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What’s an acceptable amount of time to chat before meeting ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What would you say is an acceptable amount of time of chatting on here before meeting ?

Obviously people have lives outside of here and can’t meet up just like that but you don’t want to be chatting with time wasters either.

What would your timeline look like before you decide if they are time wasting and how do you know if they are ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends on the Convo ...if the messages are backk and forth frequently over the course of a week then definitely time for a social meet at least.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how far away they are, I know when I was dating I wanted to get it over with so I didn't waste my time and occasionally I'd meet the same day if they were in the area

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

close

It's what ever suits both parties really. We have friends on here that most likely we'll probably never meet due to geographical reasons, but still chat to regularly.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

how ever long it takes...

but i normally get board by the 5th or 6th message so if im not interested by then then ill never be ...

some are so slow in coming forward i give in then others are str8 in to the wank stuff with in 2 or 3 messages my last meet from here i met after 7 messages a couple of really nice pics and that gut feeling hes not fake the met and shagging within 10 mins of meeting ..

im not one for socials they really bore me i done need to know the ins and outs of their life or job or anything else other than im sexually attracted and they are real ....

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By *ensualplay69Man
over a year ago

slough

Why wait for a social? If your both free then it should be asap

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By *Cups32Woman
over a year ago

Colne

First time I was on here, I met someone months down the line.

I recently had a meet with someone that was a couple of years in the making.

Thankfully both were worth waiting for...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social within 2 weeks of first chatting or we will never meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually a day/night of chatting is more than enough. Anything more than that and it spoils the meet - there’s no more mystery

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

Quickest I've done is 18 hours. Longest, a few months

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Social within 2 weeks of first chatting or we will never meet."

Think that’s reasonable, your profile pic is hilarious btw

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By *hil most chillMan
over a year ago

South East & Europe

Depends on the situation. I've chatted for months while being overseas with work before meeting when I returned

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By *ndianLuxCouple
over a year ago

West midlands

It all depends on time, distance and who you are meeting . Easy to meet a single guy, but can be tough with a cpl.

Max we have chatted is for 3 years for a special cpl .

Quickest meet was within hours with a single guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its all about means, opportunity and motive - whatever works for you

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By *ingeringfunMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Anything from a couple.hours to months.. I tend to put it down to gut feeling,.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When both are comfortable to, I find if someone is rushing to meet it’ll be a quick wham bam and not nice

At minimum I’ll want a good week or two of chatting before I’ll contemplate a social

The longest I’ve spoken to someone before meeting is a couple of years because of their situation

I have absolutely zero rush

Sorrynotsorry

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When both are comfortable to, I find if someone is rushing to meet it’ll be a quick wham bam and not nice

At minimum I’ll want a good week or two of chatting before I’ll contemplate a social

The longest I’ve spoken to someone before meeting is a couple of years because of their situation

I have absolutely zero rush

Sorrynotsorry "

Completely get that, we all have lives outside of here and can’t always be free, for me id only meet women. It’s been interesting to come back after a 3 year hiatus to see how somethings have changed and others haven’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When both are comfortable to, I find if someone is rushing to meet it’ll be a quick wham bam and not nice

At minimum I’ll want a good week or two of chatting before I’ll contemplate a social

The longest I’ve spoken to someone before meeting is a couple of years because of their situation

I have absolutely zero rush

Sorrynotsorry

Completely get that, we all have lives outside of here and can’t always be free, for me id only meet women. It’s been interesting to come back after a 3 year hiatus to see how somethings have changed and others haven’t. "

Yeah, good old fab, as full of surprises yet somehow the same as always too, kinda love that about here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social within 2 weeks of first chatting or we will never meet.

Think that’s reasonable, your profile pic is hilarious btw "

The little guy says thank you very much.

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By *eally_RosieWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

After pic exchange If it’s not moving to arrange a social pretty quickly I move on. In my experience if there’s no outward intent to arrange something it’s probably not genuine x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Between 2 and 4 hours I reckon. Life is too short.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

Anything from about 2 hours to 6 years in my case. Really depends on the people and the situation.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

An in-depth conversation cuts time then once both available seems straight forward

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"how ever long it takes...

but i normally get board by the 5th or 6th message so if im not interested by then then ill never be ...

some are so slow in coming forward i give in then others are str8 in to the wank stuff with in 2 or 3 messages my last meet from here i met after 7 messages a couple of really nice pics and that gut feeling hes not fake the met and shagging within 10 mins of meeting ..

im not one for socials they really bore me i done need to know the ins and outs of their life or job or anything else other than im sexually attracted and they are real ...."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social within 2 weeks of first chatting or we will never meet."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After pic exchange If it’s not moving to arrange a social pretty quickly I move on. In my experience if there’s no outward intent to arrange something it’s probably not genuine x"

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By *tsJustKateWoman
over a year ago

London

My quickest was under an hour lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whatever you both feel comfortable with and the nature of the meet.

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By *mwirralMan
over a year ago

wirral


"My quickest was under an hour lol. "

If your close and free why wait x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When both are comfortable to, I find if someone is rushing to meet it’ll be a quick wham bam and not nice

At minimum I’ll want a good week or two of chatting before I’ll contemplate a social

The longest I’ve spoken to someone before meeting is a couple of years because of their situation

I have absolutely zero rush

Sorrynotsorry "

What do you chat about for a week?

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

People will probably all say different about this.

For me when we feel comfortable and have the same day/eve off.

If I chat to someone on my own profile,I make it clear I'm not a prolific meeter and will want to chat for a bit first.

Some are happy with fast meets and some aren't ,it's all about finding these you're compatible with I think.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very much depends - sometimes we'll chat with someone and meet them within a week.

This weekend we're meeting someone that we've been chatting to for nearly five months and have had a couple socials with.

xx Jess

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Personally don't like a lot of chat on here. Why? Simply because you never really know if you like a person/s or if the chemistry is right unit you meet them. There not much point in exchanging messages for weeks on an endeavour which may rapidly fall apart the moment you meet in the real world.

For us a few messages to see if they are your sort of person/s, are on the same wave length and genuine. An exchange of face photos. Then simply agree to you both want to meet and pick up the conversation when you meet in the flesh. Just keep any futher message going forwards about arranging the date and details.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

I think a lot depends on outside of fabs life like family , work , social circle

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