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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Who's had a meet and they look absolutely nothing like their pictures or had hygiene issues or anything that instantly put you off? What did you do?

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By *enatton2Couple
over a year ago

West Midlands

Nothing really horrific for us. One guy could’ve done with an extra spray of Lynx although it wasn’t overpowering, another guy had clearly indulged in 420 so the kissing was a little unpleasant. He was my favourite sex since being on this site though, so it clearly didn’t bother me too much

Tani

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nothing really horrific for us. One guy could’ve done with an extra spray of Lynx although it wasn’t overpowering, another guy had clearly indulged in 420 so the kissing was a little unpleasant. He was my favourite sex since being on this site though, so it clearly didn’t bother me too much

Tani"

Thankfully not too horrific lol I don't want to discriminate against smokers as I used to be one but I'm not sure how I'll react when I do get close to 1 especially a 420 one xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh please don't! We are still complete newbies and the horror stories we have heard is already making us anxious!

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By *ukeM8519Man
over a year ago

Dublin

Life’s a disappointment. Don’t have any expectations for certain things then there is no downfall.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Life’s a disappointment. Don’t have any expectations for certain things then there is no downfall. "

We expect people to be clean!!!

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

simple answer op ... walk away and yes i have a few times over the years ... one guy locked his door so i could not get out lucky for me id already text hubs whos outside in the car ... i would never carry on with a meet if i was not 100% happy ... and i never go to a guys house again after that happened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"simple answer op ... walk away and yes i have a few times over the years ... one guy locked his door so i could not get out lucky for me id already text hubs whos outside in the car ... i would never carry on with a meet if i was not 100% happy ... and i never go to a guys house again after that happened

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Wow! Seriously?!

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset


"simple answer op ... walk away and yes i have a few times over the years ... one guy locked his door so i could not get out lucky for me id already text hubs whos outside in the car ... i would never carry on with a meet if i was not 100% happy ... and i never go to a guys house again after that happened

Wow! Seriously?!

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swinging is no different than any other part of life theres a % of assholes and dangerous everywhere .... the scene as a whole is fantastic and i and hubs have been on it 30 years ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"simple answer op ... walk away and yes i have a few times over the years ... one guy locked his door so i could not get out lucky for me id already text hubs whos outside in the car ... i would never carry on with a meet if i was not 100% happy ... and i never go to a guys house again after that happened

Wow! Seriously?!

swinging is no different than any other part of life theres a % of assholes and dangerous everywhere .... the scene as a whole is fantastic and i and hubs have been on it 30 years .."

Oh obviously! Some sketchy people about!

Glad all ended well!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"simple answer op ... walk away and yes i have a few times over the years ... one guy locked his door so i could not get out lucky for me id already text hubs whos outside in the car ... i would never carry on with a meet if i was not 100% happy ... and i never go to a guys house again after that happened

"

Yikes! Scary shit!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"simple answer op ... walk away and yes i have a few times over the years ... one guy locked his door so i could not get out lucky for me id already text hubs whos outside in the car ... i would never carry on with a meet if i was not 100% happy ... and i never go to a guys house again after that happened

Wow! Seriously?!

swinging is no different than any other part of life theres a % of assholes and dangerous everywhere .... the scene as a whole is fantastic and i and hubs have been on it 30 years ..

Oh obviously! Some sketchy people about!

Glad all ended well!"

Holy fluff you two are beautiful hoomans xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Oh please don't! We are still complete newbies and the horror stories we have heard is already making us anxious!

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We're new too I'm just wondering what people have done in this situation lol xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"simple answer op ... walk away and yes i have a few times over the years ... one guy locked his door so i could not get out lucky for me id already text hubs whos outside in the car ... i would never carry on with a meet if i was not 100% happy ... and i never go to a guys house again after that happened

"

Omg that's awful! You were lucky xx

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By *hoebeWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Yep. Had it happen.

Gsve the quickest wank in history and legged it!!

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By *unner6969Man
over a year ago

Bicester


"Who's had a meet and they look absolutely nothing like their pictures or had hygiene issues or anything that instantly put you off? What did you do? "

I’ve had problems with looks once, but luckily, never with hygiene issues. Paranoia was off-putting on one occasion, to put it mildly.

Generally, spontaneous meets have been exceedingly good. I’d welcome one tonight, to be honest!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yep. Had it happen.

Gsve the quickest wank in history and legged it!! "

That was generous lol xx

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest

Once went to meet a couple and the guy answered the door in his dressing gown and slippers. We entered the house (with alarm bells ringing) to find his wife wearing rollers, in her pjs watching Britains got talent . First she knew of a fab meet that evening lol.

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By *ueandbillCouple
over a year ago

Leyland

we met a guy in london on a weekend break

Seemed a nice guy and we chatted for a while, then when Billy went to the loo he started saying what he would like to do to me later, too much to even say on here but it involved very aggressive sex

the meet ended when I told Bill, had to stop him from killing the guy

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Who's had a meet and they look absolutely nothing like their pictures or had hygiene issues or anything that instantly put you off? What did you do?

