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By *arkPheonixMAN OP   Man
over a year ago

SOUTH CROYDON

A lot of you women on this site lack confidence. I notice it in your profile descriptions... You think you have confidence but it's not confidence, it's actually lack of self esteem. So many men have messaged you, and are just looking for a fix. And you think this means that you're highly valued or on some top tier chair. You got all these rules and regulations acting as if you're best thing since sliced bread because men message you. This is how you value yourself. This is called delusion. You derive your sense of self and value from thirsty men. If all men stopped messaging you, you would feel worthless and of no value.... Especially you sistas, you don't have confidence. It's false confidence, it's an ego boost. Many of you scream insecure. Go and work on yourself

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By *ussle SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Op can you see any irony in a man telling women to take no notice of men?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

If all men stopped messaging me I'd leave the site and take up gardening.

I wouldn't cry about it.

I'd also look at myself and see if I can make myself more attractive.

I'm getting on a bit though, and sex isn't my be all in life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have a look at your post, what does it say about you?

I could say it screams 'I've been told no again so I'm going to hate on all women'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like you got rejected by a confident woman and can’t cope

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By *ust a little bit moreWoman
over a year ago

kendal

As a woman, I can categorically tell you that this one doesn't need the messages from men for a confidence boost, or to stroke my ego, or to make me feel good about myself.

It's got sh!t all to do with confidence why women have a list as long as your arm on Thier profile, with does and donts, it's to do with fact that 75/90% of the messages received from men in a woman's inbox are one liners with zero effort!

Sorry op but our post smacks of 'ive been turned down by women n now I'm bittern wanna vent about it'

And that's quite sad to see!

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

(Mr)

As the man half of this particular couple, I think you need to grow the fuck up.

The site is populated with real people with real lives, they don't need to be judged by you or anyone else.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Cheers Fiddles ..

* Bookmarking *

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Imagine thinking a woman needs a man to have value

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pahahahahaahaaha someone’s been on the Andrew tate again

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By *educing_EmCouple
over a year ago

Tipperary

Oh my day's

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By *os_GoddessofdawnWoman
over a year ago

In the clouds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is hilarious.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Oh dear oh dear oh dear oh dear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone's been watching Andrew Tate videos again

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

This has potential for a serious discussion on self perception vs perceived perception but alas that wouldn’t be half as funny.

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By *ai24Man
over a year ago

Hull


"Pahahahahaahaaha someone’s been on the Andrew tate again "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s true. All my self worth comes from men on the internet

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester


"Pahahahahaahaaha someone’s been on the Andrew tate again "

Someone using Tate as a Verb, we are truly living in the best life x

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke


"Cheers Fiddles ..

* Bookmarking * "

Me too

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By *ittlebirdWoman
over a year ago

The Big Smoke

Just off to work on myself OP. Thanks for that pearl of wisdom. I’ll treasure it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*looks at popcorn

*looks at camera

*looks at popcorn

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

Oh my days, this has all been fun but the OP is now on our block list. We don't need that bullshit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just posting to watch the mayhem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Notice his self confidence. Throws shade and does not defend his views.

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By *oveAndBangCouple
over a year ago

where the mood takes us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Notice his self confidence. Throws shade and does not defend his views."

Been told to tidy him bedroom probably

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just refilled my coffee and made late breakfast. Now that takes confidence op..

We are not lacking in fact my kettle was full of steam.. Self made too.

I drive a car

I work

I study

I will not be told that I am ugly fat body shamed by anyone

If I need to improve my skills I do it for myself not anyone dictating. In fact op I am going to learn Indian head massage next month. I am going for a drive later. All done in confidence

My profile is about how I like my fab times to be. Don't like it. Bothered not bothered.

Thanks op for allowing me to tell you how us woman have confidence in confidence alone.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Aww. Three years without a sniff of pussy has clearly had an effect.

It can't be OPs tactics, it must be those goshdarned WIMMIN.

Knowing they can do better. Who the fuck do they think they are?

Good luck OP. Maybe one day you'll find that elusive bitch who doesn't hide her self esteem issues so you can prey on them successfully

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Away for Christmas

More! I want to see more of this insigntful "bible" you are peddling to us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'll work on myself too. I think we've ALL learn a lesson here today.

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By *oveAndBangCouple
over a year ago

where the mood takes us

Young, athletic and very frustrated. Have a break pal

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"A lot of you women on this site lack confidence. I notice it in your profile descriptions... You think you have confidence but it's not confidence, it's actually lack of self esteem. So many men have messaged you, and are just looking for a fix. And you think this means that you're highly valued or on some top tier chair. You got all these rules and regulations acting as if you're best thing since sliced bread because men message you. This is how you value yourself. This is called delusion. You derive your sense of self and value from thirsty men. If all men stopped messaging you, you would feel worthless and of no value.... Especially you sistas, you don't have confidence. It's false confidence, it's an ego boost. Many of you scream insecure. Go and work on yourself "

Wrong. I message the men I want to meet. This is because I am confident and can handle rejection.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

OP, you forgot to say that no one would look at us twice when out and about in the “real” world…

We know.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Interesting point of view from a man who cannot decide how old he is.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Wow, imagine thinking a woman needs a man for confidence.

So switching the roles do you lack confidence OP? Since I assume like most men here you don't receive a lot of messages does that knock your confidence?

Mrs

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Interesting point of view from a man who cannot decide how old he is.

"

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

That’s me fucked then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow, imagine thinking a woman needs a man for confidence.

So switching the roles do you lack confidence OP? Since I assume like most men here you don't receive a lot of messages does that knock your confidence?

Mrs "

I’m going to assume the OP was turned down and now has a bruised ego.

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By *.T.Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

I'm genuinely surprised that the OP's profile doesn't mention the following:

A true Alpha is a leader.

A True Alph doesn't need to declare he is an Alpha, it is something inherent within us.

A true alpha takes what he wants because it is his right to take from others, in exchange he offers a role model, a beacon of light in a world full of darkness.

A true Alpha knows the value of a woman and where her place lies.

A woman knows instinctively to follow the Alpha because he offers protection, strengh, all the things a woman admires in a man.

An Alpha does not fear rejection, because rejection is a one way street and no one is in a position to reject a True Alpha.

A true Alpha speaks the truth, not "his truth".

blah blah blah.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"Wow, imagine thinking a woman needs a man for confidence.

So switching the roles do you lack confidence OP? Since I assume like most men here you don't receive a lot of messages does that knock your confidence?

