FabSwingers.com forum: Everyone's first experience at a swingers club??

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We're both thinking about going to a swingers club both have never gone and would love to hear everyone experienc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One good, one mediocre and one to be forgotten!

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By *enatton2Couple
over a year ago

West Midlands

Very clique, hosts spoke to us on arrival then it was as if we didn’t exist for the rest of the night. Although we didn’t try either because we were so nervous and didn’t know the etiquette lol

That was about 15 years ago, haven’t been back since lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First time was great! Hosts showed us around and introduced us to most of the people there. We got chatting to an older experienced couple about clubs and got very comfortable. It felt more like a social. We ended up having some soft play but no full swaps until our third club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We spent the night scoping the place out and then fucked each other on the couples bed with others fucking all around us, it was fun, within weeks it was all orgys and gangbangs

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By *tirlingshire matureMan
over a year ago

falkirk

Hosts showed us round and introduced us to several other couples.We got chatting and were invited to a room with 3 other couples.Was wifes first proper bi session.Very good night .

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

It was scary the first 5 seconds i must admit but in the end i come to realisation that it was more enjoyable and easy going than go to any pub i ever went

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By *eepgliderMan
over a year ago

Chacewater

Good clubs make you feel secure and welcome from the start - from the moment you arrive. The ambience is friendly and it's a great experience. You want to get into this world you encounter.

At the other end of the scale are the few where you don't think you'll bother again with that venue given how there's more than enough to go around with what time you've got of venues which are great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We was light rabbits caught in headlights..

We played with each other and mingled a bit but we really only went to see what it was like.. we enjoyed ourselves and went with zero expectations..

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I've only been to one and wasn't a fan although it was a busy night following a group social, we are heading to another in a couple of weeks to see what's that's like.

Mrs

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

Hoping to pair up with somebody as don’t fancy going on my own….but it’s definitely on my to do list..

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By *r. E!Man
over a year ago

Grantham

Secrets in Devon, absolutely amazing the couple that run it gave a complete tour of club/mansion, then met up with a couple from here that we had been chatting to and they introduced us to a group of their friends. Let’s just say lots of naughty antics ensued that night

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By *enerifehotwifecplCouple
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

My wife thought the place was seedy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not great tbh, just like on here far to many single guys to couples and single women ratio

Probably be a long time before I go to another club if I'm honest, if I go at all

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By *lowercandyWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

As with everything in life set your expectations

Know and agree in advance what you are prepared to do and have a word agreed in case you need to go away from a situation

Decide what type of club you want

Have a look at what's around -some are more night club vibe so you need to dress up just to arrive and they're staying that way for longer. Some are more dress down so you will want to consider outfits. Do you want a club with a wet area..

Find a club

Read their website ring and ask questions directly

Ensure you know what identification you have to take

Ask if they have someone who will show you round (ask again when you arrive)

Go in with a view to a social evening chat, smile (know you have each other).

No pressure, if someone isn't for you then that's fine

If you are not for others that's fine

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
over a year ago

Middle England

We enjoyed our first experience. A small club, not too overwhelming, in Nottingham. The hosts were friendly and approachable which helped.

We didn't go with any expectations and just kept to ourselves really. We did enjoy being watched as we played. But clubs have lockable rooms if that's not your thing.

Clubs basically fall into dress up or dress down, ie towel, sexy lingerie. Again that might help you choose, should you decide to go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a great thread. We’re aiming for a first club in coming weeks. We’re after a dressy place- licensed bar, music and dancing so it’s a good night out even if we daren't go in a play room.

Also decent decent discreet distance from home and couples only. So we’d travel south of Yorkshire for a night away.

Our worry is we’ll find it cheap, seedy and a bit desperate.

Advice appreciated- we think VA is the place to go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been to many both here and abroad...

Our first experience was amazing.

95% have been wonderful and so enjoyable

Twice we have left a club early (after an hour) as we did not like the attention or feel safe.

Now most of our meets are at clubs.. so much safer, you can see faces and speak to people.. it is as much social as anything else.

Go for it

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By *iniskirtCouple
over a year ago

Paisley

Not been to a club yet but certainly something on our radar to try, good reading on here to at least try and get a picture of that night in our heads x

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By *ingeandTCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Our first visit was Halloween last year, we went to a themed night and it was heaving and such a good night. We went with 2 other couples from here who we’d met for socials and become friends with so that helped our nerves. A lot!

