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By *antricTryst OP   Couple
over a year ago

Pershore

Ok I don't like to use labels, but on here it's kind of how we search for people we might want to meet, but the labels we give ourselves don't always match up with what others think they mean. So this is my dictionary of what I consider the definition of Fab sexuality, love to know who agrees.

STRAIGHT--You only play with the opposite sex.

Bi-Curious--You are interested in playing with same sex. Maybe have a little already just touching, licking, stroking.

Bisexual--Fully Bi likes to play with both sex and likes to to receive or give penetrative sex from Same sex (Anal).

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

I think I agree op.

Some have a different idea,I've seen men and women who play with the same sex say they're not bi, as they don't have relationships with the same sex.

I know people don't like labels ,but they can be important.

I'm straight,so if a couple state they're straight and we met ,I wouldn't then expects them to want any bi play.Trouble is people like ,both men and women or they have a different definition to me .

Miss

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Lie not like

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.


"Ok I don't like to use labels, but on here it's kind of how we search for people we might want to meet, but the labels we give ourselves don't always match up with what others think they mean. So this is my dictionary of what I consider the definition of Fab sexuality, love to know who agrees.

STRAIGHT--You only play with the opposite sex.

Bi-Curious--You are interested in playing with same sex. Maybe have a little already just touching, licking, stroking.

Bisexual--Fully Bi likes to play with both sex and likes to to receive or give penetrative sex from Same sex (Anal)."

With you right up to the last bit. The sex act doesn’t define the sexuality. I do not give or receive anal for a variety of reasons, that does not dilute my bisexuality.

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over a year ago

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By *antricTryst OP   Couple
over a year ago

Pershore


"

With you right up to the last bit. The sex act doesn’t define the sexuality. I do not give or receive anal for a variety of reasons, that does not dilute my bisexuality. "

Ok fair enough I did ponder on that one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok I don't like to use labels, but on here it's kind of how we search for people we might want to meet, but the labels we give ourselves don't always match up with what others think they mean. So this is my dictionary of what I consider the definition of Fab sexuality, love to know who agrees.

STRAIGHT--You only play with the opposite sex.

Bi-Curious--You are interested in playing with same sex. Maybe have a little already just touching, licking, stroking.

Bisexual--Fully Bi likes to play with both sex and likes to to receive or give penetrative sex from Same sex (Anal)."

You don't have to do anal be fully bisexual

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.


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With you right up to the last bit. The sex act doesn’t define the sexuality. I do not give or receive anal for a variety of reasons, that does not dilute my bisexuality.

Ok fair enough I did ponder on that one. "

I think a better way would be to say

Bi- curious: intrigued by the notion of play with other genders outside heteronormativity, but not yet tried/still deciding.

Bisexual: fully interested in play with genders outside heteronormativity!

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"

With you right up to the last bit. The sex act doesn’t define the sexuality. I do not give or receive anal for a variety of reasons, that does not dilute my bisexuality.

Ok fair enough I did ponder on that one.

I think a better way would be to say

Bi- curious: intrigued by the notion of play with other genders outside heteronormativity, but not yet tried/still deciding.

Bisexual: fully interested in play with genders outside heteronormativity! "

This does sound more of a relevant description, adding the caveat of course that there's a massive spectrum of how individuals play and define themselves..

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By *antricTryst OP   Couple
over a year ago

Pershore

Like the way this is going, now can we have it written up on a side note when people fill in their details.

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By *rigbyMan
over a year ago

Skelmersdale

I would say once the bi curious line has been crossed,that is once a sexual act has been performed,its not bi curious anymore as with anything in life.

Even if it never happens again it was a bisexual encounter.

There's no judgment in any way here,its just once its done,its done

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

close

Hubby is %100 straight. Ie don't even think about going there.

Me, I'm bi but don't agree with the anal bit of the op.

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.

It’s also worth pointing out, you can try something and decided it’s not for you then still define as straight!!

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By *uHorny1Man
over a year ago

Cannock

How about this

Bi-curious: Interested in exploring the idea of sexual activity with both men and women, but currently only had heterosexual sex.

Bisexual- Has previously engaged in sexual activity with both men and women and is actively looking to repeat the experience.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

For us labels are useful we are both bi and we only meet bi people if someone messages us and they have straight on their profile then we won’t arrange anything further.

We don’t mind if their orally bi or just curious as that’s a discussion we have can further down the line if we decide to meet with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s also worth pointing out, you can try something and decided it’s not for you then still define as straight!!"

You can try something and enjoy it and still be straight. I believe, whatever your predominant preference is, that’s what you are.

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By *rancois Du BoisMan
over a year ago

Down the back of the sofa.


"It’s also worth pointing out, you can try something and decided it’s not for you then still define as straight!!