Mrs

I’m going to assume the OP was turned down and now has a bruised ego. "

Most definitely, but change of subject that new profile pic!! stunning!

Mrs

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"Interesting point of view from a man who cannot decide how old he is.

"

I figure the three year difference is just how long he's been hearing no for on here without ever updating the details or changing his super effective approach

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By *rsMistyPeaksWoman
over a year ago

Essex

So you’re telling women not to listen to men (as a man)?

My hero

Just off to order some self respect, confidence & integrity from Temu.

Actually - I think I’ll just get some underwear instead and desperately post pictures in the vain hope that someone will notice me.

Terribly complicated this being a woman lark.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They walk amongst us unfortunately

Mrs C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow, imagine thinking a woman needs a man for confidence.

So switching the roles do you lack confidence OP? Since I assume like most men here you don't receive a lot of messages does that knock your confidence?

Mrs

I’m going to assume the OP was turned down and now has a bruised ego. "

Probably more than once

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By *edknight40Man
over a year ago

Leicester

Haha. No verifications. Says it all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow, imagine thinking a woman needs a man for confidence.

So switching the roles do you lack confidence OP? Since I assume like most men here you don't receive a lot of messages does that knock your confidence?

Mrs

I’m going to assume the OP was turned down and now has a bruised ego.

Most definitely, but change of subject that new profile pic!! stunning!

Mrs "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow, imagine thinking a woman needs a man for confidence.

So switching the roles do you lack confidence OP? Since I assume like most men here you don't receive a lot of messages does that knock your confidence?

Mrs

I’m going to assume the OP was turned down and now has a bruised ego.

Probably more than once "

Women eh

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands

Thanks for this thread OP, its gems like this that pop up every now and again that keep me coming back to the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have wine and a comfy seat. Anyone want to join me to watch a train wreck post

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I have wine and a comfy seat. Anyone want to join me to watch a train wreck post"

I'll bring the gin and I'm with you.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Almost as funny is the capitalisation of MAN in your profile name OP.

I am MAN! Hear me roar!

Or spout shite in this case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go on then OP I’ll shag you give you a green tick if that will make you feel better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have wine and a comfy seat. Anyone want to join me to watch a train wreck post

I'll bring the gin and I'm with you.

Mrs "

In which case, I have lots of tonic and ice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Wow, imagine thinking a woman needs a man for confidence.

So switching the roles do you lack confidence OP? Since I assume like most men here you don't receive a lot of messages does that knock your confidence?

Mrs

I’m going to assume the OP was turned down and now has a bruised ego.

Probably more than once

Women eh "

Ya just can’t win!

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By *valanche1001Man
over a year ago

Leeds

And here’s me, fresh out of popcorn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of you women on this site lack confidence. I notice it in your profile descriptions... You think you have confidence but it's not confidence, it's actually lack of self esteem. So many men have messaged you, and are just looking for a fix. And you think this means that you're highly valued or on some top tier chair. You got all these rules and regulations acting as if you're best thing since sliced bread because men message you. This is how you value yourself. This is called delusion. You derive your sense of self and value from thirsty men. If all men stopped messaging you, you would feel worthless and of no value.... Especially you sistas, you don't have confidence. It's false confidence, it's an ego boost. Many of you scream insecure. Go and work on yourself

Wrong. I message the men I want to meet. This is because I am confident and can handle rejection. "

I've noticed that quite a few women and couples do that!

I prefer to do that too, rather than let random guys (with the same generic message):- "Hiya hen can a shag yer arse" message me.

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By *irenGuy70Man
over a year ago

Cirencester

Looks like I picked the wrong day to sell my popcorn cart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wah wah wah

Some part of me thinks you’ve said what you feel and that’s okay, get it off your chest, other part of me thinks you’ve committed fab sui cide and are now blocked by many

But as long as you’re happy eh

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester


"Interesting point of view from a man who cannot decide how old he is.

I figure the three year difference is just how long he's been hearing no for on here without ever updating the details or changing his super effective approach "

Maybe he should have tried googly eyes, word on the grapevine is that's super effective

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually


"Interesting point of view from a man who cannot decide how old he is.

I figure the three year difference is just how long he's been hearing no for on here without ever updating the details or changing his super effective approach

Maybe he should have tried googly eyes, word on the grapevine is that's super effective "

I swear to god that if I pass away by any means other than ch0king on a googly eye I forgot to remove in my excitement I will be mortified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like I say no social no booty.

Fab can be whatever we want it to be weather it is for a hook up or anything in-between. Self worth, self belief and body confidence is a strength. I feel a lot more confident as a strong independent 45 year old than I ever did in my 20s.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Women be confident, but wait until i tell you all how inscure snd desperate you are all being" lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Like I say no social no booty.

Fab can be whatever we want it to be weather it is for a hook up or anything in-between. Self worth, self belief and body confidence is a strength. I feel a lot more confident as a strong independent 45 year old than I ever did in my 20s."

Here here.. totally agree I tell that to people who message me.

Go England ladies.. 7 goals thats confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Like I say no social no booty.

Fab can be whatever we want it to be weather it is for a hook up or anything in-between. Self worth, self belief and body confidence is a strength. I feel a lot more confident as a strong independent 45 year old than I ever did in my 20s.

Here here.. totally agree I tell that to people who message me.

Go England ladies.. 7 goals thats confidence "

It's all about the girl code us girls have to stick together with mutual respect x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of you women on this site lack confidence. I notice it in your profile descriptions... You think you have confidence but it's not confidence, it's actually lack of self esteem. So many men have messaged you, and are just looking for a fix. And you think this means that you're highly valued or on some top tier chair. You got all these rules and regulations acting as if you're best thing since sliced bread because men message you. This is how you value yourself. This is called delusion. You derive your sense of self and value from thirsty men. If all men stopped messaging you, you would feel worthless and of no value.... Especially you sistas, you don't have confidence. It's false confidence, it's an ego boost. Many of you scream insecure. Go and work on yourself "

Rules and regulations? You mean we want to fancy someone, have a connection and have great sex and not just fuck anything that moves. It’s called standards darling nothing about self esteem or confidence. Trying to tear women down, how fucking dare you. I think YOU need to work on your self. I hope any potential meets you do have come across this. You are a walking red flag with that attitude!

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

This has to be a wind up. It’s noticeable that the OP hasn’t returned since starting this thread

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Hello, OP, I'm glad you've found such profound psychological insight. You're wasted on Fab. Given how much you seem to know about women and fixing our malaises, you should seek a PhD then a Nobel Prize.

