FabSwingers.com forum: What causes instant delete and block?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’m interested in what causes others to instantly delete and block a profile. Some of mine are:

Been on over a year, not photo verified, no meets, not a supporter. - Red flags

Profile text that says “fill in later” - Lazy

Blurry pics clearly lifted from a porn site - Fake

Messages saying “I know I’m not what you’re looking for, but…” - why message then?!?

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By *ottodot123Couple
over a year ago

Gillingham

Any variation on the term of 'breed you' in a message

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

'Hey' messages, no profile text, 'straight' without explanation

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By *he 1 2 watchWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

The sort of message that you can tell havnt read your profile

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By *unBrumCplCouple
over a year ago

Bromsgrove

"The sort of message that you can tell havnt read your profile"

Exactly this. Can’t be bothered to reply to people who can’t be bothered to read what we are looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The sort of message that you can tell havnt read your profile"

Exactly this!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When the first line of your profile is that you are currently living abroad and you get messages asking if you want to meet in Manchester that day

Literally not read one thing on the profile but messaged anyway..

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Coming from cock photo profiles/silhouette profiles

When it’s apparent they cheated through my filters

When it’s obvious they haven’t read my profile

Any mention of mummy/sugar mummy/sugar daddy/feet/meet me in my hotel now/girlfriend wants to try another female

Profiles with cringe statuses

(Just to mention a few)

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By *nonymous95-2Woman
over a year ago

Northwich

Detailed and graphic descriptions about what they're gonna do to me, especially when there is absolutely no reference to my pleasure or choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The sort of message that you can tell havnt read your profile"

Spot on. I don't even open the message. I just open profile, block person and delete message without opening. I don't even want to read that crap if they can't be bothered

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By *rmrs95Couple
over a year ago

Chester

"'Hey' messages, no profile text, 'straight' without explanation

This xx

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By *rmrs95Couple
over a year ago

Chester

"The sort of message that you can tell havnt read your profile"

And definitely this xx

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville

'Meet now'

Jog on...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

- Not reading my profile

- Weird, copied and pasted stories of what they want to do to me

- cock pics as profile pics or cock pics in messages

- boring "how you doing babe" messages

- asking me for dirty pics (usually happens when we come off Fab)

- any other reason that makes me not want to hear from them again

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

"I’m interested in what causes others to instantly delete and block a profile. Some of mine are:

Been on over a year, not photo verified, no meets, not a supporter. - Red flags

Profile text that says “fill in later” - Lazy

Blurry pics clearly lifted from a porn site - Fake

Messages saying “I know I’m not what you’re looking for, but…” - why message then?!?

I'm glad it's not just us, but also upset that it happens to other people. We don't exactly have the works of Shakespeare, but we are real and we always show up. We have been messaging already, looking forward to meeting in Amigos x

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By *ichelle and DaveCouple
over a year ago

Tamworth

Friend invites without chatting first instant block. Might sound harsh but god it’s frustrating!

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By *ddkkk91Man
over a year ago

fife

There are some good lists here

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By *oulou22Woman
over a year ago

Sutton

Following up within 5 minutes of their message being opened

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

"Friend invites without chatting first instant block. Might sound harsh but god it’s frustrating!"

Definitely, although we do a 2 tier approach to winks, unsolicited from single men qe delete but between couples is an initial nod of interest, if reciprocal we start to chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delusional profiles.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Another of mine is message from solo guy profiles saying: “want to meet me and my mrs/fwb?”

Why haven’t you got a couples profile then?!?

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By *rJandMrsJCouple
over a year ago

Hyde

"Mmmmmmm" can't tell you how much I hate this.

There's more, but I seem to press the button quicker for that one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oh and huge long messages starting with “so you’re waiting in a bar for me…” and the huge tedious message reads out from there, 49 paragraphs long and none of it interesting.

Also any profiles mentioning ‘sniff’ or ‘420’ in any way gets blocked.

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By *abyblues2023Woman
over a year ago

Everywhere and Nowhere baby thats where im at

FAF, no pics, i wanna eat your pussy, and will you sit on my face

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By *ncemoreroundthesunCouple
over a year ago

on the move

Bypassed filters

Random friends requests

Abusive, racist, sickening messages.

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By *.T.Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

My face picture normally causes a block. c'est la vie, it's the only face I've got.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bypassed filters.

