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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We been on Fab and done the clubs for awhile now, and while iv had my fair share of male attention, I really want to find a willing female to join us so my fella can have some fun, but they really are hard to find, any other cpls have to same problems? Or is my guy just butt ugly ??

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By *ick-uMan
over a year ago

belfast

I'd certainly suck his cock then let him fuck me. x

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By *ecretescapeCouple
over a year ago

Aldgate


"We been on Fab and done the clubs for awhile now, and while iv had my fair share of male attention, I really want to find a willing female to join us so my fella can have some fun, but they really are hard to find, any other cpls have to same problems? Or is my guy just butt ugly ??"

Can't see any pics of him so couldn't possibly say

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Oh bugger, I'll add some from friends in to public now

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Added

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems quite common to get more guy interest than couples or single females, I suppose it’s just the average for the demographic on this site.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Though much rarer, there are some single women that go to clubs who are very open to playing with couples.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

That was probably the issue ,not having any pics of mr ,as bi fems will want to see both people in a couple.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We been on Fab and done the clubs for awhile now, and while iv had my fair share of male attention, I really want to find a willing female to join us so my fella can have some fun, but they really are hard to find, any other cpls have to same problems? Or is my guy just butt ugly ??"

“So your fella can have some fun” - I don’t really understand this ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Your profile is all about you, there's nothing in the text to attract a woman.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"We been on Fab and done the clubs for awhile now, and while iv had my fair share of male attention, I really want to find a willing female to join us so my fella can have some fun, but they really are hard to find, any other cpls have to same problems? Or is my guy just butt ugly ??"

Invite me round, and I'll help you look.

BTW- beautiful blue undies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oh bugger, I'll add some from friends in to public now"

His face pics are hardly clear.

Does your profile text attract women or mention what your plans are?

I wouldn't have a meet where pics or video would be taken.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unicorns have always been in great demand on the scene, both for private meets and in the clubs, I used to be one so I know. This is the frustrations of many couples as they come to the scene looking for a woman to join them thinking it would just happen so easily but the reality is quite different.

Before I realised I was gay I would say the vast majority of threesomes I had happened in clubs, it gave me a chance to get to know people a little, felt comfortable and off I went to enjoy my time with the couple and in turn fulfil their fantasy. They where lucky in the sense that wile I was in a relationship me and my partner mostly played separately.

You’ll find it much easier to find a unicorn in clubs, and easier still to do a full swap with another couple.

Now all I am interested in is women, with no guy in sight. I don’t want to be fulfilling someone else’s desires unless it includes my own. Single Bi women will be the same

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By *ink and inkedCouple
over a year ago

Essex


"Your profile is all about you, there's nothing in the text to attract a woman. "

I thought it was only me that was reading it that way

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By *om in JerryCouple
over a year ago

Welywyn, Herts

We’ve come to realise we’ve had some good fortune with single bi ladies.

Some of our female veris are social, some are a mix of hot private meets and clubs.

We’d probably say club is the best bet. But simply talk to ladies, just as you would anyone else. Don’t ‘hunt’, and you’ll probably have better luck. Talk! get to know them a little and allow them to get to know you.

Some of our more memorable experiences have just sort of happened at a club. Usually when we’ve not particularly been looking for anything.

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By *om in JerryCouple
over a year ago

Welywyn, Herts

Oh, and another shout for avoiding those looking to take pics and vids.

That puts us off any profile.

(Any play pics we have in our galleries were spontaneous and well discussed with the other party)

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By *ink and inkedCouple
over a year ago

Essex


"Oh, and another shout for avoiding those looking to take pics and vids.

That puts us off any profile.

(Any play pics we have in our galleries were spontaneous and well discussed with the other party)"

I wish we had play pics ! Always get too engrossed in the play to take them looooool

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By *essaMayWoman
over a year ago

Fairytale Wood

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By *heelerMan
over a year ago

Northants


"We been on Fab and done the clubs for awhile now, and while iv had my fair share of male attention, I really want to find a willing female to join us so my fella can have some fun, but they really are hard to find, any other cpls have to same problems? Or is my guy just butt ugly ??"

I see why you get all the attention and have the fun.

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By *essaMayWoman
over a year ago

Fairytale Wood

Girls are here but I'm sure many are like me have a strong interest in other women and not really being a guys play thing.

Where as most couples who are looking for women, is mainly the guy wanting fulfil a fantasy. Don't want to cause offence but when I see comments in profiles, messages and even forum - "looking for a female to share", "looking for a female for us to have fun with". "looking for a female for my man" - What are we a desert with two spoons, puppy toy?

