:46:15]

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

It happens the other way around too - messages are being exchanged between myself and a husband/male partner, with a view to meeting for me to play with the wife/female partner...

....then, suddenly, I get asked "are you hard/playing with yourself?" - or "the thought of it's making me hard/I'm playing with myself"...

....at which point, I'm the one who leaves the conversation...

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

There's not a specific line that alerts us, aside from obvious ones like that mentioned by the OP. However, when we're talking to guys in their 40s and 50s and they're as eager as 14-year old horndogs, it's a massive turn-off.

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By *eductiveEncountersWoman
over a year ago

South West

It happens all the time...lovely messages then potty mouth takes over them

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I always assumed as I was a TGirl that they immediately assume I think the same as them. It’s not all about sex with me, in fact the older I get, it takes a lot for me to get in the mood.

A guy talking about the ‘girlfriend experience’ with me, dating properly first. After a few messages just turned into sex talk and how randy he was looking at my photos. It’s one of the reasons I’m no longer looking on this site anymore and hidden my profile.

I have found someone on a Tgirl site now who’s

Keen on meeting as a sociable experience, so hopefully (all messages so far are great) that will turn out to be the type of meet I’m looking for.

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By *hinstrapMan
over a year ago

Barnsley

I'm lucky if I ever get a reply

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By *utterypopcornCouple
over a year ago

oxford

"Does anyone else ever get this?

Speaking to someone after receiving a nice polite message and reading their profile that’s looks good. Getting on Great then get the..“I’m wanking just now want to come and help “

yeah I’ll just jump in my car mate drive 50 miles to finish you off

Some people can’t help themselves "

All the time but I look at it as a close escape for them to reveal their true selves before a wasted meet

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By *andd_bicoupleCouple
over a year ago

wilmslow

Yeah its hard to know how people are in irl ecaspically when it comes to meets we like meets but not pushy people who want a quick one of we are a firm beliver in getting to know people and buidling up to a meet then if its just a one of its not our problum move on to the next kind person who is intrested in a regaul meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is why today is wank holiday

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By *ilth N KinkCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Yep,

Get a lovely first message and we get excited thinking we might have actually found a couple we can connect with only to then get a few messages in and it then turns into just the guy (not always) wanting a quick wank over chat.

Still doesn’t stop us from trying to make a good connection though.

Kink (f)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time.

Even though I’m only looking for other women at the moment my profile states that I’m happy to chat via the forums.

Always starts well, exchange a few messages but then disappointingly they start trying to push my boundaries.

Not all but certainly the majority

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By *ave0070Man
over a year ago

Sleaford

I always chat with people really friendly and I find all the women are absolutely lovely to talk to but most of the guys even the straight one's after a few messages they start telling you what they want to do to you and that they are playing with themselves while we message each other it must be a man thing but if so what does that make me then

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By *quirtyfun69Couple
over a year ago

Burnley

We see this regularly it's usually the 2nd or 3rd message in the unfortunately they get blocked before they get abusive

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By *allum29Man
over a year ago

Banbury

"Does anyone else ever get this?

Speaking to someone after receiving a nice polite message and reading their profile that’s looks good. Getting on Great then get the..“I’m wanking just now want to come and help “

yeah I’ll just jump in my car mate drive 50 miles to finish you off

Some people can’t help themselves "

That's what I'm doing wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's happened to us a few times also when you've been chatting for weeks with a view to meeting then the person comes on pissed and his attitude has completely changed.. block.

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By *ot_so_newbiesCouple
over a year ago

Lancs

Yep, we get this quite a lot. Sometimes we message back saying they killed the vibe. Sometimes we just delete and move on.

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By *istersomethingtomeMan
over a year ago

Hitchin

"Yes. It all starts with a polite message or appreciation.

The second message would be " I would eat that ass "

WTF"

Has a point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes. It all starts with a polite message or appreciation.

The second message would be " I would eat that ass "

WTF"

I mean, I would though!

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

"It happens the other way around too - messages are being exchanged between myself and a husband/male partner, with a view to meeting for me to play with the wife/female partner...

....then, suddenly, I get asked "are you hard/playing with yourself?" - or "the thought of it's making me hard/I'm playing with myself"...

....at which point, I'm the one who leaves the conversation...

Just happened again today - a dozen or so messages exchanged with a 'husband' (single male profile, bi-curious, looking for men) about the possibility of my visiting and playing with 'his wife'...

....and then, suddenly, he asks "Have you got your cock out?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always assumed as I was a TGirl that they immediately assume I think the same as them. It’s not all about sex with me, in fact the older I get, it takes a lot for me to get in the mood.

I have found someone on a Tgirl site now who’s

Keen on meeting as a sociable experience, so hopefully (all messages so far are great) that will turn out to be the type of meet I’m looking for. "

If it’s the one I’m thinking it is, that whole site is just fantasists.

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By *quirtyfun69Couple
over a year ago

Burnley

We find this often, some nice talking and then one stupid act and they get blocked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's because we are on a sex site. Some think nornal social rules just go out the window. For me, message, meet, meet again, then get funky.

If I can't have a normal conversation or banter it just isn't happening.

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

This should come with a government health warning ##BEWARE FAB CRAZIES EVERYWHERE##

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By * and BCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"I think it's because we are on a sex site. Some think nornal social rules just go out the window. For me, message, meet, meet again, then get funky.

If I can't have a normal conversation or banter it just isn't happening."

SEX SITE

.... It's a swingers site, this is the problem on here

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By *oadsafun1960Man
over a year ago

Somerset & Hertfordshire

"Does anyone else ever get this?

