FabSwingers.com forum: Unanswered message

By *ntrigued888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Beds

Why can't some people get the hint.

I thought after 3 unanswered read messages you get an alert, to kind of give up.

Not sure if it's a wind up ,but come on ....

And I know that's what the block button can be used for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people think you will eventually answer just block if your interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not*

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

After sending the first message, sending another do get notified if not replied but choose to ignore this. (Why)

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

"Why can't some people get the hint.

I thought after 3 unanswered read messages you get an alert, to kind of give up.

Not sure if it's a wind up ,but come on ....

And I know that's what the block button can be used for "

Because of the insane m to f ratio many men well only message when your phone to give a greater opportunity for the bedside to get trhoigh. If the message does not get through then it might sage to assume that maybe it has been lost in her/their inbox.

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By *airyjMan
over a year ago

dumfries and 24 in France

I don't see why people can't just say "No thanks" or "Not interested". It doesn't cost anything to be polite and firm rather than just leave them hanging on in hope.

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By *awg-mo-thoinWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

"I don't see why people can't just say "No thanks" or "Not interested". It doesn't cost anything to be polite and firm rather than just leave them hanging on in hope. "

There have been a thousand threads on this. A polite no thanks is mostly met with debate or abuse. It says it on the FAQs, no reply is a reply. If you’re “hanging on in hope” for a reply from a stranger you’re probably placing way too much emphasis on this website.

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By *awg-mo-thoinWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

"Why can't some people get the hint.

I thought after 3 unanswered read messages you get an alert, to kind of give up.

Not sure if it's a wind up ,but come on ....

And I know that's what the block button can be used for "

I find it’s mostly the “how’s you” crew as well. Really odd to open a message that says “how are you” and see 2-3 over the last week saying the exact same thing that I also ignored. If you’re going to bump your own message out of the belief it’s more important than others’, maybe come up with something imaginative to say.

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By *imisugarWoman
over a year ago

Rugby

I had an answer for this the other day. "I thought you didn't see it" no I saw it. I chose not to respond

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By *rnypairCouple
over a year ago

south Yorkshire

"I don't see why people can't just say "No thanks" or "Not interested". It doesn't cost anything to be polite and firm rather than just leave them hanging on in hope. "

Because the time it takes to say no thanks to lots of messages it is not possible if you have a job and a life. We can get over 200 messages in a day if we upload pics or vids or if we put a meet up, most messages we don’t even read we will look at the profile and if they are not what we are looking for they get deleted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't some people get the hint.

I thought after 3 unanswered read messages you get an alert, to kind of give up.

Not sure if it's a wind up ,but come on ....

And I know that's what the block button can be used for "

Tbh some men send so many messages they 1 can't remember who they have messaged and 2 you can't see the message thread sometimes until you click on the Sent message

Best to just block if they're sending lots and you're not interested x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't see why people can't just say "No thanks" or "Not interested". It doesn't cost anything to be polite and firm rather than just leave them hanging on in hope. "

It's nothing to do with being polite

No one on here owes anyone a response

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest

"Why can't some people get the hint.

I thought after 3 unanswered read messages you get an alert, to kind of give up.

Not sure if it's a wind up ,but come on ....

And I know that's what the block button can be used for "

You could always just block and delete, no drama then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Replying no thanks or what ever also throws your filters so say you then block men or couples etc that profile can still contact you. You’d end up having to reply and then block every single time.

More people should read and comprehend the FAQ’s.

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By *hilledGuyClactonMan
over a year ago

Little clacton

I usually just read but forget to delete

But generally only ignore the messages that get sent after midnight,asking to meet now.

Only really chat to friends now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't see why people can't just say "No thanks" or "Not interested". It doesn't cost anything to be polite and firm rather than just leave them hanging on in hope. "

Honestly I dont see why it's my responsibility to manage someones 'hope'. I have messaged and got no reply and you know what I thought? They aren't interested. It's no a big leap to make.

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"Why can't some people get the hint.

I thought after 3 unanswered read messages you get an alert, to kind of give up.

