FabSwingers.com forum: Joined over 1 year, but no verifications!!!!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What does everyone think about profiles that have been on here/joined more than a year ago but still have no verifications??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they dont want any !!!!!!

Maybe those that have them have used fake profiles to create them ?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they've only met people who aren't verified either, so can't verify them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont think anything to be honest

Some people just havnt had the chance to meet

There are loads of guys who it may take longer than a year to find someone, that dont mean they dont want to meet just because they have yet to have the opportunity

Ive met lots of guys that have no verifications, we all had to start somewhere its just as a woman or couple its easier to start quicker, to me no verification does not always mean time waster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also avoid couples that have veries and are hosting parties.

They may well be only after your money, as others have found out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

May be they've just joined for the forums.

Some people aren't bothered about verifications while others consider them an important criteria in their selection process.

Just because someone has turned up to a meet, there's no guarantee that they'll turn up to meet you.

We take them with a pinch of salt

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

A while back I was contacted by a couples profile that was over a year old with no veris...As the couple had obviously read my profile and were in my criteria I mailed them back and one of the first questions I asked was why they had no veris. The fem of the couple explained why (she was the one doing the messaging), we exchanged phone numbers, had a fem-fem chat, met socially and then had a play meet. I agree that it can look a bit suss if old profiles aren't verified, but the only way to be sure is to take off and nuke the entire site from orbit...oops sorry, wrong film, I meant ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had crap behaviour from the verified and good meets from people with no veris.

As a rule of thumb if the rest of the profile is well written, not just a one or two liner, if they have a couple of pics, not just of their cocks either - and if their mails are well thought out....

But veris arent the be all and end all "/

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By *eminiman61Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Ive read that some wont leave em and dont want em left for them. Theres lots of reasons maybe they dont want to meet or theyre having too much fun to be sat writing things on forums. I always like a picture and like to read veris but thats just me. Has someone said a while ago..... If someone had a bad veri left for them would they show it? NO!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What does everyone think about profiles that have been on here/joined more than a year ago but still have no verifications??

i think fakes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What does everyone think about profiles that have been on here/joined more than a year ago but still have no verifications??

i think fakes"

this

its not hard to get photo verified

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Avoid any that aren't at least photo verified. Hesitant but not totally dismissive of those that aren't meet verified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We immediately ask for a female to female chat, amazing how many couples can't find the female when that request is made

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...i've just been criticised for having too many verifications!!

....pfffft.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the first few ladies and couples i met i never even thought about asking for them or even giving them....it wasnt till i got my first that i thought it was nice to recieve and give them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dont think anything to be honest

Some people just havnt had the chance to meet

There are loads of guys who it may take longer than a year to find someone, that dont mean they dont want to meet just because they have yet to have the opportunity

Ive met lots of guys that have no verifications, we all had to start somewhere its just as a woman or couple its easier to start quicker, to me no verification does not always mean time waster"

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Perhaps they just like to cam.

Maybe they have only met other unverifieds.

Possibly they set up the profile, didn't use it cos they started dating and then split up and came back to it.

You have to treat people as individuals and trust your own judgement.

I have been let down by verified people as well as unverified. Remember, we were all unverified once.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...i've just been criticised for having too many verifications!!

....pfffft.

i get that a lot

you cant win on here lol

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By *quirrelMan
over a year ago

East Manchester

Its a free country so why does anyone need to justify their presence on here by being verified? Itsa matter of personal choice.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"A while back I was contacted by a couples profile that was over a year old with no veris...As the couple had obviously read my profile and were in my criteria I mailed them back and one of the first questions I asked was why they had no veris. The fem of the couple explained why (she was the one doing the messaging), we exchanged phone numbers, had a fem-fem chat,

met socially and then had a play meet. I

agree that it can look a bit suss if old

profiles aren't verified, but the only way

to be sure is to take off and nuke the

entire site from orbit...oops sorry, wrong

film, I meant ask

Sigourney Weaver as 'Ripley' in Alien.....

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

met socially and then had a play meet. I

agree that it can look a bit suss if old

profiles aren't verified, but the only way

to be sure is to take off and nuke the

entire site from orbit...oops sorry, wrong

film, I meant ask

Sigourney Weaver as 'Ripley' in Alien.....

So you're not just a Star Wars geek then Steve?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What does everyone think about profiles that have been on here/joined more than a year ago but still have no verifications??

Some people like to boast about their exploits and some don't. We've had and lost loads of verifications by leaving the sit and rejoining. We don't give a shit. As I keep trying to say, a face-to-face meet beats any of the bollocks that are written down.

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By *ikerbob1957Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

It's easy for a guy not to have any verifications as it is getting harder and harder to actually get to meet anyone these days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alarm bells ring straight away for us!!

Saying that if everything else seemed to check out then we all have to start somewhere.

Where would we be if no one had given us a chance,depends how there going about things really,if their the kind of people who take the bull by the horns or simply watch from afar.

One things for certain if it had took us a year,i would of given up by now and the exitement thinking about doing it would have killed us lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not every 1 post the veryfications they are a bit more private

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

Our public verifications are from 2010, doesn't mean we haven't met anyone since

It's no one's business who we've met for sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for us if u been here over a year and still no veryifications makes us think ure a fake couple and timewaster plus ure probably a single guy that just wanks all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not every 1 post the veryfications they are a bit more private "

their profile still shows they have verification just show they are hidden, i think the OP means people with none not people who dont show them

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

"What does everyone think about profiles that have been on here/joined more than a year ago but still have no verifications??

Me.

But im happy that way, my profile is completely honest and I am too. I spend time getting to know someone before playing anyway, so verification wouldnt be an issue. If someone decides not to contact me because I dont have any then thats fine too. In turn, I dont judge people by theirs, but I have to say, I do feel a bit uncomfortable if someone has lots within a short space of time.

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

"Maybe they've only met people who aren't verified either, so can't verify them."

This is the chicken and egg problem that most face.

