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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

The whole wink thing is bugging me, we get a few now I've only ever winked back less than a handful (I'm very picky I guess) and all the couples I wink back have never followed up with a message, so what's the point in winking or are they expecting us to message because they winked?

I generally go for the we wink, you wink back, we message and vice versa - so while I sit here patiently waiting messages from the returned winks that'll never come I thought I'd ask the question, how do you do your winks?

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's always how it's worked with me- like the ol Facebook poke back in the day.

If I get a wink back I always message as it's an initial like

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By *eaSlutsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

We do exactly as you described Mrs KnightsoftheCoffeeTable

If we wink and they wink in return, that gives us an indication that they might want to chat. If we were the wink-ee and reciprocated, we would wait for the other party to message us.

C x

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By *ottodot123Couple
over a year ago

Gillingham

Do the same as you

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"We do exactly as you described Mrs KnightsoftheCoffeeTable

If we wink and they wink in return, that gives us an indication that they might want to chat. If we were the wink-ee and reciprocated, we would wait for the other party to message us.

C x "

How long do you wait or do you ever follow up with a message, I'm pretty sure there's no incoming messages from these people so it's confused me why wink in the 1st place?

Mrs

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

We’re the same as you guys but for some the wink is just an acknowledgment of a great profile.

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only ever send winks if a profile is particularly bare giving me nothing to construct a decent message off, if I receive. Wink I will always message them back.

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By *eaSlutsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"We do exactly as you described Mrs KnightsoftheCoffeeTable

If we wink and they wink in return, that gives us an indication that they might want to chat. If we were the wink-ee and reciprocated, we would wait for the other party to message us.

C x

How long do you wait or do you ever follow up with a message, I'm pretty sure there's no incoming messages from these people so it's confused me why wink in the 1st place?

Mrs "

I personally wouldn't follow up on people if they winked us initially. If they have the motivation to wink but then not enough to follow up with a message, the emotional labour shouldn't be placed on us to do so

C x

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

If we’re really interested we just wade in with a message straight away.!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We do exactly as you described Mrs KnightsoftheCoffeeTable

If we wink and they wink in return, that gives us an indication that they might want to chat. If we were the wink-ee and reciprocated, we would wait for the other party to message us.

C x

How long do you wait or do you ever follow up with a message, I'm pretty sure there's no incoming messages from these people so it's confused me why wink in the 1st place?

Mrs "

If I got a wink from you Mrs, there would be smoke coming off my fingers messaging

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

Mansfield

It's hardly ever we are the winker. To be honest we will only ever return a wink if the initial profile pic is along the lines of what we are looking for & never to single men.

Might seem a little shallow but it works for us.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We find the same, we wink back and probably only 20% follow up with a message. So we assume either;

A) They wink by accident

B) They expect you to message first

C) He shows his partner the profile and she says no thanks

D) They use a wink like a Fab

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

Mansfield


"If we’re really interested we just wade in with a message straight away.! "

And this.

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By *r_GreyscaleMan
over a year ago

North Hertfordshire

Love a good wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've always worked off of we get a wink back will start a chat..

Direct messages do seem to work better though.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"We do exactly as you described Mrs KnightsoftheCoffeeTable

If we wink and they wink in return, that gives us an indication that they might want to chat. If we were the wink-ee and reciprocated, we would wait for the other party to message us.

C x

How long do you wait or do you ever follow up with a message, I'm pretty sure there's no incoming messages from these people so it's confused me why wink in the 1st place?

Mrs

I personally wouldn't follow up on people if they winked us initially. If they have the motivation to wink but then not enough to follow up with a message, the emotional labour shouldn't be placed on us to do so

C x"

This is my thoughts too, they look at us pretty much daily so it's totally confused me.

Mrs

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"We’re the same as you guys but for some the wink is just an acknowledgment of a great profile.

X"

I'd never thought of it this way.

Thank you

Mrs

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming


"We’re the same as you guys but for some the wink is just an acknowledgment of a great profile.

X

I'd never thought of it this way.

Thank you

Mrs "

That’s ok…

Have a wink..

Xx

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By *ouple-perthCouple
over a year ago

Perth


"We do exactly as you described Mrs KnightsoftheCoffeeTable

If we wink and they wink in return, that gives us an indication that they might want to chat. If we were the wink-ee and reciprocated, we would wait for the other party to message us.

C x

How long do you wait or do you ever follow up with a message, I'm pretty sure there's no incoming messages from these people so it's confused me why wink in the 1st place?

Mrs

I personally wouldn't follow up on people if they winked us initially. If they have the motivation to wink but then not enough to follow up with a message, the emotional labour shouldn't be placed on us to do so

C x

This is my thoughts too, they look at us pretty much daily so it's totally confused me.

Mrs "

We do this too, although there has been a few who got a message back after a wink.

*checks winks

Mrs

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By *ikingandMaiden2Couple
over a year ago

Mid Cornwall, South West

We go with, send a wink and one comes back we will follow up with a message.

Sometimes works the other way, receive a wink, send one back then hopefully a message from winker. Not always the case though.

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By *ester.jamesMan
over a year ago

birmingham


"The whole wink thing is bugging me, we get a few now I've only ever winked back less than a handful (I'm very picky I guess) and all the couples I wink back have never followed up with a message, so what's the point in winking or are they expecting us to message because they winked?

I generally go for the we wink, you wink back, we message and vice versa - so while I sit here patiently waiting messages from the returned winks that'll never come I thought I'd ask the question, how do you do your winks?

Mrs "

I wink either for the people I think it would be fun chatting to. Not expecting a meet or social without talking. But in similar ways to yourself. It’s frustrating when winks are returned but conversation doesn’t happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't wink at people but if they wink and I'm interested, I'll message. Wink tennis annoys me, someone has to speak at some point.

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By *eaton100Man
over a year ago

preston

Wink away

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

We can but wink & try.

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We've gotta start somewhere

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By *ryton 123TV/TS
over a year ago

Chatham

I gt ts of winks and always reply, sometimes just to have a chat

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By *uts123Man
over a year ago

Nr Ipswich

It’s a tricky conundrum for us guys as many woman and couples get zillions of messages from guys and you see lots of women and couples saying that they have hundreds of unread messages and eventually mass delete.

Even the best constructed messages might stay in the unread pile.

Using a wink or even a fab of a pic or 2 might help break the ice and say I like what I see and If it’s returned then a message might get read and replied too.

Sometimes it works sometimes it doesn’t.

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By *amegal2Woman
over a year ago

surprise

I ignore all winks oops

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By *tarting2exploreCouple
over a year ago

Biggleswade

We love a wink, giving and receiving. It's a bit of 'are you interested', 'yeah we're interested'..

Wink, wink always a good intro into a chat..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do like giving and receiving

And winks ….

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By *ouis CyphreMan
over a year ago

The Midlands

I like a week as a way of showing intrest and not to fill up peoples in box. Always respond to winks as it dose not hurt to be polite.

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