An overtly sexually graphic first message.

Fill in later profile

If they're obviously not what I'm looking for.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

i never open the message first i always look at the profile and most get blocked and deleted at that point .... if profile is ok then ill open message and got to say most will be blocked and message deleted ....99% of messages are rubbish clearly most dont read profiles but that aside most are hey hows you ... you ok ... will you be my mommy ... ill make you squirt ... or the fancy a fuck types...

but lets be honest those messages make life so much easier because the few hot guys who get it right stand out so much more and its quick n easy to block n delete .... and the good thing is there are guys on here who really do want to swing but its harder to find them that match but still very do-able

thing is i block for many reasons sometines for something so simple like attraction because if im not attracted to you i aint meeting you and no its not only sexual attrition but i also block when i see sexist - racist - bullies - men who name n shame - porn script status - porn scrip forum post - not acting age - posting that they like a certian body shape then message you and your totally the opposite - love to lick for hours - pics taken in bathroom - pics taken in gym - ,boxing pics or ''oh look at me type pics- partly covers face pics - anyone stupid enought to take pic in uniform - and i could sit here all day with this list but wont

none of its negative for me it helping me filter and if you wondering how big is my block list well you cant know for sure as after 250 they disappear off your list but mine must be 1,000s n 1,000s but im ok with that as ist works so well

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By *uttercup and BeauCouple
over a year ago

kent

Messages where the content shows they haven’t read our profile.

Copy and pasted messages

Vulgar, crude or desperate status updates

Offering money

If they repeat message when we’ve already deleted original

There are lots of words and phrases that I can’t stand too…. Which is are instant block. Yes I know it’s a bit weird.

Filthy

Dirty

Tits

HnH

C***t

Cum dump

Repeat cummer

Stamina

Balls need emptying

I’ll make you squirt

Come sit on my face

I don’t bite….. the list goes on and on

Jules x

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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago

Baughurst

Been on over a year, not photo verified, no meets, not a supporter. - Red flags

This for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When a woman has clearly in their Bio, ‘I won’t reply without a face pic’ then when you ask for one in return, they won’t send one.

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By *andi19Couple
over a year ago

somewhere

Instant block if they have a cock as profile pic!

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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago

Baughurst

"When the first line of your profile is that you are currently living abroad and you get messages asking if you want to meet in Manchester that day

Literally not read one thing on the profile but messaged anyway.."

Why don't you say yes, provide a place and a time? Let them figure out out

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ah I forgot the ‘love to lick for hours’ lot… in other words they’re shit at everything else or don’t get hard.

One I get a lot is “can I clean up after a bbc has fucked you?” - No, you can’t..

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By *rimson_RoseWoman
over a year ago

Tamworth

I usually know it’s time for a break when I’m blocking lots

Otherwise for me it’s mostly just abusive or persistent messagers. And anyone with a play veri from people who bareback.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Too local

Blokes who aren't let's say polite.

Profile pics I don't wanna look at.

Profiles I take a dislike to.

Blank profiles.

Couples who message repeatedly with zero male pics.

Anyone cheating.

The obvious fakes.

The self entitled.

Ranty rude profiles.

That's probably about it.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep

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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago

Baughurst

"Another of mine is message from solo guy profiles saying: “want to meet me and my mrs/fwb?”

Why haven’t you got a couples profile then?!? "

Because some brains are not evolved enough to follow two profiles at the same time and also it's tricky to post photos if an imaginary lady.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Another of mine is message from solo guy profiles saying: “want to meet me and my mrs/fwb?”

Why haven’t you got a couples profile then?!?

Because some brains are not evolved enough to follow two profiles at the same time and also it's tricky to post photos if an imaginary lady."

Exactly this.

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By *oulivCouple
over a year ago

Newtown

Couples profiles where the Woman has been removed... or was never there. Bin it and get a single one and stop dodging the filters.

Photos of men in women's underwear or Fab if you... photos

If your home looks like a grenade went off in the laundry basket..

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

I instant delete a lot for same reasons as OP but I don't often block.

I reserve blocking for those who piss me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been on here for a few years now and have made our profile very explicit in terms of what we are and ain't looking for. However at least half the messages we get are still people who have not checked our profile, which means we instant delete these messages (and obviously no reply). If they then send another message despite their previous messages not receiving a reply, that's an instant ban

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By *awg-mo-thoinWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

“Can I ask you a question?”

