FabSwingers.com forum: Guys pretending to be a woman in a couple?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why are there so many guys on here that pretend to be in a couple and act as a woman to get pics/vids off a bloke seems like a lot of work for something you can just Google??

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

They must get a thrill out of it, it's nothing new. None of them will comment and explain why they do it though.

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By *essaMayWoman
over a year ago

Fairytale Wood

Personally i suspect many may have been couples once. She doesn't want to do it anymore or have separated.

They send friend requests to try and get access to your privates. They want you to tell them about your experiences with another woman. I would have no idea why they would want to approach guys pretending to be a woman other than guys are much more ready to talk dirty to them thinking the are a woman i guess.

For me they are easy to spot and usually politely walk away metaphorically, had one or two who have followedwith abusive rage. I think more guys and guys of couples get upset by them than women, but i can only speak for myself.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

think some would be shocked by how many swinging couples dont make it ie split ... seen so many ..most started swinging for the wrong reasons ie trying to save a marriage

the are 1,000s of couples profile on here who are no longer couples know quite a few local too ... but what can you do .. it dont take a lot to work out tho as if the percentages are not bad enought for men for them to realize alot of couples and women profiles are fake must be very disheartening indeed ...

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By *ormalfornorfolkMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Desperate for sexual interaction of any kind with other humans. You take what you can get I imagine.

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By *hawn ScottMan
over a year ago

london Brixton

My wife and I are currently living apart but are still married. She has no problem with me meeting alone and we will still be playing in the future and was 100% clear when I.got messaged

I got by account reported and admin removed all the pics with women in them. There were about 7 different women in there and obviously they aren't all wives they are other play partners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Simple solution... If you are interested and they are too ask for a picture of a random object or something you ask to write on a piece of paper. Not every couple are pretending. A lot of single guys do the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably turns them on when other men say they want to fuck their wife etc... Even if the wife doesn't know about it.

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

"My wife and I are currently living apart but are still married. She has no problem with me meeting alone and we will still be playing in the future and was 100% clear when I.got messaged

I got by account reported and admin removed all the pics with women in them. There were about 7 different women in there and obviously they aren't all wives they are other play partners.

They must have been identifiable from the pics

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By *un beforeMan
over a year ago

london colney

Loads of them , most use borrowed pics or wife was intrested once but changed mind

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By *hawn ScottMan
over a year ago

london Brixton

"My wife and I are currently living apart but are still married. She has no problem with me meeting alone and we will still be playing in the future and was 100% clear when I.got messaged

I got by account reported and admin removed all the pics with women in them. There were about 7 different women in there and obviously they aren't all wives they are other play partners.

They must have been identifiable from the pics"

Pics of me with other women that aren't my wife that all look different? Not bothered I'm only looking for friends right now

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By *esmond and Molly JonesCouple
over a year ago

Watford

I always find the big giveaway is when the 'woman' of the 'couple' goes into the forums and says how much her "hubby" likes xxx. That's a surefire bloke writing that.

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By *un beforeMan
over a year ago

london colney

Also lots of bi and gay men using couple as cover

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"I always find the big giveaway is when the 'woman' of the 'couple' goes into the forums and says how much her "hubby" likes xxx. That's a surefire bloke writing that."

You've spotted it too?

"Women" commenting like a Man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always find the big giveaway is when the 'woman' of the 'couple' goes into the forums and says how much her "hubby" likes xxx. That's a surefire bloke writing that.

You've spotted it too?

"Women" commenting like a Man

Or when the Mrs is at work but he can meet up

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By *dventurousSexplorersCouple
over a year ago

Fantasy Land

"Personally i suspect many may have been couples once. She doesn't want to do it anymore or have separated.

This ^^

We’ve experienced a few like this ourselves but in my opinion they’re easy to spot. There was one in particular that hadn’t uploaded a photo of the female since 2021 (which is fine) but had multiple verifications with the likes of “met the male half of this couple at a party last night, hopefully the Mrs can make the next one”

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By *rKingsmanMan
over a year ago

Sutton

It’s very sad and pathetic for anyone to create a fake profile, wether you’re male or female! Just be yourself, you ruin it for everyone else

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By *orleyMikeMan
over a year ago

Leeds

‘Only male half free today’

‘Who wants to fuck my husband?’

