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"Never, we send faces quite quickly, no point chatting if there's no attraction, time is precious. We've had 1 polite not for us but never been ghosted. Mrs " Well we hope it remains like that for you as it’s not a pleasant experience | |||
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"How many times do you send a face pic only to be ghosted ? We get we aren’t everyone’s cup of tea as who is, but a polite thanks no thanks wouldn’t go a miss especially if there’s been a Lengthy convo prior. Far too many disrespectful people on here ! " The norm on all app's There is a mindset behind it all. My take i aint getting paid in time value to say what that is. As time goes forwards itl get far worse as many disconnect because of whats happening to them,they then will take on some traits. Really people want timesless fun in whatever form yet it is elusive!! | |||
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"How many times do you send a face pic only to be ghosted ? We get we aren’t everyone’s cup of tea as who is, but a polite thanks no thanks wouldn’t go a miss especially if there’s been a Lengthy convo prior. Far too many disrespectful people on here ! " It's awkward saying no thank you to a face picture. It's even worse when you express yourself and get abuse back or multiple questions why, then the dreaded "I look better in person" For every polite response I've received for a no thank you, I could show you 50 that's been really annoyed at me for not liking their picture. | |||
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"How many times do you send a face pic only to be ghosted ? We get we aren’t everyone’s cup of tea as who is, but a polite thanks no thanks wouldn’t go a miss especially if there’s been a Lengthy convo prior. Far too many disrespectful people on here ! " We always reply where we can. I think it's just manners. It's a mesaage I dread having to send but sometimes it is what it is. But a polite I don't think we are going to work was always do x | |||
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"How many times do you send a face pic only to be ghosted ? We get we aren’t everyone’s cup of tea as who is, but a polite thanks no thanks wouldn’t go a miss especially if there’s been a Lengthy convo prior. Far too many disrespectful people on here ! It's awkward saying no thank you to a face picture. It's even worse when you express yourself and get abuse back or multiple questions why, then the dreaded "I look better in person" For every polite response I've received for a no thank you, I could show you 50 that's been really annoyed at me for not liking their picture. " Same for me too. For the few that would accept a 'thanks but no thanks' many more would get abusive so for my sake it's easier to ghost. | |||
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"How many times do you send a face pic only to be ghosted ? We get we aren’t everyone’s cup of tea as who is, but a polite thanks no thanks wouldn’t go a miss especially if there’s been a Lengthy convo prior. Far too many disrespectful people on here ! " omg how the hell can you get ghosted you look unreal! Who is it mainly doing the ghosting men, women or couples? | |||
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"How many times do you send a face pic only to be ghosted ? We get we aren’t everyone’s cup of tea as who is, but a polite thanks no thanks wouldn’t go a miss especially if there’s been a Lengthy convo prior. Far too many disrespectful people on here ! " Who, in their right mind, would ghost a gorgeous bum like that???  
But you are sadly right, the anonymity of the internet means people do not treat others as human beings. It is all too easy to cast them off like a used tissue. | |||
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"How many times do you send a face pic only to be ghosted ? We get we aren’t everyone’s cup of tea as who is, but a polite thanks no thanks wouldn’t go a miss especially if there’s been a Lengthy convo prior. Far too many disrespectful people on here ! " i totally agree OP, but fab etiquette is definitely a strange one. I mean i've noticed other things that tend to occur too that's odd to me, but i guess everyone interacts with each other with where they are at within themselves at this moment in time. so just have to take each moment with a pinch of salt i suppose. | |||
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"How many times do you send a face pic only to be ghosted ? We get we aren’t everyone’s cup of tea as who is, but a polite thanks no thanks wouldn’t go a miss especially if there’s been a Lengthy convo prior. Far too many disrespectful people on here ! It's awkward saying no thank you to a face picture. It's even worse when you express yourself and get abuse back or multiple questions why, then the dreaded "I look better in person" For every polite response I've received for a no thank you, I could show you 50 that's been really annoyed at me for not liking their picture. " I can’t speak for everyone and I wouldn’t dream of doing such, but for us we would sooner someone just said that, thanks but no thanks kind of thing, it’s just respectful really. | |||
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"How many times do you send a face pic only to be ghosted ? We get we aren’t everyone’s cup of tea as who is, but a polite thanks no thanks wouldn’t go a miss especially if there’s been a Lengthy convo prior. Far too many disrespectful people on here ! We always reply where we can. I think it's just manners. It's a mesaage I dread having to send but sometimes it is what it is. But a polite I don't think we are going to work was always do x" 100% agree  | |||
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"I always share a face pic and would like one in return. If I’m not attracted to them then I’ll explain that and I’d expect the same in return rather than being ghosted. The problem is, so many people seem to struggle with being told ‘sorry, you look lovely but you’re not what I’m looking for’ and the conversation can sometimes take a turn at that point and that’s when I just choose to ignore them. " Exactly and I think your more than entitled to ignore anyone that’s being rude or abusive as we would also. | |||