Everyone has to start somewhere

If more thought about newcomers in that way, this scene would be brimming over and very healthy, rather than appearing as a guarded and seemingly impenetrable closed shop.

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What does everyone think about profiles that have been on here/joined more than a year ago but still have no verifications??

I never bother with them, it's unlikely that they are actively looking to meet, so what's the point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What does everyone think about profiles that have been on here/joined more than a year ago but still have no verifications??

I never bother with them, it's unlikely that they are actively looking to meet, so what's the point

That's clearly nonsense though isn't it? There are any number of reasons a person could have been here a year or more without being verified. Getting photo verified is easy, sure, but verified by meet is a bit different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many go to clubs/parties and never bother collecting the badges though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What does everyone think about profiles that have been on here/joined more than a year ago but still have no verifications??

I never bother with them, it's unlikely that they are actively looking to meet, so what's the point

That's clearly nonsense though isn't it? There are any number of reasons a person could have been here a year or more without being verified.

Getting photo verified is easy, sure, but verified by meet is a bit different."

Nonsense?? Go on , list these reasons??

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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago

south east

Good chance some will be fake profiles

Good chance some will be genuine profiles

Dont read too much into veri's as some verified profiles have been known to be fake too

Much prefer to use my bullshit detector when conversing with someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What does everyone think about profiles that have been on here/joined more than a year ago but still have no verifications??

I never bother with them, it's unlikely that they are actively looking to meet, so what's the point

That's clearly nonsense though isn't it? There are any number of reasons a person could have been here a year or more without being verified.

Getting photo verified is easy, sure, but verified by meet is a bit different.

Nonsense?? Go on , list these reasons?? "

some people who havnt been verified will not be looking for meets, some will have been looking but just not found anyone, its not as black and white as are they time wasters or not, each person will have their own reasons for not having a verification

What if they have been verified but the person they have met has left the site, there verification goes with them

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By *istress ValeporcaCouple
over a year ago

South Yorkshire

WE've met people who aren't on fab,we know others who only use clubs never online, doesn't always mean it's dodgy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What does everyone think about profiles that have been on here/joined more than a year ago but still have no verifications??

I never bother with them, it's unlikely that they are actively looking to meet, so what's the point

That's clearly nonsense though isn't it? There are any number of reasons a person could have been here a year or more without being verified.

Getting photo verified is easy, sure, but verified by meet is a bit different.

Nonsense?? Go on , list these reasons?? "

No point. You've obviously not read the posts above so why would you read a new one?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"WE've met people who aren't on fab,we know others who only use clubs never online, doesn't always mean it's dodgy x"

I agree it's not dodgy, in fact the profiles are probably genuine , but if you havnt had a meet in 12 months then your unlikely to start anytime soon. If people want to use the site just to chat etc that's their perogative, good luck to them, however I am here to meet people hence why I avoid them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What does everyone think about profiles that have been on here/joined more than a year ago but still have no verifications??

I never bother with them, it's unlikely that they are actively looking to meet, so what's the point

That's clearly nonsense though isn't it? There are any number of reasons a person could have been here a year or more without being verified.

Getting photo verified is easy, sure, but verified by meet is a bit different.

Nonsense?? Go on , list these reasons??

No point. You've obviously not read the posts above so why would you read a new one?

Lol, why are you getting upset??

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By *exki11enWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

We joined the site then forgot about it for over a year. We're far from timewasters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What does everyone think about profiles that have been on here/joined more than a year ago but still have no verifications??

I never bother with them, it's unlikely that they are actively looking to meet, so what's the point

That's clearly nonsense though isn't it? There are any number of reasons a person could have been here a year or more without being verified.

Getting photo verified is easy, sure, but verified by meet is a bit different.

Nonsense?? Go on , list these reasons??

No point. You've obviously not read the posts above so why would you read a new one?

Lol, why are you getting upset??"

I'm not upset. It's hard to convey tone in writing. No offence intended.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been swinger since 1996,been to lots of clubs all over the UK.

Met in real life hundreds if not thousands of swingers.

Fake pics, fake tits, fake tan, seen em all

Ran a swingers club for several years as well.

One verification on this ONE site.

Place as much faith as you like in them, but fake profiles with verifications do exist on this and other sites.

Its all about speaking to them first hand before meeting up.

Just my opinion of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not every 1 post the veryfications they are a bit more private "

Except they are talking about those who have none, being verified earns you the little green tick and verified genuine profile. Those that are not verified don't get any of that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not every 1 post the veryfications they are a bit more private

Except they are talking about those who have none, being verified earns you the little green tick and verified genuine profile. Those that are not verified don't get any of that"

I do understand what your saying, but unless you place a value on that little tick.

Then it doesnt really matter if you have one or not.

If you go to a swingers club/party, do you ask the people you meet if they are verified on FAB before you have fun with them ???

If you dont, then why not ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...i've just been criticised for having too many verifications!!

....pfffft.

i get that a lot

you cant win on here lol"
Me too !!! Make the effort and meet people !! Simples x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...i've just been criticised for having too many verifications!!

....pfffft.

Lol - you just can't win can you ?

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

Just showing the 'tick' doesnt really help a lot.

Could be verified by cam or phone.

Doesnt mean they are going to turn up, or that they are nice people, or that they are real.

If someone wants to deceive then its easy to do, the best way to find out if someone is real is to meet socially. I wouldnt trust a tick.

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

"Not every 1 post the veryfications they are a bit more private

Except they are talking about those who have none, being verified earns you the little green tick and verified genuine profile. Those that are not verified don't get any of that

I do understand what your saying, but unless you place a value on that little tick.

Then it doesnt really matter if you have one or not.

If you go to a swingers club/party, do you ask the people you meet if they are verified on FAB before you have fun with them ???

If you dont, then why not ???"

If you are concerned by people who are not verified, use the filter for un veri'ds.

If youre suspicious about a profile, blick n delete.