I’ve had problems with looks once, but luckily, never with hygiene issues. Paranoia was off-putting on one occasion, to put it mildly.

Generally, spontaneous meets have been exceedingly good. I’d welcome one tonight, to be honest!"

I remember a really nervous tinder date, he couldn't look at me and kept making noises lol he was reasonably good looking but he soon went from a 7.5 to a 2 lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yep meet a couple nothing like their pics and there were ‘smells’. Was very awkward. My reluctance was interpreted into being a shit shag and i was given tips on how to improve. I still laugh about it now. "

Wow! The cheek! Don't they realise how lucky they were xx

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"Yep meet a couple nothing like their pics and there were ‘smells’. Was very awkward. My reluctance was interpreted into being a shit shag and i was given tips on how to improve. I still laugh about it now. "

Oh my word, that would have boiled my blood! Fancy giving tips

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Once went to meet a couple and the guy answered the door in his dressing gown and slippers. We entered the house (with alarm bells ringing) to find his wife wearing rollers, in her pjs watching Britains got talent . First she knew of a fab meet that evening lol."

Awkward!! Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"we met a guy in london on a weekend break

Seemed a nice guy and we chatted for a while, then when Billy went to the loo he started saying what he would like to do to me later, too much to even say on here but it involved very aggressive sex

the meet ended when I told Bill, had to stop him from killing the guy"

Ooooft what is wrong with people? Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep meet a couple nothing like their pics and there were ‘smells’. Was very awkward. My reluctance was interpreted into being a shit shag and i was given tips on how to improve. I still laugh about it now.

Sorry i need to add it wasnt full sex. But yeah my soft play skills were lambasted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately, once had a very bad experience in meeting up with a guy who looked nothing like he portrayed himself in his profile. In his profile he showed smart, clean shaven, nice clean apartment surrounding, etc. On arrival it was anything alike, very dark and dingy apartment, and he looked more like a junkie (stained tracksuit bottoms, dirty t-shirt, stained teeth with him smoking a roll-up, etc.). Fortunately for me, he'd left keys in door so I managed to unlock door and quick turn on my heels to escape, saying I'm sorry but I'm not prepared to play for the feeling of being betrayed. He followed me saying he'd pay me money to stay and I told him there was no amount of money he could offer that'd make me change my mind to stay. This was years ago when I was first starting out on FabGuys. Lesson learned. Thankfully, never had to experience anything like that again.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Unfortunately, once had a very bad experience in meeting up with a guy who looked nothing like he portrayed himself in his profile. In his profile he showed smart, clean shaven, nice clean apartment surrounding, etc. On arrival it was anything alike, very dark and dingy apartment, and he looked more like a junkie (stained tracksuit bottoms, dirty t-shirt, stained teeth with him smoking a roll-up, etc.). Fortunately for me, he'd left keys in door so I managed to unlock door and quick turn on my heels to escape, saying I'm sorry but I'm not prepared to play for the feeling of being betrayed. He followed me saying he'd pay me money to stay and I told him there was no amount of money he could offer that'd make me change my mind to stay. This was years ago when I was first starting out on FabGuys. Lesson learned. Thankfully, never had to experience anything like that again."

Poor you, it sounds scary xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unfortunately, once had a very bad experience in meeting up with a guy who looked nothing like he portrayed himself in his profile. In his profile he showed smart, clean shaven, nice clean apartment surrounding, etc. On arrival it was anything alike, very dark and dingy apartment, and he looked more like a junkie (stained tracksuit bottoms, dirty t-shirt, stained teeth with him smoking a roll-up, etc.). Fortunately for me, he'd left keys in door so I managed to unlock door and quick turn on my heels to escape, saying I'm sorry but I'm not prepared to play for the feeling of being betrayed. He followed me saying he'd pay me money to stay and I told him there was no amount of money he could offer that'd make me change my mind to stay. This was years ago when I was first starting out on FabGuys. Lesson learned. Thankfully, never had to experience anything like that again.

Poor you, it sounds scary xx"

Lucky escape, so it's all good (otherwise could've got nasty)

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By *unner6969Man
over a year ago

Bicester


"Who's had a meet and they look absolutely nothing like their pictures or had hygiene issues or anything that instantly put you off? What did you do?

I’ve had problems with looks once, but luckily, never with hygiene issues. Paranoia was off-putting on one occasion, to put it mildly.

Generally, spontaneous meets have been exceedingly good. I’d welcome one tonight, to be honest!

I remember a really nervous tinder date, he couldn't look at me and kept making noises lol he was reasonably good looking but he soon went from a 7.5 to a 2 lol xx"

Oh dear! Mine was literally paranoid - believed there were people in the wall cavities listening… I was terrified thought maybe I had finally shut myself in a room with a mad axe murderer….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn’t say a terrible experience but he looked different to on webcam and we already arranged that he would stay the night. I drank a good bit of wine that night so I’d fancy him lol. The sex was too much. I’m all for a good fuck but he almost put me through the wall and knocked all the fairy lights off my bed he was going so hard and fast. Not enjoyable at all. That was a long time ago and my experience has grown and I’m much more confident to say no this isn’t going to happen rather than just have what I call a “sympathy shag”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never been dissapointed in a meet. I've always come away with an experience I'll be thankful for.