You can try something and enjoy it and still be straight. I believe, whatever your predominant preference is, that’s what you are.

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I think that’s a massive error in this context. Possibly you can lean more towards heterosexual encounters but in reality if you’re playing in a bisexual way and enjoying it, you’re bisexual.

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By *yeSureMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

As an example, if a guy just likes giving handjobs, and is well and truly sure that's all he ever wants to do, and all he's ever done, and lets say is well versed in doing it, thats bi-curious?

Doesn't seem right!

But then I'm not really bothered about the whole label thing at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s also worth pointing out, you can try something and decided it’s not for you then still define as straight!!

You can try something and enjoy it and still be straight. I believe, whatever your predominant preference is, that’s what you are.

I think that’s a massive error in this context. Possibly you can lean more towards heterosexual encounters but in reality if you’re playing in a bisexual way and enjoying it, you’re bisexual. "

Not really. If 99% of your encounters are with the opposite sex, but you’ve dabbled a little bit, it doesn’t mean you’re bisexual. Being bi is more when you’re equally (or close to) into both

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

It is quite simple really.... straight do not play with same sex, whether hand, mouth or any other orifice.

It surprises me that in this day and age people can't admit to their sexuality.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"It is quite simple really.... straight do not play with same sex, whether hand, mouth or any other orifice.

It surprises me that in this day and age people can't admit to their sexuality. "

There's still numpties our there who think it fine to attack and hospitalise others because they are 'different', I agree fully that we should live in a society where people can be open without it being detrimental but our society has a long way to go till someone's sexualities are acceptable for some others..

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant


"It is quite simple really.... straight do not play with same sex, whether hand, mouth or any other orifice.

It surprises me that in this day and age people can't admit to their sexuality.

There's still numpties our there who think it fine to attack and hospitalise others because they are 'different', I agree fully that we should live in a society where people can be open without it being detrimental but our society has a long way to go till someone's sexualities are acceptable for some others.."

Unfortunately I agree with you but surely on fab.....

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"It is quite simple really.... straight do not play with same sex, whether hand, mouth or any other orifice.

It surprises me that in this day and age people can't admit to their sexuality.

There's still numpties our there who think it fine to attack and hospitalise others because they are 'different', I agree fully that we should live in a society where people can be open without it being detrimental but our society has a long way to go till someone's sexualities are acceptable for some others..

Unfortunately I agree with you but surely on fab....."

One would think so yes..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Assuming there's two genders only, For me ....

Straight - Only sexually involved with opposite gender. Be that soft play or full, and all in between.

Bi-curious - No or limited experience with either gender, looking to experiment more and find their boundaries.

Bisexual - Comfortable with their boundaries regarding both genders, whether that's soft play or more.

Be that giving or receiving pleasure.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"It is quite simple really.... straight do not play with same sex, whether hand, mouth or any other orifice.

It surprises me that in this day and age people can't admit to their sexuality. "

Totally agree this

The moment a person has decided or thoughts of interest to try to engage with the same sex as a straight person wouldn't have any thoughts. Other than the opposite sex

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"It is quite simple really.... straight do not play with same sex, whether hand, mouth or any other orifice.

It surprises me that in this day and age people can't admit to their sexuality. "

I think because it is hard to capture everything in three simple terms and bi or bi-curious doesn't capture everything and can be misleading.

I would call myself straight and have no interest in men and no attraction to them. However, in the heat of fun in a group I have been sucked and recently had a guy grab my cock in guide into a ladies mouth when it slipped out. This is a very very occasional male interaction over years and years of many encounters. I don't seek it, don't want and don't get pleasure out of it particularly but if it happens in certain situations I don't mind. Also I won't do anything back. I know other straight men who feel the same.

I did for a while call myself bi-curious on here in the spirit of honest but I'm really not curious and have no interest so bi-curious is a bit dishonest as it attracts interest from bi couples and men and ladies who seek bi men. So I changed back to straight which is the closest reflection of me.

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"It is quite simple really.... straight do not play with same sex, whether hand, mouth or any other orifice.

It surprises me that in this day and age people can't admit to their sexuality.

I think because it is hard to capture everything in three simple terms and bi or bi-curious doesn't capture everything and can be misleading.

I would call myself straight and have no interest in men and no attraction to them. However, in the heat of fun in a group I have been sucked and recently had a guy grab my cock in guide into a ladies mouth when it slipped out. This is a very very occasional male interaction over years and years of many encounters. I don't seek it, don't want and don't get pleasure out of it particularly but if it happens in certain situations I don't mind. Also I won't do anything back. I know other straight men who feel the same.