Some people may have joined up to the site over a year ago and real life may have gotten in the way so are trying to ease themselves back slowly?

or maybe they are just here to have a look about? Or maybe they are really fakes? Or maybe theyre journalists or maybe theyre famous and read the famous people I've met threads.

Or maybe they have another couples/singles account?

The ifs and buts are endless. Just hit the next button. Not rocket science really

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

"Just showing the 'tick' doesnt really help a lot.

Could be verified by cam or phone.

Doesnt mean they are going to turn up, or that they are nice people, or that they are real.

If someone wants to deceive then its easy to do, the best way to find out if someone is real is to meet socially. I wouldnt trust a tick."

I get more worried about people trusting a green tick over gut instinct/common sense

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees

I was in a club and got talking to a young woman. She seemed interested but when I asked her for her references, she didn't have any. I soon put her straight, told her she was either a timewaster or a fake and took my many talents elsewhere.

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

"I was in a club and got talking to a young woman. She seemed interested but when I asked her for her references, she didn't have any. I soon put her straight, told her she was either a timewaster or a fake and took my many talents elsewhere.

and rightly so, never trust anyone who doesnt carry full ID, references and a TV remote control to ensure the correct length is reached.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats the way it should be mate, she aint got a tick she dont get ya dick.

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Avoid any that aren't at least photo verified. Hesitant but not totally dismissive of those that aren't meet verified. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and rightly so, never trust anyone who doesnt carry full ID, references and a TV remote control to ensure the correct length is reached. "

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By *els_BellsWoman
over a year ago

with the moon n stars somewhere in gtr manc

But what about those with veri's not showing and have the tick and it turns out to be a fake profile then???

And what about those who are photo veri'd and the pics are fake too??!

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

Thats the way it should be mate, she aint got a tick she dont get ya dick.

Thanks, thats another top ruined by coffee being splurted all over it . Almost choked laughing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats the way it should be mate, she aint got a tick she dont get ya dick.

Thanks, thats another top ruined by coffee being splurted all over it . Almost choked laughing

Sorry

Couldnt resist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just showing the 'tick' doesnt really help a lot.

Could be verified by cam or phone.

Doesnt mean they are going to turn up, or that they are nice people, or that they are real.

If someone wants to deceive then its easy to do, the best way to find out if someone is real is to meet socially. I wouldnt trust a tick.

I get more worried about people trusting a green

tick over gut instinct/common sense "

I agree, but I would be more confident of meeting someone who had a few verifications than someone who has been on a year with none.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just showing the 'tick' doesnt really help a lot.

Could be verified by cam or phone.

Doesnt mean they are going to turn up, or that they are nice people, or that they are real.

If someone wants to deceive then its easy to do, the best way to find out if someone is real is to meet socially. I wouldnt trust a tick.

I get more worried about people trusting a green

tick over gut instinct/common sense

I agree, but I would be more confident of meeting someone who had a few verifications than someone who has been on a year with none. "

Bear in mind that there are some people, lke us, who have been on and off the site, Every time you go off you lose the verifications etc. Also, don't rely on verifications... they're a load of balls. Meet the people face-to-face.

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

I have none, I prefer to prove myself over the phone or in social meeting.

Dont really go for the 'met this woman last night and she bangs like a oiled door' type of verification.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You see, its this that gives people the idea of making fake profiles.

Get a dozen verifications, then invite people to parties at £40 a head.

People are just to trusting in this verification tick thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just showing the 'tick' doesnt really help a lot.

Could be verified by cam or phone.

Doesnt mean they are going to turn up, or that they are nice people, or that they are real.

If someone wants to deceive then its easy to do, the best way to find out if someone is real is to meet socially. I wouldnt trust a tick.

I get more worried about people trusting a green

tick over gut instinct/common sense

I agree, but I would be more confident of meeting someone who had a few verifications than someone who has been on a year with none.

Bear in mind that there are some people, lke us,

who have been on and off the site, Every time you go off you lose the verifications etc. Also, don't rely on verifications... they're a load of balls. Meet the people face-to-face."

You can't rely on verifications, but they are better than nothing, I know they can be faked but if you have the sense you can cross reference them and assess if they are real.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you need to start doing cross reference for the veries before you meet.

Its definitely time to give up swinging mate.

Its supposed to be fun , not hunt the new Mrs ffs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you need to start doing cross reference for the veries before you meet.

Its definitely time to give up swinging mate.

Its supposed to be fun , not hunt the new Mrs ffs.

Lol, another one getting upset, dry your eyes mate your getting emotional. It works well for me, so I shall continue, why is it the people who dont rate verifications dont have any

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Don't really put much faith in to the verification system. It's far to easy to fake them. We do like to see a profile photo verified as a minimum because we don't understand why someone wouldn't do that as a given.

But the other types don't mean a thing to us. It is far more about how the people are and wether they approach a meet in a way that suggests they are genuine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you need to start doing cross reference for the veries before you meet.

Its definitely time to give up swinging mate.

Its supposed to be fun , not hunt the new Mrs ffs.

Lol, another one getting upset, dry your eyes mate your getting emotional. It works well for me, so I shall continue, why is it the people who dont rate verifications dont have any

Why do you assume everyone who disagrees with you is in tears?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you need to start doing cross reference for the veries before you meet.

Its definitely time to give up swinging mate.

Its supposed to be fun , not hunt the new Mrs ffs.

Lol, another one getting upset, dry your eyes mate your getting emotional. It works well for me, so I shall continue, why is it the people who dont rate verifications dont have any

The day anyone on here upsets me will be the same day I die.

Have met more swingers than most and spoken to more folk that have mailed fakes than you ever will.

The tick is only there because people think it works.

Ask any of those that got scammed if they will ever trust it again.

If it works for you then good luck.

Just that some of us use more common sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you need to start doing cross reference for the veries before you meet.

Its definitely time to give up swinging mate.

Its supposed to be fun , not hunt the new Mrs ffs.