It’s so obvious it’s quite embarrassing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's amusing is, it's so obvious it's a single guy too. Usually within 2 or 3 messages back and to I know it's just a sad lonely dude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"‘Only male half free today’

‘Who wants to fuck my husband?’

It’s so obvious it’s quite embarrassing "

This.

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By *lltheboostCouple
over a year ago

Shefford

Surely a verified profile and verifications from meets is a giveaway on who’s real?

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

‘Who wants to fuck my husband?’

That must be the most overused.

Does anyone ever fall for it?

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By *evonrobMan
over a year ago

Kingsbridge

Sadly also an awful lot of women on here who sadly can’t play any more due to illness. I actually go along with it, am sympathetic and play my part as required!

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"I always find the big giveaway is when the 'woman' of the 'couple' goes into the forums and says how much her "hubby" likes xxx. That's a surefire bloke writing that."

The amount of threads you see on here that are from a couples account but it’s clearly the guy talking is comical

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"I always find the big giveaway is when the 'woman' of the 'couple' goes into the forums and says how much her "hubby" likes xxx. That's a surefire bloke writing that.

The amount of threads you see on here that are from a couples account but it’s clearly the guy talking is comical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens a lot , but you can spot them a mile off

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By *un beforeMan
over a year ago

london colney

So many fake couples

But still blame the single man who admit to being single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get told i`m a guy and its a fake profile when i turn guys down sad really. karen the fake

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By *urve_your_enthusiasmWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Or the "woman" in the couple messaging to say she wants to arrange a meet with me for his birthday/Christmas/...

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By *ringosampaioMan
over a year ago

London

Funnily enough that’s actually how I found out about this website. I had a mate who told me he used to pose as a girl in a couple on here, set up a meet and then show up by himself claiming the girl had cancelled. Apparently guys would usually settle for getting off with him.

Sounded a bit weird and predatory/catfishy to me, we’re no longer mates but glad I know about Fabswingers though!

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

"Funnily enough that’s actually how I found out about this website. I had a mate who told me he used to pose as a girl in a couple on here, set up a meet and then show up by himself claiming the girl had cancelled. Apparently guys would usually settle for getting off with him.

Sounded a bit weird and predatory/catfishy to me, we’re no longer mates but glad I know about Fabswingers though! "
That is weird and creepy

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

Thats another reason I dont talk to couples on here as its highly likely that you'll be speaking to a guy anyways even with the genuine ones

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By *azmar62Couple
over a year ago

Hinckley

"think some would be shocked by how many swinging couples dont make it ie split ... seen so many ..most started swinging for the wrong reasons ie trying to save a marriage

We’re a genuine in love couple who really enjoys playing. Our lives are fantastic. Swinging and meeting new people is a plus for us. We’re very savvy when it comes to rooting out the sados on here. Most are genuine but sadly they mess it up for the rest. xx

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By *inacolada3Couple
over a year ago

kettering

Sounded a bit weird and predatory/catfishy to me, we’re no longer mates but glad I know about Fabswingers though! "

And this is why we only meet at clubs and use this site as a way to communicate with people we have met and to find out about club nights.

I like to think our verifications tell the true story.

We do like the forums for fun x

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By *ouplewithKinks23Couple
over a year ago

Walsall

See we always try to make it clear that generally it is m half doing the talking, as F half is very happy to let him manage it. However she's fully involved and we meet together always, and if chat moves elsewhere we are always both involved

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"I always find the big giveaway is when the 'woman' of the 'couple' goes into the forums and says how much her "hubby" likes xxx. That's a surefire bloke writing that.

The amount of threads you see on here that are from a couples account but it’s clearly the guy talking is comical

What is wrong with the male half of a couple account posting in Forum? That per se seems fine as long as not pretending to be the female half. Is there something worse about the male half posting than the female half? Many of course just don't say and leave it up to your imagination.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"Thats another reason I dont talk to couples on here as its highly likely that you'll be speaking to a guy anyways even with the genuine ones"

lol yes stop the press - in many couples it is guy arranging things on behalf of the couple. Shock horror

You might be missing out on meeting some great couples.

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

Sorry but I dont see any incentive in dealing with couples

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"Sorry but I dont see any incentive in dealing with couples"

Ok so the talking to the male half of the couple was irrelevant. You just don’t want to meet couples. Even if the female half talking you don’t want to meet couples.

