FabSwingers.com forum: Meeting with attached people

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What are your thoughts if their partner doesn’t know? Is it a complete deal breaker or something you can look past for the right person?

Found some are seeking people out that are attached and some want to avoid the drama all together.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

It's a deal breaker for us op,

Id hate someone to do it to me & when there's plenty of single people and couples here ,I don't see a need to choose someone who's playing away.

Others will disagree and do what's best for them.

Miss

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Attached people don't necessarily cause drama. Loads of genuine singles and couples are very good at that.

We won't meet attached people alone but are more than happy to if they bring their partner. We don't particularly care if someone is going behind their partners back it's not really our business but we don't want to be involved.

Having said all that we're pretty sure we've met men who claim to be single but really aren't

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

We have experience this a fair few times with men, women and fab couples on the club scene. It's generally not the first thing you ask people. There was one lady we'd had a couple of encounters with over the time. It's was bumping into her the 3rd/4th time and talking to her some more we found out her partner at home doesn't know about her activities on the scene.

As for where we stand on it, it's not an endearing feature but we would be hypocritical to say it a total no, because it isn't always. We were both cheated on by our ex spouces. We know the hurt and the damage, especially when a young family is involved. However in the context of a club we are not their to police the morality of others, just to explore our desires drama free. However I'm not sure if outside of the club we'd ever meet with someone cheating because is a bit more person and close to home.

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

we had 1 guy the mrs used to play a few times in a club we used to help run, as you chat he had said he can only get out evry 2 weeks as his wife had passed away and he had 2 sons 1 disabled who every 2 weeks his older son would babysit. after a cpl of months he disapeered , then 1 night his dead wife come looking for him in the club. since then a cpl of years later hes back on the swing scene .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Noooooo that’s my new favourite story lmao. Imagining the Undertaker coming through the door

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Dealbreaker for us. Don’t want the wife, dead or alive, turning up to cause drama. People might have their reasons to play away without permission but as well as the moral dilemma it makes any meets complicated .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I think a lot of attached people that are playing without permission like others in the same boat, makes them feel safer if you've both something to loose, like you'll both be more careful and discreet.

What I don't get is why people lie about whether they are taken or not. Then again people lie about all sorts on here, what they want, what they've done, if they'll meet, their age etc etc

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"we had 1 guy the mrs used to play a few times in a club we used to help run, as you chat he had said he can only get out evry 2 weeks as his wife had passed away and he had 2 sons 1 disabled who every 2 weeks his older son would babysit. after a cpl of months he disapeered , then 1 night his dead wife come looking for him in the club. since then a cpl of years later hes back on the swing scene ."

Wow that's low

There was a man who used to use the forums, who claimed to be a widower with a few kids.

It all came out she was v much alive ,lies catch up with people,so always best to be upfront with those who you meet.

Miss

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By *lueDressWoman
over a year ago

Bath

I haven't met anyone married, or dating and cheating.A couple or a single lesbian only.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

For us there has to be a massive amount of trust to be in a swinging relationship so anyone cheating on their partner is immediately untrustworthy and therefore not for us.

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

Deal breaker. I don’t want to knowingly be part of doing that to someone.

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By *histle do nicelyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow South

Not a deal breaker for me..I just ask that I'm told up front then I'll decide

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Complete deal breaker

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Complete deal breaker.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a deal breaker for me. I never give out my address, locations disabled, not on Facebook or any of the oft mentioned social sites and use a burner phone so no chance of an irate spouse hunting me down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm attached and I tend to go for attached people, why? Because it's much less drama we're both there for exactly the same reasons just pure nsa sex! A girl I met years ago said she went for married guys because she was happy with everything at home but the sex and she didn't want anyone getting feelings for her, hence why she met married men....less drama, am I selling myself here?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I'm attached and I tend to go for attached people, why? Because it's much less drama we're both there for exactly the same reasons just pure nsa sex! A girl I met years ago said she went for married guys because she was happy with everything at home but the sex and she didn't want anyone getting feelings for her, hence why she met married men....less drama, am I selling myself here?

How does being married stop people getting feelings?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think he means it’s less likely he’s found others that are happy in their marriage but just want something a little extra

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By *ymbunnyfitCouple
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Definitely deal breaker X

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I think he means it’s less likely he’s found others that are happy in their marriage but just want something a little extra "

Oh ok. I find it interesting that people think that a wedding ring is like kryptonite for feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How does being married stop people getting feelings? "

In my experience, you know what you're getting into from the start, just sex, so sub consciously there's much less chance you're going to develop feelings for someone, might sound crass but I'd say majority of attached meets are one offs, you're less likely to develop any feelings in just one meet

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

How does being married stop people getting feelings?

I understand thanks for explaining. I agree that one off meetings are less likely to encourage deeper feelings. I guess as well that if it's purely physical sex that you're missing rather than the intimacy it engenders you're less likely to feel or develop deeper feelings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s ok with me it’s there decision that they want to do this I would only be helping them

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

We're not fussed either way.

Alice meets guys from AM (a well-known 'discreet' site). Half say they're not married, but obviously probably are.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

If I like them I like them so it doesn’t bother me. Depends on their reasons too. If they’re attached but pretend to be single then that pisses me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're not fussed either way.

Alice meets guys from AM (a well-known 'discreet' site). Half say they're not married, but obviously probably are. "

Why dont they just be honest?, cannot accommodate usually a bit of a giveaway, there's no way I'd be able to carry it off by saying I'm not attached lol, please pm me this other discreet site

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"We're not fussed either way.