Complete turn off

There are few that are happy to play with couples and male attention - rest of us I image would prefer 1 to 1 with the female. I could be wrong but certainly that's my preference.

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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago

Bedfordshire areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat


"We been on Fab and done the clubs for awhile now, and while iv had my fair share of male attention, I really want to find a willing female to join us so my fella can have some fun, but they really are hard to find, any other cpls have to same problems? Or is my guy just butt ugly ??"

--------

Most the females on fab are MEN pretending to be females

And knobs to be honest.

Probably 75% have you not realised this.

And the real nice sexy horny lovely awesome females get 500+ emails a day.

So all us nice males and couples have a 1/499 chance.

So nice meets are super rare tbh.

Honest

T x

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By *unchalMan
over a year ago

Dartford


"I'd certainly suck his cock then let him fuck me. x"

Me too

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By *thfloorCouple
over a year ago

Hove


"We been on Fab and done the clubs for awhile now, and while iv had my fair share of male attention, I really want to find a willing female to join us so my fella can have some fun, but they really are hard to find, any other cpls have to same problems? Or is my guy just butt ugly ??"

As a woman you know attention comes to you, and you're used to it. The women you're seeking for, you can bet they are doing the same! You are the one in charge of the profile so I assume you don't make any approaches (to men or women). So if they won't approach and you won't approach, that's a stalemate. As a couple you need to be the one making the moves and expressing interest.

Also, it sounds like all your attention is on orchestrating dynamics with men. Because men are in abundance, by numbers alone you will find people eager to slot into your scenario. With women however this can't be, you will have to consider or even prioritise their fantasies or specific desires over your own, or at the very least propose something inclusive and inviting to them.

So yeah your man is plenty attractive, but you need to shift those gears to get into fem action.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Girls are here but I'm sure many are like me have a strong interest in other women and not really being a guys play thing.

Where as most couples who are looking for women, is mainly the guy wanting fulfil a fantasy. Don't want to cause offence but when I see comments in profiles, messages and even forum - "looking for a female to share", "looking for a female for us to have fun with". "looking for a female for my man" - What are we a desert with two spoons, puppy toy?

Complete turn off

There are few that are happy to play with couples and male attention - rest of us I image would prefer 1 to 1 with the female. I could be wrong but certainly that's my preference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Girls are here but I'm sure many are like me have a strong interest in other women and not really being a guys play thing.

Where as most couples who are looking for women, is mainly the guy wanting fulfil a fantasy. Don't want to cause offence but when I see comments in profiles, messages and even forum - "looking for a female to share", "looking for a female for us to have fun with". "looking for a female for my man" - What are we a desert with two spoons, puppy toy?

Complete turn off

There are few that are happy to play with couples and male attention - rest of us I image would prefer 1 to 1 with the female. I could be wrong but certainly that's my preference.

"

This! ^^

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By *ezandCCouple
over a year ago

Telford

We realised that it is highly unlikely that we will find a single lady here, too in demand. Our focus is on Kez and the other lady, I have and would just enjoy the view, it’s all naughty fun, but that is also something ladies aren’t interested in, which we understand.

We shifted our fun to cam sessions, not the same but still fun, a nice tease

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are meeting a lovely lady we have been chatting to from here on Saturday night. We've made it clear we want it to be fun for all parties involved, not just for my kicks.

We are also meeting a Man Sunday who we have had a social with twice, he seems like a decent fella and Jess fancies the pants off him. Again hopefully sexy fun for all.

Very rare free weekend, hopefully it all goes well

Tom

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By *essaMayWoman
over a year ago

Fairytale Wood


"We realised that it is highly unlikely that we will find a single lady here, too in demand. Our focus is on Kez and the other lady, I have and would just enjoy the view, it’s all naughty fun, but that is also something ladies aren’t interested in, which we understand.

We shifted our fun to cam sessions, not the same but still fun, a nice tease"

Depends on the lady and dynamics - there are couple of snag areas this is from my own experiences. Joined couples with my partner and the other partner have been present but not involved, maybe taken a few pictures for prosperity (maybe later)

Just few notes;

Maybe difficult for the lady to let go if her partner is there. It has destroyed relationships through jealousy. The fantasy is not always the same as the reality.

Direction, nothing more off-putting, than a guy trying to tell the ladies what to do, being a silent observer for a lot of partners is very difficult.