Not sure if it's a wind up ,but come on ....

And I know that's what the block button can be used for "

Frankly, some assume this a sex site and by virtue of being here you're utterly up for any who express an interest..

Erm.. No! Attraction and connection!! We love to fuck but we have to want to!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mostly stop after the 6th message. I have standards.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

We have some that send the same message week after week, some so much after saying no thanks I screenshot the no thanks from months back and keep replying with the same bo thanks.

Mrs

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By *iss_FickleWoman
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

"Why can't some people get the hint.

I thought after 3 unanswered read messages you get an alert, to kind of give up.

Not sure if it's a wind up ,but come on ....

And I know that's what the block button can be used for "

OP you need to up your game to "unread/deleted" some still won't get the message, but a few might realise you're not interested...

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By *ot_so_newbiesCouple
over a year ago

Lancs

"Why can't some people get the hint.

I thought after 3 unanswered read messages you get an alert, to kind of give up.

Not sure if it's a wind up ,but come on ....

And I know that's what the block button can be used for

Fully agree with this. Far too many one line messages getting constantly sent. These are normally the same guys who post in the forum, asking why they can't get meets.

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By *illynillyCouple
over a year ago

Wiltshire

We get one that adds loads of photos, always says his pictures will disappear as he's been cat fished in the past...the pictures always stay and always ignored and probably had 20 messages over the years...actually I think once I did say no thank you and FYI we can still see the pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't some people get the hint.

I thought after 3 unanswered read messages you get an alert, to kind of give up.

Not sure if it's a wind up ,but come on ....

And I know that's what the block button can be used for "

I thought it was 1 unanswered message...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If everyone used this site the same way, it would be easy to understand.

We don't and so there's much confusion.

I think sometimes they don't realise they've messaged previously, and at other times wonder if their message got lost in a sea of others, and so try again.

It can be avoided, if we block, or respond to express no interest, and they may block instead.

Unfortunately, OP, it's a confusing site and often very very vague, leaving people to guess.

We reap the seeds we sow.

Use the site to serve you how it suits, though don't expect others to guess.

That's my suggestion to all.

This isn't a criticism but an observation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't see why people can't just say "No thanks" or "Not interested". It doesn't cost anything to be polite and firm rather than just leave them hanging on in hope. "

There are several reasons, abusive replies (never know which one it might be), some people adapt their filters on occasion, the filter doesn't work for those we've replied to and so they choose to ignore.

There are other reasons, but yes I agree, we have the tools to work for us and so a simple response can be useful, or at least delete and block of a definite no and wanting to avoid contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't some people get the hint.

I thought after 3 unanswered read messages you get an alert, to kind of give up.

Not sure if it's a wind up ,but come on ....

And I know that's what the block button can be used for "

You can always block

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By *awg-mo-thoinWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

"Why can't some people get the hint.

I thought after 3 unanswered read messages you get an alert, to kind of give up.

Not sure if it's a wind up ,but come on ....

And I know that's what the block button can be used for

Fully agree with this. Far too many one line messages getting constantly sent. These are normally the same guys who post in the forum, asking why they can't get meets. "

It’s ridiculous! And they’re the ones who will bang on about the high volume of men vs women and blame that for their lack of success. I’ve challenged men who’ve sent me a “hi” over and over and that’s the response I always get, “oh I thought I was probably getting buried so I wanted to boost my message so you’d see it.”

You think you were important enough to try to bump your message above any others (some of whom actually put in effort) and that’s all you could be arsed coming up with? Lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will never be so desperate to multiple message. I rarely even message anyone.

If I ever do, I send a message, then delete it from my sent message, and I'll be none the wiser if they ever read it or not.

