FabSwingers.com forum: Polite no thanks

By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

So I do generally send a polite no thank you when people message, well to those who read the profile anyway.

There seems to be an influx after the no thanks of supplying extra pics in the hope it changes our minds, it does baffle me a little, if I've said no thank you then a tit pic won't change that.

Has anyone else had this? It comes across very well hears what your missing kinda thing, would you continue to send photos after a no thank you?

Mrs

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By *umalotagainMan
over a year ago

a town called malice

A polite no thanks would be lovely, but I fully understand most women and couple on here get bombarded by messages

But what you are saying about a load of messages and pictures after the no thanks is probably the thing that makes it less likely that people will send the polite no thanks message

As they say you have one chance to make a first impression so surely they should have sent the pictures before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had this. In a few occasions I eventually had to block them. What unsettles me is not the persistence it’s that they can’t take no for an answer on a message. So unlikely to respect others boundaries in person.

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By *ussle SproutMan
over a year ago

the middle

After a no thank you I wish them all the best, delete all messages and forget about them.

If the pictures on my profile and any i send aren’t what they are looking for I have no desire to try to change someone’s mind.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

I don’t get too many messages so I used to send a polite “no thanks” messages to those who appeared sane enough for me to respond but yes, it usually followed with an implicit picture that feels like look what you’re missing out on

so yes, it is a thing.

Now I resorted to blocking everyone I think we’re not compatible with, it really makes the difference.

Harsh? Maybe. But it works for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We try to give a polite no thanks but sometimes we just delete as they obviously haven’t bothered reading the profile and yes , the follow up photos quite often do arrive along with another message which is then ignored

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By *evonrobMan
over a year ago

Kingsbridge

If someone is nice enough to say thanks but no thanks I reckon that’s good enough. It’s a large site, take the hit guys and move on, why be a dick?!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I’ve had this. In a few occasions I eventually had to block them. What unsettles me is not the persistence it’s that they can’t take no for an answer on a message. So unlikely to respect others boundaries in person. "

This is exactly my thinking of they can't respect a no then they are unlikely to respect much else.

It does make me wonder if flashing tits after a no has ever changed anyone's mind.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People say no thanks to me before I've even messaged them

But yeah, I think some are a tad delusional in thinking that if they keep messaging it will change.....

No means no

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By *ink and inkedCouple
over a year ago

Essex

"So I do generally send a polite no thank you when people message, well to those who read the profile anyway.

There seems to be an influx after the no thanks of supplying extra pics in the hope it changes our minds, it does baffle me a little, if I've said no thank you then a tit pic won't change that.

Has anyone else had this? It comes across very well hears what your missing kinda thing, would you continue to send photos after a no thank you?

Mrs "

Happens all the time

I like to politely decline but as doom ax you reply they are on it again

Like it gives the green light to message again

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By *hrimper36Couple
over a year ago

Central France dept 36

"So I do generally send a polite no thank you when people message, well to those who read the profile anyway.

There seems to be an influx after the no thanks of supplying extra pics in the hope it changes our minds, it does baffle me a little, if I've said no thank you then a tit pic won't change that.

Has anyone else had this? It comes across very well hears what your missing kinda thing, would you continue to send photos after a no thank you?

Mrs "

No never but we never send a first message so a no thank you isn’t really a thing.

It’s not an ego thing it’s a living in the middle of no where thing but honestly most of the men that get aa no thank you reply with a thank you.

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

I have been here so long that I am brutal.

If I am not interested I just block and delete the thread. I can’t be bothered to read why someone believes that they can change my mind.

Plus once blocked they can’t message me again when they have forgotten I ignored them in the first place.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

I can just imagine all the single guys reading this thread and taking away the wrong message. “Why does nobody ever send *me* desperate tit pics?”

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By *ebauchedDeviantsPt2Couple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Think of the vast majority of single men on here like puppies, they are desperate for attention and will take even a negative as a positive. The polite no they got from you is likely the only interaction they have had from a woman on here in months. Before the #notallmen brigade start, yes we are aware it’s not all men but it’s enough to make any potential interaction a thing to worry about.