I did for a while call myself bi-curious on here in the spirit of honest but I'm really not curious and have no interest so bi-curious is a bit dishonest as it attracts interest from bi couples and men and ladies who seek bi men. So I changed back to straight which is the closest reflection of me. "

I would say lots of ladies on here are the same - call themselves straight but don't mind the odd touch or lick from a lady as part of group fun. They won't do anything back but are not interested in any more with ladies so don't call themselves bi-curious as that would be misleading and attract the wrong attention. Not sure why people get so worked up about it. It's just a word.

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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago

Baughurst


"It is quite simple really.... straight do not play with same sex, whether hand, mouth or any other orifice.

It surprises me that in this day and age people can't admit to their sexuality.

I think because it is hard to capture everything in three simple terms and bi or bi-curious doesn't capture everything and can be misleading.

I would call myself straight and have no interest in men and no attraction to them. However, in the heat of fun in a group I have been sucked and recently had a guy grab my cock in guide into a ladies mouth when it slipped out. This is a very very occasional male interaction over years and years of many encounters. I don't seek it, don't want and don't get pleasure out of it particularly but if it happens in certain situations I don't mind. Also I won't do anything back. I know other straight men who feel the same.

I did for a while call myself bi-curious on here in the spirit of honest but I'm really not curious and have no interest so bi-curious is a bit dishonest as it attracts interest from bi couples and men and ladies who seek bi men. So I changed back to straight which is the closest reflection of me. "

Wow. Could not have written it better (Mr.) to say how I feel about this. I respect it, but I refuse to agree that the sexual orientation of a person is based on their sexual experiences. The word says it all: orientation. It's how you feel, how inclined and attracted you are towards another person. Touching someone or letting someone touch you only changes what you are if it changes how you felt before about them. If you are still not attracted to that gender, then you are the same if you feel the same as before.

So ironic that many of the profiles responding to the OP with absolute certainty in their definitions say at the same time that they are looking to explore their sexualities and their boundaries. What's to explore if you are totally sure of things?

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"It is quite simple really.... straight do not play with same sex, whether hand, mouth or any other orifice.

It surprises me that in this day and age people can't admit to their sexuality.

I think because it is hard to capture everything in three simple terms and bi or bi-curious doesn't capture everything and can be misleading.

I would call myself straight and have no interest in men and no attraction to them. However, in the heat of fun in a group I have been sucked and recently had a guy grab my cock in guide into a ladies mouth when it slipped out. This is a very very occasional male interaction over years and years of many encounters. I don't seek it, don't want and don't get pleasure out of it particularly but if it happens in certain situations I don't mind. Also I won't do anything back. I know other straight men who feel the same.

I did for a while call myself bi-curious on here in the spirit of honest but I'm really not curious and have no interest so bi-curious is a bit dishonest as it attracts interest from bi couples and men and ladies who seek bi men. So I changed back to straight which is the closest reflection of me. "

If in any situation a person does something to another which they don't want, it's down to the individual who doesn't want that type of contact to say no..

Consent is paramount um sure you would agree and abide by for others so they shouldn't cross your boundaries unchallenged..

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow


"It is quite simple really.... straight do not play with same sex, whether hand, mouth or any other orifice.

It surprises me that in this day and age people can't admit to their sexuality.

I think because it is hard to capture everything in three simple terms and bi or bi-curious doesn't capture everything and can be misleading.

I would call myself straight and have no interest in men and no attraction to them. However, in the heat of fun in a group I have been sucked and recently had a guy grab my cock in guide into a ladies mouth when it slipped out. This is a very very occasional male interaction over years and years of many encounters. I don't seek it, don't want and don't get pleasure out of it particularly but if it happens in certain situations I don't mind. Also I won't do anything back. I know other straight men who feel the same.

I did for a while call myself bi-curious on here in the spirit of honest but I'm really not curious and have no interest so bi-curious is a bit dishonest as it attracts interest from bi couples and men and ladies who seek bi men. So I changed back to straight which is the closest reflection of me.

If in any situation a person does something to another which they don't want, it's down to the individual who doesn't want that type of contact to say no..

Consent is paramount um sure you would agree and abide by for others so they shouldn't cross your boundaries unchallenged.."

Actually the want word was inappropriate there. What I meant was I don't seek it and in certain situations I am neutral to it. It's not crossed a boundary. Of course if something I really didn't want I would challenge - let's say if a man thrust his cock in my mouth. I was just trying to challenge the extremely simplistic black and white view completely lacking any nuance that if you've ever had your cock sucked by a man you are not straight.

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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago

Baughurst

Let's test the OP definitions:

Self-declared straight man is playing in a group with women and men. This man only ever gets aroused looking at women, never even felt curious about men or never felt a ping of attraction for men or a desire to touch them.