Lol, another one getting upset, dry your eyes mate your getting emotional. It works well for me, so I shall continue, why is it the people who dont rate verifications dont have any

The day anyone on here upsets me will be the same day I die.

Have met more swingers than most and spoken to more folk that have mailed fakes than you ever will.

The tick is only there because people think it works.

Ask any of those that got scammed if they will

ever trust it again.

If it works for you then good luck.

Just that some of us use more common sense."

Then why do you display your verification?? If you dont think they work?? A bit daft dint you think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe some people just dont want to advertise who theyve been with to the whole world.

Also, as others have said, just how reliable are verifications? Some people will say any old garbage to be kept in the frame for a 2nd encounter. I mean how often have u read about "this hot and sexy person" and then when u look at the pic...........

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Could be lots of reasons for no veris in a year.

However, if someone has a profile that old without one (and not even a veri tick) I'd pass them by. They are not here to meet. Maybe they just like camming or chatting. In which case they are not for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Could be lots of reasons for no veris in a year.

Exactly my point, each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its there because without any you cant post.

Should I hide it ??

Would if I had a clue as to how to.

Trust it ???

Not for a millisecond.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Could be lots of reasons for no veris in a year.

In your first sentence you say 'Could be lots of reasons' then you say it must be because 'They are not here to meet'. Could you let us know which of these statements you believe, because clearly it can't be both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its there because without any you cant post.

Should I hide it ??

Would if I had a clue as to how to.

Trust it ???

Not for a millisecond."

Seriously?? You have to approve the verification to display it, simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Could be lots of reasons for no veris in a year.

In your first sentence you say 'Could be lots of

reasons' then you say it must be because 'They are not here to meet'. Could you let us know which of these statements you believe, because clearly it can't be both

I believe both, it can be a combination of not here to meet with any other reason, are you verified??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I believe both, it can be a combination of not here to meet with any other reason, are you verified??

If they're not here to meet, no other reasons apply. But she said there could be lots of reasons, but then suddenly insisted it absolutely must be because they're not here to meet. One or the other, not both.

And no, I'm not. What's that got to do with anything?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do I think , well I think nothing. I either choose to talk to them or not. That's it nothing more nothing less

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I believe both, it can be a combination of not here to meet with any other reason, are you verified??

And no, I'm not. What's that got to do with anything?"

Nothing, but I didn't think you would be

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I believe both, it can be a combination of not here to meet with any other reason, are you verified??

And no, I'm not. What's that got to do with anything?

Nothing, but I didn't think you would be

How odd

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Could be lots of reasons for no veris in a year.

No sorry. Can't be bothered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Could be lots of reasons for no veris in a year.

No sorry. Can't be bothered."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I believe both, it can be a combination of not here to meet with any other reason, are you verified??

And no, I'm not. What's that got to do with

anything?

Nothing, but I didn't think you would be

How odd

Odd? In what way? Anyway I think verifications are important, I don't and won't message profiles that are over a year old who dont have them, on the other hand that doesn't mean I think they are fake or timewasters, just not for me. You obviously have the opposite view, mine seems to work well enough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We immediately ask for a female to female chat, amazing how many couples can't find the female when that request is made "

Ive had that too...even when its a verified pair lol...leads me to believe either:-

male half is bi

I'm supposed to be some sort of surprise

will I be able to get one of my previous meets to come(its at this point I know its only one half I'm talking to..despite pretending to be the fem/both)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Odd? In what way?"

It just seemed a strange assumption.

"Anyway I think verifications are important, I don't and won't message profiles that are over a year old who dont have them, on the other hand that doesn't mean I think they are fake or timewasters, just not for me."

That's good. Your first post in this thread suggested you thought they were time wasters, so I'm delighted something has shifted your opinion in the interim

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Odd? In what way?

It just seemed a strange assumption.

Anyway I think verifications are important, I don't and won't message profiles that are over a year old who dont have them, on the other hand that doesn't mean I think they are fake or timewasters, just not for me.

That's good. Your first post in this thread suggested you thought they were time wasters, so I'm delighted something has shifted your

opinion in the interim

O dear, at what point did i say they were timewasters? If somebody won't meet that's not a time waster they may use the site for other things, I think once you get verified we can continue this debate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you need to start doing cross reference for the veries before you meet.

Its definitely time to give up swinging mate.

Its supposed to be fun , not hunt the new Mrs ffs.

Ive crossed referenced since i started...so I have to disagree.Ive had 'couples' interested me for years...I however find out from my community sources whos faking/timewasting it...

lots forget some people count strangers as friends and do talk to certain degrees..

its NOT fun having ur timewasted by someone who has the intent to mislead...a reason I dont leave the house unless I get some confirmation I know who I'm meeting, not fun for ppl booking hotel rooms etc, not fun losing out on other potential meets that u could be having on that nite instead.

But then...if ppl like to complain about failed meets..they havent did their homework nearly 100% of the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"O dear, at what point did i say they were timewasters? If somebody won't meet that's not a time waster they may use the site for other things, I think once you get verified we can continue this debate

You're right, that was an unnecessary assumption. Why would my being verified make any difference to this conversation?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're right, that was an unnecessary assumption. Why would my being verified make any difference to this conversation?"

It was a joke, hence the

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're right, that was an unnecessary assumption. Why would my being verified make any difference to this conversation?

It was a joke, hence the

Ah, I often ignore the little smileys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're right, that was an unnecessary assumption. Why would my being verified make any difference to this conversation?"

It was a joke, hence the

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're right, that was an unnecessary assumption. Why would my being verified make any difference to this conversation?

It was a joke, hence the

There's an echo in here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

because hardly any women have tickled my fancy in my ares and those that have werent interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"because hardly any women have tickled my fancy in my arse and those that have werent interested

sorry couldnt resist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"because hardly any women have tickled my fancy in my arse and those that have werent interested

sorry couldnt resist

fucker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dont think anything to be honest

Some people just havnt had the chance to meet

There are loads of guys who it may take longer than a year to find someone, that dont mean they dont want to meet just because they have yet to have the opportunity

Ive met lots of guys that have no verifications, we all had to start somewhere its just as a woman or couple its easier to start quicker, to me no verification does not always mean time waster"

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By *andS_GlasgowCouple
over a year ago

Giffnock

We havent had the opportunity to meet - through a mix of our Limited availability AND a couple of VERIFIED time wasters !!!!