We were given a tour once we’d joined and just mingled. We loved it so much we were back the following week lol it was nothing like either of us expected it to be. From that first visit we were hooked!

We’ve made some amazing friends through attending Jaydees, we’ve never found any pressure to play or anything and everyone was and is really welcoming.

We haven’t dared venture upstairs yet to play and not sure we ever will but we’ve certainly had our share of fun in the playrooms!!

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

Still not sure whether the club was the problem or me....just felt uncomfortable and not horny aside from when we were in the play rooms together briefly. Gotta give it another go to decide - Xeno x

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By *ingerbeardman-Man
over a year ago

Sutton-in-Ashfield

I'm yet to visit a club, if anyone wants to take me?

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By *urreypair1Couple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Ours was very positive and we have enjoyed different clubs and events.

Read some reviews of the clubs that might interest you.

We chose Vanilla Alternative because it had a regular pay bar and we think this makes it an easier and more relaxed start to the evening.

Go in with no expectation but if you can try not to hide in a corner.

It will always feel a little scary at first but that's part of the fun.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

"This is a great thread. We’re aiming for a first club in coming weeks. We’re after a dressy place- licensed bar, music and dancing so it’s a good night out even if we daren't go in a play room.

Also decent decent discreet distance from home and couples only. So we’d travel south of Yorkshire for a night away.

Our worry is we’ll find it cheap, seedy and a bit desperate.

Advice appreciated- we think VA is the place to go. "

VA is a lovely club i been a few times there , you also have Pandora or Quest , any of the 3 i strongly recommend

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

We went to OurPlace4fun in North London. We’d talked about going to Clubs for a while and finally had the nerve to go. We stayed in Camden and taxi’s to the Club - Beth had a coat on, so the taxi driver didn’t get a look!

We found the entrance and walked in - wow, what a lovely venue. We were shown round and came back to the bar to get a drink and relax. The venue is small, but really interesting, great lighting and play areas. We liked the white lines that stop people joining in unless invited, so it let us play in front of people and get used to things

We met a few people and one guy had a play with Beth, we hadn’t quite worked out what we were comfortable with then, but now we would have ended up in a 3sum!

We chatted to a lovely couple and again we would have been happy to play, but didn’t know what to say to get things started

When we left, we had really enjoyed ourselves and went back to the hotel and had the most incredible ‘reclaim’ sex in our bedroom.

A very enjoyable visit, we will have to go back!!

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

For our first time we were very nervous. It was a surreal experience seeing people having sex, we just had sex with each other in a room on our own with the thrill that someone could walk in. Our second experience was very different and love club nights so much now. We prefer the clubs with a nightclub vibe, like sexy nightclubs where you can be raunchy and we don't feel old.

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By *he_TicklersCouple
over a year ago

Havant & Aberdare

With a previous partner, place full of dudes , very awkwardly waiting for us to give them the nod, we left.

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By *eaSlutsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

We had a fantastic first experience at our local club.

We were a bit nervous, understandably, given it was our first venture to a club and into the scene as a whole. We didn't go in with any expectations to play and ensured we had discussed boundaries etc beforehand.

When we arrived, it was at the same time as another couple we had been chatting to on here. That immediately took the edge off as there was some familiarity. Once in, we got given the full tour by the club owner and were made to feel very welcome.

We then hung about in the bar, chatting with our new friends and also with others. This ended up going on for lots of the night as we were just really enjoying all the chats and drinks. Unfortunately the couple needed to head off early so we then moved upstairs for a look at the playrooms in action.

It was amazing to be able to watch everyone at play and soak up the sights

We then got talking to a gorgeous couple who invited us to the cinema room to play with them before the night ended.

A truly mindblowing experience! Voyeurism, exhibitionism, ff play and soft swapping all within a matter of hours.

We really enjoyed our first visit and have been back since. We definitely need to find the time to head back again too now we've been in the scene a bit longer.

If you're thinking on going to a club, just go for it

C x

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Mt one and only time wasn't a good one.

For a Friday night it was extremely quiet.

No-one really spoke to me and the corridors to the play rooms were full of guys wondering around aimlessly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First impressions.. Awful. Hosts just left me to it. Right dive. Music was mediocre. Bring your own drinks.

