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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m interested in hearing People’s thoughts on this…

When playing as part of a mmf, I’m always in a bit conflict on who gets the most attention to begin with. Do I go for…

A) my husband (as he’s the one I care about)

B) our guest (to make them feel welcome and not left out)?

What do you guys think?

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge

It’s a difficult situation, but as you seem very secure from your photos etc I would suggest you do what you do naturally!

When I was playing with my partner, I liked to see her welcome our guest as it’s part of the fun. But share as much as possible.

It really different depending on the situation.

We weren’t cuck so to ignore the partner wouldn’t have worked.

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By *awty_MissDynomiteNo1Woman
over a year ago

No idea, I'm lost. Damn Sat nav!


"I’m interested in hearing People’s thoughts on this…

When playing as part of a mmf, I’m always in a bit conflict on who gets the most attention to begin with. Do I go for…

A) my husband (as he’s the one I care about)

B) our guest (to make them feel welcome and not left out)?

What do you guys think?"
Your partner should always be your main priority but if you do 50/50 then no one gets left out

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By *illynillyCouple
over a year ago

Wiltshire

For us, I generally start with the other guy... tend to concentrate on him more...me and hubby have all the time in the world and comfortable with each other so only feel its fair for the outsider

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By *onynickiCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

I start with the guest…….. Tony gets to reclaim me afterwards and he enjoys watching me with a new partner

N

Xx

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By *he Silver FuxMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter


"I’m interested in hearing People’s thoughts on this…

When playing as part of a mmf, I’m always in a bit conflict on who gets the most attention to begin with. Do I go for…

A) my husband (as he’s the one I care about)

B) our guest (to make them feel welcome and not left out)?

What do you guys think?"

Having been a guest a fair few times, the ‘beginning’ is often planned between the couple..also the roles - if it’s Stag and Vixen, the husband will often encourage his wife (take guest upstairs to get acquainted, perform in front of him etc.). Cuckolding is obvious.. guest gets the attention, Hotwives usually perform with the guest, showing off for the husband. I don’t know any husband that hasn’t LOVED watching the wife look after the third…Sometimes it’s equal attention though, the simultaneous “get your cocks out boys, I’m ready” takes away any need to focus on one or the other, the MM’s are going to work together as a team. I’d say that if I were with a couple for the first time as a guest and the husband got all the initial attention, I’d feel a little awkward unless it was part of a play scenario discussed in messages beforehand. If it’s a couple I knew already then it’s never a problem feeling left out… or left watching (Yes! Awesome!) The thing to remember is that a new guest will be feeling a little nervous, unsure of the couple dynamic and anxious about saying and doing the right thing. Looking after and making your guest ‘comfortable’ first will make the meet go so much better…

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By *illynillyCouple
over a year ago

Wiltshire


"I’m interested in hearing People’s thoughts on this…

When playing as part of a mmf, I’m always in a bit conflict on who gets the most attention to begin with. Do I go for…

A) my husband (as he’s the one I care about)

B) our guest (to make them feel welcome and not left out)?

What do you guys think?

Having been a guest a fair few times, the ‘beginning’ is often planned between the couple..also the roles - if it’s Stag and Vixen, the husband will often encourage his wife (take guest upstairs to get acquainted, perform in front of him etc.). Cuckolding is obvious.. guest gets the attention, Hotwives usually perform with the guest, showing off for the husband. I don’t know any husband that hasn’t LOVED watching the wife look after the third…Sometimes it’s equal attention though, the simultaneous “get your cocks out boys, I’m ready” takes away any need to focus on one or the other, the MM’s are going to work together as a team. I’d say that if I were with a couple for the first time as a guest and the husband got all the initial attention, I’d feel a little awkward unless it was part of a play scenario discussed in messages beforehand. If it’s a couple I knew already then it’s never a problem feeling left out… or left watching (Yes! Awesome!) The thing to remember is that a new guest will be feeling a little nervous, unsure of the couple dynamic and anxious about saying and doing the right thing. Looking after and making your guest ‘comfortable’ first will make the meet go so much better… "

Pretty much that

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By *amesnplanesMan
over a year ago

Banbridge

Surely the lady gets all the attention. I understand the comments regarding where the lady gives more attention to her long term partner or the friend for the night.

Maybe we need to look at this differently. The husband and the guests need to take turns to entertain, caress, tease and seduce the wife together!

