FabSwingers.com forum: Just not good enough for fab!!

By *hubster2016 OP Man
over a year ago

So I have little self confidence and even less body confidence since a bodged operation when I was 14. Gained loads of weight and yo-yo massively since.

I’ve been single and not had sex since 2011

but have some kinks so joined here to try and push myself and step past my comfort zone.

I’ve got pics and vids up , I do chat n play on cam but find I get watched by mainly guys! (I’m not into guys)

I send messages and take part in the forums but get blanked or deleted.

I’m guessing there is something wrong with me, in fact I know there is….I’m FAT

And not geordie/Essex Chelsea standard !!

Maybe I should just give up?

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By *ir-spunk-alotMan
over a year ago

Southern England

Dude, the ratio men to women is massively against single men. You really have to stand out.

Dont take it personally. Some women prefer "chubby" men so dont think its anything to do with your body.

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By *hesubtlegentMan
over a year ago

surrey

I think also, you have to have a really thick skin to be on here so if you’re suffering from low self esteem or confidence then this may not the place to be. Don’t give up though. Try and be more positive. Not just here on fab but in general. Good luck

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Never give up, there’ll be someone out there for you.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

You're doing better than most people on here so why would you want to give up and it seems you weren't lacking confidence by your meets

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By *iredhandMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Not sure what your expectations were OP, but as you have 3 veris by meet I’m not sure why you think you’re being blanked? I’d consider yourself fortunate that you’ve managed more than most guys on fab. Best not take it too seriously and if you are meant to get more meets, don’t sweat it. Try attending a local fab social or a club if you are comfortable doing so.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Dint give up.

Enjoy chatting on the forums.

I've had a few meets from friendships made from the forums.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

sadly for men its a scene where there is ''not'' someone for everyone due to the total unbalance scene ...

confidence can be key on this scene to ..why do so many men think all women want super fit 6 packs ? alot of my meets are with larger men yes of couse there has to be sexual attraction as well as other stuff but a guy with a belly is not going to put me off ..however a guy whos not confident will put me off

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By *alleyDaveMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"So I have little self confidence and even less body confidence since a bodged operation when I was 14. Gained loads of weight and yo-yo massively since.

I’ve been single and not had sex since 2011

but have some kinks so joined here to try and push myself and step past my comfort zone.

I’ve got pics and vids up , I do chat n play on cam but find I get watched by mainly guys! (I’m not into guys)

I send messages and take part in the forums but get blanked or deleted.

I’m guessing there is something wrong with me, in fact I know there is….I’m FAT

And not geordie/Essex Chelsea standard !!

Maybe I should just give up? "

All I can say is ,you have three meet verifications that's three more than me.

I have long since cone to the conclusion that I am ugly and will never have any success on here, that's why I gave up and just post on the forums now .

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

Your figure is a massive plus for a lot of women!! You've got some good verifications there too. Fab isn't worth beating yourself up over x

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By *hubster2016 OP Man
over a year ago

Thanks guys

I just thought I was was doing so bad as recently all my messages etc just get deleted!

I’m my worst own critic which really doesn’t help.

I am going to loose weight (6 stone) again but this time I’m gona keep it off and be more positive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's hard for us dad bods, I get it though.

I found fab great for chat but nothing more, clubs and kik was far more successful for actual meets.

Keep going though, you will tickle someone's fancy ??

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By *avexxMan
over a year ago

cheshire

"It's hard for us dad bods, I get it though.

I found fab great for chat but nothing more, clubs and kik was far more successful for actual meets.

Keep going though, you will tickle someone's fancy ?? "
,,, i thought the ladies like a dad bod

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks guys

I just thought I was was doing so bad as recently all my messages etc just get deleted!

I’m my worst own critic which really doesn’t help.

I am going to loose weight (6 stone) again but this time I’m gona keep it off and be more positive. "

Well done you if that's what you want to achieve. You need to feel happy in your own skin, and it's obvious in your OP that you are not. And I'm referring to mental health as well as your body. Get happy first before you do anything drastic. You are who you are.

All the best

Jess xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, same boat really. Given up for similar reasons. {Awaits the usual pile on to this type of thread ...]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do people set so much of their self value by fab?

It makes me sad to see folk beating themselves up about not being good enough or being torn down for having a bit of confidence.

When it gets to the point where its causing you to question ‘if you're good enough’ its time to check out and do something else for a bit. In my humble opinion. I don't mean to seem dismissive of the OP’s feelings but Fab shouldn't be taken so seriously.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"It's hard for us dad bods, I get it though.

I found fab great for chat but nothing more, clubs and kik was far more successful for actual meets.

Keep going though, you will tickle someone's fancy ?? ,,, i thought the ladies like a dad bod"

Some do, some don't, but it's about more than just body for most ladies!

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By *assyleigh92Couple
over a year ago

Coventry

"Thanks guys

I just thought I was was doing so bad as recently all my messages etc just get deleted!

I’m my worst own critic which really doesn’t help.

I am going to loose weight (6 stone) again but this time I’m gona keep it off and be more positive. "

Confidence is sexy. Plus you have way more veris than others I've seen on here.

If the website is giving you negative feelings, maybe have a break and continue with the clubs.

We dip our toes in and out. I like the pictures and forum.

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By *mDeethatsmeWoman
over a year ago

Bucks

"So I have little self confidence and even less body confidence since a bodged operation when I was 14. Gained loads of weight and yo-yo massively since.

I’ve been single and not had sex since 2011

but have some kinks so joined here to try and push myself and step past my comfort zone.

I’ve got pics and vids up , I do chat n play on cam but find I get watched by mainly guys! (I’m not into guys)

I send messages and take part in the forums but get blanked or deleted.

I’m guessing there is something wrong with me, in fact I know there is….I’m FAT

And not geordie/Essex Chelsea standard !!

Maybe I should just give up? "

Don’t be so hard on yourself OP. You got this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"sadly for men its a scene where there is ''not'' someone for everyone due to the total unbalance scene ...

Can you give me what confidence is for women where men are concerned?

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