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By *mperfectwomanWoman
over a year ago

Near Morley


"A lot of you women on this site lack confidence. I notice it in your profile descriptions... You think you have confidence but it's not confidence, it's actually lack of self esteem. So many men have messaged you, and are just looking for a fix. And you think this means that you're highly valued or on some top tier chair. You got all these rules and regulations acting as if you're best thing since sliced bread because men message you. This is how you value yourself. This is called delusion. You derive your sense of self and value from thirsty men. If all men stopped messaging you, you would feel worthless and of no value.... Especially you sistas, you don't have confidence. It's false confidence, it's an ego boost. Many of you scream insecure. Go and work on yourself "

It definitely applies to me.

Call it lack of self esteem or self confidence.

How do I work on myself thought. What does that mean concretely?

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By *entle_lover_xMan
over a year ago

Great Dunmow

Oh this is an interesting one.

I wouldn't put it so strongly and would not single out ladies but do think there is an element of truth with many people here, male and female. Lots of people lacking confidence and low self-esteem for whom interactions here and "swinging sex" provides a boost. Met many people over the years who have openly admitted it, particulate with regards to looks/body confidence, and would say it has applied to myself at times. Nothing wrong with that per se but some do take it too far and overcompensate with an exaggerated sense of self-importance.

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By *eaSlutsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Getting a big waft of Andrew Tate/Jordan Peterson's gooch from OP's post...

C x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well to sum up, the OP is loving Andrew tate farrr too much. The Op got turned down and now is hitting out at all fems on here. Oh and the Op's lack of ability at self awareness and introspection! What a lovely combination

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of you women on this site lack confidence. I notice it in your profile descriptions... You think you have confidence but it's not confidence, it's actually lack of self esteem. So many men have messaged you, and are just looking for a fix. And you think this means that you're highly valued or on some top tier chair. You got all these rules and regulations acting as if you're best thing since sliced bread because men message you. This is how you value yourself. This is called delusion. You derive your sense of self and value from thirsty men. If all men stopped messaging you, you would feel worthless and of no value.... Especially you sistas, you don't have confidence. It's false confidence, it's an ego boost. Many of you scream insecure. Go and work on yourself

It definitely applies to me.

Call it lack of self esteem or self confidence.

How do I work on myself thought. What does that mean concretely? "

Start with 5 things you are grateful for. Small baby steps you will get there you are beautiful x

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By *eau and ArrowCouple
over a year ago

Bromsgrove

Shame that the original post comes across as an incel post when the concept is interesting.

As for women being on ‘a top tier chair’ it seems blatantly obvious that as swingers they are able to attract people that meet their preferences. The laws of supply and demand still apply.

However if a woman wants to use this platform to boost their confidence then that is their choice.

Never will understand the broad brush approach of insulting people without knowing them

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By *arkPheonixMAN OP   Man
over a year ago

SOUTH CROYDON

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By *arkPheonixMAN OP   Man
over a year ago

SOUTH CROYDON

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By *arkPheonixMAN OP   Man
over a year ago

SOUTH CROYDON

Confidence is found in creativity. I wasn't able to send a private message, but it's found in creativity. The more creative you are, the better things become. Confidence is proven to self... It is the small things... Sometimes we look for confidence on the outside, but really what we're looking for is inner faith. And that is achieved by proving things to yourself over and over again. Growth is the key to power. Seek growth, improvement in any shape or form and confidence becomes automatic. There's something you're not doing, that if you do will improve your confidence. It could be a hobby or something along those lines. When you address that, things will start to click.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Confidence is found in creativity. I wasn't able to send a private message, but it's found in creativity. The more creative you are, the better things become. Confidence is proven to self... It is the small things... Sometimes we look for confidence on the outside, but really what we're looking for is inner faith. And that is achieved by proving things to yourself over and over again. Growth is the key to power. Seek growth, improvement in any shape or form and confidence becomes automatic. There's something you're not doing, that if you do will improve your confidence. It could be a hobby or something along those lines. When you address that, things will start to click. "

How can you judge. You have no idea of what people do out side of fab x

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester


"Confidence is found in creativity. I wasn't able to send a private message, but it's found in creativity. The more creative you are, the better things become. Confidence is proven to self... It is the small things... Sometimes we look for confidence on the outside, but really what we're looking for is inner faith. And that is achieved by proving things to yourself over and over again. Growth is the key to power. Seek growth, improvement in any shape or form and confidence becomes automatic. There's something you're not doing, that if you do will improve your confidence. It could be a hobby or something along those lines. When you address that, things will start to click.

"

Please, just stop asking ChatGPT to write this bullshit, read the room. You basically alienated everyone.

And this is Mr, advising you that you ain't putting the genie back in the bottle.

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By *arkPheonixMAN OP   Man
over a year ago

SOUTH CROYDON


"A lot of you women on this site lack confidence. I notice it in your profile descriptions... You think you have confidence but it's not confidence, it's actually lack of self esteem. So many men have messaged you, and are just looking for a fix. And you think this means that you're highly valued or on some top tier chair. You got all these rules and regulations acting as if you're best thing since sliced bread because men message you. This is how you value yourself. This is called delusion. You derive your sense of self and value from thirsty men. If all men stopped messaging you, you would feel worthless and of no value.... Especially you sistas, you don't have confidence. It's false confidence, it's an ego boost. Many of you scream insecure. Go and work on yourself

It definitely applies to me.

Call it lack of self esteem or self confidence.

How do I work on myself thought. What does that mean concretely? "

Confidence is found in creativity. I wasn't able to send a private message, but it's found in creativity. The more creative you are, the better things become. Confidence is proven to self... It is the small things... Sometimes we look for confidence on the outside, but really what we're looking for is inner faith. And that is achieved by proving things to yourself over and over again. Growth is the key to power. Seek growth, improvement in any shape or form and confidence becomes automatic. There's something you're not doing, that if you do will improve your confidence. It could be a hobby or something along those lines. When you address that, things will start to click.

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By *otbeefandonionsCouple
over a year ago

Bathgate

Clear troll post

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Confidence is found in creativity. I wasn't able to send a private message, but it's found in creativity. The more creative you are, the better things become. Confidence is proven to self... It is the small things... Sometimes we look for confidence on the outside, but really what we're looking for is inner faith. And that is achieved by proving things to yourself over and over again. Growth is the key to power. Seek growth, improvement in any shape or form and confidence becomes automatic. There's something you're not doing, that if you do will improve your confidence. It could be a hobby or something along those lines. When you address that, things will start to click.