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"How many times do you send a face pic only to be ghosted ? We get we aren’t everyone’s cup of tea as who is, but a polite thanks no thanks wouldn’t go a miss especially if there’s been a Lengthy convo prior. Far too many disrespectful people on here ! It's awkward saying no thank you to a face picture. It's even worse when you express yourself and get abuse back or multiple questions why, then the dreaded "I look better in person" For every polite response I've received for a no thank you, I could show you 50 that's been really annoyed at me for not liking their picture. Same for me too. For the few that would accept a 'thanks but no thanks' many more would get abusive so for my sake it's easier to ghost. " I think for us we would sooner be respectful and say thanks no thanks then if someone is rude or abusive ignore and block as that’s totally justified especially if you’ve been nothing but respectful | |||
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"I usually just put a polite, not for me, sorry." Fair play that’s our approach also | |||
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"How many times do you send a face pic only to be ghosted ? We get we aren’t everyone’s cup of tea as who is, but a polite thanks no thanks wouldn’t go a miss especially if there’s been a Lengthy convo prior. Far too many disrespectful people on here ! omg how the hell can you get ghosted you look unreal! Who is it mainly doing the ghosting men, women or couples?" Not so much single gents as we don’t really meet them, couples and single females do frequently however | |||
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"I will always reply,if its a yes or a no,its just comman courtesy,I'm also an advocate of mental health,be nice,be kind,even if it's not your cup of tea" Here here couldn’t agree more | |||
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"Like someone else on this post we don’t share face pics as they were copied and shared without our permission. If you search previous threads you’ll see this is not unheard of. So we prefer to meet in person for a one hour drink. Some people spend more time aimlessly messaging on here. We got a message from a couple last night to chat. We replied would love to but should mention up front about about our face pic situation and what did they think. Message read, no reply. For us just rude. A simple ‘Not for us’ takes two seconds to send. It does say a lot about people’s character though. We always say treat others as you’d want to be treated yourself. " Well that’s it if your sending pics or not is neither here nor there it’s just basic respect isn’t it | |||
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"Don't know if it's just me or its because I'm a single male but I always send face pics on I tial message and then always get ghosted it's a nightmare especially when you need to be discreet because of your job "I’d probably refrain from sending them until you at least feel comfortable to do so | |||
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"How many times do you send a face pic only to be ghosted ? We get we aren’t everyone’s cup of tea as who is, but a polite thanks no thanks wouldn’t go a miss especially if there’s been a Lengthy convo prior. Far too many disrespectful people on here ! omg how the hell can you get ghosted you look unreal! Who is it mainly doing the ghosting men, women or couples? Not so much single gents as we don’t really meet them, couples and single females do frequently however " some people think their gods gift but it takes less then minute to reply no thank you not for me! I'm guessing women get hundreds of messages a day and could be hard to catch up or remembering who you've spoken too | |||
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"Like someone else on this post we don’t share face pics as they were copied and shared without our permission. If you search previous threads you’ll see this is not unheard of. So we prefer to meet in person for a one hour drink. Some people spend more time aimlessly messaging on here. We got a message from a couple last night to chat. We replied would love to but should mention up front about about our face pic situation and what did they think. Message read, no reply. For us just rude. A simple ‘Not for us’ takes two seconds to send. It does say a lot about people’s character though. We always say treat others as you’d want to be treated yourself. Well that’s it if your sending pics or not is neither here nor there it’s just basic respect isn’t it " Exactly. Too many people are just ‘goal oriented’ and if you can’t give them what they want then ‘f@ck you’. It’s the selfishness of the modern world where the only person that matters is yourself. We’re social animals. It is nice to be nice. If people are abusive by all means block or ignore but if people are respectful then have the decency to be respectful right back. | |||
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"Like someone else on this post we don’t share face pics as they were copied and shared without our permission. If you search previous threads you’ll see this is not unheard of. So we prefer to meet in person for a one hour drink. Some people spend more time aimlessly messaging on here. We got a message from a couple last night to chat. We replied would love to but should mention up front about about our face pic situation and what did they think. Message read, no reply. For us just rude. A simple ‘Not for us’ takes two seconds to send. It does say a lot about people’s character though. We always say treat others as you’d want to be treated yourself. Well that’s it if your sending pics or not is neither here nor there it’s just basic respect isn’t it Exactly. Too many people are just ‘goal oriented’ and if you can’t give them what they want then ‘f@ck you’. It’s the selfishness of the modern world where the only person that matters is yourself. We’re social animals. It is nice to be nice. If people are abusive by all means block or ignore but if people are respectful then have the decency to be respectful right back. " Here, here, I couldn’t have worded it better myself really | |||
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"How many times do you send a face pic only to be ghosted ? We get we aren’t everyone’s cup of tea as who is, but a polite thanks no thanks wouldn’t go a miss especially if there’s been a Lengthy convo prior. Far too many disrespectful people on here ! omg how the hell can you get ghosted you look unreal! Who is it mainly doing the ghosting men, women or couples? Not so much single gents as we don’t really meet them, couples and single females do frequently however some people think their gods gift but it takes less then minute to reply no thank you not for me! I'm guessing women get hundreds of messages a day and could be hard to catch up or remembering who you've spoken too" I’d say we get a fair few messages especially from single men, but we reply to everyone unless they are rude or disrespectful, at the end of the day if someone has gone out of their way to message the least they deserve is a pleasant respectful reply, just our approach but it works for us personally and morally | |||