Please contact us - when we make arrangements to meet - WE will be there !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...i've just been criticised for having too many verifications!!

....pfffft.

and one was mine.....how bloody rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What does everyone think about profiles that have been on here/joined more than a year ago but still have no verifications??

x"
took me ages to get decent veris but am now flying..turn down meets..it can be down to the nature of the site not nessesarily the authenticity of the guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I spent quite a long time on the site before I had a meet. Just enjoyed chatting to people and getting to know them before wanting to meet up. Got a couple of verifications now but nothing has changed regarding whether people will chat to me. Guess it has nothing to do with being verified and obviously just that I talk utter drivel lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The more and more I think about it, the less faith I have in the verification system. I was on a site a couple of years ago with no veri system and I am now on another in addition to Fabs - again with no veri system.

The somewhat surprising thing compared to Fabs is that members of the other two sites were far less 'cagey' about meeting in the first place. I have only been on the current other site for 8 days (did you read that single guys??? EIGHT days..) and I have had one meet, have another lined up for tomorrow and another mid-week.

Last nights was fine, I have been chatting by phone to the one tomorrow a few times and, again, all fine.

I am beginning to wonder if the veri system actually engenders an atmosphere of suspicion which really doesn't need to be there at all - and, indeed, shouldn't be.

As things stand, when I came back on here last week as a single guy (again... ahhhhhhh poor me!) I had to go back to a couple of our previous meets and ask if they would re-verify me now, which they kindly did. That was out of the need to 'justify' myself and, as I said earlier, that is something I am beginning to question....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am beginning to wonder if the veri system actually engenders an atmosphere of suspicion which really doesn't need to be there at all - and, indeed, shouldn't be."

Probably it does. We only see them as useful extras, judgements are only ever made on messages and phone calls.

The value that some place on them makes me laugh - they're time wasters, I'd pass them by, obviously not serious, part of the vetting, blah, blah, blah.

Makes me want to do the opposite to filter out all of those who sound like a lot of had work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on here ages, but most of the time, I've not used the site. Didn't start using it properly till the middle of last year, just looking for a first meet, that chance!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Could be lots of reasons for no veris in a year.

Or use the site to keep in touch with people they meet at clubs

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By *tressfreeMan
over a year ago

Northampton

"We immediately ask for a female to female chat, amazing how many couples can't find the female when that request is made "
that is so so true!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone has been on the site for over a year with no verifications the immediate reaction from us is ' no meets in a year ? '

That's before any conversation begins , and yes we are very wary indeed .

However , we are only here to meet - not to make friends or solely to use the forums .

So if the folk with no verifications are looking to meet there has to be a good reason for the lack of verifications or we simply won't even engage in chat with them .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone has been on the site for over a year with no verifications the immediate reaction from us is 'no meets in a year ?'"

.. But if you saw a profile with five glowing veris about meets, you wouldn't question it....... even though you would NOT know (as they can be withheld) that they may have had an additional FIFTY veris all of which say 'never go there with a barge pole!'

There are so many sides to the coin with the veri system, that I seriously think it's time for an overhaul or get rid of it all together. If it was the latter, it might force some people to become a bit better at asking the right questions before taking things further...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had crap behaviour from the verified and good meets from people with no veris. "/"

I couldn't agree more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes pork , it could be seen as a flawed system and we accept that . However the original question was our opinion on those who have been here for over a year with no verifications .

However flawed the system may be , there can be no excuse for anyone actively seeking meets to not even have a social meet in over a year can there ?

We all know there are folk on here who have no intention of ever meeting . At least the verification system allows us to know someone actually exists !!!

We actually love meeting newbies and are the first verification for them so it's not the be all and end all for us , but if we are meeting folk who have been on the site for over a year we expect at least one verification to see they are real .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just ignore. Yes a person who hasn't been verified can be just as good if not better than someone who has been but if they haven't met anyone in a year then it's unlikely you're going to find out just how good they are lol.

If you're lucky you might get to show them some pictures though pmsl

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all, thanks for your comment, we're finding them very interesting!!

Just to clear it up, this is about people that have been on more than a year but never been verified "ie no green tick on profile" If you've had one and the person has left, your profile still has the green tick this is also true if you've been verified but not displayed it. Surely if you've not actually met someone on here within a year, then you don't really want to so what is the point in being on here??

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all, thanks for your comment, we're finding them very interesting!!

Xxx"

We totally agree with you but now comes the 'here for the forums' or 'keeping up with friends' brigade and the inevitable 'have not found the right people' responses !

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I don't spend my time checking them out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surely if you've not actually met someone on here within a year, then you don't really want to so what is the point in being on here??

Xxx"

A) You can't assume that no verified meet within a year means they don't really WANT to meet. For example, it's not so easy for single guys to get their first meet, especially if they behave like gentlemen (not pushy) or are a bit nervous

B) As others have said, some people are "on here" but don't want to use Fab for meets, i.e the point of them being here is to chat, cam, keep in touch with friends from clubs, etc.

If you're here primarily to meet, and a year-plus unverified profile asks you for a meet, you're perfectly entitled to decline/delete. But those year-plus unverified people are entitled to use Fab, and very many of us welcome them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Surely if you've not actually met someone on here within a year, then you don't really want to so what is the point in being on here??

Xxx"

Have you read the whole thread? Several people have demonstrated that that's simply not true at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We totally agree with you but now comes the 'here for the forums' or 'keeping up with friends' brigade and the inevitable 'have not found the right people' responses !