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By *Cups32Woman
over a year ago

Colne

My first ever fab meet... He turned up looking that bit older than his pictures and the meet was a total of half an hour. Took me longer to get ready... So I invited someone else round after.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes … I won’t scare the other newbies though with details I’m kind like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meet a couple of guys in one of there’s houses was going to have mmmf with them and husband but when we got there there house was a complete mess one of the guys dressed like a tramp and the other started to show us his coin collection

Made our excuses and left

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Meet a couple of guys in one of there’s houses was going to have mmmf with them and husband but when we got there there house was a complete mess one of the guys dressed like a tramp and the other started to show us his coin collection

Made our excuses and left "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Here’s a nightmare story for you - I met a couple that looked fit and healthy in their photos. They were funny, we got along well through messaging and a phone call. Their verifications were great - so we arranged to meet at mine.

When they turned up they were both significantly skinnier than in their photos. One of them was sweating and shaking.

No sooner had they got in the door then one of them asked if I minded if they injected something into themselves because they were withdrawing. I absolutely sh*t myself inside, but didn’t show - I said I’m not comfortable with that and asked them to leave. But the sweaty one was getting agro saying I was wasting their time and they came all that way etc.

Absolute nightmare situation and I didn’t meet anyone for over 2 years after that. I won’t invite anyone at mine now. Prefer to meet in neutral locations.

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By *urplezrainWoman
over a year ago

SCUNTHORPE

I had a guy turn up, his pictures must have been about 15 Yrs old, I literally opened the door, said " and u can fk right off" and shut the door.

Have asked guys to leave, if they come in with attitude etc, which has happened twice.

It's always a risk meeting with strangers, but I'm thinking I have learnt the hard way and my judgment is much better now lol.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

my tip for any newbie is never do anything you dont want to do no matter how small or big the problem is ... no is no at any stage

stick to you guns if someone is not all who they say they are walk away never be tempted to say oh well hes here now ... you'll alway regret it

consent is everything someone breaks this its not something little so dont treat it as ... if it something small then word of mouth everyone you know let the scene what happened you dont need to name and shame on here for that ..anything serious then take it futher the law is on your side ignore those that say it wont be taken serious ... i had a stalker a few years back that caused damage to my car and a garden wall the police were excellent

and safety make sure at all times you are safe thats not just women or couples ive heard a few horror stories of guys being trapped / unsafe too ...

your in total control of your self your surrounding and who you play with and what you do ....dont be afraid to be blunt and honest ...too many are too nice and just go with it and its these swinger that encourage others its ok to lie / be abusive / threatening / get thing there own way ..

lastly forget all this its only men there are plenty of psycho couples and women out there to...

and ill go back to what i said generally 99% of the scene is great people accept no thanks its no biggie these are the real swingers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I am back after a break. I have changed however fab guys have not. If not they have got worse.

Live and learn.

The good ones hold on and don't let go lol

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By *ockleshellWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I went to a meet with a guy to a couples house I said they better be clean and house tidy.

Omg the house was full off dust everywhere cats had scratched the furniture, then going upstairs saw dust going up, but wait for it, in the bedroom a long cage with Guinea pigs in stunck to high heaven, then I noticed a pile off clothes at ghe end ogg the room about six foot high, I said what's that lot she said washing I was gob smacked the guy couldn't even put a condom on I said not for me sorry and left nightmare I never saw the guy who took me again as I said how dare you take me there and other choice words xx

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset


"I had a guy turn up, his pictures must have been about 15 Yrs old, I literally opened the door, said " and u can fk right off" and shut the door.

Have asked guys to leave, if they come in with attitude etc, which has happened twice.

It's always a risk meeting with strangers, but I'm thinking I have learnt the hard way and my judgment is much better now lol. "

this really pisses me off people turning up looking nothing like there pics or alot older ... but they do it because people go ''oh they are here now'' me im like nope not happening..

met one guy in a pub and he turned up i said no str8 away and he said ok sat down and openly admited that he was 25 years older claims is 49 yet is 74 and lying works for him ...hes on here still our little meet was over 10 years ago and yet hes still only in his 50s ...it easy for them to do because there are lots of silly people who give out veries without ever meeting for real lots of men veri other men with the met at a club or party or another popular is the gang bang all lies of course and ruins it for others who have fallen for it

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By *odgerMooreMan
over a year ago

Nowhere


"Wouldn’t say a terrible experience but he looked different to on webcam and we already arranged that he would stay the night. I drank a good bit of wine that night so I’d fancy him lol. The sex was too much. I’m all for a good fuck but he almost put me through the wall and knocked all the fairy lights off my bed he was going so hard and fast. Not enjoyable at all. That was a long time ago and my experience has grown and I’m much more confident to say no this isn’t going to happen rather than just have what I call a “sympathy shag” "

I just want to see the fairy lights - be like shagging in Narnia!!

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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

I had a meet with a 30s couple, nice pics and veris etc. She looked about 35 in the photos but when I arrived she looked 20 years older . Aged well and still fit , but quite obviously using old photos. There was really no need as she looked great anyway.