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"How many times do you send a face pic only to be ghosted ? We get we aren’t everyone’s cup of tea as who is, but a polite thanks no thanks wouldn’t go a miss especially if there’s been a Lengthy convo prior. Far too many disrespectful people on here ! It's awkward saying no thank you to a face picture. It's even worse when you express yourself and get abuse back or multiple questions why, then the dreaded "I look better in person" For every polite response I've received for a no thank you, I could show you 50 that's been really annoyed at me for not liking their picture. I can’t speak for everyone and I wouldn’t dream of doing such, but for us we would sooner someone just said that, thanks but no thanks kind of thing, it’s just respectful really." I get where you are coming from but isn't the lack of response the same thing? It's a softer rejection in my eyes. | |||
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"How many times do you send a face pic only to be ghosted ? We get we aren’t everyone’s cup of tea as who is, but a polite thanks no thanks wouldn’t go a miss especially if there’s been a Lengthy convo prior. Far too many disrespectful people on here ! It's awkward saying no thank you to a face picture. It's even worse when you express yourself and get abuse back or multiple questions why, then the dreaded "I look better in person" For every polite response I've received for a no thank you, I could show you 50 that's been really annoyed at me for not liking their picture. I can’t speak for everyone and I wouldn’t dream of doing such, but for us we would sooner someone just said that, thanks but no thanks kind of thing, it’s just respectful really. I get where you are coming from but isn't the lack of response the same thing? It's a softer rejection in my eyes. " Not just a flat no response no, if you were stood in front of someone would you just flat stop speaking to someone if they asked you a question for example ? | |||
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"How many times do you send a face pic only to be ghosted ? We get we aren’t everyone’s cup of tea as who is, but a polite thanks no thanks wouldn’t go a miss especially if there’s been a Lengthy convo prior. Far too many disrespectful people on here ! omg how the hell can you get ghosted you look unreal! Who is it mainly doing the ghosting men, women or couples? Not so much single gents as we don’t really meet them, couples and single females do frequently however some people think their gods gift but it takes less then minute to reply no thank you not for me! I'm guessing women get hundreds of messages a day and could be hard to catch up or remembering who you've spoken too I’d say we get a fair few messages especially from single men, but we reply to everyone unless they are rude or disrespectful, at the end of the day if someone has gone out of their way to message the least they deserve is a pleasant respectful reply, just our approach but it works for us personally and morally " I always send a polite and well mannered message always along with a face pic if they have stated to send one on their profile and 95 per cent are never read or read and blanked or read deleted. It is what it is I suppose not everyone is everyone's cup of tea just move on and dont let it upset you. Both have each other at the end of the day | |||
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"How many times do you send a face pic only to be ghosted ? We get we aren’t everyone’s cup of tea as who is, but a polite thanks no thanks wouldn’t go a miss especially if there’s been a Lengthy convo prior. Far too many disrespectful people on here ! omg how the hell can you get ghosted you look unreal! Who is it mainly doing the ghosting men, women or couples? Not so much single gents as we don’t really meet them, couples and single females do frequently however some people think their gods gift but it takes less then minute to reply no thank you not for me! I'm guessing women get hundreds of messages a day and could be hard to catch up or remembering who you've spoken too I’d say we get a fair few messages especially from single men, but we reply to everyone unless they are rude or disrespectful, at the end of the day if someone has gone out of their way to message the least they deserve is a pleasant respectful reply, just our approach but it works for us personally and morally I always send a polite and well mannered message always along with a face pic if they have stated to send one on their profile and 95 per cent are never read or read and blanked or read deleted. It is what it is I suppose not everyone is everyone's cup of tea just move on and dont let it upset you. Both have each other at the end of the day " Don’t get me wrong we aren’t crying into our cornflakes far from it, but if by posting this 3 people decide to approach it a little more respectfully then great | |||
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"With single guys, we never ask for a face photo as we don't meet them so any messages and photos are unsolicited. With couples, we will always send a message back saying thanks but no thanks if we don't fancy them as it is quick and easy plus we have been on the end of the ghosting many times and it is unpleasant and my mum always said 'treat people the way you would want to be treated.'" Exactly this | |||
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"We have face pics on our public profile - it saves time and we are candid about this x Anne & George " Really respect the fact your both that open with it all fair play to you both | |||
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For me if the woman has a nice body i couldnt care what the face looked like its not a dating site where your looking for a long term relashinship. If it was for a FWB then yeah it would be more of an issue i guess | |||
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"Like evergone ive had a few rejections after sending face pics but my fav reply i got was simply enjoy fab
For me if the woman has a nice body i couldnt care what the face looked like its not a dating site where your looking for a long term relashinship. If it was for a FWB then yeah it would be more of an issue i guess"Hahaha 100% respect the honesty but for both of us we couldn’t tackle someone we weren’t attracted to mind good body or not good body | |||