Still to try others. When I am in the mood for a trip up north.

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By *ettpairCouple
over a year ago

Kettering

Haven't been to one yet.... would love to try it but would no doubt be bricking it lol

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By *ackwoody11Man
over a year ago

swansea

Mine was a great experience with a female friend

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By *xhibitionistbenMan
over a year ago

Ware / Kings Cross

I was pretty nervous! Went alone, was very briefly shown round, and quietly had a drink on my own. Chatted to another fella who was there for the first time and considered just going home.

Instead, I found the biggest group of people, went and introduced myself. They were all lovely, lots of chatting, a bit of flirting and within an hour or so, I was in the playroom, playing with a woman’s pussy while she sucked her husbands cock, as my cock was being sucked by another woman who was being fucked… So overall pretty positive!

It wouldn’t have been anywhere near as fun if I didn’t put myself out there though

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

"I was pretty nervous! Went alone, was very briefly shown round, and quietly had a drink on my own. Chatted to another fella who was there for the first time and considered just going home.

It wouldn’t have been anywhere near as fun if I didn’t put myself out there though"

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By *eally_RosieWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Got in and shown around. It was pretty run down. Quite a few aggressive-looking single males persistently staring at everyone. Same 3 minute clip of anal-porn on loop on every single wall in the main lounge/bar area. I was extremely nervous and found it quite an oppressive atmosphere.

Got chatting to a nice enough couple. Explained that I play only, but they were newbies too so we were all happy to social, play pool etc. They spent the next hour or so pretty much blanking me and trying to persuade my Husband to go play with them, before he put his foot down and we left.

Whole experience made us pretty uncomfortable, and sadly jaded our opinions of both clubs and couples.

We haven’t been to one since. We have been told that the club in question is a bad one for newbies, and we are trying to pluck up the courage to visit another soon x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here’s my run down of the clubs having gone over the years:

our place for fun- small club with a lot of fun

Abfabs- massive club - great spa facilities - Fridays were always better even with all the single guys.

Xtasia- dj is incredible- very friendly place- never played there but it’s still my favourite club for how social it is

Penthouse playrooms - (arousals) the makeover is stunning - younger crowd goes there now- im 43 and felt old - expensive for drinks - it’s a place to go and play for sure

Sutton house - depends on who’s running the night there as to what you get - a Victorian house that has mainly open play as there is not enough room to play private, only a couple of lockable rooms. Great for those who enjoy having sex around others

Hellfire- the club looks great - found the people there a bit unwelcoming to my ex , but very friendly towards me. I won’t go there again

Black man’s fan club- they run nights at various clubs, Helen and team have got this down to a fine art and it’s always a popular night no matter what club they go host in. Lovely people always fun to be had. Even though I’m gay I’d still go for socials or play with bi women

Jaydees- one of the friendliest clubs I’ve ever been too, lots of fun to be had, very welcoming and friendly bunch of people

Le boudoir - never been but I mention them for the reason why, their application process is traumatising - or it used to be- im a very attractive size 18 woman- I have no problems attracting attention but even though I was approved I felt just awful after applying (was a size 14 at the time) so I will never go there

Killing kittens- I was invited to their mansion in west London before it closed down- it was very pretentious- supermodels in underwear and you got “selected” to go into the vip if you where hot enough. I was a size 12 at the time and I felt fat

Looks like some of the other clubs I went too have now been shut down so not relevant to review them

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Do your research and work out from the reviews and talking to people which ones might suit you.

We rushed into a club meet about 3 days after having the very first swinging conversation and it very nearly put Mrs off the entire lifestyle for good.

Second time around (about 6 years later!) We've had much better/more enjoyable club nights.

Our attitude is always that we need to be able to have a fun night at the club, even if the only play is between us. Playing with others is a bonus that will, or won't happen. But if you can consider the night a success by having a good giggle, or a dance if the club has a dj etc, and then going off yourselves and playing, then you can't go too wrong.

Just be prepared to see some things that might not be what you are into, but everyone is there just trying to enjoy their night in their own way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our first club visit was pretty surreal to be honest. We loitered around the bar and wandered about. We didn't chat much to folk but decided to go into the open play room later in the evening.

We started messing around and then wife went across to another couple to ask if they wanted to join us. Next thing we knew, wife was noshing the other couples fella off before hubby had introduced us. Full swapped on our first trip which was awesome.