My true horror meet would get the thread closed..

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By *olden PoleMan
over a year ago

Kent

Had a meet a few weeks back. She turned up absolutely nothing like her pics. Profile said athletic and pics showed a busty gym fit woman but she was nothing like that. Ever the gentleman I swallowed my disappointment and brought drinks whilst engaging in conversation which included her explaining her current body shape was due to a medical condition. So disappointing and a waste of each others time….tho I did continue to enjoy Soho solo

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By *os_GoddessofdawnWoman
over a year ago

In the clouds

I think every one I've had has been disappointing so far! ??

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By *os_GoddessofdawnWoman
over a year ago

In the clouds


"Had a meet a few weeks back. She turned up absolutely nothing like her pics. Profile said athletic and pics showed a busty gym fit woman but she was nothing like that. Ever the gentleman I swallowed my disappointment and brought drinks whilst engaging in conversation which included her explaining her current body shape was due to a medical condition. So disappointing and a waste of each others time….tho I did continue to enjoy Soho solo "

That's silly..don't know why People don't be honest..

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By *olden PoleMan
over a year ago

Kent


"Had a meet a few weeks back. She turned up absolutely nothing like her pics. Profile said athletic and pics showed a busty gym fit woman but she was nothing like that. Ever the gentleman I swallowed my disappointment and brought drinks whilst engaging in conversation which included her explaining her current body shape was due to a medical condition. So disappointing and a waste of each others time….tho I did continue to enjoy Soho solo

That's silly..don't know why People don't be honest.."

Silly and disappointing as I’d be looking forward to a meet very much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Had a meet a few weeks back. She turned up absolutely nothing like her pics. Profile said athletic and pics showed a busty gym fit woman but she was nothing like that. Ever the gentleman I swallowed my disappointment and brought drinks whilst engaging in conversation which included her explaining her current body shape was due to a medical condition. So disappointing and a waste of each others time….tho I did continue to enjoy Soho solo "

How out of date were her pictures? Did you tell her what you’ve just told us? I hope she wasn’t upset

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wouldn’t say a terrible experience but he looked different to on webcam and we already arranged that he would stay the night. I drank a good bit of wine that night so I’d fancy him lol. The sex was too much. I’m all for a good fuck but he almost put me through the wall and knocked all the fairy lights off my bed he was going so hard and fast. Not enjoyable at all. That was a long time ago and my experience has grown and I’m much more confident to say no this isn’t going to happen rather than just have what I call a “sympathy shag”

I just want to see the fairy lights - be like shagging in Narnia!! "
haha they were pretty until the battery pack hit me in the face as it fell off the headboard. Like I said i like hard but this was stupid speed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing too extreme.

One guy used that many filters he looked nothing like his pictures in real life. Then got offended why I mentioned the filters.

Another turned up, done his thing for less than 5 minutes, flopped om top of me all sweaty then spend the next 10 mins asking me how I enjoyed it, what was my favourite part.

Another obviously hadn't showered since the morning and was confused when I mentioned showering together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We must be lucky ,?so far all our socials and play meets have all been great

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Talked with a guy for a while, made sure he knew exactly what he was getting.

Turned up and he told me he didn't really like oral or anal. Ok...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is why we always stick to meeting couples in clubs.

We met a couple recently, their pics must have been at least ten years old. He looked like an old grandad and she had clearly got a lot older and 'different' in the intervening years.

He gave us a hard time for being disinterested. We merely took one look at each other and (laughed) baulked!

We're by no means ageist or similar, but the difference in appearance was astounding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Who's had a meet and they look absolutely nothing like their pictures or had hygiene issues or anything that instantly put you off? What did you do? "

I married her

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"simple answer op ... walk away and yes i have a few times over the years ... one guy locked his door so i could not get out lucky for me id already text hubs whos outside in the car ... i would never carry on with a meet if i was not 100% happy ... and i never go to a guys house again after that happened

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This happened to a lady I know. He refused to let her out for several hours and was one of these "fake doms" who essentially ended up assaulting her. I think police were involved in the end. Be very careful out there especially if any BDSM discussion - take it slow.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

Should add that the vast majority of single and couples I've met over many years have been great. One of two disasters of being smelly or rude and a lady to tried to extort money from me after but overall fantastic

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By *imisugarWoman
over a year ago

Rugby


"I had a meet with a 30s couple, nice pics and veris etc. She looked about 35 in the photos but when I arrived she looked 20 years older . Aged well and still fit , but quite obviously using old photos. There was really no need as she looked great anyway.

My true horror meet would get the thread closed.."

Can you hint what it was? I'm a curious cat lol .

I've encountered a few unpleasant hygiene issues. It didn't result in any play.

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By *unthum62Man
over a year ago

Benidorm

Thankfully nothing too scarey compared to some of these experiences.

Worst experience was a good fun meet quickly followed up by constant almost manic texts and smothering attitude then a very arsey attitude for not replying (whilst driving) while still on my way home.

Delete, block.