"

This may or may not be true, but I'm not sure how it addresses the criticisms you have about confidence and its manifestation on Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be confident and to have peace of mind who are we to judge others on how they choose to live x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

... hang on. If all the women on Fab get hobbies to build their confidence, how will we have time to be on Fab?

If we don't have time to be on Fab, won't that make finding women on Fab harder?

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By *mperfectwomanWoman
over a year ago

Near Morley

Thank you so much. I think I’ve got an idea of what you mean. It makes sense even.

X

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By *mperfectwomanWoman
over a year ago

Near Morley

Aww thank you so much.

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By *arkPheonixMAN OP   Man
over a year ago

SOUTH CROYDON

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By *arkPheonixMAN OP   Man
over a year ago

SOUTH CROYDON


"Aww thank you so much. "

No worries

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester


"Clear troll post "

Agreed, OP is already blocked, I'm not replying to this bullshit again

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By *lexanderSupertrampMan
over a year ago

Gourock

I'm sure the ladies of the site will embrace your advise

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Nothing screams “creativity” more than cut and paste responses.

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By *otwifingVixenCouple
over a year ago

Northants


"As a woman, I can categorically tell you that this one doesn't need the messages from men for a confidence boost, or to stroke my ego, or to make me feel good about myself.

It's got sh!t all to do with confidence why women have a list as long as your arm on Thier profile, with does and donts, it's to do with fact that 75/90% of the messages received from men in a woman's inbox are one liners with zero effort!

Sorry op but our post smacks of 'ive been turned down by women n now I'm bittern wanna vent about it'

And that's quite sad to see!"

Exactly this!!!

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By *oitering-With-intentMan
over a year ago

city of Lodon

Eleanor Roosevelt: “Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

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By *bwgirlygirlWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"A lot of you women on this site lack confidence. I notice it in your profile descriptions... You think you have confidence but it's not confidence, it's actually lack of self esteem. So many men have messaged you, and are just looking for a fix. And you think this means that you're highly valued or on some top tier chair. You got all these rules and regulations acting as if you're best thing since sliced bread because men message you. This is how you value yourself. This is called delusion. You derive your sense of self and value from thirsty men. If all men stopped messaging you, you would feel worthless and of no value.... Especially you sistas, you don't have confidence. It's false confidence, it's an ego boost. Many of you scream insecure. Go and work on yourself "

There have been many posts on why women come onto this site and it doesn't take rocket science that a good proportion of women come on for an ego boost. There were a lot of women posting that it's a high then their mood plummets straight after a meet. Chat on here is ten a penny with most men. Women really do get hundreds of messages. That will never change, it's not Bumble. Most will chat and string guys along with no intention of meeting. You post is not a revelation OP. It's been said 1000 times before and will again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of you women on this site lack confidence. I notice it in your profile descriptions... You think you have confidence but it's not confidence, it's actually lack of self esteem. So many men have messaged you, and are just looking for a fix. And you think this means that you're highly valued or on some top tier chair. You got all these rules and regulations acting as if you're best thing since sliced bread because men message you. This is how you value yourself. This is called delusion. You derive your sense of self and value from thirsty men. If all men stopped messaging you, you would feel worthless and of no value.... Especially you sistas, you don't have confidence. It's false confidence, it's an ego boost. Many of you scream insecure. Go and work on yourself "

Tell me you can't find a shag on fab without telling me you can't find a shag on fab...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow! Someone not been replied to in a while?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of you women on this site lack confidence. I notice it in your profile descriptions... You think you have confidence but it's not confidence, it's actually lack of self esteem. So many men have messaged you, and are just looking for a fix. And you think this means that you're highly valued or on some top tier chair. You got all these rules and regulations acting as if you're best thing since sliced bread because men message you. This is how you value yourself. This is called delusion. You derive your sense of self and value from thirsty men. If all men stopped messaging you, you would feel worthless and of no value.... Especially you sistas, you don't have confidence. It's false confidence, it's an ego boost. Many of you scream insecure. Go and work on yourself

There have been many posts on why women come onto this site and it doesn't take rocket science that a good proportion of women come on for an ego boost. There were a lot of women posting that it's a high then their mood plummets straight after a meet. Chat on here is ten a penny with most men. Women really do get hundreds of messages. That will never change, it's not Bumble. Most will chat and string guys along with no intention of meeting. You post is not a revelation OP. It's been said 1000 times before and will again "

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester


"Wow! Someone not been replied to in a while? "

Be very good reason for that, would you feel safe around this guy. IT’s screaming self righteous woman hater.

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

The lengths some men will go to to explain why they aren't getting laid, before they'll consider that maybe it might actually be them...

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"The lengths some men will go to to explain why they aren't getting laid, before they'll consider that maybe it might actually be them..."

You mean this isn't a profound psychological thesis that will change the way we understand womankind?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How we view things and how we react to them is a reflection upon ourselves.

This thread is a great example.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've not checked the profile, though I'm willing to wager there's very little effort put into it.

Just going off the usual pattern is all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've not checked the profile, though I'm willing to wager there's very little effort put into it.

Just going off the usual pattern is all. "

24 is a baby in the grand scheme of life x

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By *museBouche31Woman
over a year ago

Reigate

I don’t think I’ll be messaging OP for a meet.

I’m just not confident enough. . . .

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By *ilf and old fartCouple
over a year ago

Between Ely and Mildenhall

Someone obviously joined here thinking he was a god, and women would take one look at him and beg him to make them feel worthy of his company.

Definitely bitter and twisted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi OP.

Do you know what, some of what you say might actually be true. I know full well most of the "compliments" I get here are empty and meaningless. I know this because no one looks twice at me in the real world. However I'm quite happy to have my ego stroked.

Delusional is a great description. Perfect for the man who thinks insulting others will somehow make him seem better.

I'm sure you know that about yourself already though, since you seem to know everything else. Or are you seeking some validation too?

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

Please, stop feeding the troll

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi OP.

Do you know what, some of what you say might actually be true. I know full well most of the "compliments" I get here are empty and meaningless. I know this because no one looks twice at me in the real world. However I'm quite happy to have my ego stroked.

Delusional is a great description. Perfect for the man who thinks insulting others will somehow make him seem better.

I'm sure you know that about yourself already though, since you seem to know everything else. Or are you seeking some validation too?