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"We don't share face pics, we like to meet face to face to judge attraction. Face pics don't convey attractive traits like confidence, personality or general sexiness. So we attend socials and parties and judge attraction while there." This, totally... Photo's don't actually tell us a damn thing about the important key points for us and potential playmates such as character, sense of fun and the unfathomable thing that just makes us know everyone has clicked. | |||
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"We don't share face pics, we like to meet face to face to judge attraction. Face pics don't convey attractive traits like confidence, personality or general sexiness. So we attend socials and parties and judge attraction while there. This, totally... Photo's don't actually tell us a damn thing about the important key points for us and potential playmates such as character, sense of fun and the unfathomable thing that just makes us know everyone has clicked." All the things you mention are just as important for us but we would add physical attraction to that also hence where pictures become useful | |||
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"We have plenty of photos for people to make up their mind. It's when people ask us for more photos, that's when it gets annoying. " I can kinda understand that as you have your face etc on display so no need for anymore, plenty to make your mind up already isn’t there | |||
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"as pointed out to men all the time on these forums ... nobody owes you anything ... the same applies to women and couples me id rather just same no thanks but i fully understand why other dont" No one owes you anything ? Hence why it’s a shit show how about a little bit of respect from one person to the next or is that too much to ask for ? | |||
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"We have plenty of photos for people to make up their mind. It's when people ask us for more photos, that's when it gets annoying. I can kinda understand that as you have your face etc on display so no need for anymore, plenty to make your mind up already isn’t there " we like to think so. Sometimes we unlock our videos to people too. | |||
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"as pointed out to men all the time on these forums ... nobody owes you anything ... the same applies to women and couples me id rather just same no thanks but i fully understand why other dont No one owes you anything ? Hence why it’s a shit show how about a little bit of respect from one person to the next or is that too much to ask for ? " i agree but 1000s of others wont .... look at how guys get treated they have it 100x wores than anything us women or couples go thru on here daily | |||
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"as pointed out to men all the time on these forums ... nobody owes you anything ... the same applies to women and couples me id rather just same no thanks but i fully understand why other dont No one owes you anything ? Hence why it’s a shit show how about a little bit of respect from one person to the next or is that too much to ask for ? i agree but 1000s of others wont .... look at how guys get treated they have it 100x wores than anything us women or couples go thru on here daily" At the end of the day whoever male, female couples, TV whatever if people just focused on being respectful instead of coming this online attitude of no one owes you anything malarkey it would be a damn sight better experience for everyone. | |||
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"How many times do you send a face pic only to be ghosted ? We get we aren’t everyone’s cup of tea as who is, but a polite thanks no thanks wouldn’t go a miss especially if there’s been a Lengthy convo prior. Far too many disrespectful people on here ! It's awkward saying no thank you to a face picture. It's even worse when you express yourself and get abuse back or multiple questions why, then the dreaded "I look better in person" For every polite response I've received for a no thank you, I could show you 50 that's been really annoyed at me for not liking their picture. " Echo this , we now don't reply at all after being face pic. Even less so to friend requests. | |||
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"been on this scene 30 years everywhere that has had a chat room or internet site before fab or indeed now thats swinging related has all ways been ''no body owes you anything'' its always been the case ... and there's alot of truth in it really ie nobody does owe you anything because in truth they dont how one takes that is down to themselves .. as i said i will say no thanks not for me for some thats fine for alot its a excuse to reply or abuse but as fab rules state no reply is not rude its impossible to reply to all unless you've excluded men then i guess you have all the time in the world to offer a reply... this scene is built on selection & rejection it can be argued that if you cant handle rejection then dont swing .... oh i dunno all i know is the scene is tough its getting tougher as time goes by ... thick skin is needed more and more than ever before .... we all get junk mail daily via the letterbox do we sit and reply to all the same goes for here or anywhere else i know its different if youve been chatting and getting on the exchange pics and then nothing sorry but thats life thats not just swinging thats everywhere ... its part of why we dont use online for meeting couples or women ... %50% of couples and women profiles could be fake and just not worth the hassle if we send a pic and no reply its really simple for us we just block and move on because somewhere in the past we kept getting told nobody owes you anything and thats stuck so we just move on... in a ideal world we would all be nice and polite ... we can only be who we are we cant control others " | |||
