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By *igT-Time-4-Fun OP   Man
over a year ago

BEDFORDSHIRE areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat

Couple of questions

If YES

1.

Do you admit it in your Bio Like I do, but very few do.

2.

If not why

3.

Are you happy to own up to it here?

And do you wish FAB would add a honest choice options for all to choose of these below.

Impo.

It would make it easy for those looking for similar to connect

Married looking.

Married Zero sex.

Partnered Not enough.

Answer 1 or all if you wish.

GO.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Left.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My dog loves me. That's how single I am

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By *igT-Time-4-Fun OP   Man
over a year ago

BEDFORDSHIRE areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat


"My dog loves me. That's how single I am "

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If only we were closer I would love to love you.

Stunning xx

T.

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By *ilthyParamedicMan
over a year ago

Lancaster

Married, lack of sex due to her being ill in the past which altered her drive.

open to those who connect and my profile states also.

Also point out that this is purely for sex. I am very happy with my relationship other than this.

Just hope that those reserve judgment until they are in this situation themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm afraid human nature dictates for most (not all) that they would rather lie to get what they want.

If a meet isn't happening because the person is attached, most people will then conceal that fact to get a meet!

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By *xfordjohnMan
over a year ago

Oxford


"Married, lack of sex due to her being ill in the past which altered her drive.

open to those who connect and my profile states also.

Also point out that this is purely for sex. I am very happy with my relationship other than this.

Just hope that those reserve judgment until they are in this situation themselves "

I'm in a very similar situation. My wife lost her sex drive but has been very happy for me to find pleasure elsewhere, and has helped make that work. I don't mention it on my profile but explain to those who contact me. I don't think it is relevant to those who look for the first time, as it's not cheating.

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By *igT-Time-4-Fun OP   Man
over a year ago

BEDFORDSHIRE areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat


"Married, lack of sex due to her being ill in the past which altered her drive.

open to those who connect and my profile states also.

Also point out that this is purely for sex. I am very happy with my relationship other than this.

Just hope that those reserve judgment until they are in this situation themselves "

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Pretty much same here tbh.

So fully understand

T

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By *igT-Time-4-Fun OP   Man
over a year ago

BEDFORDSHIRE areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat


"I'm afraid human nature dictates for most (not all) that they would rather lie to get what they want.

If a meet isn't happening because the person is attached, most people will then conceal that fact to get a meet! "

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I do get that

But rather get no meets me, rather than deceive, people wishing to meet me.

But that's just me

T x

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By *igT-Time-4-Fun OP   Man
over a year ago

BEDFORDSHIRE areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat


"Married, lack of sex due to her being ill in the past which altered her drive.

open to those who connect and my profile states also.

Also point out that this is purely for sex. I am very happy with my relationship other than this.

Just hope that those reserve judgment until they are in this situation themselves

I'm in a very similar situation. My wife lost her sex drive but has been very happy for me to find pleasure elsewhere, and has helped make that work. I don't mention it on my profile but explain to those who contact me. I don't think it is relevant to those who look for the first time, as it's not cheating."

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Same here so know where you coming from

Sadly lots of nice ladies still consider we are cheating.

We are not if.

1

Honest

2.

Partner knows.

But these ladies do not believe us as they would not allow there partner to do so.

Fact is on fab most who say NO MARRIED MEN

Are having sex behind there own husbands backs and are to afraid to tell others IMPO.

T.

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By *orset.JMan
over a year ago

Weymouth


"Married, lack of sex due to her being ill in the past which altered her drive.

open to those who connect and my profile states also.

Also point out that this is purely for sex. I am very happy with my relationship other than this.

Just hope that those reserve judgment until they are in this situation themselves

I'm in a very similar situation. My wife lost her sex drive but has been very happy for me to find pleasure elsewhere, and has helped make that work. I don't mention it on my profile but explain to those who contact me. I don't think it is relevant to those who look for the first time, as it's not cheating."

Pretty much the above story. My wife is encouraging me to seek fun.

I do think it is a hard concept to understand and it definitely turns off some Fabbers( which I completely understand).

It’s on my profile as having permission to play but in terms of Fab and swinging- it’s probably seen as a bit of a grey area.

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By *ave0070Man
over a year ago

Sleaford

I have been married for 26 years and we still love each other but she stopped liking sex three years ago when she had a hestarectomy and it was her who suggested that I go and have fun with other people just as long as it's safe and don't get too serious with them because she doesn't want to lose me to anyone else and I think fab should have a choice that you can tick that lets people know about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couple of questions

If YES

1.