"

Delusion isn't that part of the fantasy the escapism though dressing up bringing out your altar ego away from the mundane of every day life x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of you women on this site lack confidence. I notice it in your profile descriptions... You think you have confidence but it's not confidence, it's actually lack of self esteem. So many men have messaged you, and are just looking for a fix. And you think this means that you're highly valued or on some top tier chair. You got all these rules and regulations acting as if you're best thing since sliced bread because men message you. This is how you value yourself. This is called delusion. You derive your sense of self and value from thirsty men. If all men stopped messaging you, you would feel worthless and of no value.... Especially you sistas, you don't have confidence. It's false confidence, it's an ego boost. Many of you scream insecure. Go and work on yourself

There have been many posts on why women come onto this site and it doesn't take rocket science that a good proportion of women come on for an ego boost. There were a lot of women posting that it's a high then their mood plummets straight after a meet. Chat on here is ten a penny with most men. Women really do get hundreds of messages. That will never change, it's not Bumble. Most will chat and string guys along with no intention of meeting. You post is not a revelation OP. It's been said 1000 times before and will again "

You're not really in a position to speak for anyone elses reasons for being here either. You make assumptions re ego boost, getting 100's of messages (I sure dont)stringing men along, no intention of meeting. All on the basis of some threads you read? You are aware the forums are not the whole site yes? Ok, some people (not just women) will never meet anyone and some get a kick from leading people on (lots of times that seems to be men pretending to be women) but to try to imply that's a good proportion is off the mark, in my opinion.

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By *cnugatugMan
over a year ago

Chatham

Guessing you got hurt one time

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.


"A lot of you women on this site lack confidence. I notice it in your profile descriptions... You think you have confidence but it's not confidence, it's actually lack of self esteem. So many men have messaged you, and are just looking for a fix. And you think this means that you're highly valued or on some top tier chair. You got all these rules and regulations acting as if you're best thing since sliced bread because men message you. This is how you value yourself. This is called delusion. You derive your sense of self and value from thirsty men. If all men stopped messaging you, you would feel worthless and of no value.... Especially you sistas, you don't have confidence. It's false confidence, it's an ego boost. Many of you scream insecure. Go and work on yourself "

It’s been a while since we’ve had an unhinged rant.

Pass the popcorn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Umm my hobbies would scare him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of you women on this site lack confidence. I notice it in your profile descriptions... You think you have confidence but it's not confidence, it's actually lack of self esteem. So many men have messaged you, and are just looking for a fix. And you think this means that you're highly valued or on some top tier chair. You got all these rules and regulations acting as if you're best thing since sliced bread because men message you. This is how you value yourself. This is called delusion. You derive your sense of self and value from thirsty men. If all men stopped messaging you, you would feel worthless and of no value.... Especially you sistas, you don't have confidence. It's false confidence, it's an ego boost. Many of you scream insecure. Go and work on yourself

There have been many posts on why women come onto this site and it doesn't take rocket science that a good proportion of women come on for an ego boost. There were a lot of women posting that it's a high then their mood plummets straight after a meet. Chat on here is ten a penny with most men. Women really do get hundreds of messages. That will never change, it's not Bumble. Most will chat and string guys along with no intention of meeting. You post is not a revelation OP. It's been said 1000 times before and will again

You're not really in a position to speak for anyone elses reasons for being here either. You make assumptions re ego boost, getting 100's of messages (I sure dont)stringing men along, no intention of meeting. All on the basis of some threads you read? You are aware the forums are not the whole site yes? Ok, some people (not just women) will never meet anyone and some get a kick from leading people on (lots of times that seems to be men pretending to be women) but to try to imply that's a good proportion is off the mark, in my opinion."
in my experience what _bwgirlygirl says is accurate

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By *bwgirlygirlWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"A lot of you women on this site lack confidence. I notice it in your profile descriptions... You think you have confidence but it's not confidence, it's actually lack of self esteem. So many men have messaged you, and are just looking for a fix. And you think this means that you're highly valued or on some top tier chair. You got all these rules and regulations acting as if you're best thing since sliced bread because men message you. This is how you value yourself. This is called delusion. You derive your sense of self and value from thirsty men. If all men stopped messaging you, you would feel worthless and of no value.... Especially you sistas, you don't have confidence. It's false confidence, it's an ego boost. Many of you scream insecure. Go and work on yourself

There have been many posts on why women come onto this site and it doesn't take rocket science that a good proportion of women come on for an ego boost. There were a lot of women posting that it's a high then their mood plummets straight after a meet. Chat on here is ten a penny with most men. Women really do get hundreds of messages. That will never change, it's not Bumble. Most will chat and string guys along with no intention of meeting. You post is not a revelation OP. It's been said 1000 times before and will again

You're not really in a position to speak for anyone elses reasons for being here either. You make assumptions re ego boost, getting 100's of messages (I sure dont)stringing men along, no intention of meeting. All on the basis of some threads you read? You are aware the forums are not the whole site yes? Ok, some people (not just women) will never meet anyone and some get a kick from leading people on (lots of times that seems to be men pretending to be women) but to try to imply that's a good proportion is off the mark, in my opinion."

I'm not basing it on the forums alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good grief. Really astonishing that such views are not only held but also expressed. Anyhoo. I’m off to stroke my fragile self esteem via the pile of unsolicited dick pics in my inbox. Toodaloo.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset

tip for anyone male or female dont swing if you cant handle rejection.. because this scene is built around rejection especially when its 95% men

this is a scene where there is clearly not someone for everyone especially if your a guy .. so rejection is going to be a big part of your journey no point in blaming women for this by being nasty or putting them down ... swinging is a lifestyle choice not a sex on a plate for every tom dick n harry ...

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset


"A lot of you women on this site lack confidence. I notice it in your profile descriptions... You think you have confidence but it's not confidence, it's actually lack of self esteem. So many men have messaged you, and are just looking for a fix. And you think this means that you're highly valued or on some top tier chair. You got all these rules and regulations acting as if you're best thing since sliced bread because men message you. This is how you value yourself. This is called delusion. You derive your sense of self and value from thirsty men. If all men stopped messaging you, you would feel worthless and of no value.... Especially you sistas, you don't have confidence. It's false confidence, it's an ego boost. Many of you scream insecure. Go and work on yourself

There have been many posts on why women come onto this site and it doesn't take rocket science that a good proportion of women come on for an ego boost. There were a lot of women posting that it's a high then their mood plummets straight after a meet. Chat on here is ten a penny with most men. Women really do get hundreds of messages. That will never change, it's not Bumble. Most will chat and string guys along with no intention of meeting. You post is not a revelation OP. It's been said 1000 times before and will again

You're not really in a position to speak for anyone elses reasons for being here either. You make assumptions re ego boost, getting 100's of messages (I sure dont)stringing men along, no intention of meeting. All on the basis of some threads you read? You are aware the forums are not the whole site yes? Ok, some people (not just women) will never meet anyone and some get a kick from leading people on (lots of times that seems to be men pretending to be women) but to try to imply that's a good proportion is off the mark, in my opinion."

at a guess the forums are anything from 1% to 3% of the site its a tiny tiny part of fab let alone the scene

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By *arry WindsorMan
over a year ago

Heaton Park Manchester

Surely you meant crawl my dear.