Happy days for all involved.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

i dont get why people think blocking is rude ..its not its just a tool in the tool box .... if that was me id block on the first message because im not interested why wait for 2 or 3 .... block is a tool that can be used for great affect ... dont know why some think its rude swinging is a selection process so why no eliminate those your never going to meet ..

i dont hardly get any crap in my inbox anymore why because of years of blocking when i shutdown my old account i trans fered all the blocks to thoiis account one by one yep too a few days between me n hubs but absolutely worth it ...

i pre block too i have a quick look at home page or whos looked and pre block block is not just for those who abuse its no different than being told not interested it saves lots of time both ways... i refuse to block all guys at the filter stage id much rather do it per profile ... and if being blocked upsets anyone then they really are not cut out for this scene ... i think its rude not to be upfront and honest rather than just keep people dangling there just block be done with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't see why people can't just say "No thanks" or "Not interested". It doesn't cost anything to be polite and firm rather than just leave them hanging on in hope. "

This is so correct

Also I messed a girl a few times once a week and when she replied I asked did you see my previous message

No she said sometimes I just delete as she got so many so if you get on answering you might send again just to check but as above if you got a no thanks no point sending another message

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By *he Silver FuxMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

Doesn’t it go… ‘no, no, no, no, yes’?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't see why people can't just say "No thanks" or "Not interested". It doesn't cost anything to be polite and firm rather than just leave them hanging on in hope.

This is so correct

Also I messed a girl a few times once a week and when she replied I asked did you see my previous message

No she said sometimes I just delete as she got so many so if you get on answering you might send again just to check but as above if you got a no thanks no point sending another message "

But this isn't always the case, more often than not "no thank you" is followed up with "why not?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't some people get the hint.

I thought after 3 unanswered read messages you get an alert, to kind of give up.

Not sure if it's a wind up ,but come on ....

And I know that's what the block button can be used for "

"Silence " is exactly what it is.

Some need to learn dont look back,keep heading ahead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't see why people can't just say "No thanks" or "Not interested". It doesn't cost anything to be polite and firm rather than just leave them hanging on in hope. "

What hope! We all find and make the time when we want to its a fact.

When they are not of value to them,the priority levels are far,far low.

On london tubes ive struck up some really class conversations. I leave them my number if they call they call. If nothing.

Heg ho my life is still carrying on as i write this.

Know of your ver own worth.

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By *iss_FickleWoman
over a year ago

Cambridgeshire

"I don't see why people can't just say "No thanks" or "Not interested". It doesn't cost anything to be polite and firm rather than just leave them hanging on in hope.

This is so correct

Also I messed a girl a few times once a week and when she replied I asked did you see my previous message

No she said sometimes I just delete as she got so many so if you get on answering you might send again just to check but as above if you got a no thanks no point sending another message

But this isn't always the case, more often than not "no thank you" is followed up with "why not?" "

Followed by abuse or a "How's you?" message 2hours/days/weeks/months later

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

"I don't see why people can't just say "No thanks" or "Not interested". It doesn't cost anything to be polite and firm rather than just leave them hanging on in hope. "

It is generally accepted that you don't have to say "no" or "no thanks" to the reams of unsolicited mail in your letter box, or email inbox. Fab isn't, and shouldn't be any different. Besides which, if you do say "no thanks" you're often inundated with "why not", and then abuse.

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

Mansfield

Never reply to single men. Just delete straight away as it clearly states on profile not for us.

If they can't be arsed to read, why should we

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

"Never reply to single men. Just delete straight away as it clearly states on profile not for us.

If they can't be arsed to read, why should we

That's understandable Justus.

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

"Why can't some people get the hint.

I thought after 3 unanswered read messages you get an alert, to kind of give up.

Not sure if it's a wind up ,but come on ....

And I know that's what the block button can be used for

Fully agree with this. Far too many one line messages getting constantly sent. These are normally the same guys who post in the forum, asking why they can't get meets.

You think you were important enough to try to bump your message above any others (some of whom actually put in effort) and that’s all you could be arsed coming up with? Lol."

What is your opinions on people generally wanting to have a chat? Not wanting to meet you?

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By *penbicoupleCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

"I don't see why people can't just say "No thanks" or "Not interested". It doesn't cost anything to be polite and firm rather than just leave them hanging on in hope. "

I don't see why they should have to. The site rules are very clear that no response is a No.