Otherwise, nothing horrible has happened. Thankfully.

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By *ob and DeeWoman
over a year ago

crook

i have been taken to guys houses and some have clearly had a drink or two and then cant do nowt. No good to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yep meet a couple nothing like their pics and there were ‘smells’. Was very awkward. My reluctance was interpreted into being a shit shag and i was given tips on how to improve. I still laugh about it now.

Sorry i need to add it wasnt full sex. But yeah my soft play skills were lambasted. "
if theres smell. Do not touch by any means. End of!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a few where the reality was much older than the imagery

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By *abluesbabyMan
over a year ago

Gibraltar/Cheshire/London

I met a couple, just for a social, and they were actually really nice people to chat to... but... for both of them (especially him) lets just say hygiene to them is a greeting.

Soap dodgers doesn't even come close.

No, I never did arrange that gangbang they wanted.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"Had a meet a few weeks back. She turned up absolutely nothing like her pics. Profile said athletic and pics showed a busty gym fit woman but she was nothing like that. Ever the gentleman I swallowed my disappointment and brought drinks whilst engaging in conversation which included her explaining her current body shape was due to a medical condition. So disappointing and a waste of each others time….tho I did continue to enjoy Soho solo "

What a gent!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few years ago we had a social with a couple after swapping face pics etc..

When they turned up the lady must have looked around 20 years older than here pic..

We had one drink and chatted for half an hour before we made our excuses and left.. didn't verify as we didn't want to be rude..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has it come to the point where you need a picture of the person your meeting holding the days newspaper.

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By *olden PoleMan
over a year ago

Kent


"Had a meet a few weeks back. She turned up absolutely nothing like her pics. Profile said athletic and pics showed a busty gym fit woman but she was nothing like that. Ever the gentleman I swallowed my disappointment and brought drinks whilst engaging in conversation which included her explaining her current body shape was due to a medical condition. So disappointing and a waste of each others time….tho I did continue to enjoy Soho solo

What a gent! "

I’m confused!?!

What should I have done rather than treat her decent, make sure she got home ok?

Bawl and scream she’s nothing like her pics?

Fuck her just because I could have?

Some turns up not as they have described yet I’m the wanker in the scenario?

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By *emptusboth777Couple
over a year ago

oxford

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By *OYFBWoman
over a year ago

Jersey (sometimes Notts)

Really enjoyed reading this thread.

Kinda comforting to know I’m not the only one who has dreadful or disappointing meets!

It reminds me of my online dating days

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By *lansmanMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I had a meet with a 30s couple, nice pics and veris etc. She looked about 35 in the photos but when I arrived she looked 20 years older . Aged well and still fit , but quite obviously using old photos. There was really no need as she looked great anyway.

My true horror meet would get the thread closed..

Can you hint what it was? I'm a curious cat lol .

I've encountered a few unpleasant hygiene issues. It didn't result in any play. "

It had 4 legs and a wet nose ..

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Our 1st meet we were totally catfished, pics very dated.

Another social age was a good 10 years out.

Just a waste of everyone's time.

Mrs

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

A few disappointing meets, nothing overly scary though, luckily.

One in my dating days- we agreed to meet at mine for an overnight (not our first meet), then it turned out his "skills" were terrible. He is one of the reasons I would never do an overnight with someone I don't know well.

Another- well endowed, loads of promises in chats, yet when we met in person, he struggled to get it up, "forgot" we talked about him going down on me and the whole meet lasted less than 30min. It took longer getting ready!

A few couples where the lady was "very bi" in chats yet when it came to the meet, she had no clue, just wanted to be pleasured or would barely allow me to play with her boobs.

Last but not least- a "dom"- all was very well in chats, he agreed to all my boundaries, mostly no heavy impact play. And what does he do straight through the door, with no warm up or anything? He finds my cane (yes, silly me, should not have had it lying around), smacks me with it, hard, brings tears to my eyes and gets kicked out the door. Blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My first ever fab meet... He turned up looking that bit older than his pictures and the meet was a total of half an hour. Took me longer to get ready... So I invited someone else round after. "

Lol... exact description of my first meet!

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By *otwife and sexy beastCouple
over a year ago

rochester


"I had a guy turn up, his pictures must have been about 15 Yrs old, I literally opened the door, said " and u can fk right off" and shut the door.

Have asked guys to leave, if they come in with attitude etc, which has happened twice.

It's always a risk meeting with strangers, but I'm thinking I have learnt the hard way and my judgment is much better now lol. "

Literally had us both laughing our heads off....

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By *ittlemissFlirtyCouple
over a year ago

Southampton


"A few disappointing meets, nothing overly scary though, luckily.

One in my dating days- we agreed to meet at mine for an overnight (not our first meet), then it turned out his "skills" were terrible. He is one of the reasons I would never do an overnight with someone I don't know well.

Another- well endowed, loads of promises in chats, yet when we met in person, he struggled to get it up, "forgot" we talked about him going down on me and the whole meet lasted less than 30min. It took longer getting ready!

A few couples where the lady was "very bi" in chats yet when it came to the meet, she had no clue, just wanted to be pleasured or would barely allow me to play with her boobs.