Speaking to someone after receiving a nice polite message and reading their profile that’s looks good. Getting on Great then get the..“I’m wanking just now want to come and help “

yeah I’ll just jump in my car mate drive 50 miles to finish you off

Some people can’t help themselves "

Unbelievable! Some people don't have a clue. At least he showed his colours before you met, just imaging what he could have been like at a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's because we are on a sex site. Some think nornal social rules just go out the window. For me, message, meet, meet again, then get funky.

If I can't have a normal conversation or banter it just isn't happening."

No disrespect but as long as people keep thinking they’re on a sex site things are never going to change.

Those who know it’s a swinging site and behave accordingly do so much better.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Normally my messages are asking if they fancy a pint. If they don't fancy you, the games a bogey

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By *hinstrapMan
over a year ago

Barnsley

I'm lucky if I get an initial response. ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's because we are on a sex site. Some think nornal social rules just go out the window. For me, message, meet, meet again, then get funky.

If I can't have a normal conversation or banter it just isn't happening.

No disrespect but as long as people keep thinking they’re on a sex site things are never going to change.

Those who know it’s a swinging site and behave accordingly do so much better."

Yes - this!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So are you jumping in the car or what?

7 weeks I've been waiting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't be so sensitive. All the Comms on here are text and so are inherently susceptible to lost in translation. This is why I try and arrange a social early on because it completely sorts out confusion as your subconscious brain learns the personality more than you give yourself credit for such that subsequent chat is so much easier instead of over analysing every message and all it takes is one slip of wording or phrase and most on here are turned away at the blink of an eye..

Don't take things just so literally and lighten up would be my thinking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't be so sensitive. All the Comms on here are text and so are inherently susceptible to lost in translation. This is why I try and arrange a social early on because it completely sorts out confusion as your subconscious brain learns the personality more than you give yourself credit for such that subsequent chat is so much easier instead of over analysing every message and all it takes is one slip of wording or phrase and most on here are turned away at the blink of an eye..

Don't take things just so literally and lighten up would be my thinking. "
You're onto a winner there mate"dont be so sensitive"and "lighten up " ,ever thought of a job in mediation, with women in particular

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By *ensualplay69Man
over a year ago

slough

I'm surprised you even entertained someone so far away in the first place

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By *rish In DubaiMan
over a year ago

Carlow

I've often been speaking to couples and a few messages in there asking for cock pictures even before we have swapped face pics.

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By *quirtyfun69Couple
over a year ago

Burnley

"I think it's because we are on a sex site. Some think nornal social rules just go out the window. For me, message, meet, meet again, then get funky.

If I can't have a normal conversation or banter it just isn't happening."

Are we on a sex site tho, I thought this was a swinger site.

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By *hatbiatchWoman
over a year ago

craigavon

"Yes. It all starts with a polite message or appreciation.

The second message would be " I would eat that ass "

WTF"

I get that as a first message at times

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By *aughty Hubby n Sexy WifeCouple
over a year ago

Scarborogh

"Does anyone else ever get this?

Speaking to someone after receiving a nice polite message and reading their profile that’s looks good. Getting on Great then get the..“I’m wanking just now want to come and help “

yeah I’ll just jump in my car mate drive 50 miles to finish you off

Some people can’t help themselves "

That’s why I like a good online chat, they trip themselves up and then you see their true colours lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think it's because we are on a sex site. Some think nornal social rules just go out the window. For me, message, meet, meet again, then get funky.

If I can't have a normal conversation or banter it just isn't happening.

Are we on a sex site tho, I thought this was a swinger site."

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes. It all starts with a polite message or appreciation.

The second message would be " I would eat that ass "

WTF

I get that as a first message at times

Us too, it’s easier getting it in a first message so at least you can block but when they lure you into a false sense of security that’s when it’s a pain lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm surprised you even entertained someone so far away in the first place "

Why would you be surprised?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Don't take things just so literally and lighten up would be my thinking. You're onto a winner there mate"dont be so sensitive"and "lighten up " ,ever thought of a job in mediation, with women in particular

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Don't take things just so literally and lighten up would be my thinking. "

Thank you for your insightful input. My advice to you would be to stop waffling nonsense with your comments that don’t make any sence.

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By *mashingPumpkinMan
over a year ago

Carmarthen

"It happens the other way around too - messages are being exchanged between myself and a husband/male partner, with a view to meeting for me to play with the wife/female partner...

....then, suddenly, I get asked "are you hard/playing with yourself?" - or "the thought of it's making me hard/I'm playing with myself"...

....at which point, I'm the one who leaves the conversation...

I’ve had that, makes me wonder if there is actually a female partner.

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
over a year ago

stanley

"Does anyone else ever get this?

Speaking to someone after receiving a nice polite message and reading their profile that’s looks good. Getting on Great then get the..“I’m wanking just now want to come and help “

yeah I’ll just jump in my car mate drive 50 miles to finish you off

Some people can’t help themselves "

So did you go? ( kidding)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't take things just so literally and lighten up would be my thinking.

Thank you for your insightful input. My advice to you would be to stop waffling nonsense with your comments that don’t make any sence.

Lack of intellect is often a hindrance to proper fun, but there you go..

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I'm quite a cheeky and sarcastic wotsit.

Sometimes things do get a little lost in translation so to speak.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

That’s why we chat and chat more as the wanking dead reveal themselves so it saves us having to waste any meeting time

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By *ylonattireTV/TS
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Does anyone else ever get this?

Speaking to someone after receiving a nice polite message and reading their profile that’s looks good. Getting on Great then get the..“I’m wanking just now want to come and help “

yeah I’ll just jump in my car mate drive 50 miles to finish you off

Some people can’t help themselves "

Men think with their dick, they need to put the dick down. Read the profile and ask themselves would I reply to that.

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By *ickychef1Man
over a year ago

Greenford

I'm happy to just meet for a chat a coffee and if you really behave a ring donut lol

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