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"been on this scene 30 years everywhere that has had a chat room or internet site before fab or indeed now thats swinging related has all ways been ''no body owes you anything'' its always been the case ... and there's alot of truth in it really ie nobody does owe you anything because in truth they dont how one takes that is down to themselves .. as i said i will say no thanks not for me for some thats fine for alot its a excuse to reply or abuse but as fab rules state no reply is not rude its impossible to reply to all unless you've excluded men then i guess you have all the time in the world to offer a reply... this scene is built on selection & rejection it can be argued that if you cant handle rejection then dont swing .... oh i dunno all i know is the scene is tough its getting tougher as time goes by ... thick skin is needed more and more than ever before .... we all get junk mail daily via the letterbox do we sit and reply to all the same goes for here or anywhere else i know its different if youve been chatting and getting on the exchange pics and then nothing sorry but thats life thats not just swinging thats everywhere ... its part of why we dont use online for meeting couples or women ... %50% of couples and women profiles could be fake and just not worth the hassle if we send a pic and no reply its really simple for us we just block and move on because somewhere in the past we kept getting told nobody owes you anything and thats stuck so we just move on... in a ideal world we would all be nice and polite ... we can only be who we are we cant control others " I couldn’t care less to be honest as what fab deem as rules or what every sheep In the herd thinks is acceptable, being polite and respectful as I was raised In any circumstance is a bare minimum, it’s actually pretty shocking how some experienced people In this community think that being ignorant is acceptable just because the populous deem it so, it needs a back bone this place it really does ! | |||
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"been on this scene 30 years everywhere that has had a chat room or internet site before fab or indeed now thats swinging related has all ways been ''no body owes you anything'' its always been the case ... and there's alot of truth in it really ie nobody does owe you anything because in truth they dont how one takes that is down to themselves .. as i said i will say no thanks not for me for some thats fine for alot its a excuse to reply or abuse but as fab rules state no reply is not rude its impossible to reply to all unless you've excluded men then i guess you have all the time in the world to offer a reply... this scene is built on selection & rejection it can be argued that if you cant handle rejection then dont swing .... oh i dunno all i know is the scene is tough its getting tougher as time goes by ... thick skin is needed more and more than ever before .... we all get junk mail daily via the letterbox do we sit and reply to all the same goes for here or anywhere else i know its different if youve been chatting and getting on the exchange pics and then nothing sorry but thats life thats not just swinging thats everywhere ... its part of why we dont use online for meeting couples or women ... %50% of couples and women profiles could be fake and just not worth the hassle if we send a pic and no reply its really simple for us we just block and move on because somewhere in the past we kept getting told nobody owes you anything and thats stuck so we just move on... in a ideal world we would all be nice and polite ... we can only be who we are we cant control others So you agree then we should all be respectful on here ? Not use fab rules or what the popularly acceptable as an excuse for ignorance ? " in a ideal world yes ... i can only be me i cant control how others do things ignorance well thats everywhere and none of us can escape that ... you cant make a scene like swinging perfect its a impossible task all we can do is be ourselves ... it seems that by me saying nobody owes you anything has stirred the pot but ive only said what most think ... including site rules and other sites its not something i made up but its deffo something ive heard 100s of times especially towards guys | |||
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"been on this scene 30 years everywhere that has had a chat room or internet site before fab or indeed now thats swinging related has all ways been ''no body owes you anything'' its always been the case ... and there's alot of truth in it really ie nobody does owe you anything because in truth they dont how one takes that is down to themselves .. as i said i will say no thanks not for me for some thats fine for alot its a excuse to reply or abuse but as fab rules state no reply is not rude its impossible to reply to all unless you've excluded men then i guess you have all the time in the world to offer a reply... this scene is built on selection & rejection it can be argued that if you cant handle rejection then dont swing .... oh i dunno all i know is the scene is tough its getting tougher as time goes by ... thick skin is needed more and more than ever before .... we all get junk mail daily via the letterbox do we sit and reply to all the same goes for here or anywhere else i know its different if youve been chatting and getting on the exchange pics and then nothing sorry but thats life thats not just swinging thats everywhere ... its part of why we dont use online for meeting couples or women ... %50% of couples and women profiles could be fake and just not worth the hassle if we send a pic and no reply its really simple for us we just block and move on because somewhere in the past we kept getting told nobody owes you anything and thats stuck so we just move on... in a ideal world we would all be nice and polite ... we can only be who we are we cant control others So you agree then we should all be respectful on here ? Not use fab rules or what the popularly acceptable as an excuse for ignorance ? in a ideal world yes ... i can only be me i cant control how others do things ignorance well thats everywhere and none of us can escape that ... you cant make a scene like swinging perfect its a impossible task all we can do is be ourselves ... it seems that by me saying nobody owes you anything has stirred the pot but ive only said what most think ... including site rules and other sites its not something i made up but its deffo something ive heard 100s of times especially towards guys " And the fact that everyone takes that approach is there in the issue, you say you can only control yourself that’s 100% true, so your choosing to give this no one owes you anything approach no one else, this isn’t an attack on you personally as much as it may seem, I am not stupid enough to not understand what your saying is fairly accurate, my point is that like you say we can all only focus on ourselves and the majority seem to apply the no one owes anyone anything which is shit just because some people chose to do that we would rather be respectful of people around us, are you saying that if people did that it wouldn’t be a better community ? | |||