Last but not least- a "dom"- all was very well in chats, he agreed to all my boundaries, mostly no heavy impact play. And what does he do straight through the door, with no warm up or anything? He finds my cane (yes, silly me, should not have had it lying around), smacks me with it, hard, brings tears to my eyes and gets kicked out the door. Blocked. "

I'd have reported the prick to the police for assault!

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By *ersuasion22Couple
over a year ago

Herts


"Oh please don't! We are still complete newbies and the horror stories we have heard is already making us anxious!

"

Always have a social first. Make it clear to the other person/couple that nothing is going to happen. Then you two can chat to each other afterwards before making any decisions to play. It makes that first meeting a bit more relaxed in my opinion.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"A few disappointing meets, nothing overly scary though, luckily.

One in my dating days- we agreed to meet at mine for an overnight (not our first meet), then it turned out his "skills" were terrible. He is one of the reasons I would never do an overnight with someone I don't know well.

Another- well endowed, loads of promises in chats, yet when we met in person, he struggled to get it up, "forgot" we talked about him going down on me and the whole meet lasted less than 30min. It took longer getting ready!

A few couples where the lady was "very bi" in chats yet when it came to the meet, she had no clue, just wanted to be pleasured or would barely allow me to play with her boobs.

Last but not least- a "dom"- all was very well in chats, he agreed to all my boundaries, mostly no heavy impact play. And what does he do straight through the door, with no warm up or anything? He finds my cane (yes, silly me, should not have had it lying around), smacks me with it, hard, brings tears to my eyes and gets kicked out the door. Blocked.

I'd have reported the prick to the police for assault!"

Agreed, this is awful!!

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By *illynillyCouple
over a year ago

Wiltshire


"Oh please don't! We are still complete newbies and the horror stories we have heard is already making us anxious!

"

Literally go with your gutt... we ve no real horror stories and been pretty fussy throughout

A few socials never went any further but that's about as bad as it gets

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge


"Oh please don't! We are still complete newbies and the horror stories we have heard is already making us anxious!

"

As a couple, we didn’t have any disasters. We were quite strict on who we even had a social with, Dee didn’t suffer fools.

As many have said, gut reaction plays a part, video and telephone calls prior to social to out the dreamers.

You are a very attractive couple do you will get lots of interest, you are on my hotlist for example, but don’t meet me I’m a nightmare……

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By *ffanotdykeCouple
over a year ago

Telford

So many horror stories! We have had our fair share of them. Perhaps only 25% have turned out to be what they claimed to be.

We still live in the hope that one day we will meet the elusive 60+ year old Bi couple who are happy to form a friendship which is not entirely sex based.

We don't rule out single guys but they must be at least potentially Bi. Not full of themselves but reasonably confident and be aware that a meet is for everyone not just them.

We live in hope

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By *illynillyCouple
over a year ago

Wiltshire


"Oh please don't! We are still complete newbies and the horror stories we have heard is already making us anxious!

As a couple, we didn’t have any disasters. We were quite strict on who we even had a social with, Dee didn’t suffer fools.

As many have said, gut reaction plays a part, video and telephone calls prior to social to out the dreamers.

You are a very attractive couple do you will get lots of interest, you are on my hotlist for example, but don’t meet me I’m a nightmare…… "

We get a fair few asks I guess but we really don't have any meeting time at the moment

We always had a social prior to play (well apart from our last meet but by the conversation knew he wasn't weird) , common ground super important to us too

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By *ncemoreroundthesunCouple
over a year ago

on the move

Yep, chatted to a couple for a while, had a lovely social and headed off to the room...then it emerged that while they told us they had had a chat and we're ready they clearly weren't.

Ended up like couples counseling, while we surreptitiously put shoes back on and sidled towards the door.

Kept in touch with them, and they're lovely so a good learning experience for all.

Even with all the checks, sometimes there's unknown unknowns

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

Our first social/meet.. We met with them at a pub enjoyed their company thoroughly.

Arranged a meet at their house with excitement, arrived, spent 3 hours trying to get a word in edgeways as he held court, telling us how much his jaguar, her bmw, daughters gifts etc, etc. Had cost.

Whilst remaining polite, I (Mrs) got bored and said "so would you like to take this to your room?"

After an unsatisfying and almost transactional play we left, both feeling a little used and uncomfortable..

We met another couple who were relatively new at Chic, who'd met them after us and recounted an almost identical experience..

Goes to show even a social first can be misleading..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we have. It was months ago and I'm still angry.

Mrs C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has it come to the point where you need a picture of the person your meeting holding the days newspaper. "

Lol this made me laugh but so true

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford


"A few disappointing meets, nothing overly scary though, luckily.

One in my dating days- we agreed to meet at mine for an overnight (not our first meet), then it turned out his "skills" were terrible. He is one of the reasons I would never do an overnight with someone I don't know well.

Another- well endowed, loads of promises in chats, yet when we met in person, he struggled to get it up, "forgot" we talked about him going down on me and the whole meet lasted less than 30min. It took longer getting ready!

