FabSwingers.com forum: Winks: waste of time?

By *untimescolchester OP Man
over a year ago

Colchester

Hey everyone, are winks a waste of time? I like to use them to express interest and then, if I get a wink back I’ll send a message. If I receive a wink, if interested I do exactly that. What are other people’s thoughts? I’ve sent a wink after receiving one & then been blocked which seems odd!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks are definitely not a waste of time. Like you OP, I use them to share interest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us personally we always forgot to check winks. So the whole concept is lost on us

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By *azzler2Man
over a year ago

halifax

I also use winks to show interest

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By *ndianLuxCouple
over a year ago

West midlands

Not really. You only wink once .

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We've had a few winks that have lead to meets, however 99% don't. We return some winks and it ends there, a few follow up with a message, then only a small percentage of those lead to a meet. You're better off sending a thought out message with a bit of substance.

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By *vilgasamWoman
over a year ago

The dot in the i

They’re useful, I reversed them, I wrote on my profile don’t wink so I know if they do wink they didn’t read the profile, it’s one of the best filters I found

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By *ustyb555Couple
over a year ago

leeds

We use winks as to show interest, we get loads of winks where the other person doesn't have any photos and not much info about them, these type seems like a waste of time

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By *ndianLuxCouple
over a year ago

West midlands

"We use winks as to show interest, we get loads of winks where the other person doesn't have any photos and not much info about them, these type seems like a waste of time "

Sometimes it's from hidden profile

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By *inotGringoMan
over a year ago

Lancashire

"We've had a few winks that have lead to meets, however 99% don't. We return some winks and it ends there, a few follow up with a message, then only a small percentage of those lead to a meet. You're better off sending a thought out message with a bit of substance. "

If someone were to drop you a wink in lieu of sending a message, as they were going to the same event as you and had noted that you say that you ‘sometimes play with single men’ in clubs.

But equally, as your profile doesn’t list men as a preference didn’t want to cross your boundaries chose not to message, but instead wanted to make it clear that they’re very attracted to you?

This is such a minefield, hypothetical of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to think that winks weren't a waste of time, but everytime someone winks me, I've winked or messaged back, then pretty much no response

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

If someone were to drop you a wink in lieu of sending a message, as they were going to the same event as you and had noted that you say that you ‘sometimes play with single men’ in clubs.

But equally, as your profile doesn’t list men as a preference didn’t want to cross your boundaries chose not to message, but instead wanted to make it clear that they’re very attracted to you?

This is such a minefield, hypothetical of course. "

Hypothetical but you're on the list for Club Play

. Personally when we have the filter off we've never replied to a wink from a "single" guy (we're more likely to reply to a couple), but we have replied to a few messages and met them.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Some people like to use them to demonstrate an interest.

Most women and couples won't even check them though.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

We've had some good meets that started with a wink.

But we do find at the moment people wink us, we wink back then nothing.... I wonder why they bothered winking in the 1st place.

Mrs

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By *inotGringoMan
over a year ago

Lancashire

If someone were to drop you a wink in lieu of sending a message, as they were going to the same event as you and had noted that you say that you ‘sometimes play with single men’ in clubs.

But equally, as your profile doesn’t list men as a preference didn’t want to cross your boundaries chose not to message, but instead wanted to make it clear that they’re very attracted to you?

This is such a minefield, hypothetical of course.

Hypothetical but you're on the list for Club Play

. Personally when we have the filter off we've never replied to a wink from a "single" guy (we're more likely to reply to a couple), but we have replied to a few messages and met them."

As I said, completely hypothetical.

If you do happen to bump into me at any point, feel free to say hi.

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By *awpleasureMan
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

"We've had some good meets that started with a wink.

But we do find at the moment people wink us, we wink back then nothing.... I wonder why they bothered winking in the 1st place.