TLDR? We know why men behave like this but that doesn’t mean we should feel compelled to interact. Make your message worth reading and you’ll get a response, even if it is a no. Keep pestering after the polite no and you will earn a block.

Don’t make an effort in your first message (cut & paste is not an effort) and you won’t get a response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had our first real idiot yesterday. He sent 2 messages last week, on the second one we replied with a very polite ‘sorry we are looking for girls and couples only’ he sent one back saying his girlfriend is there with him. I called him out and asked why he is on a single male profile then? He responded with a picture of a girls bum. We didn’t really go on here much over the weekend so didn’t see his message and when we did he had replied with a horrible comment about Mrs. A few clearly ruin it for the many.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought no thank you meant you wanted to see the next photo I had until you said "yes please miss"

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By *JtheTomMan
over a year ago

London

I always try to explain why when I'm saying no thanks. Appreciate that this may not be feasible for those who get 100s messages every day

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

Just ignore. No one listens on here anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I receive a polite "no thanks", then I'll politely thank them for a reply, wish them well, and move on. If somebody has made their mind up, it's not my place to then bombard them with pics/messages to try change it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like op, always to those that have read profile and at times those that have read it when I have told them to read it.

On our profile its easy to tell who has and had not read our profile

Most take the polite rejection well as they should as it saves all wasted time

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By *rlandoMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

There's the facility on here, it s called the block button !! It's easy to use, after you send a polite no thanks , USE IT

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By *onicZMan
over a year ago

Nottinghamshire

"If I receive a polite "no thanks", then I'll politely thank them for a reply, wish them well, and move on. If somebody has made their mind up, it's not my place to then bombard them with pics/messages to try change it."

Totally agree with this. If someone's actually taken the time to look at my profile and decide I'm not for them then that's not an invitation to try and change their mind.

At the end of the day, no means no and that's that. At least they were kind enough to say no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There's the facility on here, it s called the block button !! It's easy to use, after you send a polite no thanks , USE IT"

Or you could just take a hint when someone politely says no thank you and not be an idiot about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally agree with this. If someone's actually taken the time to look at my profile and decide I'm not for them then that's not an invitation to try and change their mind.

At the end of the day, no means no and that's that. At least they were kind enough to say no thanks. "

We do block but only after they send the 3r/4th message. I have no problem as I manage the acount and am strong minded and now who to chat/short list and who not

I block ASAP those that say stuff like "free tonight.. at hotel.. you want to meet etc"

Most will take the rejcection well and thank us for being honest

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By *JtheTomMan
over a year ago

London

I think the very least deleting the message should be the way to confirm the lack of intrest. Opening and leaving I can see how people may follow up on the uncertainty with another message.

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By *nonymous95-2Woman
over a year ago

Northwich

I use to send "no thanks" type messages but the abuse or convincing from some people reduced the number of people I reply too. I tend to only reply no thanks now to those who made it clear they read my bio and crafted a decent message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I get a polite no thanks reply I most certainly wouldn't dream of sending anymore messages, it's just rude and disrespectful

Obviously your just not for them end of

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

Mansfield

We always send a polite no thanks to those that have read the profile but not for us.

Those that haven't.

NADDA

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I use to send "no thanks" type messages but the abuse or convincing from some people reduced the number of people I reply too. I tend to only reply no thanks now to those who made it clear they read my bio and crafted a decent message. "

Look at it like this, you have ed out the bs. I often asking probing questions, and it's easy to see who gets wound up easily and then a polite no and a block

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"There's the facility on here, it s called the block button !! It's easy to use, after you send a polite no thanks , USE IT"

Shouty?! I shouldn't have to, I don't expect to be bombarded with pics after a polite no thank you.