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"How many times do you send a face pic only to be ghosted ? We get we aren’t everyone’s cup of tea as who is, but a polite thanks no thanks wouldn’t go a miss especially if there’s been a Lengthy convo prior. Far too many disrespectful people on here ! " Had it happen n can't understand the no reply... im no orger.. surely a well mannered message n face pic can warrant a reply... Tho i do understand there is an element of some on here get 100s of mails also | |||
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"That’s why we have our face pics on here if honest What you see is that you get Appreciate some people are worried to have face pics on here but we aren’t in that position Have to say tho it is very awkward when you finally get a face pic that isn’t quite so appealing I would hate to offend anyone "100% awkward and it is hard to kinda say thanks but no thanks and I can only say from our own point of view but give us that any day over ghosting, people have to understand that not being someone’s type is part of the process of what we are doing granted I know that doesn’t happen | |||
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"I don’t feel offended if I’m ghosted after a face pic exchange in fact it’s straight forward rather than “ thanks but no thanks “ it is what it is and nothing personal that’s been unpleasant. " Do what we are doing, saying thanks but no thanks is surely part of the process not ghosting. It’s a shame people would find ghosting more acceptable than basic respectable communication really | |||
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"I always send a face pic with my first message to them or first reply. Some reply some dont just like i do when i recieve a face pic. Im not here to waste my time messaging people i dont want to fuck or have no interest in, i reply to the ones who interest me. " In my personal opinion nothing more it’s a shame you see it like that rather being able to communicate your lack of interest in someone, as I pretty certain you wouldn’t treat someone like that offline or be so understanding if someone treat you like that | |||
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"How many times do you send a face pic only to be ghosted ? We get we aren’t everyone’s cup of tea as who is, but a polite thanks no thanks wouldn’t go a miss especially if there’s been a Lengthy convo prior. Far too many disrespectful people on here ! Had it happen n can't understand the no reply... im no orger.. surely a well mannered message n face pic can warrant a reply... Tho i do understand there is an element of some on here get 100s of mails also" If some find it that hard to be respectful and give a polite response they should hire a PA and be thankful their so in demand haha | |||
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"That’s why we have our face pics on here if honest What you see is that you get Appreciate some people are worried to have face pics on here but we aren’t in that position Have to say tho it is very awkward when you finally get a face pic that isn’t quite so appealing I would hate to offend anyone
100% awkward and it is hard to kinda say thanks but no thanks and I can only say from our own point of view but give us that any day over ghosting, people have to understand that not being someone’s type is part of the process of what we are doing granted I know that doesn’t happen"It’s very hard isn’t as some people really can’t take rejection even when it’s nicely done Perhaps the ghosting is because people have had bad experiences when rejecting  | |||
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"That’s why we have our face pics on here if honest What you see is that you get Appreciate some people are worried to have face pics on here but we aren’t in that position Have to say tho it is very awkward when you finally get a face pic that isn’t quite so appealing I would hate to offend anyone
100% awkward and it is hard to kinda say thanks but no thanks and I can only say from our own point of view but give us that any day over ghosting, people have to understand that not being someone’s type is part of the process of what we are doing granted I know that doesn’t happen
It’s very hard isn’t as some people really can’t take rejection even when it’s nicely done
Perhaps the ghosting is because people have had bad experiences when rejecting "Possibly but again as long as we are respectful of someone if they chose to get sassy back that’s on them isn’t it then I’d think your fair entitled to delete them and block them if so be it | |||
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"Whats Ghosting .....sorry "One minute your there next your gone, Pufff in to the abyss, disappeared without even so much a tickle my balls or anything ! | |||
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"Whats Ghosting .....sorry
One minute your there next your gone, Pufff in to the abyss, disappeared without even so much a tickle my balls or anything !"Ohh ....yes we have had that done | |||
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"I know what you mean -people ask for pictures and then they are sent some. I have had occasions where I have been sent them of someone else (I know because I have made contact with a person, arranged meet and then not the person in picture. Do you argue that point or just leave with no contact" I am not sure I am following to be honest | |||
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"We do face pictures as soon as possible as no point chatting if there is no attraction there to meet. We always answer back with "not for us" or similar but then block as some will continue to message as a previous poster mentioned you will get the questions,Am I that ugly,or why not,or I look terrible in selfies but better in person so its easier to send the polite message and block. No point on they been on our profile anyway if we would not meet with them. " At least you give an initial response, for us we wouldn’t block someone unless they were rude or disrespectful then fair play | |||
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"I know what you mean -people ask for pictures and then they are sent some. I have had occasions where I have been sent them of someone else (I know because I have made contact with a person, arranged meet and then not the person Do you argue that point or just leave with no contact" We never would do a meet just from a picture sent on here as too many use fake pictures. And if proven to be false yes we do call them out on it and report them. | |||