A few couples where the lady was "very bi" in chats yet when it came to the meet, she had no clue, just wanted to be pleasured or would barely allow me to play with her boobs.

Last but not least- a "dom"- all was very well in chats, he agreed to all my boundaries, mostly no heavy impact play. And what does he do straight through the door, with no warm up or anything? He finds my cane (yes, silly me, should not have had it lying around), smacks me with it, hard, brings tears to my eyes and gets kicked out the door. Blocked.

I'd have reported the prick to the police for assault!"

The problem is, I knew he was a "dom" (at least self proclaimed as he did not have a clue in person or chose to totally ignore my wishes) and we did discuss some soft impact play. Maybe cane was "soft impact play" for him?

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

No but then so far in our years on the scene we've yet to arrange a meet with people online. We just do clubs and parties. There your first contact with people is in the flesh so you don't get this problem.

We are looking to meet a couple from here soon for a social when we can find the free time. They have a nice profile, good verifications and sent us a couple of very honest normal photos of them both that we have no reason to doubt. Also conversation has gone well and they likewise dont want to kick the arse out of messaging each other until we've met. Hopefully all bodes well.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Oh please don't! We are still complete newbies and the horror stories we have heard is already making us anxious!

"

I'd say overall it's pretty rare. Keep your wits about you, set firm boundaries, and you should be ok.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"simple answer op ... walk away and yes i have a few times over the years ... one guy locked his door so i could not get out lucky for me id already text hubs whos outside in the car ... i would never carry on with a meet if i was not 100% happy ... and i never go to a guys house again after that happened

Wow! Seriously?!

swinging is no different than any other part of life theres a % of assholes and dangerous everywhere .... the scene as a whole is fantastic and i and hubs have been on it 30 years .."

Agreed xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Wouldn’t say a terrible experience but he looked different to on webcam and we already arranged that he would stay the night. I drank a good bit of wine that night so I’d fancy him lol. The sex was too much. I’m all for a good fuck but he almost put me through the wall and knocked all the fairy lights off my bed he was going so hard and fast. Not enjoyable at all. That was a long time ago and my experience has grown and I’m much more confident to say no this isn’t going to happen rather than just have what I call a “sympathy shag” "

Not the fairy lights!! Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've never been dissapointed in a meet. I've always come away with an experience I'll be thankful for. "

It's all lessons and blessings isn't it xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Here’s a nightmare story for you - I met a couple that looked fit and healthy in their photos. They were funny, we got along well through messaging and a phone call. Their verifications were great - so we arranged to meet at mine.

When they turned up they were both significantly skinnier than in their photos. One of them was sweating and shaking.

No sooner had they got in the door then one of them asked if I minded if they injected something into themselves because they were withdrawing. I absolutely sh*t myself inside, but didn’t show - I said I’m not comfortable with that and asked them to leave. But the sweaty one was getting agro saying I was wasting their time and they came all that way etc.

Absolute nightmare situation and I didn’t meet anyone for over 2 years after that. I won’t invite anyone at mine now. Prefer to meet in neutral locations."

Waw! Why would anyone think that was ok? Well done keeping it together xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had a guy turn up, his pictures must have been about 15 Yrs old, I literally opened the door, said " and u can fk right off" and shut the door.

Have asked guys to leave, if they come in with attitude etc, which has happened twice.

It's always a risk meeting with strangers, but I'm thinking I have learnt the hard way and my judgment is much better now lol. "

Hahaha well done

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By *ink and inkedCouple
over a year ago

Essex

We’ve had a few dodgy meets

Bad hygiene tho is something I can’t deal with

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I went to a meet with a guy to a couples house I said they better be clean and house tidy.

Omg the house was full off dust everywhere cats had scratched the furniture, then going upstairs saw dust going up, but wait for it, in the bedroom a long cage with Guinea pigs in stunck to high heaven, then I noticed a pile off clothes at ghe end ogg the room about six foot high, I said what's that lot she said washing I was gob smacked the guy couldn't even put a condom on I said not for me sorry and left nightmare I never saw the guy who took me again as I said how dare you take me there and other choice words xx"

Lol I don't think some dust and guinea pigs would have upset me but if it was really smelly etc then yeah maybe, I've got a 7ft boa constrictor in my bedroom lol xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had a guy turn up, his pictures must have been about 15 Yrs old, I literally opened the door, said " and u can fk right off" and shut the door.

Have asked guys to leave, if they come in with attitude etc, which has happened twice.

It's always a risk meeting with strangers, but I'm thinking I have learnt the hard way and my judgment is much better now lol.

this really pisses me off people turning up looking nothing like there pics or alot older ... but they do it because people go ''oh they are here now'' me im like nope not happening..

met one guy in a pub and he turned up i said no str8 away and he said ok sat down and openly admited that he was 25 years older claims is 49 yet is 74 and lying works for him ...hes on here still our little meet was over 10 years ago and yet hes still only in his 50s ...it easy for them to do because there are lots of silly people who give out veries without ever meeting for real lots of men veri other men with the met at a club or party or another popular is the gang bang all lies of course and ruins it for others who have fallen for it"

Omg , people like this should be boycott then it won't be productive xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We’ve had a few dodgy meets

Bad hygiene tho is something I can’t deal with "

Yeah it seems like a basic standard that we can expect but it isn't always the way Cool hair btw xx

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By *he_Secret_GardenWoman
over a year ago

Naughty Lane


"Who's had a meet and they look absolutely nothing like their pictures or had hygiene issues or anything that instantly put you off? What did you do? "

I had most horrendous coffee meet once...lasted maybe 5 mins max... I just left.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No but then so far in our years on the scene we've yet to arrange a meet with people online. We just do clubs and parties. There your first contact with people is in the flesh so you don't get this problem.