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By *icknHMan
over a year ago

Ilfracombe


"A lot of you women on this site lack confidence. I notice it in your profile descriptions... You think you have confidence but it's not confidence, it's actually lack of self esteem. So many men have messaged you, and are just looking for a fix. And you think this means that you're highly valued or on some top tier chair. You got all these rules and regulations acting as if you're best thing since sliced bread because men message you. This is how you value yourself. This is called delusion. You derive your sense of self and value from thirsty men. If all men stopped messaging you, you would feel worthless and of no value.... Especially you sistas, you don't have confidence. It's false confidence, it's an ego boost. Many of you scream insecure. Go and work on yourself "

What a dick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of you women on this site lack confidence. I notice it in your profile descriptions... You think you have confidence but it's not confidence, it's actually lack of self esteem. So many men have messaged you, and are just looking for a fix. And you think this means that you're highly valued or on some top tier chair. You got all these rules and regulations acting as if you're best thing since sliced bread because men message you. This is how you value yourself. This is called delusion. You derive your sense of self and value from thirsty men. If all men stopped messaging you, you would feel worthless and of no value.... Especially you sistas, you don't have confidence. It's false confidence, it's an ego boost. Many of you scream insecure. Go and work on yourself

There have been many posts on why women come onto this site and it doesn't take rocket science that a good proportion of women come on for an ego boost. There were a lot of women posting that it's a high then their mood plummets straight after a meet. Chat on here is ten a penny with most men. Women really do get hundreds of messages. That will never change, it's not Bumble. Most will chat and string guys along with no intention of meeting. You post is not a revelation OP. It's been said 1000 times before and will again

You're not really in a position to speak for anyone elses reasons for being here either. You make assumptions re ego boost, getting 100's of messages (I sure dont)stringing men along, no intention of meeting. All on the basis of some threads you read? You are aware the forums are not the whole site yes? Ok, some people (not just women) will never meet anyone and some get a kick from leading people on (lots of times that seems to be men pretending to be women) but to try to imply that's a good proportion is off the mark, in my opinion.

at a guess the forums are anything from 1% to 3% of the site its a tiny tiny part of fab let alone the scene "

That's what I was trying to say, glad someone understood . I understand some peoples experience may be negative but it doesnt mean that speaks for all. It's like everything else, if i were to go looking for negatives I would find them, still doesnt mean my experience speaks for all either.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

Stupid boy

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset


"A lot of you women on this site lack confidence. I notice it in your profile descriptions... You think you have confidence but it's not confidence, it's actually lack of self esteem. So many men have messaged you, and are just looking for a fix. And you think this means that you're highly valued or on some top tier chair. You got all these rules and regulations acting as if you're best thing since sliced bread because men message you. This is how you value yourself. This is called delusion. You derive your sense of self and value from thirsty men. If all men stopped messaging you, you would feel worthless and of no value.... Especially you sistas, you don't have confidence. It's false confidence, it's an ego boost. Many of you scream insecure. Go and work on yourself

There have been many posts on why women come onto this site and it doesn't take rocket science that a good proportion of women come on for an ego boost. There were a lot of women posting that it's a high then their mood plummets straight after a meet. Chat on here is ten a penny with most men. Women really do get hundreds of messages. That will never change, it's not Bumble. Most will chat and string guys along with no intention of meeting. You post is not a revelation OP. It's been said 1000 times before and will again

You're not really in a position to speak for anyone elses reasons for being here either. You make assumptions re ego boost, getting 100's of messages (I sure dont)stringing men along, no intention of meeting. All on the basis of some threads you read? You are aware the forums are not the whole site yes? Ok, some people (not just women) will never meet anyone and some get a kick from leading people on (lots of times that seems to be men pretending to be women) but to try to imply that's a good proportion is off the mark, in my opinion.

at a guess the forums are anything from 1% to 3% of the site its a tiny tiny part of fab let alone the scene

That's what I was trying to say, glad someone understood . I understand some peoples experience may be negative but it doesnt mean that speaks for all. It's like everything else, if i were to go looking for negatives I would find them, still doesnt mean my experience speaks for all either. "

totally agree ....

far to many treat these forums as matter of facts or like oh they say this in the forums it must be correct lol ..... the forum and clubs are not and never will be the rules of swinging ... both are tiny compared to the whole scene

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By *tylebender03Man
over a year ago

Manchester

I get what you are saying but this doesn’t apply to women in the swinging community or women that regularly meet. However there is a number of women that are addicted to that dopamine hit

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

taunton somerset


"I get what you are saying but this doesn’t apply to women in the swinging community or women that regularly meet. However there is a number of women that are addicted to that dpamine hit"

there are lots of women here for the attention online for sure most are honest about it and lets be honest its easy to spot for most ... but they've broken no rules and its a open site so nothing can be done about that ... but if those men want to feed these women and there plenty that do then there clearly a market for it ..

no different than the 100s of guys who use the site as wank material

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By *tylebender03Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"I get what you are saying but this doesn’t apply to women in the swinging community or women that regularly meet. However there is a number of women that are addicted to that dpamine hit

there are lots of women here for the attention online for sure most are honest about it and lets be honest its easy to spot for most ... but they've broken no rules and its a open site so nothing can be done about that ... but if those men want to feed these women and there plenty that do then there clearly a market for it ..

no different than the 100s of guys who use the site as wank material "

Yes I agree - you are right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Andrew Tate energy coming from the OP I'd real lol.

Do you have a bad relationship with your mother?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"tip for anyone male or female dont swing if you cant handle rejection.. because this scene is built around rejection especially when its 95% men

this is a scene where there is clearly not someone for everyone especially if your a guy .. so rejection is going to be a big part of your journey no point in blaming women for this by being nasty or putting them down ... swinging is a lifestyle choice not a sex on a plate for every tom dick n harry ...

"

Totally agree with this. Too many fear lots of things. Rejection is the biggest fear of all for anyone.