Mrs "

Yes I find that. I receive a wink, I reply back thanking for their wink and introduce myself, then my message is deleted. Sometimes it's the case that the recipient is bombarded with messages and have bulk deleted. It's just kne of those things. Don't let it bother me now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sent a Couple to show interest but never got any so, yeah, beginning to think they're a waste of time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your inbox was slow, ie a couple getting less messages than a single fem, then I can see the value of winks. For me, winks are useless. I never remember to check them. I don't even remember to check fabs!

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By *ilth N KinkCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

We use winks to show interest in other couples however we are starting to realise that not many people actually check winks so I’ve (female) started to just send messages instead

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
over a year ago

stanley

I send winks to show that I’m enjoying what I’m seeing and that I like your profile. Equally as a single fella on here the odd wink can help me feel less invisible and unwanted. ( not seeking sympathy here just being factual)

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane

Definitely waste of time..

I bulk delete them.

I know.

I know...im a pain in the arse

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

Largely yes but then again so is spending ages writing out lovely personalised messages based on someone's profile. I can send loads of winks on the basis that a small amount might respond and save my precious time writing to couples who might respond.

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

I've never had anything come from winking. Wanking however...

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By *unthum62Man
over a year ago

Benidorm

I have had mixed results off winks, both ways.

Some respond to them, some dont.

I suppose it is quicker and less time consuming than a message for both parties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks can be good for grabbing my attention

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

mass deleted daily

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By *lltheboostCouple
over a year ago

Shefford

Definitely a good tool

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Imo - they're only a waste if time if you do nothing about it after receiving one.

I think it shows some interest and usual either wink back or send a message.

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By *handlerMonicaCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

We've had conversations off the back of winks from couples, with the prospect now of meeting up, so they can be a way to start engaging

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By *ecretSilverlinkMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Find it useful tbh. Good way to break the ice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"For us personally we always forgot to check winks. So the whole concept is lost on us

So your missing some good meets by not using the site properly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Winks and messages waste of time I think if an alien spaceship landed in their garden would just close the curtains with the energy and enthusiasm shown lol

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

"For us personally we always forgot to check winks. So the whole concept is lost on us

So your missing some good meets by not using the site properly.

If the sum of their interest adds up to hitting a wink button and nothing more, the odds are they weren't interested enough for me to want to meet them

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By *ovetolick78Man
over a year ago

The Shire

I do send a few winks and if one is reciprocated I'll drop a message. It can be hard to get a ladies or couples attention as in know females can get 100s of messages daily and I'm sure most couples get similar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never respond to winks

If that's all the effort you can show...then it's not enough to get my attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand people’s thoughts on winks being a lazy option rather than a message but it has opened up conversations for me personally and I do check mine … so if I receive a wink I will read their profile and then send a message if I feel like we have some common ground etc.

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By *hesubtlegentMan
over a year ago

surrey

I love a wink. Makes me feel nice to receive them.

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By *el13ABCMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

I use winks and always reply thanking for the wink

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By *untimescolchester OP Man
over a year ago

Colchester

Thanks everyone, pretty much a mixed bag lol

I’ll carry on as I have been, I might send a few extra messages now though x

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling

No, winks aren’t waste of time. It takes few seconds to wink. It’s just an express of interest to get into chat. If I wink and get wink back - I’ll go for text messages.

If I get a random wink I’ll wink back, text or ignore based on initial attraction to a profile.

For these who says winks are lack of efforts and laziness I assume you’d think the same if someone smile/wink your way at the bar/pub/social. If so, I am treating that as my loss and moving on.

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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago

Reading

In the past few weeks. Had more response from winks . I see if get wink back. Then send message with wink in subject bar. At least then ? Who I send message , can check they have sent wink back to me ?. As others have said you can send the best message ever. But will it actually be read. Especially if female or couple have had loads of messages.

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

Waste of time, I dont bother with them no more

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By *orny-DJMan
over a year ago

Leigh-on-Sea

It's often difficult to understand why someone might send a wink as they can mean different things to different people.

In the past I've sent one, got one back and so followed up with a message only to be ignored.

Or after receiving a wink out of the blue, reply back with the same result, so now I ignore them

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