That said, we wish we could get to clubs more often. We also wish this site wasn't so useless with flakes, voyers, and time wasters as we'd love more private meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very clique, hosts spoke to us on arrival then it was as if we didn’t exist for the rest of the night. Although we didn’t try either because we were so nervous and didn’t know the etiquette lol

That was about 15 years ago, haven’t been back since lol"

Sounds like Liberty Elite. That's the second club we went. Far too many people wanting to just watch and act like peacocks showing off their holiday tans.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"Got in and shown around. It was pretty run down. Quite a few aggressive-looking single males persistently staring at everyone. Same 3 minute clip of anal-porn on loop on every single wall in the main lounge/bar area. I was extremely nervous and found it quite an oppressive atmosphere.

Whole experience made us pretty uncomfortable, and sadly jaded our opinions of both clubs and couples.

We haven’t been to one since. We have been told that the club in question is a bad one for newbies, and we are trying to pluck up the courage to visit another soon x"

I could have almost written this myself - it's reassuring to know I'm not alone but I'm sorry your experience was similar!! x

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By *ersuasion22Couple
over a year ago

Herts

I think it depends on the club. We went to a newbies night at Vanilla Alternative about a year ago, and it was fab! A great introduction to clubs. Maybe see if the club you're thinking of going to has anything like that?

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By *oyandJulieMan
over a year ago

blackburn

A bukakke party at Gatehouse Bolton

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m thinking of going to my first event at AbFab/Kestrel. I’d appreciate any thoughts on this place and interaction with single guys (like me). Believe it or not I’m not going to try and bang anything that moves, I just want to test the waters (facilities look great) and it seems like a good place to try.

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By *iss pleasuringWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near

Also decent decent discreet distance from home and couples only. So we’d travel south of Yorkshire for a night away.

Our worry is we’ll find it cheap, seedy and a bit desperate.

Advice appreciated- we think VA is the place to go. "

The vanilla alternative club near Bedford is a classy place. Couples only on selected sat night. Onsote hotel

In house dj

Va2 for Google

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By *uds1Couple
over a year ago

lanark

We went to the after8 club few years ago interesting night

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By *xcited99Couple
over a year ago

omagh

We went to Chameleons in Darlaston one weekend and had a fantastic time. Staff very welcoming and lots of nice friendly people around. Can't wait to go back.

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By *eachrunner1Man
over a year ago

Farnham

First experience was the old Kestrels some years ago.

I basically went with no idea what to expect as I was really only looking for somewhere to swim and sunbathe nude.

I was SO nervous walking in there but within moments the whole place blew my mind and I was hooked.

People fucking in the pool on the lawn, in the dungeon... wanking, spanking, sucking and everything else going on without any inhibition was just amazing to me.

Everyone was friendly and chatting in the hot tub. Being able to walk about with an erection and have no one bat an eyelid was just so liberating.

I went 3 times in one week and always left with a smile on my face and a couple of new naughty memories to look back on!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

My first club visit was very much an anti-climax. All that nervousness leading up to walking through the front door soon left once inside. It wasn’t a busy night, but I did chat with a few people in the bar and social area. It felt more like a Sunday afternoon in a working men’s club, than what I had imagined a Friday night in a swinger’s club might be….

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

our first visit was to a club in Madrid ... search our story under "journey to hotwife" xx Anne

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I was 21 and went with a friend. It was amazing, very friendly and lots of people interacting as I expected. Went home with someone too

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
over a year ago

wonderland.

"We're both thinking about going to a swingers club both have never gone and would love to hear everyone experienc

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my first experience was okay. I was very d*unk though, something I would not recommend.

However a week later I went back. It was great fun even though I didn't play with anyone... I chatted to the staff, then some regulars.. I tried other clubs after that. It is my preferred way to meet people now.

Go with no expectations other than a social night out x

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere

I had planned to meet someone and did - made it easier to mingle as they were a regular and I was with them so was good fun - i also got accosted by a woman who insisted I accompany her to a big room - wasnt the worst night of my life to be fair

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I love hearing everyone's good and bad experiences. It's nice to see so many stories on what to expect and to somewhat be opened minded on how it can go wrong.