This man is playing with a sexy lady and well aroused. Consensually, he lets the sexy lady to blindfold him. After that, this man feels some lube in his erect cock and then a mouth and a hand sucking and wanking him. The man cums, imagining the sexy lady lips on him while her perky breasts are bobbing. When he takes the blindfold off, he looks at her and says "thanks, that was an amazing BJ" and she answers with a wide smile "why thanks? Why did you assume it was me?. Could have been her or him", as she points to the woman and man either side of her, both with grins on their faces. Then she says... "Did you enjoy it?". Self declared Straight man says "Yes, I did. So, who blew me?". The two women and the male just laughed and one of the women says "that's our little secret, it would not be any fun if we tell you now". And they never did.

So OP, if we apply strictly your definitions... Next time he is asked to select his sexual orientation in Fab, is this man straight, bi-curious or bisexual?

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"It is quite simple really.... straight do not play with same sex, whether hand, mouth or any other orifice.

It surprises me that in this day and age people can't admit to their sexuality.

I think because it is hard to capture everything in three simple terms and bi or bi-curious doesn't capture everything and can be misleading.

I would call myself straight and have no interest in men and no attraction to them. However, in the heat of fun in a group I have been sucked and recently had a guy grab my cock in guide into a ladies mouth when it slipped out. This is a very very occasional male interaction over years and years of many encounters. I don't seek it, don't want and don't get pleasure out of it particularly but if it happens in certain situations I don't mind. Also I won't do anything back. I know other straight men who feel the same.

I did for a while call myself bi-curious on here in the spirit of honest but I'm really not curious and have no interest so bi-curious is a bit dishonest as it attracts interest from bi couples and men and ladies who seek bi men. So I changed back to straight which is the closest reflection of me.

If in any situation a person does something to another which they don't want, it's down to the individual who doesn't want that type of contact to say no..

Consent is paramount um sure you would agree and abide by for others so they shouldn't cross your boundaries unchallenged..

Actually the want word was inappropriate there. What I meant was I don't seek it and in certain situations I am neutral to it. It's not crossed a boundary. Of course if something I really didn't want I would challenge - let's say if a man thrust his cock in my mouth. I was just trying to challenge the extremely simplistic black and white view completely lacking any nuance that if you've ever had your cock sucked by a man you are not straight. "

Fair point..

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I am bisexual but I don't do anal with anyone

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By *antricTryst OP   Couple
over a year ago

Pershore


"Let's test the OP definitions:

Self-declared straight man is playing in a group with women and men. This man only ever gets aroused looking at women, never even felt curious about men or never felt a ping of attraction for men or a desire to touch them.

This man is playing with a sexy lady and well aroused. Consensually, he lets the sexy lady to blindfold him. After that, this man feels some lube in his erect cock and then a mouth and a hand sucking and wanking him. The man cums, imagining the sexy lady lips on him while her perky breasts are bobbing. When he takes the blindfold off, he looks at her and says "thanks, that was an amazing BJ" and she answers with a wide smile "why thanks? Why did you assume it was me?. Could have been her or him", as she points to the woman and man either side of her, both with grins on their faces. Then she says... "Did you enjoy it?". Self declared Straight man says "Yes, I did. So, who blew me?". The two women and the male just laughed and one of the women says "that's our little secret, it would not be any fun if we tell you now". And they never did.

So OP, if we apply strictly your definitions... Next time he is asked to select his sexual orientation in Fab, is this man straight, bi-curious or bisexual?

"

Now we are testing, well I would say if it wasn't clear who had given him the bj and he was straight before then he still is to himself.

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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago

Baughurst


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Now we are testing, well I would say if it wasn't clear who had given him the bj and he was straight before then he still is to himself. "

Like you, I also think this man is right to feel he is straight, however you are now judging based on the situation. You are not going by your proposed definition of straight "you only play with the opposite sex". If you had been in the room watching and see that it was the other man who blew him, the truth is that he played with a person of the same sex, so by your definition he is not straight.

My point is that definitions of sexual orientation should not be about who you play or don't play with, instead about who do people feel attracted to or (bluntly) who makes your pussy wet or your cock hard.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

if you order chips and you get mashed potatoes...

labels are life take away those labels then things fall apart ...

fab is a classic place to see misused of labels 50% of people on here dont understand sexual / kink labels ..

fab bi is not bisexual ...bisexual is full on with the same sex fancying them kissing them full on sexual tension not oh i only like cock i dont fancy them..

lots of labels/scenes get misused on here take my kink cuckolding 50 % of those who call themselves cuckold are not 90% of men who call themselves cucks are not jeeze most dont even have a partner lol the very basics of cuckolding..

labels arent the problem its peoples understanding ....at the end of the day peopple can do as they please if they dont want to label thats thier choice but it would 100% make it easier for them...

i need to go put some juice in my car its called petrol but i dont do labels wait whats a car or a steering wheel shit come back labels i need you ... take labels away and bye bye communication .... take away communication oh bye bye fab and the internet.....

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