You just did ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being called a Lady as it shows that they have not read my profile.

If you can't take 5 mins to read my profile I am not goings to take my time in responding.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Any form of being pushy and not accepting our boundaries

For example when I was on bed one night ,jack was talking to a couple who asked him to wake me so we could meet them for sex .It was late at night,as if.

Abuse or rudeness

Not liking their status updates ie if they slate other people or moan about the site all the time.

Some pics on a profile cause me to block them so I don't see them in our updates.

Suggesting that if we met they'd want girly fun ,when they've been told I'm straight & it's on our profile .

If the couple have no pics at all or just pics of the lady.

Miss

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By *lsiePTV/TS
over a year ago

Gateshead

"Anything you want to know just ask"

A follow up message chasing me to reply.

Also, if you call me 'convincing' I will open your skull and stir the insides.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The sort of message that you can tell havnt read your profile"

Amen to this

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By *neforutoMan
over a year ago

Fantasy land in the SW

Reading this from the perspective of being blocked for sending a polite message and then getting a rant back......

I have to say that if at least half of whats been written on this thread is real then Im surprised that blokes get any meets at all. I would love to say I struggle to believe whats been written but having listened to other blokes at work and socials Im amazed that any procreation happens and Im truly staggered that the population is now over 7 billion people.

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By *hiny-SinnersCouple
over a year ago

Vale of Glamorgan

All the above!

And because of our fetish based profile, guys who think it is permission to vomit out their deepest darkest fantasies in the very first message, which are often disagreeable in so many levels (and that is saying something bearing in mind our wide tastes)!

Also, notwithstanding we have clearly said on our profile they need to introduce themselves before sending friend requests, they just take a splatter gun approach sending uninvited requests, so frustrating.

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

A lot of the above and also where men message and tell Mr R about what they would do to me/only want to talk about me and what I would like. As we only play together it shows a lack of interest in us as a couple as well as no interest in talking to me as a person.

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

"Ah I forgot the ‘love to lick for hours’ lot… in other words they’re shit at everything else or don’t get hard.

Oh yes, this.

Why are there guys who'll completely hide the fact they can't get hard/cum until you're at their house?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many rules for who they won't meet.

Moany angry profiles.

Total mingers.

Hairy crossdressers.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

any mention of drugs or bare backers. Rude people and text talk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too many rules for who they won't meet.

Moany angry profiles.

Total mingers.

Hairy crossdressers."

Hahahaha the last one gave us a chuckle

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By *ussle SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

"Ah I forgot the ‘love to lick for hours’ lot… in other words they’re shit at everything else or don’t get hard.

Oh yes, this.

Why are there guys who'll completely hide the fact they can't get hard/cum until you're at their house?

Isn’t it better for them to get hard when they get to your house?

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By *ustathingMan
over a year ago

Reading

"Another of mine is message from solo guy profiles saying: “want to meet me and my mrs/fwb?”

Why haven’t you got a couples profile then?!? "

To be fair, I have a FWB who is also on here, and we only meet up a handful of times a year... Sometimes when we do, we have been know to put up a status asking if anyone wants to join us! We don't see each other enough to warrant having a couples account!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Other people in pics

More than 1 verification

Kids toys in pics

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By *quirtyfun69Couple
over a year ago

Burnley

Pushiness

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

A poor first message, no photos on a profile or just cock pics.

Age.

Hi Hun!

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

"A poor first message, no photos on a profile or just cock pics.

Age.

Hi Hun!

Oh and a bi or bi-curious male, sorry, not for us.

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By *e-funcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Anyone who clearly hasn’t read the profile.

Anyone who has an opening message of ‘how are you’

Profiles without on avatar or ‘will fill in later’

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By *quirtyfun69Couple
over a year ago

Burnley

Too many red flags

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By *asons_CarounnCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

What they have written in the forum previously.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The sort of message that you can tell havnt read your profile"

This is our number one frustration on fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The sort of message that you can tell havnt read your profile

This is our number one frustration on fab

Mr"

Ours too… Literally the first line in our p

e is no dick pics.

Already had 3 sent this morning lol

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By *imisugarWoman
over a year ago

Rugby

"Friend invites without chatting first instant block. Might sound harsh but god it’s frustrating!"