Why should anyone meet people they don't want to just to get a verification?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We totally agree with you but now comes the 'here for the forums' or 'keeping up with friends' brigade and the inevitable 'have not found the right people' responses !

Why should anyone meet people they don't want to just to get a verification?"

Lol - if you can't find someone you want to meet in a year then there is no hope is there ?

Who said you had to meet someone you don't want to meet ?

And furthermore , if you want to show you are genuine you only need to have a social meet !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What does everyone think about profiles that have been on here/joined more than a year ago but still have no verifications??

We've been on and off the site a few times over the last year and so have lost previous verifications. We treat verifications with a pinch of salt and feel that it is better to 'bite the bullet' and meet someone face-to-face, if you are interested in them. There's no hiding place then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lol - if you can't find someone you want to meet in a year then there is no hope is there ?"

Why? Do you think all registered users come here every day desperately seeking a meet? Maybe some just come on once a week and don't think it's the end of the world if they don't get laid by the end of the night.

"Who said you had to meet someone you don't want to meet ?"

Scenario: I don't like talking on the phone and don't own a webcam. How would I get verified if I didn't meet someone? A fake verification?

"And furthermore , if you want to show you are genuine you only need to have a social meet !

Social meets are a great idea. But what if the people you've been talking to either insist on sex first meet or just don't 'feel' right?

As has been said numerous times in this thread, there could be any number of reasons a user could go a year without being verified.

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By *ll-Knight-longMan
over a year ago

Derby/Notts(Long Eaton)

I am not sure if I am real

I didn't have any verifications for a year........why

(1) I have a life

(2) I work long hours at nights and weekends and no fixed place in the country

(3) I am not pushy and didn't do meets as I also had non Fab friends

(4) I didn't meet

(5) I didn't add friends

(6) was getting use to being a single after swinging as a couple but still liked the forum friendships

(7) teenage children were going through A levels etc and helped them moving into new homes

AND FINALLY

I am self confident but not big headed yet people have said I am TOO good to be true......

Never judge a book by the cover

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all, thanks for your comment, we're finding them very interesting!!

Xxx"

Well, in our case, we are still waiting for the right person but that's because we don't want to 'play' with anything that breathes. In the meantime, we have each other, which, of course, is the best.

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

Verified what???

female / male

black / white

bi / straight

actually meets

is great between the sheets

Verifications are useless unless they meet certain criteria.

eg, verified by cam .... means they are a certain gender, thats all, it doesnt prove that they will actually turn up for a meet, all it means is that they turned their cam on and someone saw them.

Nothing in life is certain so just go with your gut feeling, arrange a meet if you feel its right.

One mans meat is another mans poison... etc .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all, thanks for your comment, we're finding them very interesting!!

Xxx

To clarify further, about 90% of the guys who contact us are doing it behind their partner's back. So the number of genuine guys is pretty small. We are not 'gagging' ... we are looking for genuine 'fun' and can take it or leave it. A year between 'meets' is not a problem for us.

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By *ady4ladyWoman
over a year ago

liverpool

"Hi all, thanks for your comment, we're finding them very interesting!!

Xxx

Refreshing. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I havent had any meets as of yet. So, dont have any meet verifications. I just have a lot of bad luck in getting meets.

This may be the year this changes..i dont know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also, from my point of view. No matter how genuine you may appear, you wont always get to have a meet. Even if it is for a social.

Its not easy getting a social meet either..i have made a lot of friends i would love to meet but with working two jobs, i cant always be travelling out of London.

Finding someone closer to home is harder than it seems. And i wouldnt just meet someone for the sake of meeting them. I like to have a laugh but some are just too serious here..so kind of puts me off. Im here to have a good time and if i wont be able to with your dry sense of humour, then its a no meet from me lol

...just realised, im quite picky arent i.

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By *ll-Knight-longMan
over a year ago

Derby/Notts(Long Eaton)

"Hi all, thanks for your comment, we're finding them very interesting!!

Xxx

The point is that I was taking time and patience to find how I felt and with limited contact possible only one message a week at that time ...I wasn't likely to chat let alone meet, I didn't have any means of uploading any new pics originally either but dint make me any less of a genuine person just ask the people that bothered to take time to find out about me...........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all, thanks for your comment, we're finding them very interesting!!

Xxx

Refreshing. x"

Never expected to get a nice reply .. thanks .. I have been hung, drawn and quartered over the last couple of weeks so your response is the first nice one we have had.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never expected to get a nice reply .. thanks .. I have been hung, drawn and quartered over the last couple of weeks so your response is the first nice one we have had. "

A lot of that has been of your own creation

but I agree with you 100% here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

they most surely r fake then we wudnt touch them with a barge pole

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never expected to get a nice reply .. thanks .. I have been hung, drawn and quartered over the last couple of weeks so your response is the first nice one we have had.

A lot of that has been of your own creation

but I agree with you 100% here."

Ha! I agree with you on all counts. Thank goodness not all of us are that sensitive! We feel that one has to be pretty thick-skinned on this site. We have had some pretty revolting messages but we don't whinge and whine.

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

i havent had any veri's in a year....mainly because i have hardly been playing....

i think in the last year i attended 2 clubs, and had some fun with a friend with benefits........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never expected to get a nice reply .. thanks .. I have been hung, drawn and quartered over the last couple of weeks so your response is the first nice one we have had.

A lot of that has been of your own creation

but I agree with you 100% here.

I'm not sure i understand. Are you saying someone has sent you an offensive private mail related to a forum post?

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By * n zCouple
over a year ago

leamington spa

"Hi all, thanks for your comment, we're finding them very interesting!!

Xxx

Great answer, and the same goes for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been on this site 8 months, but have not met anyone from here. We are also on another site and have a lot of feedback from couples and singles. Most of our friends are not on this site otherwise we would have asked them to give us feedback. So we had better start shagging the people on here otherwise we will be black listed?

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"What does everyone think about profiles that have been on here/joined more than a year ago but still have no verifications??