Do you admit it in your Bio Like I do, but very few do.

2.

If not why

3.

Are you happy to own up to it here?

And do you wish FAB would add a honest choice options for all to choose of these below.

Impo.

It would make it easy for those looking for similar to connect

Married looking.

Married Zero sex.

Partnered Not enough.

Answer 1 or all if you wish.

GO."

Married no sex life and need to be ruined

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By *orset.JMan
over a year ago

Weymouth


"Married, lack of sex due to her being ill in the past which altered her drive.

open to those who connect and my profile states also.

Also point out that this is purely for sex. I am very happy with my relationship other than this.

Just hope that those reserve judgment until they are in this situation themselves "

I hear you, similar situation, full consent by my wife to play. I don’t hide this but prefer it that way even though it probably puts off a lot of friendships and more with couples and

single ladies

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By *ittlelad69Man
over a year ago

clay cross

Married but it’s not sexual for over a year

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By *arry WindsorMan
over a year ago

Heaton Park Manchester

I can fully relate to that. I was married for 35 years and spent 32 of them celibate due to my wife being unwell. After she passed away I didn't know how or where to find another partner so I tried on line dating and finally joined fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Married, she has her own profile. Sex is great 2 - 3 times per week. At some point during covid lockdowns, we were talking about various fantasies, thought we would try this lifestyle. Have visited a few clubs as a couple, enjoyed it but our preference is to play alone with others. We have thought about a couples account but prefer to meet other couples at clubs or through a circle of friends that also enjoy the lifestyle.

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By *ittleJohn5Man
over a year ago

Wickham Market

Hi not on my bio

As no one read it !

Married with no sex, now 4 years

Wife been Iill and no longer wants sex

So given up and training my cock not to want sex all the time

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By *t12guy49Man
over a year ago

Walton-on-Thames

I’m in a loveless relationship but staying together because of children and finances. Haven’t had sex with each other for over 2 years and that’s not going to change anytime soon.

So Fabs & the odd visit to a club is my outlet for some fun

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By *moothshaftMan
over a year ago

Coventry


"Married, lack of sex due to her being ill in the past which altered her drive.

open to those who connect and my profile states also.

Also point out that this is purely for sex. I am very happy with my relationship other than this.

Just hope that those reserve judgment until they are in this situation themselves "

Absolutely well put.

Exactly the same position myself.

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By *onstantinMan
over a year ago

Newtown


"Married, lack of sex due to her being ill in the past which altered her drive.

open to those who connect and my profile states also.

Also point out that this is purely for sex. I am very happy with my relationship other than this.

Just hope that those reserve judgment until they are in this situation themselves "

That's me too. Not had a meet in a good few years sadly.

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By *ocktoplaywithMan
over a year ago

Derby

Yes and yes.

Lots of love between us but zero intimacy, zero sex, and hardly even kiss. We do hold hands, and we have lots of laughs, but oh how I miss exploring each other.

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By *actilenorfolkgentMan
over a year ago

Norwich


"Yes and yes.

Lots of love between us but zero intimacy, zero sex, and hardly even kiss. We do hold hands, and we have lots of laughs, but oh how I miss exploring each other. "

I can relate to that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Married to my job. So lots of love in my work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love my wife despite no sex since 2008.She won't let me be Sharelee at home!!

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

I used to be but not any longer as I did something about it! I left.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"

Same here so know where you coming from

Sadly lots of nice ladies still consider we are cheating.

We are not if.

1

Honest

2.

Partner knows.

But these ladies do not believe us as they would not allow there partner to do so.

Fact is on fab most who say NO MARRIED MEN

Are having sex behind there own husbands backs and are to afraid to tell others IMPO.

T."

That's quite some assumption unless you have some data to back it up...which you won't have. The whole point of couples who swing is there is no need to cheat as its all about trust. Any betrayal of that trust is likely not to end well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m married but it’s not in my bio, but I also read profiles I don’t bother people who’s bios specifically state not “attached/married” and people I do chat to I always mention it early on in the conversation.

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By *nselfishpleaserMan
over a year ago

kent


"I’m married but it’s not in my bio, but I also read profiles I don’t bother people who’s bios specifically state not “attached/married” and people I do chat to I always mention it early on in the conversation. "

Exactly the same here, always upfront and respect others preferences

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By *am SmithMan
over a year ago

Around and about

Love

But no sex

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By *onstantinMan
over a year ago

Newtown

After reading this I decided to add it to my bio that I am married.