Also, do you really think that those of us who 'leave them hanging on' haven't tried the polite nos? After a while you learn it's not just worth the time, energy and hassle.

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By *ork6677Couple
over a year ago

York

I find most single males don't bother reading profiles before messaging either then keep messaging asking why you haven't responded. My hubby is more polite and replies but some then try talk you round so don't get the polite no thanks is a no and still message.

The guys just messaging "hi" or "hi are u ok" frustrate me. We had someone send us 8 or 9 of these with no response, he then resent a face pic he had already sent us numerous times along with a cock pic so we blocked him. We had been talking to him at one point and he prides himself on being "non-pushy"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find most single males don't bother reading profiles before messaging either then keep messaging asking why you haven't responded. My hubby is more polite and replies but some then try talk you round so don't get the polite no thanks is a no and still message.

Some of us do read profile and make a message appropriate. But you then have to acknowledge that you may not be for them and wish them a fab time.

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By *awg-mo-thoinWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

"Fully agree with this. Far too many one line messages getting constantly sent. These are normally the same guys who post in the forum, asking why they can't get meets.

You think you were important enough to try to bump your message above any others (some of whom actually put in effort) and that’s all you could be arsed coming up with? Lol.

What is your opinions on people generally wanting to have a chat? Not wanting to meet you?"

Do you mean specifically in the context of them bumping up their message? It doesn’t say anywhere on my profile that I’m not here to chat (I’m not) so I couldn’t blame anyone for that. No issues with people who are here not looking to meet and if someone within the preferences stated on my profile sent me a decent message with a bit of effort asking for a chat, I’d probably just politely explain and thank them for the message.

But if they sent me:

“Hi”

“Hi how’s you”

“Can I ask you a question”

“I know I’m outside of your age range but…”

“I can’t accom but…”

“Don’t know what to write in these messages but I’m interested”

I’d delete, as I do. Particularly if they’ve bumped it.

Really any kind of repeat message is a clit-duller tbh.

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By *r. E!Man
over a year ago

Grantham

I tend to go off if it’s been read and got no reply their not interested, if it’s unread I’ll leave it a week and try again if that still gets no response I cut my loses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Replying no thanks or what ever also throws your filters so say you then block men or couples etc that profile can still contact you. You’d end up having to reply and then block every single time.

More people should read and comprehend the FAQ’s. "

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By *evonrobMan
over a year ago

Kingsbridge

"I don't see why people can't just say "No thanks" or "Not interested". It doesn't cost anything to be polite and firm rather than just leave them hanging on in hope.

Honestly I dont see why it's my responsibility to manage someones 'hope'. I have messaged and got no reply and you know what I thought? They aren't interested. It's no a big leap to make."

That is a great comment!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have some that send the same message week after week, some so much after saying no thanks I screenshot the no thanks from months back and keep replying with the same bo thanks.

Mrs

Brilliant! Do you screenshot it so that their multiple

Messages are in there too?

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By *ondoner27Man
over a year ago

london

"I don't see why people can't just say "No thanks" or "Not interested". It doesn't cost anything to be polite and firm rather than just leave them hanging on in hope. "

Imagine an attractive couple spending hours replying “not interested” to the hundreds of messages they get each week, when would they find the time to message those they are interested in?

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By *illynillyCouple
over a year ago

Wiltshire

"I don't see why people can't just say "No thanks" or "Not interested". It doesn't cost anything to be polite and firm rather than just leave them hanging on in hope.

Imagine an attractive couple spending hours replying “not interested” to the hundreds of messages they get each week, when would they find the time to message those they are interested in?"

I, Nilly used to reply to most of them with a polite no thanks...this often ended up as a conversation, them asking to be friends etc and eventually they ll bloke us....so simply reading and deleting the message makes it clear to all that we're not interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More debateing,than real actions and play for many!'

Time is ticking and being lost.

Its a very simple method,1,2,3. Yet complicated by many and all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually it goes like this...

Polite no thanks

"Why?"

Polite no thanks 'insert reason here'

"I only put that on my profile because.. "

....