Thank you everyone for sharing its very reassuring to read. I look forward to hearing everyone else's experiences good and bad xoxo

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By *unchalMan
over a year ago

Dartford

"We're both thinking about going to a swingers club both have never gone and would love to hear everyone experienc

Never been. But slowly coming around to the idea. I guess I am in the precontemplation stage...

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Went on my own, total newbie. Got chatting to two amazing women and spent the rest of the night fucking, 3somes 4somes moresomes. Some introduction to the Club scene

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

"Hosts showed us round and introduced us to several other couples.We got chatting and were invited to a room with 3 other couples.Was wifes first proper bi session.Very good night ."

Jaydees is just like that

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By *unchalMan
over a year ago

Dartford

"We're both thinking about going to a swingers club both have never gone and would love to hear everyone experienc

My struggle is the 'social' fantasy. Happy to have sex with strangers but chat with them, and maybe have a drink, sounds fucking perverted. Anyway, can't wait!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're usually the first one's naked even on our first night

We couldn't wait to play with the BDSM stuff and I was throat fucked and flung around the jail cell and looed up to see lots of people watching with dicks in hand lol it was definitely something new! We had one night that we cut short because a group of men were getting too close and too pushy but it didn't put us off going back

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I was 25, very naive and briefly dating someone I worked with who'd been around on the scene for some years.

Having told him I'd always had a fantasy about being with another woman, he introduced me to another site then suggested we take a long lunch and off we went to Chams.

It was totally mind blowing that because I was incredibly inexperienced in general! It was busy enough but not stupidly busy so probably a good move on his part. I remember being relieved how chatty and friendly everyone was and how totally unintimidating. We played with a couple and from that point on I was hooked and went back the next Saturday on my own.

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By *ovienightCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Still haven’t had one

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By *ottodot123Couple
over a year ago

Gillingham

We've only been twice so far.

First was a very quiet Friday but I think it was probably a good thing.

Firstly we sat in the car for about 15 minutes outside so nervous to go in !!

Hosts showed as around (Pleasures in Kent ) were very friendly and we soon met another couple and then later chatted to some single guys.

Second time was again Pleasures Saturday just gone and it was a theme night and OMG I loved it.

Even just for the music and the dancing and just the liberation of partying with loads of people semi naked. Yeah, big fan.

Keen to try more clubs soon.

We even had a hotel booked for Curvy Club Sutton last month and had to cancel because one of our dogs was poorly bless him. But I feel that would be a good night out for us.

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge

Ours was great, we went to chameleons and had a great time.

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By *ewels74Woman
over a year ago

Dundee/Angus/Blackpool

I was down on holiday in Blackpool and basically I had always wandered past 2 clubs as I was literally staying on between them lol and so in the yr I went down I had turned 40 yrs old and I found myself standing in front of a well known Club,which has now moved to different location,so it was my birthday,shy as hell cause dang my confidence lol and nervous,I was a single female on own and I had to just breathe. I honestly looked at the door contemplating and then thought to myself "fuck it" under my breathe and timidly walked in the door. Well they do say life began at 40 and it sort of did and I got my bearings and spent 3 different days there over a weekend. Ahem it opened my eyes more to a lot of things I'm still naive to a lot of things and still learning.

I went to another club at a different year again nerves but the people in there encouraged me

and I got more confident but can still be shy. The only one thing that was bad one time,for some reason this guy latched on to me as we came in together it seems,but I was alone and the whole time he wouldn't leave me be plus he was a bit tipsy,others if I remembered did come over and helped me. So I guess most of the times I've been to swingers clubs I've experienced all the good parts but I've never truly delved into the really naughtier side I guess,I guess I'm still learning and finding my way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Went with a few couples I had met at Carlisle social.

Went and chatted to a few couples and was dead relaxed and friendly.

Played with a couple I had come with and me and another guy played with a lady...was a brilliant evening!

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

Went by myself as the lady friend who had asked to take her and given me a book about swinging to read couldn't make it. Had a fabulous evening chatting and chilling in the pool and hot tub. Met a lady, who is still a friend 8 years later, who told me about fab. Had such a blast I've been clubbing ever since.