Four hands and two heads are definitely better than two!

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By *loozytwozyCouple
over a year ago

Yeah there

For me (Mr F) I would rather Mrs concentrated more on our guest at first.

Athough that's not to say I would be, or feel excluded in any way. Just the sight of her being with someone else and getting pleasure from it, is a form of pleasure to me. I'm not speaking for all in this regard, but that's how it is for me/us. The whole experience of that other guy/girl being with us is for us both so be it by sight or physical touch, we are both involved.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We sometimes started things off with us two and inviting our guest to join in but Mr N has a voyeuristic streak and future meets would probably involve our guest being my main focus initially. I think eye contact with your partner keeps you connected anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I do naturally gravitate to the other guy first, with my husbands encouragement most of the time. But I’m usually thinking, shouldn’t my husband get the most attention

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By *oublesixesMan
over a year ago

Corby

If I were to be in this situation with my wife, I'd be encouraging her to give the other guy plenty of attention

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"I’m interested in hearing People’s thoughts on this…

When playing as part of a mmf, I’m always in a bit conflict on who gets the most attention to begin with. Do I go for…

A) my husband (as he’s the one I care about)

B) our guest (to make them feel welcome and not left out)?

What do you guys think?"

How about equality and go 50 50

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like when the guest gets it . I get plenty as is . So it’s more a buzz that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always start with the guest as my husband knows we can share each other whenever we want but our guest can’t except when we meet up

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By *eastJrMan
over a year ago

London

I would say they both should br focused on you, and your satisfaction. Theirs is important but comes after yours.

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By *illynillyCouple
over a year ago

Wiltshire


"I do naturally gravitate to the other guy first, with my husbands encouragement most of the time. But I’m usually thinking, shouldn’t my husband get the most attention "

Mfm is about you ...generally while I m pleasuring the other guy, my husband is pleasuring me, or watching or taking pictures.... we're there to enjoy another, certainly going to make the most of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guest! It's just polite!

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

In my experience its the "guest".

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

Generally, we have bi meets so everyone focuses on everyone..

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest

I would expect my wife to focus on the guest

I would join in when I was ready.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I the husband actually enjoys standing back a little to start with as I love watching the wife being undressed etc..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I got invited to play with a couple I'd love it for them to start playing together then be invited to join in but obviously that's entirely up to the couple how they would like it to play out as they have invited me into their circle

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By *handlerMonicaCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

In our limited experience, M likes to relax our guest first, it breaks the ice and things seem to flow nicely from there.

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By *ritIndianCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"I’m interested in hearing People’s thoughts on this…

When playing as part of a mmf, I’m always in a bit conflict on who gets the most attention to begin with. Do I go for…

A) my husband (as he’s the one I care about)

B) our guest (to make them feel welcome and not left out)?

What do you guys think?"

Husband as I’m sure the guest would be more than happy to have any sort of fun with you both

Mr

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By *immy0169Man
over a year ago

london

Can i be the guest…

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By *ieandteaseMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire


"I’m interested in hearing People’s thoughts on this…

When playing as part of a mmf, I’m always in a bit conflict on who gets the most attention to begin with. Do I go for…

A) my husband (as he’s the one I care about)

B) our guest (to make them feel welcome and not left out)?

What do you guys think?"

Guest every time, after all aren't you there to try the new cock? Even better if it's the bigger one x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Well I’m glad for the reassurance! I would thank you but I think our guest should thank you more on Saturday hahaha because I won’t be holding back! X

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames


"I’m interested in hearing People’s thoughts on this…

When playing as part of a mmf, I’m always in a bit conflict on who gets the most attention to begin with. Do I go for…

A) my husband (as he’s the one I care about)

B) our guest (to make them feel welcome and not left out)?

What do you guys think?"
first the guest, then the hubby, then the guest ... we find works x G & A

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By *helroyCouple
over a year ago

Skegness

wife all ways starts with the guest helps them settle in then i join in and we then do from there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m interested in hearing People’s thoughts on this…

When playing as part of a mmf, I’m always in a bit conflict on who gets the most attention to begin with. Do I go for…

A) my husband (as he’s the one I care about)

B) our guest (to make them feel welcome and not left out)?

What do you guys think?"

For us it’s the guest!