Take it on the chin and move on like most of us do.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport


"A lot of you women on this site lack confidence. I notice it in your profile descriptions... You think you have confidence but it's not confidence, it's actually lack of self esteem. So many men have messaged you, and are just looking for a fix. And you think this means that you're highly valued or on some top tier chair. You got all these rules and regulations acting as if you're best thing since sliced bread because men message you. This is how you value yourself. This is called delusion. You derive your sense of self and value from thirsty men. If all men stopped messaging you, you would feel worthless and of no value.... Especially you sistas, you don't have confidence. It's false confidence, it's an ego boost. Many of you scream insecure. Go and work on yourself "

Bollocks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually think OP is correct tbh in many cases it's exactly the right deduction. I've thought exactly the same over the years being on here reading many womens profiles. It's also a power trip for many women and it's attention they'd never get in the pub with simply the eyes on them. That's the reality of online, none more obvious than on here. Not every woman of course but a significant percentage. People disagreeing have basically reacted to the edgy cut of the jibe of the op's statement in expectation of others being offended helping to create that bandwagon that others then feel confident jumping on. Quite predictable.

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

Fuck knows what the ambition of this thread was but have a day off mate

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I've come late to this one but I do have a bag of sweets.

Looks like the guy from the other weeks got a new profile

Or is this a new knob.

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes


"I've come late to this one but I do have a bag of sweets.

Looks like the guy from the other weeks got a new profile

Or is this a new knob."

Bag of sweets sounds a bit dodgey

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"I've come late to this one but I do have a bag of sweets.

Looks like the guy from the other weeks got a new profile

Or is this a new knob.

Bag of sweets sounds a bit dodgey "

I've no popcorn and boiled sweets is all I had to hand

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes


"I've come late to this one but I do have a bag of sweets.

Looks like the guy from the other weeks got a new profile

Or is this a new knob.

Bag of sweets sounds a bit dodgey

I've no popcorn and boiled sweets is all I had to hand "

Dodgey

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands


"I've come late to this one but I do have a bag of sweets.

Looks like the guy from the other weeks got a new profile

Or is this a new knob.

Bag of sweets sounds a bit dodgey

I've no popcorn and boiled sweets is all I had to hand "

Boiled sweets are way better than popcorn anyway!

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"I've come late to this one but I do have a bag of sweets.

Looks like the guy from the other weeks got a new profile

Or is this a new knob.

Bag of sweets sounds a bit dodgey

I've no popcorn and boiled sweets is all I had to hand

Boiled sweets are way better than popcorn anyway!"

I hate popcorn

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By *atandasmileMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I've come late to this one but I do have a bag of sweets.

Looks like the guy from the other weeks got a new profile

Or is this a new knob.

Bag of sweets sounds a bit dodgey

I've no popcorn and boiled sweets is all I had to hand

Boiled sweets are way better than popcorn anyway!"

Lasts longer, less mess: I think you're on to something. Always hated when they got stuck to the paper bag though.

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By *aizyWoman
over a year ago

west midlands


"I've come late to this one but I do have a bag of sweets.

Looks like the guy from the other weeks got a new profile

Or is this a new knob.

Bag of sweets sounds a bit dodgey

I've no popcorn and boiled sweets is all I had to hand

Boiled sweets are way better than popcorn anyway!

Lasts longer, less mess: I think you're on to something. Always hated when they got stuck to the paper bag though."

Yeah I seem to remember cola cubes being really bad for that!

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Delusions

This place has dispelled all notions that we live among reasonable, pleasant people so if anything, we are less delusional.

*Plays an independent woman song by Beyonce*

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Just shows how thread can change maybe the op gone to bed .just take some knob to come on talking about boiled

Sweets and the whole debate changes funny old place fab .

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By *atandasmileMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"I've come late to this one but I do have a bag of sweets.

Looks like the guy from the other weeks got a new profile

Or is this a new knob.

Bag of sweets sounds a bit dodgey

I've no popcorn and boiled sweets is all I had to hand

Boiled sweets are way better than popcorn anyway!

Lasts longer, less mess: I think you're on to something. Always hated when they got stuck to the paper bag though.

Yeah I seem to remember cola cubes being really bad for that!"

Jesus - cola cubes. I haven't even thought about those for (ahem) years. Used to be my favourite.

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By *atandasmileMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh


"Just shows how thread can change maybe the op gone to bed .just take some knob to come on talking about boiled

Sweets and the whole debate changes funny old place fab ."

Yeah, sorry. I helped to drag it off topic. On the plus side I got reminded of one of my favourite childhood sweets.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"Delusions

This place has dispelled all notions that we live among reasonable, pleasant people so if anything, we are less delusional.

*Plays an independent woman song by Beyonce*"

Yeah, you've been here five minutes, you realise that words mean nothing. If anything - I've been guilty of it - the list of demands can be "for the love of God, if any of you read this, please don't be a jerk"

Because it's not "I am the almighty Queen". It's more like "I'm a human being for pity's sake. Would you be ok if someone talked to your female relative like that?"

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I think its back on again dips into the bag quietly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Delusions

This place has dispelled all notions that we live among reasonable, pleasant people so if anything, we are less delusional.

*Plays an independent woman song by Beyonce*"
* Plays people = shit by Slipknot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of you women on this site lack confidence.

The opening sentence was epic on his part. It grinded on my nerves. The rest was just babbling .

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"A lot of you women on this site lack confidence.

The opening sentence was epic on his part. It grinded on my nerves. The rest was just babbling ."

Absolutely!

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"A lot of you women on this site lack confidence.

The opening sentence was epic on his part. It grinded on my nerves. The rest was just babbling ."

Don't know if you get the reference blue but in the words of Mrs murton .let's have heated debate

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes


"Delusions

This place has dispelled all notions that we live among reasonable, pleasant people so if anything, we are less delusional.

*Plays an independent woman song by Beyonce*"

Fuck that Beyoncé bitch

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By *ightNWet69Woman
over a year ago

dark side of the moon

What are you taking over there in South Croydon?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of you women on this site lack confidence.

The opening sentence was epic on his part. It grinded on my nerves. The rest was just babbling .

Don't know if you get the reference blue but in the words of Mrs murton .let's have heated debate

"
It's what he wanted. Because the only way he can get laid is if he crawls up a chickens ass and waits. Yet it's a woman's self confidence issue .

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"Op can you see any irony in a man telling women to take no notice of men?"

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By *asterR and slut mayaMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"Op can you see any irony in a man telling women to take no notice of men?