Mrs

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By *eard and BoobsCouple
over a year ago

Portstewart

Yea it honestly feels that the person has a tendency to act desperate when this happens and usually they end up getting blocked unfortunately

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I thought no thank you meant you wanted to see the next photo I had until you said "yes please miss"

Haha it does seem to be the case, as nice as the boobs were it was still a no

I had one I told she was too young this was years ago she sent like 40 pics and actually said this is what your missing out on, kinda just proved my point about the maturity levels.

Mrs

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Yea it honestly feels that the person has a tendency to act desperate when this happens and usually they end up getting blocked unfortunately "

It's annoying isn't it, people moan they don't get a no thank you and get ignored but you give the no thanks and get bombarded, it kind of feels not worth it.

Mrs

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Think of the vast majority of single men on here like puppies, they are desperate for attention and will take even a negative as a positive. The polite no they got from you is likely the only interaction they have had from a woman on here in months. Before the #notallmen brigade start, yes we are aware it’s not all men but it’s enough to make any potential interaction a thing to worry about.

Don’t make an effort in your first message (cut & paste is not an effort) and you won’t get a response."

To be honest we get this most from women, men usually accept the no generally well but as we aren't looking for men they haven't a choice.

Mrs

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

Any messages that have more than hi and such like we try to reply to them all. The shorter the message the shorter the reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes a few time ,after another no thank you ,I just don't reply again then some get arsy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive noticed some people will persistently make contact until i reply ‘no thanks, not interested’. Surely me not responding to the first 15 messages, 2 winks and 3 friend requests was hint enough that i wasn't interested….

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

I found when I said no interest / not for me I either got an abusive transphobic retort or the person / s just started begging / telling me I am wrong on not meeting them

Both are retarded so ignored

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"So I do generally send a polite no thank you when people message, well to those who read the profile anyway.

There seems to be an influx after the no thanks of supplying extra pics in the hope it changes our minds, it does baffle me a little, if I've said no thank you then a tit pic won't change that.

Has anyone else had this? It comes across very well hears what your missing kinda thing, would you continue to send photos after a no thank you?

Mrs "
tit pics lol you're turning down women with a polite no thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's my thinking too.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"So I do generally send a polite no thank you when people message, well to those who read the profile anyway.

There seems to be an influx after the no thanks of supplying extra pics in the hope it changes our minds, it does baffle me a little, if I've said no thank you then a tit pic won't change that.

Has anyone else had this? It comes across very well hears what your missing kinda thing, would you continue to send photos after a no thank you?

Mrs tit pics lol you're turning down women with a polite no thanks

Yes believe it or not I don't sleep with every woman who messages

Mrs

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I always take a 'No thanks' as its intended and not pester her/them again.

Saying that - I may thank them for taking the time to reply.

Unless the reply is 'fuck off fatty'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I do generally send a polite no thank you when people message, well to those who read the profile anyway.

There seems to be an influx after the no thanks of supplying extra pics in the hope it changes our minds, it does baffle me a little, if I've said no thank you then a tit pic won't change that.

Has anyone else had this? It comes across very well hears what your missing kinda thing, would you continue to send photos after a no thank you?

Mrs "

Id rather get no message of no thanks. I understand silence as not interested. I move on and dont bother.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"So I do generally send a polite no thank you when people message, well to those who read the profile anyway.

There seems to be an influx after the no thanks of supplying extra pics in the hope it changes our minds, it does baffle me a little, if I've said no thank you then a tit pic won't change that.

Has anyone else had this? It comes across very well hears what your missing kinda thing, would you continue to send photos after a no thank you?

Mrs

Id rather get no message of no thanks. I understand silence as not interested. I move on and dont bother. "

Unfortunately not many see silence as the polite no thank you it's ment to be, they'll repeat send until you reply or block.

Plus so many posts on forums saying "how hard is it to say no thanks" so I try be polite I guess.

Can't please everyone

Mrs

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By *nonymous95-2Woman
over a year ago

Northwich

Look at it like this, you have ed out the bs. I often asking probing questions, and it's easy to see who gets wound up easily and then a polite no and a block"

Completely agree that they show themselves quite early on, it's a good filter, but it gets a bit much when it becomes constant. I think your approach is a great approach. It determines compatibility very quickly.