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"I know what you mean -people ask for pictures and then they are sent some. I have had occasions where I have been sent them of someone else (I know because I have made contact with a person, arranged meet and then not the person Do you argue that point or just leave with no contact We never would do a meet just from a picture sent on here as too many use fake pictures. And if proven to be false yes we do call them out on it and report them. " Yes i just video call with the couple | |||
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"We do face pictures as soon as possible as no point chatting if there is no attraction there to meet. We always answer back with "not for us" or similar but then block as some will continue to message as a previous poster mentioned you will get the questions,Am I that ugly,or why not,or I look terrible in selfies but better in person so its easier to send the polite message and block. No point on they been on our profile anyway if we would not meet with them. At least you give an initial response, for us we wouldn’t block someone unless they were rude or disrespectful then fair play " We just prefer to filter out those that we would never meet. | |||
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"I know what you mean -people ask for pictures and then they are sent some. I have had occasions where I have been sent them of someone else (I know because I have made contact with a person, arranged meet and then not the person Do you argue that point or just leave with no contact We never would do a meet just from a picture sent on here as too many use fake pictures. And if proven to be false yes we do call them out on it and report them. " How do you prove that though without meeting ? | |||
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"Also they maybe ghosting you as if it was a female profile or a couple one then once it came to pictures if it was a fake acc ie a single guy then they knew would be caught out. Happens alot. " Potentially, but from some comments on here it seems as if just blatantly being ignorant is an acceptable approach from certain elements of the swinging community on here  | |||
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"From experience I’ve learnt: whomever asks for face pic 1st, leads by example by sending theirs 1st
This I will not never compromise!"Yeah this is something we’ve started doing and it’s working a bit better | |||
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"I know what you mean -people ask for pictures and then they are sent some. I have had occasions where I have been sent them of someone else (I know because I have made contact with a person, arranged meet and then not the person Do you argue that point or just leave with no contact We never would do a meet just from a picture sent on here as too many use fake pictures. And if proven to be false yes we do call them out on it and report them. How do you prove that though without meeting ? " We do a vc and always ask for a live face pic on another platform first.It just proves everyone is being genuine. We have had a guy send a picture of an actor to us,told him that's not recent so he sent another pic possibly a one from 10 yrs ago. Done a live face pic and he was completely different again. 3 different pictures from one guy. | |||
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"I know what you mean -people ask for pictures and then they are sent some. I have had occasions where I have been sent them of someone else (I know because I have made contact with a person, arranged meet and then not the person Do you argue that point or just leave with no contact We never would do a meet just from a picture sent on here as too many use fake pictures. And if proven to be false yes we do call them out on it and report them. How do you prove that though without meeting ? We do a vc and always ask for a live face pic on another platform first.It just proves everyone is being genuine. We have had a guy send a picture of an actor to us,told him that's not recent so he sent another pic possibly a one from 10 yrs ago. Done a live face pic and he was completely different again. 3 different pictures from one guy. " That’s just outright taking the piss that | |||
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"I know what you mean -people ask for pictures and then they are sent some. I have had occasions where I have been sent them of someone else (I know because I have made contact with a person, arranged meet and then not the person Do you argue that point or just leave with no contact We never would do a meet just from a picture sent on here as too many use fake pictures. And if proven to be false yes we do call them out on it and report them. How do you prove that though without meeting ? We do a vc and always ask for a live face pic on another platform first.It just proves everyone is being genuine. We have had a guy send a picture of an actor to us,told him that's not recent so he sent another pic possibly a one from 10 yrs ago. Done a live face pic and he was completely different again. 3 different pictures from one guy. That’s just outright taking the piss that " It is but you would be amazed how many do that. They are hoping to get wank bank material or else chance a meet and hope you wouldn't say no to their face. | |||
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"I know what you mean -people ask for pictures and then they are sent some. I have had occasions where I have been sent them of someone else (I know because I have made contact with a person, arranged meet and then not the person Do you argue that point or just leave with no contact We never would do a meet just from a picture sent on here as too many use fake pictures. And if proven to be false yes we do call them out on it and report them. How do you prove that though without meeting ? We do a vc and always ask for a live face pic on another platform first.It just proves everyone is being genuine. We have had a guy send a picture of an actor to us,told him that's not recent so he sent another pic possibly a one from 10 yrs ago. Done a live face pic and he was completely different again. 3 different pictures from one guy. That’s just outright taking the piss that It is but you would be amazed how many do that. They are hoping to get wank bank material or else chance a meet and hope you wouldn't say no to their face." See it just highlights my overall point there’s just a total lack of respect with the majority in the scene and on this platform it’s riddled with it | |||