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By *tanley FunseekerMan
over a year ago

stanley

"We're both thinking about going to a swingers club both have never gone and would love to hear everyone experienc

I didn’t quite know where to look for the first 15 minutes lol

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

our very first club meet was back in the day when there were so few clubs nearest to us here in somerset was west midlands ..

we both agreed that it would be 100% a fact finding vist with zero play so the night was real easy we found out alot we chatted alot everyone was great and infact one of the guys we met all the way back then we meet regular as private meets ...

our very first swinging meet was a drive to a very big dogging spot just off m4 to meet with 2 other couples that again was a no play night they asked us to follow them home and watch them play whiles we played with each other again no pressure ...

for us it was not about weather we wanted to swing or not lol our minds were made up along time ago on that we just used those occasions to find out how things worked ...

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By *kinkycpleCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

I’ll never forgot our first trip to a club.

The nerves, excitement and just sheer fun and joy! Also I didn’t sleep for a week afterwards. It’s an exhausting experience in more ways than one!

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By *rofmoriartyMan
over a year ago

Nearby

My first trip. As a single male of about 25 I had been pushing myself, talking myself round, trying to come up with the courage to attend my first club night. It was a long and hard process (wheeyyy) but randomly, one Tuesday night, I plucked up the courage. I thought strike while the iron is hot, got in my car and drove to Chams.

I got there, spoke to the lady on the desk, paid, got the low down and was shown to the changing rooms.

‘Btw it’s naked night, so that means no covering up, walk round with your towel on your shoulder. Is that okay?’

‘Yes’ I said, I’d come too far to back out now.

So I strutted into Chams naked as the day I was born and had the best night ever.

The rush of being so scared, then doubly scared to then being comfortable helped to genuinely make it one of the best experiences of my life.

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By *elshmumWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Some clubs are better than others and some events and hosts are better than others.

I always love any event organised by flaunt thy curves (that is the account name on here). They are great host and a friendly bunch of club goers. And there is always someone who will talk to you, show you around, tell you what is and is not allowed and give you tips on interacting qith others and how to best get what you are looking for out of the event

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By *eacefulWizardMan
over a year ago

Champéry, Switzerland

I have been to many. Started a few years ago.

As single guy it's always a question of how we are feeling inside.

First off I prefer sauna clubs, I'm happy to chill in sauna, hammam, jacuzzi, and go walk about, have a drink, chat, and let it flow.

Some were weird. A few in Spain had like a red light corridor when couples entered the space for us to go to... Felt like meat to their convenience, and we were not allowed even to the bar area with couples,like that is your corner, don't move. Wait for red light..

Others in France, Switzerland, Germany, are amazing, some are mixed with gay, trans, couples nights.

I always go there with the idea of enjoying myself whatever takes place. No frustration, just a good time.

A few times I was invited, by a couple to go down on his wife, another was a newbie couple, I went for a walk upstairs after a jacuzzi chat and they came, told me I could enter their room to look, then we ended in a lovely 2 hour threesome.

Surprising moments when I found myself taking part in a gangbang (my first, went limp) but as I enjoy Squirt, worked his wife that way.

A couple of times, was speaking to first time solo women, and really putting the essence out..

Lady if in a couple or if you're solo, you own this place, nobody touches you without your consent if they do, brush them off, clarify kindly, make it clear.

As a couple it's also the role of hubby to keep emotional safety and all rules boundaries or words for yes, no, we spoke boundaries and we can have a floating on up to this or that, never more whatever happens.

And I found myself just talking about this to a womanfor a while, and mundane convo (her first time in nay sex setting of this type, a gay friend was a regular, brought her there), we gazed, I said, fancy coming to look at the rooms, in the bunker area with sling swings etc. She said yes... I sat her in one to show her, asked if she wanted to try and play.. She said yes... I followed... Asking consent at each step... She went wild.

We ended up having sex together as if we were a long time couple, in front of 12 guys wanking themselves off around the bed (not on Her.

We finished our play in the shower. She had to leave as her friend was leaving. Awesome evening.

So some were fun, others were total voyeurism, some were getting various type of play,..

up to finding myself with a finger in the ass, my nipples sucked and my dick sucked in 30 seconds in the dark zone of the hammam... To which I kindly told the guys they were going a bit fast... Wasn't quite ready for my first male - male"s" encounter

Globally... Go with no expectations, set your limits, go for a drink, don't imagine it will be wild, or boring... It's just another place... And a place where people play.

Have fun and remember all those encounters are add Ons, not compensations.