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By *eelslover300TV/TS
over a year ago

flitwick

At least its normally fairly obvious. A "couple" contacted me yesterday but she does not play with others or watch him play with others... so when I asked why he had a couples profile he just said because he was in a couple...

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

"Sorry but I dont see any incentive in dealing with couples

Ok so the talking to the male half of the couple was irrelevant. You just don’t want to meet couples. Even if the female half talking you don’t want to meet couples. "
Nope just not interested, unless its a female couple lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally I am pretty open to chatting with anybody: VERY occasionally a chat may lead to a meet. One that amuses me is the "couple" where I initially chat to the guy, and a while later I chat to the "woman"......it is usually pretty obvious! But in honesty few of my meets come from this site, I keep it going for the entertainment value!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This happens alot

It’s friars you think a meet is in the offering but it’s just a fantasist

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By *ennyleeeWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Happens all the time , its nearly always supposedly the woman sending the messages and the messages are far too sexual for a woman its so obvious its a guy. I just say lets have a video call to verify and they either block me or go quiet.

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By *ubcdverykinkyMan
over a year ago

Bourne lincs

This site is full of guys like that like to talk about it on here

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By *ennyleeeWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

I dont understand what they get out of it ??

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By *ennyleeeWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Just received this lol I mentioned the video call but they decided not to read it !

Hey we’re new to the scene but looking for someone to meet my boyfriend alone and have a play, I will verify myself. if you’re interested in chatting drop us a message

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By *anddXXXCouple
over a year ago

London

"Happens all the time , its nearly always supposedly the woman sending the messages and the messages are far too sexual for a woman its so obvious its a guy. I just say lets have a video call to verify and they either block me or go quiet."

This x 100

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By *lmostInseparableCouple
over a year ago

Alfreton

Oh wow. As part of a couple I may have done a few odd things, lol. I'm the mrs

I wonder how many people have questioned if we're a single male because I join conversations after a little bit, when I've decided the people/person seems nice/funny/fun to play with? I also may have put questionable status updates in the past

. Oops.

Maybe I'm naive too as I haven't questioned people's couple status

I may have to be more aware that's a thing from now on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We usually ask for a group WhatsApp chat, usually steers the fakes away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have come across a few in "wife chats" I have. Equally, there are guys that think they have a right to demand proof via live pics/videos, almost like they are entitled to evidence.

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By *uthLessKnickersCouple
over a year ago

Cornwall/Devon

It’s usually easy to spot. Men message differently to women, use a different literally style. When it’s a ‘woman’ chatting like a guy the red flags come up.

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By *a1970Man
over a year ago

East cork

Great topic OP

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

Also I feel men find it easier to pretend to be woman in a couple profile then a single woman profile hence why they do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's amusing is, it's so obvious it's a single guy too. Usually within 2 or 3 messages back and to I know it's just a sad lonely dude."

Mmmm I'm flicking my vagina flaps thinking of his nice hard cock. Twisting my nipples in my dainty woman fists. Dripping wet pussy ready for my lovely sexy husband to watch as the hot man fucks me hard.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

"Sorry but I dont see any incentive in dealing with couples

Ok so the talking to the male half of the couple was irrelevant. You just don’t want to meet couples. Even if the female half talking you don’t want to meet couples. Nope just not interested, unless its a female couple lol"

Yep well then I say again your first comment was meaningless. You said one reason you don't chat to couples is because the man chatting. That is not the reason. You just don't want to meet couples.

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

I get them quite a lot.

Especially of the 'she doesn't play anymore' variety.

I tell them I'm not bothered and am happy to play with them and then... they disappear...

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By *ieandteaseMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Sounded a bit weird and predatory/catfishy to me, we’re no longer mates but glad I know about Fabswingers though!

And this is why we only meet at clubs and use this site as a way to communicate with people we have met and to find out about club nights.

I like to think our verifications tell the true story.

We do like the forums for fun x "

That seems the ideal solution. I do the same x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even ar my age I’m naive and can’t believe guys would need to lie like that when fabguys also exists to meet guys etc… but if I’ve been duped jokes on the guy not me for being trusting or stupid ..

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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

"It’s usually easy to spot. Men message differently to women, use a different literally style. When it’s a ‘woman’ chatting like a guy the red flags come up. "

And "she" will call you honey or some such endearment . Had loads of messages from couples like this .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s usually easy to spot. Men message differently to women, use a different literally style. When it’s a ‘woman’ chatting like a guy the red flags come up. "

This they definitely message differently.