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"I know what you mean -people ask for pictures and then they are sent some. I have had occasions where I have been sent them of someone else (I know because I have made contact with a person, arranged meet and then not the person Do you argue that point or just leave with no contact We never would do a meet just from a picture sent on here as too many use fake pictures. And if proven to be false yes we do call them out on it and report them. How do you prove that though without meeting ? We do a vc and always ask for a live face pic on another platform first.It just proves everyone is being genuine. We have had a guy send a picture of an actor to us,told him that's not recent so he sent another pic possibly a one from 10 yrs ago. Done a live face pic and he was completely different again. 3 different pictures from one guy. That’s just outright taking the piss that It is but you would be amazed how many do that. They are hoping to get wank bank material or else chance a meet and hope you wouldn't say no to their face. See it just highlights my overall point there’s just a total lack of respect with the majority in the scene and on this platform it’s riddled with it " We ve had some great meets with people on here but you really have to through them to find the good ones.Its a chore definitely and yes alot of timewasters | |||
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"How many times do you send a face pic only to be ghosted ? We get we aren’t everyone’s cup of tea as who is, but a polite thanks no thanks wouldn’t go a miss especially if there’s been a Lengthy convo prior. Far too many disrespectful people on here ! We always reply where we can. I think it's just manners. It's a mesaage I dread having to send but sometimes it is what it is. But a polite I don't think we are going to work was always do x" Yes me too. Manners are nice | |||
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"How many times do you send a face pic only to be ghosted ? We get we aren’t everyone’s cup of tea as who is, but a polite thanks no thanks wouldn’t go a miss especially if there’s been a Lengthy convo prior. Far too many disrespectful people on here ! It's awkward saying no thank you to a face picture. It's even worse when you express yourself and get abuse back or multiple questions why, then the dreaded "I look better in person" For every polite response I've received for a no thank you, I could show you 50 that's been really annoyed at me for not liking their picture. I can’t speak for everyone and I wouldn’t dream of doing such, but for us we would sooner someone just said that, thanks but no thanks kind of thing, it’s just respectful really. I get where you are coming from but isn't the lack of response the same thing? It's a softer rejection in my eyes. Not just a flat no response no, if you were stood in front of someone would you just flat stop speaking to someone if they asked you a question for example ? " Truthfully it would depend on the question asked and how I felt when being asked. I have walked away from people being deliberately provocative. I find the fab faq really helpful on here. No one deserves abuse or to be badgered when they say no thank you. As you have no way to know who will abuse or continue to message. I fully understand the disengaging from the conversation. | |||
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"How many times do you send a face pic only to be ghosted ? We get we aren’t everyone’s cup of tea as who is, but a polite thanks no thanks wouldn’t go a miss especially if there’s been a Lengthy convo prior. Far too many disrespectful people on here ! " We ask for face pics early on. Early as in almost immediately. From that point we will usually get ghosted but then we aren’t here to play Blind Date and have been there before when we have for chatting to lovely people and established a rapport, great chat etc. only to then find out they are not our type. Moral is to share face pics early. Send and receive. X | |||
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"How many times do you send a face pic only to be ghosted ? We get we aren’t everyone’s cup of tea as who is, but a polite thanks no thanks wouldn’t go a miss especially if there’s been a Lengthy convo prior. Far too many disrespectful people on here ! It's awkward saying no thank you to a face picture. It's even worse when you express yourself and get abuse back or multiple questions why, then the dreaded "I look better in person" For every polite response I've received for a no thank you, I could show you 50 that's been really annoyed at me for not liking their picture. I can’t speak for everyone and I wouldn’t dream of doing such, but for us we would sooner someone just said that, thanks but no thanks kind of thing, it’s just respectful really. I get where you are coming from but isn't the lack of response the same thing? It's a softer rejection in my eyes. Not just a flat no response no, if you were stood in front of someone would you just flat stop speaking to someone if they asked you a question for example ? Truthfully it would depend on the question asked and how I felt when being asked. I have walked away from people being deliberately provocative. I find the fab faq really helpful on here. No one deserves abuse or to be badgered when they say no thank you. As you have no way to know who will abuse or continue to message. I fully understand the disengaging from the conversation. " I’ve not disagreed with anyone that’s said about people being abusive fair enough block them dead it’s the polite respectful people that have took time to message those ones that concern me | |||
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"If they've been respectful and the whole reason is I'm not very attracted to them, then I'll always say sorry not what I'm looking for or some other variation. I've been dropped like a hot potato before after sending my face pic, it's not very polite but they're obviously not for me anyway. I just block and move on. I do tend to do this rather early in the conversation as it just wastes everybody's time if we speak for ages then we don't like each others face. " I follow the same approach xx | |||
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"How many times do you send a face pic only to be ghosted ? We get we aren’t everyone’s cup of tea as who is, but a polite thanks no thanks wouldn’t go a miss especially if there’s been a Lengthy convo prior. Far too many disrespectful people on here ! " Its a too many messages thing, you're not for them bye sort of thing but without the reply | |||
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