For best search results an option to state 1 if you are cheating and 2 wether you'd play with someone who is cheating. It would save some wasted messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After reading this I decided to add it to my bio that I am married.

For best search results an option to state 1 if you are cheating and 2 wether you'd play with someone who is cheating. It would save some wasted messages. "

Tbh after I wrote my post I thought about it and I think I may add it into my bio.

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By *igT-Time-4-Fun OP   Man
over a year ago

BEDFORDSHIRE areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat


"I’m in a loveless relationship but staying together because of children and finances. Haven’t had sex with each other for over 2 years and that’s not going to change anytime soon.

So Fabs & the odd visit to a club is my outlet for some fun

"

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Nearly Exactly the same

Messaged you

Terry

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By *igT-Time-4-Fun OP   Man
over a year ago

BEDFORDSHIRE areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat


"Yes and yes.

Lots of love between us but zero intimacy, zero sex, and hardly even kiss. We do hold hands, and we have lots of laughs, but oh how I miss exploring each other. "

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Shame I can't message you.

No idea why?

T.

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By *igT-Time-4-Fun OP   Man
over a year ago

BEDFORDSHIRE areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat


"Yes and yes.

Lots of love between us but zero intimacy, zero sex, and hardly even kiss. We do hold hands, and we have lots of laughs, but oh how I miss exploring each other.

I can relate to that "

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I can 100%

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By *igT-Time-4-Fun OP   Man
over a year ago

BEDFORDSHIRE areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat


"

Same here so know where you coming from

Sadly lots of nice ladies still consider we are cheating.

We are not if.

1

Honest

2.

Partner knows.

But these ladies do not believe us as they would not allow there partner to do so.

Fact is on fab most who say NO MARRIED MEN

Are having sex behind there own husbands backs and are to afraid to tell others IMPO.

T.

That's quite some assumption unless you have some data to back it up...which you won't have. The whole point of couples who swing is there is no need to cheat as its all about trust. Any betrayal of that trust is likely not to end well."

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Your entitled to your own opinion, but it appears I'm not

Yes I did my research thanx and it frigging close

Appears you live in your own world with your own biased thoughts.

Hope it never happens to you because then you would fully understand.

Be happy

Be nice

Be polite

And swing well

T x

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By *igT-Time-4-Fun OP   Man
over a year ago

BEDFORDSHIRE areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat


"After reading this I decided to add it to my bio that I am married.

For best search results an option to state 1 if you are cheating and 2 wether you'd play with someone who is cheating. It would save some wasted messages. "

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Thanx and massive respect for that.

There are sadly millions of us all over the world.

T.

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By *ermite12ukMan
over a year ago

Solihull and Brentwood

Used to have a partner.

My bio originally stated I had a partner. Then soon afterwards taking part in a 'married bashing' thread, realised that may as well just be economical with the truth.

After all, it would be obvious at any potential meet. Due to me being virtually unavailable.

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By *id_do22Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Not in bio

But i am married

My wife just isnt interested in sex or anything like that anymore

She even said once thats just not interested into me sexually. Which was a massive blow to my confidents

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By *orny_lifeguardMan
over a year ago

Rotherham


"Not in bio

But i am married

My wife just isnt interested in sex or anything like that anymore

She even said once thats just not interested into me sexually. Which was a massive blow to my confidents "

I’m in the same boat. A proper kick in the teeth. I dont state it on my profile although discrete is a give away. I do tell people as we start chatting though and then leave it up to them.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"

Same here so know where you coming from

Sadly lots of nice ladies still consider we are cheating.

We are not if.

1

Honest

2.

Partner knows.

But these ladies do not believe us as they would not allow there partner to do so.

Fact is on fab most who say NO MARRIED MEN

Are having sex behind there own husbands backs and are to afraid to tell others IMPO.

T.

That's quite some assumption unless you have some data to back it up...which you won't have. The whole point of couples who swing is there is no need to cheat as its all about trust. Any betrayal of that trust is likely not to end well.

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Your entitled to your own opinion, but it appears I'm not

Yes I did my research thanx and it frigging close

Appears you live in your own world with your own biased thoughts.

Hope it never happens to you because then you would fully understand.

