FabSwingers.com forum: if you had regular but they messed around ...

By *oxy j OP Woman
over a year ago

somerset

ok the question is not based on anyone it was just a convo with swinging friends..

so your a couple you find a guy who is looking for the same regular but no way exclusive ...you have a few meets all good all hot n horny then the guy starts to mess around but you know hes meeting and its on the day you pre agreed but he keeps telling you hes not lost interest and sometime after his meet sign has been up for a while he comes back and says nothing else going so im free to meet ....but you dont as you then feel youve been kept as a reserve... or second choice

everything goes quite the profile disappears .... and a year later they are back wanting regular again and are now begging because they cant get meets ... so what would you do this can be anyway around woman couples man ... would you think nah youve had your chance and blew it or would you think ok lets try again ?

this was a topic as a few people i know have been saying that some want regular so that they have someone on the back burner at all times so that if nothing is happening they can fall back on.... my answer was no chance would i start something again after being used first time around ...

but i also said i dont see this but they say its rife and getting worse ... so is it ?? what would you do ???

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham

"ok the question is not based on anyone it was just a convo with swinging friends..

but i also said i dont see this but they say its rife and getting worse ... so is it ?? what would you do ???"

If someone is looking for a meet on a day we have plans, I’m cancelling those plans. That’s just rude, and I don’t fuck rude.

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

I think if it's an important boundary / deal-breaker for them, as in; happy to have a regular guy for meets but only on the condition that whatever pre-arranged plans / dates are kept to and no other meets are 'doubled up' on that day / time, so to speak, then that should be discussed and agreed upon up front. Futhermore to that, if this particular guy doesn't seem interested in staying within such a boundary, then don't go ahead with him and find a more suitable regular.

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By *ftereightMan
over a year ago

SouthEast

Depends what is pre-agreed and the depth of the relationship. Dishonesty is a big turn off for us, our time to valuable to be dicked around by people. Luckily we have a great mix of fwb that are solid and reliable and wouldn't dream of that x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

That's a very specific, hypothetical situation.

I wouldn't want to pick up where we left off so to speak but some might be ok with it. It is nsa after all

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By *oxy j OP Woman
over a year ago

somerset

yep not exclusive just regular on pre arranged dates ...

so to be ive never had this problem with my regulars and one of them has been for 30 years and relationship wise it just friendship with sex and no emotional or drama bullshit ... ive never had these probs im alway very upfront and to the point so theres no doubt from the begining ..

how my swinging friends do it may be different

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