We used to always reply but got sick of the attempt of people trying to 'convince us'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm happy with a "no thanks" and will probably just thank you for your reply but you won't hear from me again.

If you're not going to open my message just delete it, I've no problems with that either! I've made all the single guy errors on here but it's been a learning curve and I'm very happy on here now. Had some amazing fantasies fulfilled by some beautiful people!

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By *ingleman2020Man
over a year ago

This is my interpretation.

Read and deleted = not interested

Read and not replied = not interested.

Unread = 80 percent not interested or busy/inbox is huge!

Read then unread = 80 percent not interested or 20 percent they are busy!

My own preference in handling rejecting is if they just delete the message, it’s super clear.. but ultimately you just got to deal with whatever the other people feel comfortable doing, they don’t owe me anything!

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By *illynillyCouple
over a year ago

Wiltshire

"Usually it goes like this...

Polite no thanks

"Why?"

Polite no thanks 'insert reason here'

"I only put that on my profile because.. "

....

We used to always reply but got sick of the attempt of people trying to 'convince us' "

God yes that....always the height...I know I m shorter but we're all the same laid down....erm yeah no we're not...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is my interpretation.

Read and deleted = not interested

Read and not replied = not interested.

Unread = 80 percent not interested or busy/inbox is huge!

Read then unread = 80 percent not interested or 20 percent they are busy!

Read then unread with couples = one has seen the message and wants to concur with partner. That's what we do anyhow

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By *hawn ScottMan
over a year ago

london Brixton

I get fed up of men messaging me asked if I'm interested. I have politely told them I'm not gay but some persist in trying to get me to try. I just delete them now

I'm 47 and been to lots of parties and clubs. If I was curious I'd have had plenty of opportunities but sorry I think I know myself by now

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By *enSiskoMan
over a year ago

Cestus 3

I think you men who write to others on here, (me not included) should not bother. to write at all if the chances of receiving a reply are so low.

Imagine everyday you see to many messages and then deciding what to read or delete, and knowing by having so many messages makes one seem popular, you write you have had to bulk delete x amount of messages.

Now flip it, men get tired of the process so stop writing messages as they finally get it and look elsewhere.

Yeh never happen.

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By *ingleman2020Man
over a year ago

"This is my interpretation.

Read and deleted = not interested

Read and not replied = not interested.

Unread = 80 percent not interested or busy/inbox is huge!

Read then unread = 80 percent not interested or 20 percent they are busy!

Read then unread with couples = one has seen the message and wants to concur with partner. That's what we do anyhow "

Good point! I hadn’t thought about that!

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"Why can't some people get the hint.

I thought after 3 unanswered read messages you get an alert, to kind of give up.

Not sure if it's a wind up ,but come on ....

And I know that's what the block button can be used for

Best one we got recently was an obvious cut and paste job, they even used another womans name in it which we received 3 times in one day!!! lol

more block list material!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't see why people can't just say "No thanks" or "Not interested". It doesn't cost anything to be polite and firm rather than just leave them hanging on in hope. "

If they dont get a reply why are they hanging in hope? Do you reply to all the unsolicited mail you get through ur front foor?

I used to reply no thanks then ad get another message asking why? Or giving me abuse so now dont usually bother

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't some people get the hint.

I thought after 3 unanswered read messages you get an alert, to kind of give up.

Not sure if it's a wind up ,but come on ....

And I know that's what the block button can be used for

Best one we got recently was an obvious cut and paste job, they even used another womans name in it which we received 3 times in one day!!! lol

more block list material!"

A had one the other day that hed obviously sent to couples it said how are you both doing, makes me think they just message anyone in the hope for a reply not even looking at the profile, desperation comes to mind

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"I don't see why people can't just say "No thanks" or "Not interested". It doesn't cost anything to be polite and firm rather than just leave them hanging on in hope.

If they dont get a reply why are they hanging in hope? Do you reply to all the unsolicited mail you get through ur front foor?