You and your couple are the only thing that counts, with respect obviously as others are not cattle, but... You play up to what both agree... No over zealous as this will surely fuck things up later... Stick to your guidelines.

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By *ingerbeardman-Man
over a year ago

Sutton-in-Ashfield

I'm still looking to find someone to go to a club with for the first time...

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By *winging_couple300Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster

Eye opener, from porn on the big screen to sexual acts being performed on the dance floor

Meet a few nice couples so was a nice introduction to the club world.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

It’s great to hear about others experiences. We are looking forward to getting back into the groove

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Far less scary and intimidating than I thought it would be.

I found everyone to be very friendly and it’s surprising how quickly I got used to seeing naked bodies and people having sex!

Having said that there’s a good social scene if you’re unsure as to whether you want to participate. There’s no pressure.

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By *ffanotdykeCouple
over a year ago

Telford

Over the years we have been to three clubs. One was absolutely dire, the second was virtually empty. We were assured it got better at weekends. The third one Chameleons was/is great but two things to watch out for. Saturday nights (couples only) it can get very cliquey. Its also starting to get quite pricey (by our standards) but still the best by miles.

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By *eacefulWizardMan
over a year ago

Champéry, Switzerland

"our first visit was to a club in Madrid ... search our story under "journey to hotwife" xx Anne "

That was super inspiring, exciting and amazing to read... Thank you for sharing...

Can you share the name of the club

Could you recommend one in Barcelona if you have been?

Thank you

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By *emptusboth777Couple
over a year ago

oxford

First time was really great. Met some really nice people and totally enjoyed the experience, heading back soon for round 2.

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

"our first visit was to a club in Madrid ... search our story under "journey to hotwife" xx Anne

That was super inspiring, exciting and amazing to read... Thank you for sharing...

Can you share the name of the club

Could you recommend one in Barcelona if you have been?

Thank you "
Cap Madrid (Prosperidad) ... apologies we do not have any details about Barcelona .. xx Anne & George

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By *umblebiMan
over a year ago

ayles

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

"We're both thinking about going to a swingers club both have never gone and would love to hear everyone experienc

First visit to a club was nerve wracking to be honest, didn't know what to expect lol

We were lucky enough to meet some great people though,

you'll find your fellow swingers are good at making newbies feel at ease

We had an absolute ball and loved it, sure you will too

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By *quirtyfun69Couple
over a year ago

Burnley

Our first to a club just over a year ago literally is the day we became swingers and loved it ever since. Met a lovely couple and had some fun and got hooked. Had some really good meets.

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By *onosplayCouple
over a year ago

banbury

Maastricht well just outside.

Nervous but hosts were good

Wife stood and let guy stand behind her finger her then started fucking her.

Rest is history

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By *rincess-PeachWoman
over a year ago

irrelevant

Mine was fabulous I went saying I was only watching and ended up in a 3some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll be able to answer this tomorrow! Off to Penthouse tonight to lose my club virginity ?? my bday has been to a couple but I’m clueless but very enthusiastic!!

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Mine was good,

I went with jack ,we were shown around by friendly staff.We had some drinks and chats ,plus went in the jacuzzi.

We only played together that night ,but enjoyed it and never felt pressured to do anything or get dressed down.

Next time we went we arranged to meet a couple there and played then

Miss

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

My very first visit was shortly before my 40th birthday- a guy I was seeing then was a regular at one of my local clubs and offered to take me. We went on Halloween night, and it was definitely a massive eye opener for me. This club has been my "home from home" ever since, with some great experience and some not so great. Just wish I could get there on public transport!

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By *pforfun12Man
over a year ago

Norwich

I’m wanting to visit jadezz but never been before so it’s a bit of the unknown lol

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By *pforfun12Man
over a year ago

Norwich

Can you visit the club as single male ?

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By *pforfun12Man
over a year ago

Norwich

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By *lashyMan
over a year ago

a lather

Persuaded my wife to go to a club about 15 years ago (neither of us having been near one before). I confidently told my wife if nothing else it would be a giggle, she was very self conscious and nervous. However as we were being shown around my confidence was rapidly draining away as my wife became more and more enthusiastic. Ended the night with me sat nervously in the bar while my wife thoroughly enjoyed herself with two guys she met in one of the private rooms! She was immediately a convert and we have enjoyed many fun nights at various clubs. My wife sometimes going with other guys or women.