I'm quite lucky that I don't get loads of messages anymore, but I also think that because my block list is almost full.

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

The problem is that for some a polite thanks, but no thanks, makes them go shit or bust. At that point they have nothing to lose, so might as well chance their arm. If they do, the appropriate response at that point is the block button.

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By *hilr1680Man
over a year ago

carlisle

I like it when get the no thanks I no we’re I stand n leave it x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I experimented with polite no thanks.

I got a hell of a lot more abuse, whining (but whyyyyy) or attempts to manipulate me to change my mind.

I can see why people do it, in other circumstances I'd prefer to do it, but my experience has taught me not to bother.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

No chance we're ever replying "thanks but not interested". Too many on here have had abusive massages, they go from being sexy to a fat derogatory word. No reply is all that's needed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look at it like this, you have ed out the bs. I often asking probing questions, and it's easy to see who gets wound up easily and then a polite no and a block

I'm quite lucky that I don't get loads of messages anymore, but I also think that because my block list is almost full."

Thank you. Today, we've had laods, many just loggged on within the last few days and many just post several words and not even lie about reading profile - I just ignore or block so not to be pstered again

If you are a couple or a lady here - test them with probing, meanfing questions imo and those not genuine or pushy etc will soon show their colur and blank.

We have come across several really nice guys but all far away but we are hoping to meet one on the south coast and will contact the guy when we have booked

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By *ouple-perthCouple
over a year ago

Perth

We get it on occasion but not as much as some of you.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"We get it on occasion but not as much as some of you."

Not even cake or bacon butty messages?

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By *ouple-perthCouple
over a year ago

Perth

"We get it on occasion but not as much as some of you.

Not even cake or bacon butty messages?

I don't mind those.....you've never sent any though.

My wife may be interested from a single guy not so much.

Can't/won't/don't read profiles are the most annoying

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By *innerforthreeMan
over a year ago

London/herts

"The problem is that for some a polite thanks, but no thanks, makes them go shit or bust. At that point they have nothing to lose, so might as well chance their arm. If they do, the appropriate response at that point is the block button."

Fair enough, I get that, it's a bit like answering spam email, it then guarantees a deluge....but as you say that's what the block button is for.

But reading the stories on here, rather lose hope in your fellow man. Perhaps a new verification button is needed....the not a delusional twat single chap?

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By *ouple-perthCouple
over a year ago

Perth

Fair enough, I get that, it's a bit like answering spam email, it then guarantees a deluge....but as you say that's what the block button is for.

But reading the stories on here, rather lose hope in your fellow man. Perhaps a new verification button is needed....the not a delusional twat single chap?"

Lol, like a good guy or top bloke badge?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

Fair enough, I get that, it's a bit like answering spam email, it then guarantees a deluge....but as you say that's what the block button is for.

But reading the stories on here, rather lose hope in your fellow man. Perhaps a new verification button is needed....the not a delusional twat single chap?"

I do find it a little strange most have presumed these message I made the post about are from men when it's actually the women.

Mrs

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By *innerforthreeMan
over a year ago

London/herts

Fair enough, I get that, it's a bit like answering spam email, it then guarantees a deluge....but as you say that's what the block button is for.

But reading the stories on here, rather lose hope in your fellow man. Perhaps a new verification button is needed....the not a delusional twat single chap?

I do find it a little strange most have presumed these message I made the post about are from men when it's actually the women.

Mrs "

Now I'm confused....you are saying you get a shed load of abuse from single women?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t understand what people think they have to gain by sending abuse after they’ve been rejected. By sending abuse, they’re only confirming that the initial decision of ‘no thanks’ is correct.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

Fair enough, I get that, it's a bit like answering spam email, it then guarantees a deluge....but as you say that's what the block button is for.

But reading the stories on here, rather lose hope in your fellow man. Perhaps a new verification button is needed....the not a delusional twat single chap?