I prefer the guest getting the attention from J so he can just see how good she is at everything, I can it all the time, it’s only fair the guest experiences it completely and I get to watch and take part as and when, she gets the frill of a new guy. Everyone’s a winner

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By *irebrand 1263Man
over a year ago

near you

Lucky boys..which ever order they get attention

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By *elrose57Couple
over a year ago

reading

we do bestow our attentions on the guest most , there is never a time we are not doing something with him, our aim is to give him such a great time he will be looking forward to coming back well before his balls have had a chance to fill themselves up again

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By *incsladyandscotsmanCouple
over a year ago

North fife

My attention is usually more on the guest, I'm excited and turned on by a new 'cock' so naturally that's what I'm concentrating on..

However once I'm being fucked by the guest, my eyes are on Scotsman and that's when I become eager for him to join or take over..

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By *ngels and DevilsCouple
over a year ago

The South West

That’s the right answer

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By *inkycreamCouple
over a year ago

manchester

My partner always insists the guest or guest’s are given full attention not him.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"I’m interested in hearing People’s thoughts on this…

When playing as part of a mmf, I’m always in a bit conflict on who gets the most attention to begin with. Do I go for…

A) my husband (as he’s the one I care about)

B) our guest (to make them feel welcome and not left out)?

What do you guys think?"

Let me give it back to you in FFM FMF scenario, what would you do in this? And how would you expect the other half to behave?

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By *oneyandbearCouple
over a year ago

Dundee

As the hubby, and the fact I’ve reassured H, it’s more about the guest first… then all of us having fun

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By *orks and Scots girlCouple
over a year ago

leeds

It all depends on who our guests are.. if it’s a hot bi guy I let them start and join in later.. I love to watch bi guys..

If it’s a couple we all share and move around and amongst accordingly.. sometimes mm or ff but always end up in a tangle regardless X

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By *issyfaggotfayeTV/TS
over a year ago

Bolton

Definitely guest, hubby wants to see that then join in

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By *ansexualPandaMan
over a year ago

cumallover


"I’m interested in hearing People’s thoughts on this…

When playing as part of a mmf, I’m always in a bit conflict on who gets the most attention to begin with. Do I go for…

A) my husband (as he’s the one I care about)

B) our guest (to make them feel welcome and not left out)?

What do you guys think?"

Or, take the back seat and direct them with each other

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I would say providing you and your husband are perfectly secure then your guest. First on the point of hospitality and also on the practicality of making the most of having someone different while you have them.

However it kind of depends on the dynamic you have when you have others involved. And also one would assume if Husband is feeling a little left out from you he'd have the ability to suitably let you know anyway.

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley


"I’m interested in hearing People’s thoughts on this…

When playing as part of a mmf, I’m always in a bit conflict on who gets the most attention to begin with. Do I go for…

A) my husband (as he’s the one I care about)

B) our guest (to make them feel welcome and not left out)?

What do you guys think?"

When we have MFM threesomes I very often let the guy get more attention and step back here and there to ensure they get to go to town on Sammi as that’s one of the main draws. I’m seeing something fun too. Of course, in an MFM I want to be involved and enjoy my wife too but given I’m not playing with the guy, the two parts that get me off are knowing she is enjoying the attention from both and the fact that I’m watching her take someone else too.

If it’s an FMF, I’ll almost always fuck the other girl more than Sammi. She looks at it the same way I do with the MFM. We fuck damn near daily together so the dynamics change a bit with others involved.

I mean, it’s not cut and dried and is always flexible but generally we allow the third person that extra contact because we get each other constantly anyway. Works for us

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By *otwife and MasterCouple
over a year ago

Derby

Master will usually instruct me to make our guest comfortable first and then join in. For me the thrill is having both together, so two cocks in my mouth, fucklicking, DP, DVP both at the same time. If they both cum on me at the same time, that’s the icing on the cake!

HW x

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By *ophie199Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

It’s always B for me, I can play with hubby anytime when there’s someone different in the room he’s getting most of my attention!!

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

(Mr)

As the man of the couple I get a massive turn on watching Miss with another man, I get to play too and reclaim is lots of fun, but seeing her totally go nuts with someone is awesome

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By *unandcuriousCouple
over a year ago

Antrim

shud always be B as hubby and wife can play anytime

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By *uriousblondwifeCouple
over a year ago

wickford

Def guest first, the polite thing to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think both should get plenty of attention, guest should go first though right? That’s polite?

Mr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The wife gets all the attention and the guest always has priority in our situation

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