I used to reply no thanks then ad get another message asking why? Or giving me abuse so now dont usually bother"

Simple solution block after opening message saves the hassle

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By *cott73Man
over a year ago

brighton

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't see why people can't just say "No thanks" or "Not interested". It doesn't cost anything to be polite and firm rather than just leave them hanging on in hope.

If they dont get a reply why are they hanging in hope? Do you reply to all the unsolicited mail you get through ur front foor?

I used to reply no thanks then ad get another message asking why? Or giving me abuse so now dont usually bother

Simple solution block after opening message saves the hassle

Shouldnt really need to block the person should be courteous enough to take no for an answer

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By *ork6677Couple
over a year ago

York

Some of us do read profile and make a message appropriate. But you then have to acknowledge that you may not be for them and wish them a fab time."

That’s why I said most and not all. If we get a message that you can tell thought has been put into it then we generally respond either way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't some people get the hint.

I thought after 3 unanswered read messages you get an alert, to kind of give up.

Not sure if it's a wind up ,but come on ....

And I know that's what the block button can be used for

Best one we got recently was an obvious cut and paste job, they even used another womans name in it which we received 3 times in one day!!! lol

more block list material!

Not always copy pastes, we messaged a few couples then 1 single fem... My fingers went on autotype and wrote "both" on the message for the single....

Mistakes do happen

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

I understand why some woman ignore messages from men when they not interested because I do the same thing too with woman I'm not interested in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think it’s a big deal if someone doesn’t reply.

But for the women it’s understandable as there are a lot of men on here that don’t know how to carry themselves.

And some women too

If you message someone and they have read your message and not replied that should be the sign you need to leave it there.

Ladies on behalf of the idiotic men i apologise some of them have no respect ???

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

"Why can't some people get the hint.

I thought after 3 unanswered read messages you get an alert, to kind of give up.

Not sure if it's a wind up ,but come on ....

And I know that's what the block button can be used for

Best one we got recently was an obvious cut and paste job, they even used another womans name in it which we received 3 times in one day!!! lol

more block list material!

Not always copy pastes, we messaged a few couples then 1 single fem... My fingers went on autotype and wrote "both" on the message for the single....

Mistakes do happen "

Get that but in our case the same message was sent 3 times despite each time it being deleted! lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't see why people can't just say "No thanks" or "Not interested". It doesn't cost anything to be polite and firm rather than just leave them hanging on in hope. "

Exactly, I have replied to everyone even if it's to say sorry we're not looking for....

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Replying with a polite no thanks means the sender gets around future filters so if you're not interested at the moment then deleting is the better option.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't some people get the hint.

I thought after 3 unanswered read messages you get an alert, to kind of give up.

Not sure if it's a wind up ,but come on ....

And I know that's what the block button can be used for

Best one we got recently was an obvious cut and paste job, they even used another womans name in it which we received 3 times in one day!!! lol

more block list material!

Not always copy pastes, we messaged a few couples then 1 single fem... My fingers went on autotype and wrote "both" on the message for the single....

Mistakes do happen

Get that but in our case the same message was sent 3 times despite each time it being deleted! lol

Wellll..... we know that 1 too lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't see why people can't just say "No thanks" or "Not interested". It doesn't cost anything to be polite and firm rather than just leave them hanging on in hope.

Exactly, I have replied to everyone even if it's to say sorry we're not looking for...."

Must have plenty of time on your hands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't see why people can't just say "No thanks" or "Not interested". It doesn't cost anything to be polite and firm rather than just leave them hanging on in hope.

Exactly, I have replied to everyone even if it's to say sorry we're not looking for...."

We will reply to people generally who meet our listed preferences... but we don't owe anything to anyone who doesn't either read our profile or just ignores said preferences.

In a perfect world we would love to politely reply to everyone however it's not a perfect world and fab is on a completely different level.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I don't see why people can't just say "No thanks" or "Not interested". It doesn't cost anything to be polite and firm rather than just leave them hanging on in hope.

Exactly, I have replied to everyone even if it's to say sorry we're not looking for....

Must have plenty of time on your hands"

It's a bit easier for us guys to reply to our messages.