I might take to blocking them aswell. Glad it's not just me that finds it weird. I get it's probably to look at the friends pictures but they aren't public for a reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Friend invites without chatting first instant block. Might sound harsh but god it’s frustrating!

I might take to blocking them aswell. Glad it's not just me that finds it weird. I get it's probably to look at the friends pictures but they aren't public for a reason. "

We do the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A man's profile of a female's gaping hole's,

Profile with just cock pic's

Close up cum/c**t pic's

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By *aptain19725Man
over a year ago

Peterborough

"Reading this from the perspective of being blocked for sending a polite message and then getting a rant back......

Agree totally you can see who gets messages on here by who’s commenting lots of f and couples hardly any men. And judging by the comments I surprised anyone gets laid

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By *ave-and-LouiseCouple
over a year ago

Torquay

Old profile with no veris or public pics, or just poor cock pics and nothing else. Any references to Dr*g$.

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By *antricTrystCouple
over a year ago

Pershore

Message solely directed at female to our couple profile, totally disrespectful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Message solely directed at female to our couple profile, totally disrespectful."

Ditto we hate this too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Message solely directed at female to our couple profile, totally disrespectful.

Ditto we hate this too "

Yes, we never reply to these messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

people that do not read profiles and no profile picture

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By *eaSlutsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

A lot of what's already been said.

We also use blocks to highlight anyone who's profile information indicates we wouldn't click.

Those who chance it and send a friend request over without actually interacting in any way get the block too!

C x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Message solely directed at female to our couple profile, totally disrespectful."

We get this a lot too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Forgot to add:

- any reference to BBC. It actually disgusts me as the term has foundations in racism. The term BWC or any B_C will get you blocked.

- Hidden profiles

- Profile pics of cocks

- Miles away but messaging me

- couples profiles that have only pictures of the woman or couples profiles that send pics of just her but it's the guy messaging.

- most weird sub requests

This could go on for a while

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By *lsiePTV/TS
over a year ago

Gateshead

Honestly I think people on here should block more often. Curate your online experience babes

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By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

Any questions asked about my family, you'll need to know me very well before I answer those sorts of questions. There's normally an ulterior motive so an instant block.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Dick pics in a msg

Smoker

Crap erotic fiction in a msg

Meet at my hotel

Not single men

So many...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profiles that state they are lovers of..... And it's clearly not us but they have messaged anyway. Obviously not read our profile.

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By *quirtyfun69Couple
over a year ago

Burnley

Messages directed to female not both when a couples profile, example I want to f**k you, who Mr or missus or both...give us a clue here

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By *arkVanilla85Couple
over a year ago

Crawley West Sussex

"I’m interested in what causes others to instantly delete and block a profile. Some of mine are:

Been on over a year, not photo verified, no meets, not a supporter. - Red flags

Profile text that says “fill in later”

- Lazy

Blurry pics clearly lifted from a porn site - Fake

Messages saying “I know I’m not what you’re looking for, but…” - why message then?!?

Yes all the above also.... 'hi how are you'

'I'm not bi but ......'

'Are you free tonight?'

No public pics

Anything that disregards our profile is a instant block.

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By *estinysswingersCouple
over a year ago

Worsley

Crude and/or rude messages.

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By *rincess-PeachWoman
over a year ago

irrelevant

Instant block. Unloading fantasies in my inbox . They are always my dislikes too, like they went inside my head, found my worst fucking nightmare, wrote it down and hit send

Delete - small talk or maybe I just cba then if i don't respond and they message again I block

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By *exyfungirl78Woman
over a year ago

Colchester

Men that are being precious coz you’ve had a meet and it wasn’t them.

Nice tits

A million miles away but still message for a meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pet names.

Cock pic as profile pic.

*ANY* screenshotted pics on their profile.

Private replies to forums posts - usually because they have been banned from the forums.

"Txt spk" or horrid vernacular/grammar.

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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago

Baughurst

"Being called a Lady as it shows that they have not read my profile.

If you can't take 5 mins to read my profile I am not goings to take my time in responding. "

5 mins? Just took me 69 seconds, and I'm not a morning person either

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By *UFSWoman
over a year ago

belfast

If someone blatantly ignores what I say on my profile.

I won't give second chances to those that disrespect my wishes.

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By *r Parker 88Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Profiles that wave the....instant block warning like it's a weapon.....so funny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When a first message asks my address.

Instant block.

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