Alice meets guys from AM (a well-known 'discreet' site). Half say they're not married, but obviously probably are.

Why dont they just be honest?, cannot accommodate usually a bit of a giveaway, there's no way I'd be able to carry it off by saying I'm not attached lol, please pm me this other discreet site

I presume they're not honest because they think it will put her off.

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By *loria JamesTV/TS
over a year ago

Durham

A lot of guys on here are married and looking for a daytime fumble. That doesn't appeal to me i want more than a 10min quickie.

I have met people who tell me a whole back story about a divorce thats turns out to be fiction. I then find out they've been married , if you're going to do it be honest. That way people can make up there own minds.

My profile says I'm looking for a single guy but unfortunately no one ever reads it.

Thats Fab world for you x

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By *helamontsCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Total deal breaker for us ...

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By *lltheboostCouple
over a year ago

Shefford

We find people are very divided on this.

We once tried to organise a separate meet, and we’re immediately told we were fakes as “couples don’t meet separately!” And accused the of being cheats.

We pointed out we had a verified account and veri’s, but were told again we were fakes and blocked

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By *ove2PlayLincsCouple
over a year ago

Gainsborough

Wouldn't entertain it and any male found to have deceived us would be in for good hiding.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

even if you wanted too theres nothing you can do to stop it and if your a swinger privately or clubs / online and you meet for real then you will have 100% met married even if you think you havent ..

my own opinion is i dont judge id rather they be honest but at the end of the day men and WOMEN will lie to get what they want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're not fussed either way.

Alice meets guys from AM (a well-known 'discreet' site). Half say they're not married, but obviously probably are.

Why dont they just be honest?,

cannot accommodate usually a bit of a giveaway, there's no way I'd be able to carry it off by saying I'm not attached lol, please pm me this other discreet site

I presume they're not honest because they think it will put her off. "

Precisely why they don't admit to being married, they join think nobody is going to meet ne because I'm married so I'll lie, when in reality there are plenty of the opposite sex looking for exactly the same if they're honest enough to be up front with it

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By *one swap cplCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

Just wondering how many couples on here are having affairs and are on here without there real partners knowledge, we’ve met a few

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"We're not fussed either way.

Alice meets guys from AM (a well-known 'discreet' site). Half say they're not married, but obviously probably are.

Why dont they just be honest?,

cannot accommodate usually a bit of a giveaway, there's no way I'd be able to carry it off by saying I'm not attached lol, please pm me this other discreet site

I presume they're not honest because they think it will put her off.

Well Alice is on a site originally built to enable people tonhave affairs, so she's being more than up front!

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By *archelCouple
over a year ago

A field somewhere

Deal breakers for us 100%.

Neither of us can stand a cheat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"even if you wanted too theres nothing you can do to stop it and if your a swinger privately or clubs / online and you meet for real then you will have 100% met married even if you think you havent ..

my own opinion is i dont judge id rather they be honest but at the end of the day men and WOMEN will lie to get what they want"
This!

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By *areback_BullMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh and surrounding areas lol

None of my business if a woman is married and cheating. Tbh it’s a turn on for me to be fucking a married women. Giving her what she needs sexually and sending her home. It works for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't say attached meets are more likely to be one offs, there's people with couples accounts who are both attached elsewhere, yet they meet with each other and others.

But yes far more likely to get feelings from meets that are more than a one of

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By *ilth N KinkCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

For us it’s a complete deal breaker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never knowingly met a man who is cheating. Never will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wondering how many couples on here are having affairs and are on here without there real partners knowledge, we’ve met a few "

Fro experience I'd say plenty. Have has couples accounts previously and both times, both of us were attached to someone else. People we met often thought we were a married couple, we never made out we were and was honest if asked, but if not asked didn't advertise the fact.

I'm same on my own profile, ,don't state I attached, however I never deny it if asked.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

you'll be surprise how many male halfs of swinging couples cheat and no doubt women halfs too..

ive lost count of how many men who are in swinging couples contact me asking for meets without the other half knowing and this is the main reason i dont meet couples online anymore still get it in clubs sometimes too the male half will ask .... anyone can cheat but ive never understood why one half of aq swinger couple would want too ? surely they have it all already

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By *tress toyWoman
over a year ago

leinster

"What are your thoughts if their partner doesn’t know? Is it a complete deal breaker or something you can look past for the right person?

Found some are seeking people out that are attached and some want to avoid the drama all together. "

Interesting. .

I can certainly look past it for the right person, given there's trust and honesty (obviously not in their primary relationship).

I don't meet randoms on fab, and those people I do meet, I consider my friends and goes beyond a sexual relationship. If someone is honest and upfront about being attached then I make that decision based on a whole host of other things. If they can't be honest then there's no friendship base there, so I'm not going to fuck them (or fuck them again once that trust is broken).

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By *imkev76Couple
over a year ago

GOSPORT

Definitely a deal breaker for us! I’m happy for Mr to go play alone but I don’t want angry husbands banging on the door and I’ve had my fingers burned on that one before, it’s not nice!

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

Complete deal breaker.

I can’t see any reason it would ever be ok and therefore I’d definitely judge. So don’t put myself or them in that position

Each to their own, I don’t have mad hate for any who do. Just not my preference. All for honesty.

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