I think they are doing what they want to do and probably enjoying it too much to worry about what someone else is doing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont really mind whos on the site or how they use it, but when they put plans into action or start by contacting people, organizing things etc...if they fail on that...thats the wonder!

Its only the pretense that they are interested in meeting that puts me off, nothing else...use the site how they wish, just dont use peoples 'trusting' natures for self-amusement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It really doesn't matter does it ?

Some folk are on fab to swing and prefer to meet and verify each other , finding that is part of the joy of the scene .

Others prefer to remain more reserved , meet and are not bothered about verifications .

Some will play mainly at clubs or parties and use fab for keeping in touch , and finding out where and when the next party is on .

And some will just be here for the forums , and keeping up with friends in the scene .

All good , each to their own and no problem with all of the above

The only folk who are somewhat irksome are those who claim they are looking to meet , but in over a year have not found anyone suitable ! That is just a joke - is the fab community really so uninviting or so full of mingers that in over a year no one is suitable .

And the thinly veiled insults such as ' not going to sleep with anything that breathes ' is offensive to those of us that do enjoy meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It really doesn't matter does it ?

Some folk are on fab to swing and prefer to meet and verify each other , finding that is part of the joy of the scene .

Others prefer to remain more reserved , meet and are not bothered about verifications .

Some will play mainly at clubs or parties and use fab for keeping in touch , and finding out where and when the next party is on .

And some will just be here for the forums , and keeping up with friends in the scene .

All good , each to their own and no problem with all of the above

And the thinly veiled insults such as ' not going to sleep with anything that breathes ' is offensive to those of us that do enjoy meeting

Good post, and I think there's some merit to the thought that if you've been here a year, you'll have most likely found someone suitable. But that only applies to those who are here all the time. If you sign in once a week, have a quick scan and don't see anything that takes your fancy, you're unlikely to get to meet many people. Some people have 'real' lives that are simply too busy to allow a meet. As it happens, I have spoken to several people who I consider 'suitable' but haven't had chance to meet any of them as yet. That won't go on for a year, certainly, but that's the reason I'm currently unverified

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes , some valid points - ' real ' life has to be of paramount importance . We should know , we have a family business to run and a young family - fab is our ' drug ' of choice and we love it , but never at the expense of the real world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (Sten) have a single male profile so I can chat to Morrigan in the chatrooms what we are not together, I have no intention in getting verified on there. Should that profile get deleted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I (Sten) have a single male profile so I can chat to Morrigan in the chatrooms what we are not together, I have no intention in getting verified on there. Should that profile get deleted

Of course not !

I am sure that profile makes it perfectly clear why you are on it , as does your couple profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I (Sten) have a single male profile so I can chat to Morrigan in the chatrooms what we are not together, I have no intention in getting verified on there. Should that profile get deleted

Of course not !

I am sure that profile makes it perfectly clear why you are on it , as does your couple profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also avoid couples that have veries and are hosting parties.

They may well be only after your money, as others have found out

We hold parties and some of our verris are party guests, but we don't charge so aren't after money. !!!!

We tend to meet established friends who don't renew a verification anyway,

As for ops question, if a person has no verris after a year wouldnt worry to much as could be totally genuine and would talk on phone first anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...i've just been criticised for having too many verifications!!

....pfffft.

I must admit that too many veris puts me off cos to me if looks like the guy will have anyone but that's Just my point of view lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What does everyone think about profiles that have been on here/joined more than a year ago but still have no verifications??

x"
ive been on fab for a while, and as a single guy thought it was important to show my veris, to prove i was genuine trustworthy and good fun !!! then got told bcus i had so many veris, i was the sort of guy who would shag anything that moved

lost quite a few veris bcus of ladies and cpls leaving fab, not bcus of me lol enterprided the veris your own way ok ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was verified by a very good fb of mine. We have known each other for a very long time, but was once accused of me being the fb herself. Therefore it being said that the verification was fake. i dont care,as i still get to enjoy her whenever she can. Oh,because she is with a partner,does that mean she is fake because he is unaware?

There can be so many reasons as to why a person is unverified. including some who attend social gatherings. If your face dont fit,you aint getting the ticket to join the elite etc!

Yes...... There is a very big clique that exsists on here.

Do i care? No. because one day there will be a woman that actually uses her own judgement and common sense to find out more before taking the next step!

Would i meet an over a year unverified? Yes. i would take the trouble to correspond and get a feel for the persons genuineness!

Wait...... if i use the verification system to see who has been way too active,does that make me a fake,or just cautious?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What does everyone think about profiles that have been on here/joined more than a year ago but still have no verifications??

I think they haven't met someone who can or will verify them. The time span is inconsequential as if they were trying to hide anything they could easily delete every 12 weeks and put another profile up. The verification system is flawed frankly with the advent of smartphones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am not sure if I am real

I didn't have any verifications for a year........why

(1) I have a life

(2) I work long hours at nights and weekends and no fixed place in the country

(3) I am not pushy and didn't do meets as I also had non Fab friends

(4) I didn't meet

(5) I didn't add friends

(6) was getting use to being a single after swinging as a couple but still liked the forum friendships

(7) teenage children were going through A levels etc and helped them moving into new homes

AND FINALLY

I am self confident but not big headed yet people have said I am TOO good to be true......

Never judge a book by the cover

well said that man!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we're pretty rubbish swingers actually

used to do blind meets from here etc..but found it way to stressfull and too full of pitfalls..our faults? probably! way to laid back and non judgemental by far..got pissed off with unverified or not with lists of do's and don't, i like this, but i don't like that, my partner is the other way around, complicated?..you're choice sure..no problem with that...we just go out socially these days meet real people..great for testing the chemistry you know! oh and did we mention most we meet aren't on fab? Go out...meet real people...we just use here to keep in touch with our many swinging friends (no we don't shag em all)

If people write to us, wether verified or not..rather than wasting many hours at guessing games..we tell them where we're going out..come say hello there..then forget all about it..best verification system ever! The people that do our worth our time...the people that don't we don't even remember

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And moving slightly off-subject.... if anyone feels that they really NEED to be verified, then I would suggest going along to one of the organised socials or parties (see UK Forum or Parties and Meet Requests Forum, where the 'open to all' parties/socials are publicized).