Be happy

Be nice

Be polite

And swing well

T x"

You are absolutely entitled to your opinion as am I. To claim that the majority of couples on here who have no married men on their profiles have cheating wives just seems like quite a claim. Personally don't know of any but that's just me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally wouldn’t be interested in anyone that was married have seen the hurt it can cause. That’s just my personal choice and don’t judge anyone’s choices

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow


"Not in bio

But i am married

My wife just isnt interested in sex or anything like that anymore

She even said once thats just not interested into me sexually. Which was a massive blow to my confidents

I’m in the same boat. A proper kick in the teeth. I dont state it on my profile although discrete is a give away. I do tell people as we start chatting though and then leave it up to them. "

What do you think went wrong

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee


"Not in bio

But i am married

My wife just isnt interested in sex or anything like that anymore

She even said once thats just not interested into me sexually. Which was a massive blow to my confidents

I’m in the same boat. A proper kick in the teeth. I dont state it on my profile although discrete is a give away. I do tell people as we start chatting though and then leave it up to them. "

Same here. I realise its not for everyone but it is what it is

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By *rC onlyMan
over a year ago

town

Sadly, theres lots of us mate. Unfortunately its also a line used by some of the dirt bags that frequent the site……

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My dog loves me. That's how single I am "

More details of this dog required!!

Name, brand, fave toy, what makes the tail wag…!!

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By *iLondonMMan
over a year ago

London


"Yes and yes.

Lots of love between us but zero intimacy, zero sex, and hardly even kiss. We do hold hands, and we have lots of laughs, but oh how I miss exploring each other. "

I can also relate to that

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By *igT-Time-4-Fun OP   Man
over a year ago

BEDFORDSHIRE areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat


"Yes and yes.

Lots of love between us but zero intimacy, zero sex, and hardly even kiss. We do hold hands, and we have lots of laughs, but oh how I miss exploring each other. "

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Yup same nearly same here.

But NO TOUCH PASSION LOVE 10+ YEARS.

But still hold hands

Laughter

Joke

Love same things

Have a share Cyprus house we both love

Love after others dogs which we both love

Love the same music

Same foods.

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So no splitting end of

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By *igT-Time-4-Fun OP   Man
over a year ago

BEDFORDSHIRE areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat


"

Same here so know where you coming from

Sadly lots of nice ladies still consider we are cheating.

We are not if.

1

Honest

2.

Partner knows.

But these ladies do not believe us as they would not allow there partner to do so.

Fact is on fab most who say NO MARRIED MEN

Are having sex behind there own husbands backs and are to afraid to tell others IMPO.

T.

That's quite some assumption unless you have some data to back it up...which you won't have. The whole point of couples who swing is there is no need to cheat as its all about trust. Any betrayal of that trust is likely not to end well.

---------

Your entitled to your own opinion, but it appears I'm not

Yes I did my research thanx and it frigging close

Appears you live in your own world with your own biased thoughts.

Hope it never happens to you because then you would fully understand.

Be happy

Be nice

Be polite

And swing well

T x

You are absolutely entitled to your opinion as am I. To claim that the majority of couples on here who have no married men on their profiles have cheating wives just seems like quite a claim. Personally don't know of any but that's just me."

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I know and have chatted to loads and meet a couple.

But yes both entitled to our own thoughts and opinions

All best T x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have total permission from understanding hubby but don’t disclose it till first face to face conversation or if asked directly. I don’t because I find a lot of men seeking to live out some kind of fantasy or project or take advantage. So I only tell people that make it past the first filter.

I find it harder to accept married men doing it behind their partners back for some reason. I think the trust, honesty and accountability aspects are still really important to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Same here so know where you coming from

Sadly lots of nice ladies still consider we are cheating.

We are not if.

1

Honest

2.

Partner knows.

But these ladies do not believe us as they would not allow there partner to do so.

Fact is on fab most who say NO MARRIED MEN

Are having sex behind there own husbands backs and are to afraid to tell others IMPO.

T.

That's quite some assumption unless you have some data to back it up...which you won't have. The whole point of couples who swing is there is no need to cheat as its all about trust. Any betrayal of that trust is likely not to end well.

---------

Your entitled to your own opinion, but it appears I'm not

Yes I did my research thanx and it frigging close

Appears you live in your own world with your own biased thoughts.

Hope it never happens to you because then you would fully understand.

Be happy

Be nice

Be polite

And swing well

T x

You are absolutely entitled to your opinion as am I. To claim that the majority of couples on here who have no married men on their profiles have cheating wives just seems like quite a claim. Personally don't know of any but that's just me."

This

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