I only bother in clubs now much easier to chat to the female etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a new one last week that we’ve not come across before

A verified couples profile messaged us. Their last verification was a couple of years old.

Anyway this helpful couple had randomly come across our profile and thought they would recommend their bull to us.

They gave a long glowing description of how wonderful this bull was and how they think he would be ideal for us.

Funnily enough the single profile they recommended had exactly the same stats (age, height ect) as the male half of the couple.

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By *ihimbiherCouple
over a year ago

lightwater

Happens all the time. We can sniff out a fake from 100 miles away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We had a new one last week that we’ve not come across before

A verified couples profile messaged us. Their last verification was a couple of years old.

Anyway this helpful couple had randomly come across our profile and thought they would recommend their bull to us.

They gave a long glowing description of how wonderful this bull was and how they think he would be ideal for us.

Funnily enough the single profile they recommended had exactly the same stats (age, height ect) as the male half of the couple."

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By *ornyguy666Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

Sadly lots of blokes are dishonest here I chatted with lots of guys pretend to be women..If the upfront and say who they are I still would have chatted with them

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By *tephanie63Woman
over a year ago

BRIDGWATER

I used to have a couple profile with an FWB, only I had access to it. Most men assumed male half ran it, the messages went along the lines of "can I fk your wife" ect. Which I found quite amusing.

I did keep couple profile for a while after we stopped meeting. X

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By *kus2Couple
over a year ago

west malling

On our profile it clearly states tha I, the male, does most of the chatting at first.

We still get messages etc (especially in the chat room) solely directed at mrs uk. Sometimes,if bored,I reply as if her to wind them up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done that with trans people as a role play, can get v naughty

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford

They probably do it because they enjoy the deception, but it's sad because all they will get are pictures. They won't make fab friends or have hot spicy meets like the rest of us.

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

"We had a new one last week that we’ve not come across before

A verified couples profile messaged us. Their last verification was a couple of years old.

Anyway this helpful couple had randomly come across our profile and thought they would recommend their bull to us.

They gave a long glowing description of how wonderful this bull was and how they think he would be ideal for us.

Funnily enough the single profile they recommended had exactly the same stats (age, height ect) as the male half of the couple."

lol It pays to be observant

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

"I always find the big giveaway is when the 'woman' of the 'couple' goes into the forums and says how much her "hubby" likes xxx. That's a surefire bloke writing that.

The amount of threads you see on here that are from a couples account but it’s clearly the guy talking is comical

Um, I spend way more time in here than Kiki and I'm sure it's the same for a lot of couples, surely you're not saying the male half should be seen but not heard on the forums

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By *aveing funCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Unfortunately we have had that and it spoils it for genuine people but unfortunately admin do nothing when you report them

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By *entBarryUKMan
over a year ago

Ashford

"I always find the big giveaway is when the 'woman' of the 'couple' goes into the forums and says how much her "hubby" likes xxx. That's a surefire bloke writing that.

The amount of threads you see on here that are from a couples account but it’s clearly the guy talking is comical

Um, I spend way more time in here than Kiki and I'm sure it's the same for a lot of couples, surely you're not saying the male half should be seen but not heard on the forums

Ssssshhhhhhh, just sit back and look beautiful. And smile, it makes you look prettier.

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By *ikilovesCCouple
over a year ago

village life, closest main town inverness

"I always find the big giveaway is when the 'woman' of the 'couple' goes into the forums and says how much her "hubby" likes xxx. That's a surefire bloke writing that.

The amount of threads you see on here that are from a couples account but it’s clearly the guy talking is comical

Um, I spend way more time in here than Kiki and I'm sure it's the same for a lot of couples, surely you're not saying the male half should be seen but not heard on the forums

Ssssshhhhhhh, just sit back and look beautiful. And smile, it makes you look prettier.

Well there's a thing I never thought I'd ever heard said

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By *pankingNorfolkCouple
over a year ago

Norwichish

Sounded a bit weird and predatory/catfishy to me, we’re no longer mates but glad I know about Fabswingers though! "

When there is fabguys why would a guy pose as a couple to find a bloke on here? Surely there are plenty of options on there.

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

Its funny how admin are quick to ban me from uploading new pictures but dont nothing when people blatantly set up fake profiles to get attention in the weirdest and creepy way

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