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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Any way of getting noticed more this is all new to me

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I just sent you a message so you can’t say you don’t get any messages

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By *rozac_fairyCouple
over a year ago

tamworth


"Any way of getting noticed more this is all new to me "

I do most of the messaging as Hubs works night during the week so sleeps in the day.

This is how I decide whether to reply or not...

1. No profile pic, no reply

2. Not photo veried on the site, no reply

3. No info in the bio about what you're looking for, no reply

4. No photos or just dick pics available, no reply

5. If a message is just "hey", "wanna meet" etc, no reply

It's all about how the profile sells itself to me, that's my first impression. If it looks incomplete or lazy, like no effort was put in, I don't see why I should put any of my own effort into that person.

The first message itself is also important, if it's not a proper introduction, with a little about yourself and then you demonstrating you've read our profile and feel we may have things in common then I'm not interested. I want to know what you're looking for, whether you're interesting in a social/club meet/private meet. What experience you have to a degree, as in if you've been in the community for long, maybe have done this with an ex and what not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gotta wear a clowns outfit on here

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Personally I wouldn't reply, no profile pic and only one pic of your cock, impossible to see if there's any attraction.

Your bio doesn't say anything about yourself, what your looking for, what you have to offer, no hints at your personality.

There's zero to go on.

Get some better pics, body shots etc, write your bio - you can't expect effort back when you put none in, take a look at some other guys profiles and see what they do

Good luck

Mrs

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By *winging Sally SeanCouple
over a year ago

Warks / Northants Border


"Any way of getting noticed more this is all new to me "

Ask yourself what you are expecting others to notice...

What stands out from your profile, when compared against others?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still struggle to get messages, or even a reply to messages

I have pictures, info in my bio

Possible just not attractive enough is my thoughts

But I shall keep trying

If anyone has any suggestions on what would make my profile better I would love to hear the suggestions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t get many either OP. We should go on strike or something.

Jokes aside I don’t know what the solution is. Be a woman I guess.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Are you sending any messages out op?

We don't get many messages. A lot of it is our age and I guess that will be part of your problem too.

Have a think about what attracts you to a profile and apply it to your own.

Good luck

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By *helovesitwetCouple
over a year ago

brighton

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any way of getting noticed more this is all new to me "

A public raindance will defo get you noticed

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By *helovesitwetCouple
over a year ago

brighton

you have narrowed yourswlf down too much ..no face photo loses 20% of intrest smoker loses 50% intrest no body photo 5% you only want 40 and under another 20% you cannot accomadate meaning you are trying to find a lady comfortable enough to let a complete stranger into thier home ..good luck you are going to need it]

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By *exySunshine83Woman
over a year ago

Livingston


"you have narrowed yourswlf down too much ..no face photo loses 20% of intrest smoker loses 50% intrest no body photo 5% you only want 40 and under another 20% you cannot accomadate meaning you are trying to find a lady comfortable enough to let a complete stranger into thier home ..good luck you are going to need it]"

Glad you brought up the smoker bit,

I've had a few meets believing the guy to be a non smoker only to discover he is actually a smoker. I get why...instant interest decrease...but as a smoker I'd prefer to know so I can have my 3 guilt free fags to dampen the nerves before a meet.

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By *oodsman1000Man
over a year ago

Hereford

At least you're getting messages on here, it's a start.The only messages I get are from single men and on my profile I clearly state, I do not meet single men..

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By *ack 500Man
over a year ago

stafford

Suck it up and get used to it !!

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By *oodsman1000Man
over a year ago

Hereford

Yep, get used to it, maybe send more messages..

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By *iredhandMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Any way of getting noticed more this is all new to me "

Go to a local social or club. See Forums for information.

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By *armwifeCouple
over a year ago

lincoln


"Any way of getting noticed more this is all new to me

I do most of the messaging as Hubs works night during the week so sleeps in the day.

This is how I decide whether to reply or not...

1. No profile pic, no reply

2. Not photo veried on the site, no reply

3. No info in the bio about what you're looking for, no reply

4. No photos or just dick pics available, no reply

5. If a message is just "hey", "wanna meet" etc, no reply

It's all about how the profile sells itself to me, that's my first impression. If it looks incomplete or lazy, like no effort was put in, I don't see why I should put any of my own effort into that person.

The first message itself is also important, if it's not a proper introduction, with a little about yourself and then you demonstrating you've read our profile and feel we may have things in common then I'm not interested. I want to know what you're looking for, whether you're interesting in a social/club meet/private meet. What experience you have to a degree, as in if you've been in the community for long, maybe have done this with an ex and what not."

That!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When in life nothing makes sense. Have a talk to oneself.

The answer is right there,yet we all or most sewk validation externally.

We have been taught and misinformed from childhood.

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