If you go along to one of these get-togethers, intending just to be social, you're likely to meet several people who will give you a 'verified by meeting'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single guy it takes ages to get going ..took me over a year to get decent veris now im turning down meets...perserverance has its rewards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there probaly fake when it comes 2 couples the site is full of them cant understand why admin dont remove them

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By *quirrelMan
over a year ago

East Manchester

Maybe they had veris but the people have now left the site so their veris were deleted with them.

Verifications are not such a safeguard as people think, some guys like them because they get the attention they need to get more meets and have more sex, others don't want them for personal reasons,

There have been lots of complaints of people getting verifications in exchange for verifying someone else in return which makes a mockery of the whole system.

After all you can be given verifications but if you don't like what was written its up to you if you want it on your profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What does everyone think about profiles that have been on here/joined more than a year ago but still have no verifications??

Not our business some play and don't want verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on here a long time went away for a bit because I never met anyone came back still not met anyone but my pics are verified.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What does everyone think about profiles that have been on here/joined more than a year ago but still have no verifications??

If its a man I can understand why. They have no chance. .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can you get a loan from the bank with it or win the Euro millions?.....Have been on here for months but just don't fancy the offers I am getting I better wait till I get what am looking for rather than shag any kind of lady for veri. Don't get me wrong each to their own but some people give this veri alot than it's worth.....

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By *av1970Man
over a year ago

Tattershall

"Dont think anything to be honest

Some people just havnt had the chance to meet

There are loads of guys who it may take longer than a year to find someone, that dont mean they dont want to meet just because they have yet to have the opportunity

Ive met lots of guys that have no verifications, we all had to start somewhere its just as a woman or couple its easier to start quicker, to me no verification does not always mean time waster"

This

Been on here over a year, got a couple of verifications from attending social but only got my first 'meet' very this month

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can you get a loan from the bank with it or win the Euro millions?.....Have been on here for months but just don't fancy the offers I am getting I better wait till I get what am looking for rather than shag any kind of lady for veri. Don't get me wrong each to their own but some people give this veri alot than it's worth....."

If what you're saying is that you don't think verifications are important, then yes, I agree!

But if you're saying that you have to decline a lot of ladies who are:-

~a) desperate to shag you, and

~b) trying to tempt you by offering a verification as well as a shag ....

dream on!

Is it April Fool's day yet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If what you're saying is that you don't think verifications are important, then yes, I agree!

But if you're saying that you have to decline a lot of ladies who are:-

~a) desperate to shag you, and

~b) trying to tempt you by offering a verification as well as a shag ....

dream on!

Is it April Fool's day yet?"

It's not April fool's yet.... I don't think it's as important as some people make it look and what I meant was that I could get verified by shagging anything that moves but tend to wait for what I want and not just any kind of lady age, looks etc no disrespect to anyone but just as you ladies are picky some men are still picky too..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nowt wrong with being picky!

But you know, you can get verified WITHOUT shagging anyone! Check out my verifications from socials, and guess which 2 or 3 actually have 'carnal knowledge' of me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely spot on but some people just like to keep swinging separate from our private lives. I don't attend socials and don't intend to, just prefer a chat and see when the stream take us and I did stick to it.... Quite happy with that.

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By *amdenfunMan
over a year ago

London

We consider veris to be important for trust reasons - paranoid we might end up exchanging personal info/pictures with fakes. It's unfortunate for single guys, as not being verified in no way means they are fake, but it's just the way it is. (Though the rule can be broken.)

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

If what you're saying is that you don't think verifications are important, then yes, I agree!

But if you're saying that you have to decline a lot of ladies who are:-

~a) desperate to shag you, and

~b) trying to tempt you by offering a verification as well as a shag ....

dream on!

Is it April Fool's day yet?

Yep I bet there all just queuing up to give you the best sex n bj of your life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Also avoid couples that have veries and are hosting parties.

They may well be only after your money, as others have found out

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i dont understand what u meen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If what you're saying is that you don't think verifications are important, then yes, I agree!

But if you're saying that you have to decline a lot of ladies who are:-

~a) desperate to shag you, and

~b) trying to tempt you by offering a verification as well as a shag ....

dream on!

Is it April Fool's day yet?

Yep I bet there all just queuing up to give you the best sex n bj of your life

Yes

It does pay to wait and get the best of the best not just anything with a bra and knicker...

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By *eaverfeverCouple
over a year ago

nr Manchester

We have only 1 verification. Does not mean we are not genuine, got a tad fed up of arranging meets even booking hotel to be told cant make it! And that was from a couple who organise big parties with 110% reliable on profile. We have also hidden it as we know that it would prob put people off the fact that we havnt had many meets. Also not all people on here want to meet every other week. Nothing wrong with that. Anyway if you would like the chance to meet us in person(yes person) get your arses to swingfields in july. Big event of the year

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By *harliesteveCouple
over a year ago

selly oak

See I never bother with them, where as Steve reads them. And as he has found out in the past they are not always spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verified tick and photoverified is good. but I like written veris too - means I can look to see if they have verified the person who met them. I dont think its much to verify back but a lot of people dont. But then some dont post their veris either - so I try not to judge either way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What does everyone think about profiles that have been on here/joined more than a year ago but still have no verifications??

Try being a single guy in Norwich!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dont think anything to be honest

Some people just havnt had the chance to meet

There are loads of guys who it may take longer than a year to find someone, that dont mean they dont want to meet just because they have yet to have the opportunity

Ive met lots of guys that have no verifications, we all had to start somewhere its just as a woman or couple its easier to start quicker, to me no verification does not always mean time waster"

May be there's hope after all

Of course there is, it's a waiting game particularly for us single guys!

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