This is about the ladies and not guys.

Why a lot of us prefer 1 to 1 but - think it is upto your dynamics and those you are in discussion with - but finding ladies who will accept partner non participation or will be difficult - but not impossible.

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By *ezandCCouple
over a year ago

Telford


"We realised that it is highly unlikely that we will find a single lady here, too in demand. Our focus is on Kez and the other lady, I have and would just enjoy the view, it’s all naughty fun, but that is also something ladies aren’t interested in, which we understand.

We shifted our fun to cam sessions, not the same but still fun, a nice tease

Depends on the lady and dynamics - there are couple of snag areas this is from my own experiences. Joined couples with my partner and the other partner have been present but not involved, maybe taken a few pictures for prosperity (maybe later)

Just few notes;

Maybe difficult for the lady to let go if her partner is there. It has destroyed relationships through jealousy. The fantasy is not always the same as the reality.

Direction, nothing more off-putting, than a guy trying to tell the ladies what to do, being a silent observer for a lot of partners is very difficult.

This is about the ladies and not guys.

Why a lot of us prefer 1 to 1 but - think it is upto your dynamics and those you are in discussion with - but finding ladies who will accept partner non participation or will be difficult - but not impossible. "

We have done that and more in clubs, the focus for is always about fun for kez, that’s what gets me hot. So I’m happy to sit there and be silent if that’s what’s been agreed, its what we did once and fun was had all around, kez loved me watching. We have done more in clubs with other ladies which was also fun.

But you are right the dynamics has to be there, everyone clear and happy with what is happening. We have experienced others pushing boundaries and it’s not fun.

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By *essaMayWoman
over a year ago

Fairytale Wood


"We realised that it is highly unlikely that we will find a single lady here, too in demand. Our focus is on Kez and the other lady, I have and would just enjoy the view, it’s all naughty fun, but that is also something ladies aren’t interested in, which we understand.

We shifted our fun to cam sessions, not the same but still fun, a nice tease

Depends on the lady and dynamics - there are couple of snag areas this is from my own experiences. Joined couples with my partner and the other partner have been present but not involved, maybe taken a few pictures for prosperity (maybe later)

Just few notes;

Maybe difficult for the lady to let go if her partner is there. It has destroyed relationships through jealousy. The fantasy is not always the same as the reality.

Direction, nothing more off-putting, than a guy trying to tell the ladies what to do, being a silent observer for a lot of partners is very difficult.

This is about the ladies and not guys.

Why a lot of us prefer 1 to 1 but - think it is upto your dynamics and those you are in discussion with - but finding ladies who will accept partner non participation or will be difficult - but not impossible.

We have done that and more in clubs, the focus for is always about fun for kez, that’s what gets me hot. So I’m happy to sit there and be silent if that’s what’s been agreed, its what we did once and fun was had all around, kez loved me watching. We have done more in clubs with other ladies which was also fun.

But you are right the dynamics has to be there, everyone clear and happy with what is happening. We have experienced others pushing boundaries and it’s not fun."

Hope you do find couple like yourselves that are happy for partners just to take a step back, it can be fun. We were like that once, just got to complicated ladies always seem to want their partner involved - I don't know if its peer pressure - guys always wanted to be in on the action else they would meet.

We gave up the couples profile just me hanging around, have a few friends here still - hoping to get to meet another lady to share some pleasure with.

Hope you are successful in your search

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"We been on Fab and done the clubs for awhile now, and while iv had my fair share of male attention, I really want to find a willing female to join us so my fella can have some fun, but they really are hard to find, any other cpls have to same problems? Or is my guy just butt ugly ??

“So your fella can have some fun” - I don’t really understand this ? "

I was going to comment this too, what's in it for the woman?

Mrs

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

3rd Rock from the sun


"We been on Fab and done the clubs for awhile now, and while iv had my fair share of male attention, I really want to find a willing female to join us so my fella can have some fun, but they really are hard to find, any other cpls have to same problems? Or is my guy just butt ugly ??"

Not at all, you're both gorgeous.. if only I was closer!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

There are a lot of amazing women on here we've been lucky to meet a few, maybe have a look at your approach as the "for my man to have fun" would totally put me off I wouldn't want to be a play thing for a man to play out his fantasy.

Lots of people reccomend clubs I've only ever been once so can't comment but on here as long as there's a 3 way attraction and good connection it's not hard to find, good to see you've added some pics of the man too that should help.

Good luck

Mrs

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