We are looking to meet a couple from here soon for a social when we can find the free time. They have a nice profile, good verifications and sent us a couple of very honest normal photos of them both that we have no reason to doubt. Also conversation has gone well and they likewise dont want to kick the arse out of messaging each other until we've met. Hopefully all bodes well."

Sounds promising

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Had a meet a few weeks back. She turned up absolutely nothing like her pics. Profile said athletic and pics showed a busty gym fit woman but she was nothing like that. Ever the gentleman I swallowed my disappointment and brought drinks whilst engaging in conversation which included her explaining her current body shape was due to a medical condition. So disappointing and a waste of each others time….tho I did continue to enjoy Soho solo

What a gent!

I’m confused!?!

What should I have done rather than treat her decent, make sure she got home ok?

Bawl and scream she’s nothing like her pics?

Fuck her just because I could have?

Some turns up not as they have described yet I’m the wanker in the scenario?"

Its cos you are a bloke... You should have sucked it up amd made her feel like a princess

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By *andkCouple
over a year ago

Wisbech

Went to meet a lady hoping to arrange a fmf but she turned up with a guy that looked like cat weasel and smelt like mould, shame as she was ok

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By *ink and inkedCouple
over a year ago

Essex


"We’ve had a few dodgy meets

Bad hygiene tho is something I can’t deal with

Yeah it seems like a basic standard that we can expect but it isn't always the way Cool hair btw xx"

Met a couple of guys that def hadn’t showered straight before hand

I mean why wouldn’t you ?

And thank you , got to love a bit of pink

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Our first social/meet.. We met with them at a pub enjoyed their company thoroughly.

Arranged a meet at their house with excitement, arrived, spent 3 hours trying to get a word in edgeways as he held court, telling us how much his jaguar, her bmw, daughters gifts etc, etc. Had cost.

Whilst remaining polite, I (Mrs) got bored and said "so would you like to take this to your room?"

After an unsatisfying and almost transactional play we left, both feeling a little used and uncomfortable..

We met another couple who were relatively new at Chic, who'd met them after us and recounted an almost identical experience..

Goes to show even a social first can be misleading.. "

No way, I hate people like that xx

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"Who's had a meet and they look absolutely nothing like their pictures or had hygiene issues or anything that instantly put you off? What did you do? "

I expected Fred but Got Josef I was really disappointed

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

I like to warn people in advance that I'll be the worst shag they've ever had. They laugh it off as a joke but if it really is bad then I'm covered, and anything above abysmal is a bonus

#ModernSolutions

LvM

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nothing too extreme.

One guy used that many filters he looked nothing like his pictures in real life. Then got offended why I mentioned the filters.

Another turned up, done his thing for less than 5 minutes, flopped om top of me all sweaty then spend the next 10 mins asking me how I enjoyed it, what was my favourite part.

Another obviously hadn't showered since the morning and was confused when I mentioned showering together.

"

I love that you at least tried to wash him

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Who's had a meet and they look absolutely nothing like their pictures or had hygiene issues or anything that instantly put you off? What did you do?

I expected Fred but Got Josef I was really disappointed "

That were right over my head

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By *utterfly WingsWoman
over a year ago

North West

When I was meeting as one half of a couples profile, we met a couple and hit it off straight away. Went to a club and had an amazing night, he was a gent as well as an animal ! Arranged a second meet a few weeks later and he was nothing like he was the first time, no gent, purely animal and left me feeling like a piece of meat ! Needless to say, we didn't meet again !!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I like to warn people in advance that I'll be the worst shag they've ever had. They laugh it off as a joke but if it really is bad then I'm covered, and anything above abysmal is a bonus

#ModernSolutions

LvM"

Hahaha brilliant

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By *olidOak85Couple
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"I like to warn people in advance that I'll be the worst shag they've ever had. They laugh it off as a joke but if it really is bad then I'm covered, and anything above abysmal is a bonus

#ModernSolutions

LvM"

love this!

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"Went to meet a lady hoping to arrange a fmf but she turned up with a guy that looked like cat weasel and smelt like mould, shame as she was ok"

Still at least kept the crows off the vegetable patch

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By *reampie_yourwifeMan
over a year ago

barnsley

I met a couple for a social , they turned up dressed lovely, wife look amazing .. however all downhill from that point on, the hubby… he was an amazing guy , got on really well, like we had been best mates for life.. his wife however, suffice to say, her best form of contraception was her personality… really didn’t like her.. suffice to say there was no second meet

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