Well not the op replying but this man certainly notice you. great profile fab pics .some of us are lovers not haters

"

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By *loise BBWWoman
over a year ago

Chester


"As a woman, I can categorically tell you that this one doesn't need the messages from men for a confidence boost, or to stroke my ego, or to make me feel good about myself.

It's got sh!t all to do with confidence why women have a list as long as your arm on Thier profile, with does and donts, it's to do with fact that 75/90% of the messages received from men in a woman's inbox are one liners with zero effort!

Sorry op but our post smacks of 'ive been turned down by women n now I'm bittern wanna vent about it'

And that's quite sad to see!"

Totally agreement think this post says more about you than the women your referring to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds like you got rejected by a confident woman and can’t cope "

I was just thinking the same thing! I think someone’s not used to rejection. Definitely need to get used that on fab

Mr

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

If insulting and putting others down is how you boost your own confidence or self worth OP then you can do that. I've never cared what anyone else thinks of me so don't need external validation and attempts to put me down never work,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of you women on this site lack confidence. I notice it in your profile descriptions... You think you have confidence but it's not confidence, it's actually lack of self esteem. So many men have messaged you, and are just looking for a fix. And you think this means that you're highly valued or on some top tier chair. You got all these rules and regulations acting as if you're best thing since sliced bread because men message you. This is how you value yourself. This is called delusion. You derive your sense of self and value from thirsty men. If all men stopped messaging you, you would feel worthless and of no value.... Especially you sistas, you don't have confidence. It's false confidence, it's an ego boost. Many of you scream insecure. Go and work on yourself "

Wethole

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Actually think OP is correct tbh in many cases it's exactly the right deduction. I've thought exactly the same over the years being on here reading many womens profiles. It's also a power trip for many women and it's attention they'd never get in the pub with simply the eyes on them. That's the reality of online, none more obvious than on here. Not every woman of course but a significant percentage. People disagreeing have basically reacted to the edgy cut of the jibe of the op's statement in expectation of others being offended helping to create that bandwagon that others then feel confident jumping on. Quite predictable. "

You can’t really compare going to the pub to fab though can you. You don’t walk into the pub in lingerie or naked. The pub is vanilla social place. Fab is for swinging.

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By *eggieMarshmallowWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Actually think OP is correct tbh in many cases it's exactly the right deduction. I've thought exactly the same over the years being on here reading many womens profiles. It's also a power trip for many women and it's attention they'd never get in the pub with simply the eyes on them. That's the reality of online, none more obvious than on here. Not every woman of course but a significant percentage. People disagreeing have basically reacted to the edgy cut of the jibe of the op's statement in expectation of others being offended helping to create that bandwagon that others then feel confident jumping on. Quite predictable. "

So what? Some women do come on here seeking validation and they gain self worth, if they have been told their whole life that they're ugly and worthless and then a community of people lift them up, I don't see how that's a bad thing

Of course, this is only a small amount of people, not everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of you women on this site lack confidence. I notice it in your profile descriptions... You think you have confidence but it's not confidence, it's actually lack of self esteem. So many men have messaged you, and are just looking for a fix. And you think this means that you're highly valued or on some top tier chair. You got all these rules and regulations acting as if you're best thing since sliced bread because men message you. This is how you value yourself. This is called delusion. You derive your sense of self and value from thirsty men. If all men stopped messaging you, you would feel worthless and of no value.... Especially you sistas, you don't have confidence. It's false confidence, it's an ego boost. Many of you scream insecure. Go and work on yourself "

You just killed violently any chance of getting a meet.

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By *ot toddyMan
over a year ago

southmpton

first attempt at negging and it gets obliterated…

I’d ask for a refund on that course you took

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Delusions

This place has dispelled all notions that we live among reasonable, pleasant people so if anything, we are less delusional.

*Plays an independent woman song by Beyonce*

Fuck that Beyoncé bitch "

¿Qué?

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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago

Baughurst


"Have a look at your post, what does it say about you?

I could say it screams 'I've been told no again so I'm going to hate on all women'. "

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford


"A lot of you women on this site lack confidence. I notice it in your profile descriptions... You think you have confidence but it's not confidence, it's actually lack of self esteem. So many men have messaged you, and are just looking for a fix. And you think this means that you're highly valued or on some top tier chair. You got all these rules and regulations acting as if you're best thing since sliced bread because men message you. This is how you value yourself. This is called delusion. You derive your sense of self and value from thirsty men. If all men stopped messaging you, you would feel worthless and of no value.... Especially you sistas, you don't have confidence. It's false confidence, it's an ego boost. Many of you scream insecure. Go and work on yourself "

How did you come up with that revelation, OP?

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By *ne4morefunMan
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

This is going to be entertaining...let me get some popcorn.

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Hes not the messiah ..hes a very naughty boy

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By *ddkkk91Man
over a year ago

fife

Well this was some read....

Wonder how it is possible for a OP to be a here for so long and not have a veri..

Oh yeah, maybe attitude like his post... s***

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By *issYeuxBleusWoman
over a year ago

My boudoir - S Wales


"Hes not the messiah ..hes a very naughty boy "

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By *tress toyWoman
over a year ago

leinster

Bless him.. he got some attention at last!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Not long and this thread can disappear where it belongs.

Stay confident ladies

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Actually think OP is correct tbh in many cases it's exactly the right deduction. I've thought exactly the same over the years being on here reading many womens profiles. It's also a power trip for many women and it's attention they'd never get in the pub with simply the eyes on them. That's the reality of online, none more obvious than on here. Not every woman of course but a significant percentage. People disagreeing have basically reacted to the edgy cut of the jibe of the op's statement in expectation of others being offended helping to create that bandwagon that others then feel confident jumping on. Quite predictable.

So what? Some women do come on here seeking validation and they gain self worth, if they have been told their whole life that they're ugly and worthless and then a community of people lift them up, I don't see how that's a bad thing

Of course, this is only a small amount of people, not everyone "

Hes another that moans about the site, the women on it and that he cant get a meet. I've seen his updates in my local feed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"(Mr)

As the man half of this particular couple, I think you need to grow the fuck up.

The site is populated with real people with real lives, they don't need to be judged by you or anyone else. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing screams “creativity” more than cut and paste responses.

"

The capital MAN in user name says everything though

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By *rtist with museCouple
over a year ago

Eastbourne

Best mysogonist rant we have seen for ages - well done we pissed ourselves laffing (at you not with you) - over a year on the site and no veri's - says it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Hes another that moans about the site, the women on it and that he cant get a meet. I've seen his updates in my local feed "

Haha classic!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Imagine all the very close female friends that he has and has learned this from

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