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By *pforfun12Man
over a year ago

Norwich

Very nice lov a dirty woman

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By *ottodot123Couple
over a year ago

Gillingham

"I’ll be able to answer this tomorrow! Off to Penthouse tonight to lose my club virginity ?? my bday has been to a couple but I’m clueless but very enthusiastic!! "

Hope you have a great time x

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By *uri00620Woman
over a year ago

Croydon

The one I went to was what I imagine Butlins to be like with a bit of groping thrown in. I guess that's OK presuming you like Butlins...

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By *eacefulWizardMan
over a year ago

Champéry, Switzerland

"our first visit was to a club in Madrid ... search our story under "journey to hotwife" xx Anne

That was super inspiring, exciting and amazing to read... Thank you for sharing...

Can you share the name of the club

Could you recommend one in Barcelona if you have been?

Thank you Cap Madrid (Prosperidad) ... apologies we do not have any details about Barcelona .. xx Anne & George "

Thank you a lot for Madrid address. Was giving it a shot for Barcelona, never know. Appreciate you taking the time to Answer. Xx Olivier

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By *pforfun12Man
over a year ago

Norwich

I never did like butlins lol

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over a year ago

Norwich

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By *heWanderer100Man
over a year ago

southend

Mine was at the now gone Funtime club in east London. Was asked by a friend to accompany her, so had someone I could talk to. We turned up, was a very friendly club, lots of people happy to chat and get to know each other. After a while of talking, a lady grabbed me by the hand and lead me into a room where people could see in, and proceeded to fuck me silly! As things were getting to a conclusion so to speak, we heard a knock, and answered the door, to find my friend with another lady, wanting in on the fun! We stayed in there well over an hour, and walked out to claps and cheers! All in all a very good visit which continued back at my place.

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By *omvampmMan
over a year ago

gillingham

Some clubs when you first go seem bit clique but persevere find the right club and relax at your pace I go to pleasures in kent which I appreciate is long way for you posting. Don’t go with expectations take it as it comes and try to chat but at your pace I’m now regular and have to say it’s lovely atmosphere safe social and a lot more if you meet or go with right company and an open mind. There will always be some clique groups or as anywhere people you don’t connect with but as a whole us swingers are friendly nice people. Better atmosphere than any normal pub or club that’s for sure x

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"We're both thinking about going to a swingers club both have never gone and would love to hear everyone experienc

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Been many times but the first was at the old eurekas where i felt a little intimidated by the local regulars who all stuck together like glue but eventually i had fun ended up being a good evening

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By *ain and sortedMan
over a year ago

Old Harlow Essex

First time was exciting, id done a lot of research of what to expect, that was over 20 years ago. 1st night as a single gent, chatted to some nice people who had same out look on fun and life, investigated the surroundings, had great fun, just like a safe place to express your self sexually with out judgement, loved the vibe then was hooked, a great escape from everyday pressures

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By *irk_Dastardly.Man
over a year ago

Salisbury

Went to one out of curiosity as an interested ‘voyeur’. Was watching a gorgeous couple have fun and was asked to join in. A nice first experience.

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By *oll_Face_xxWoman
over a year ago

Dollywood

Having experience as being a host in clubs and going as a guest.

I'd say do your research, look on the forums for what events are on and look at the Guestlist, some clubs will cap the amount of ratios such as single men as to avoid a sausage fest , other clubs just want money.

I'd look on club reviews for the ones within your travel distance radius and see what people are saying about the clubs.

If attending an event,I'd be active on the forum Guestlist so you can get talking to others attending. Many hosts will have kik groups as a get to know eachother kind of chat, these can be great but they can also form clicks.

After an initial visit, the hosts should of given you a club tour and most will do ice breaker games or introductions.

I think go be yourself, get a feel for it and each visit gets better as you gain confidence and get to know new people.

I've been to some awful nights and some fantastic nights and made many friends along the way.

I've found clubland very open minded,non judgemental and more relaxed than in a mainstream bat but that's just my personal experience and preference x

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By *orny IrishMan
over a year ago

Rural Wiltshire

I had a great time at my first one, it was a local club which unfortunately is not open any more. Managed to meet a couple who I had been chatting with before and things just went on from there.

Have been to other clubs where I found it very difficult to strike up a conversation with anyone.

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