FabSwingers.com forum: Is the ‘art’ of conversation dead?

By *orthernJay OP Man
over a year ago

LHR

A very happy Tuesday to you all, wherever you are!

The last four unsolicited messages I’ve received from couples, post a wink or a quick hello from them, were all variations of “show us your cock”, “show us your face” or both!

I know what we’re all here for but surely you’d want to spend naked time with people you have even the slightest connection to physically, intellectually or emotionally; or am I solo in dreamland here!?!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Everyone on here wants different things, some want more social and a connection others want a quick fuck and go.

If these aren't your kind of people then block, delete or give a polite thanks but no thanks.

I ask for face pics early on because I need an attraction and my time is precious, I won't waste endless messages just to say no sorry your not for me a week or two later, it gets awkward by that point.

Good luck in finding what your looking for.

Mrs

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By *ymbunnyfitCouple
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Totally agree with this , we get the hi or how are you. Then it's when can we meet or show me your pussy!! No conversation at all really xx

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Considering I was never big on small talk, it was always dead for me.

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By *ilk and all things niceTV/TS
over a year ago

secret bunker

I hope it’s not !! Getting to know someone creates that sexual tension snd desire for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

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By *uHorny1Man
over a year ago

Cannock

I like to think I'm a pretty fluent conversationalist, so when a woman's profile asks for more than "How are you", it's really frustrating when you make an effort with a message only to be met with a reply of "Hi" or similar.

It works both ways ladies...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although almost all of us are on the site for fuckery, think everyone's approach is different.

Some people don't mind not having an attraction or connection with the people they play with.

The shortest message we have received was a simple "x"

In answer to your question, think for a lot of people the art of conversation has been lost

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Everyone on here wants different things, some want more social and a connection others want a quick fuck and go.

If these aren't your kind of people then block, delete or give a polite thanks but no thanks.

Good luck in finding what your looking for.

Mrs "

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there’s a few reasons for the lack on conversation on fab, primarily because most men are busy with one of their hands while on here but secondly it’s a lot of effort to write customised messages and maintain conversations with people on here who may not be interested in your or ever want to meet you.

I can’t justify writing long ass messages when 95% of them are ignored (which is fine, fab is partly a numbers game).

That being said, once a connection has been found through winks, short messages etc then it’s time to talk properly..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the opening message is a good window to see if there's any attraction. But as others have said, if ya horny you don't want lots of chat!

If I'm slightly interested I will take a gander at their profile to see if that is nicely written.

Op the types of messages that annoy you maybe a good indication you wouldn't want to meet those people?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A very happy Tuesday to you all, wherever you are!

The last four unsolicited messages I’ve received from couples, post a wink or a quick hello from them, were all variations of “show us your cock”, “show us your face” or both!

The fine art of flirt,language communication has far eroded,because of the text,apps era.

We all or most would like or seeking play etc.

But some sort of healthy inter action has to happen mentally before the meeting in the flesh.

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By *orthernJay OP Man
over a year ago

LHR

"I think the opening message is a good window to see if there's any attraction. But as others have said, if ya horny you don't want lots of chat!

If I'm slightly interested I will take a gander at their profile to see if that is nicely written.

Op the types of messages that annoy you maybe a good indication you wouldn't want to meet those people? "

Absolutely correct, the conversation with said couples ended at that point! Perhaps many want a walking and none talking dildo but I’m personally not that desperate to get laid!

Each to their own!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that the longer I'm on fab, the longer I appreciate good conversation. Having that connection before a meet makes all the difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Totally agree with this , we get the hi or how are you. Then it's when can we meet or show me your pussy!! No conversation at all really xx"

Mad heh and the ones who engage are told. We dont want to socialise with you or connect. Its only sex. Then damand pics so they can be selective where to place you on the mantle Box yet not send their own picture for being judged as they are doing so.

Id rather do a approach in the flesh,it is what what it is.

But much more is going on in the human Brain,it learned Biases!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like to think I'm a pretty fluent conversationalist, so when a woman's profile asks for more than "How are you", it's really frustrating when you make an effort with a message only to be met with a reply of "Hi" or similar.

It works both ways ladies..."

Its very real,esp on apps.

I keep saying there is much more going on in the brain,that many wont and cant admit.

The show goes on

Change yoursef for the better daily and let others gravitate towards ypu. If not let them carry on so.

Peace.

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