I'm lucky if I get 20 messages a day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't see why people can't just say "No thanks" or "Not interested". It doesn't cost anything to be polite and firm rather than just leave them hanging on in hope.

Exactly, I have replied to everyone even if it's to say sorry we're not looking for....

Must have plenty of time on your hands

It's a bit easier for us guys to reply to our messages.

I'm lucky if I get 20 messages a day.

Jezzz that’s a lot we sometimes don’t get that in a week

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By *amesBeelzebubMan
over a year ago

norwich

It's not practical or compulsory to reply to every message and to be honest even a polite no thankyou probably still ends up with them continuing to message.

I do wonder if the men that moan about women sending no replies, send a polite no thankyou if a gay/bi guy messages them.

I'm guilty of sending multiple messages in the past so I can't be a hypocrite though. It can be annoying to feel ignored but that's a me problem.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I don't see why people can't just say "No thanks" or "Not interested". It doesn't cost anything to be polite and firm rather than just leave them hanging on in hope.

Exactly, I have replied to everyone even if it's to say sorry we're not looking for....

Must have plenty of time on your hands

It's a bit easier for us guys to reply to our messages.

I'm lucky if I get 20 messages a day.

Jezzz that’s a lot we sometimes don’t get that in a week

I spend quite a bit of time chatting in the forums.

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By *arleycplCouple
over a year ago

Leyburn

"Why can't some people get the hint.

I thought after 3 unanswered read messages you get an alert, to kind of give up.

Not sure if it's a wind up ,but come on ....

And I know that's what the block button can be used for "

We just block if not interested saves time

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

I have noticed since I been verified that I get more messages's from women then before I was verified when I was hardly getting any

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"We have some that send the same message week after week, some so much after saying no thanks I screenshot the no thanks from months back and keep replying with the same bo thanks.

Mrs

That's brilliant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get it .. on the 1st unread lol … efforts are better served elsewhere

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"I don't see why people can't just say "No thanks" or "Not interested". It doesn't cost anything to be polite and firm rather than just leave them hanging on in hope.

If they dont get a reply why are they hanging in hope? Do you reply to all the unsolicited mail you get through ur front foor?

I used to reply no thanks then ad get another message asking why? Or giving me abuse so now dont usually bother

Simple solution block after opening message saves the hassle

Shouldnt really need to block the person should be courteous enough to take no for an answer"

True, but does give an answer as well. And saves time and effort especially when a user has loads of messages already

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

I think it's pretty similar to face to face if I'm honest....I wouldn't shout "I'M NOT INTERESTED, THANKS" straight off the bat at someone making advances, but I'd expect them to have enough awareness to know their efforts aren't reciprocated, and stop.

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By *EfellaMan
over a year ago

long eaton

"I don't see why people can't just say "No thanks" or "Not interested". It doesn't cost anything to be polite and firm rather than just leave them hanging on in hope. "

It never ends there though.

95% of those simple replies will begin an unwanted exchange of texts..

Usually its the beginning of a means to persuade a change of mind.

So you end up using more time to re iterate the words 'no thanks' until they get the message.

This will almost always take a number of attempts to put to bed, sometimes ending up with personal abuse.

Imagine an attractive couple dealing with that process 100 times a day?

Sounds like a time consuming pain in the bum.

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

"This is my interpretation.

Read and deleted = not interested

Read and not replied = not interested.

Unread = 80 percent not interested or busy/inbox is huge!

Read then unread = 80 percent not interested or 20 percent they are busy!

Read then unread with couples = one has seen the message and wants to concur with partner. That's what we do anyhow

Good point! I hadn’t thought about that! "

I have always read with the interpretation that

Read & deleted = either: read and not interested (meet or having a convo) or bulk deleted. Try 1 more time if you looking for future meet, when online next if the same again then use fab notes function so as you don't accidently message then again.

Read & not replied =not interested. If messaging for a future meet then

Write a note so as not to accidently message them again.

Unread = if looking for a future meet then message again when they are online next. As chances are they have not seen it yet.

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