I do find it a little strange most have presumed these message I made the post about are from men when it's actually the women.

Mrs

Now I'm confused....you are saying you get a shed load of abuse from single women?!"

I wouldn't say abuse, I give the no thank you, I get bombarded with pics of look what your missing..... It seems rather childish and a little strange, I've already said no thanks another tit pic isn't going to change my mind.

Mrs

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

OP I can imagine you are inundated with offers from men, women, couples all the time. You are high profile and really, really good looking.

But.

No means no, the sooner people get that the better.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"We get it on occasion but not as much as some of you.

Not even cake or bacon butty messages?

I don't mind those.....you've never sent any though.

My wife may be interested from a single guy not so much.

Can't/won't/don't read profiles are the most annoying

Mine is bloody stupid, but.....

I don't like to be a pest, so don't message much.

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By *iredhandMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"I don’t understand what people think they have to gain by sending abuse after they’ve been rejected. By sending abuse, they’re only confirming that the initial decision of ‘no thanks’ is correct. "

But you’re not taking into consideration the sense of entitlement and fragile egos of some of the people on fab. We should be grateful they have graced fab with their presence and any woman/man/couple fortunate enough to be contacted by them should jump at the chance of meeting and experiencing the ultimate in sexual pleasure!

The alternative is to block them.

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By *innerforthreeMan
over a year ago

London/herts

Fair enough, I get that, it's a bit like answering spam email, it then guarantees a deluge....but as you say that's what the block button is for.

But reading the stories on here, rather lose hope in your fellow man. Perhaps a new verification button is needed....the not a delusional twat single chap?

I do find it a little strange most have presumed these message I made the post about are from men when it's actually the women.

Mrs

Now I'm confused....you are saying you get a shed load of abuse from single women?!

Mrs "

I didn't realise you are high profile, fab royalty!

I hope I've shown the appropriate level of respect!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly from experience a polite no thank you can become pretty nasty. A dented ego can be pretty horrible to deal with. Insults, abuse etc. It's just not worth it. While I know this is not what all people would do, the times it has happened has really put me off.

For that reason I tend to just ignore

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By *y the seaCouple
over a year ago

guernsey

we also get a few "look at what you'r missing" seems a bit needy to us and most of them are form guys tbh, suppose that's because we don't have many mr pics up.

I dose put us of saying thanks but no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This all sounds so familiar, we recieve a message, we reply with a polite 'no thank-you' then in most cases, a barrage of messages with "why not" or if someone messages from the other end of the country "we'll come to you" or "i know where Burland is, it's only a small place, which road are you on" despite it being very clear on our profile about distance ffs.....

Not long after, the abusive messages flood in, so only one option = BLOCK!! Why do people have to be so nasty?

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"OP I can imagine you are inundated with offers from men, women, couples all the time. You are high profile and really, really good looking.

But.

No means no, the sooner people get that the better."

Thank you that's really kind, however we really aren't inundated.

I think I'm just going to stop replying the no thanks and ignore.

Mrs

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

Fair enough, I get that, it's a bit like answering spam email, it then guarantees a deluge....but as you say that's what the block button is for.

But reading the stories on here, rather lose hope in your fellow man. Perhaps a new verification button is needed....the not a delusional twat single chap?

I do find it a little strange most have presumed these message I made the post about are from men when it's actually the women.

Mrs

Now I'm confused....you are saying you get a shed load of abuse from single women?!

Mrs

I didn't realise you are high profile, fab royalty!

I hope I've shown the appropriate level of respect!"

Excuse me? I'm not sure if that's a sarcastic response if so there's no need, if not no one is fab royalty I hate that term we are all here for the same thing, there's no one any better than anyone else here.

Mrs

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

"OP I can imagine you are inundated with offers from men, women, couples all the time. You are high profile and really, really good looking.

But.

No means no, the sooner people get that the better.

Thank you that's really kind, however we really aren't inundated.

I think I'm just going to stop replying the no thanks and ignore.

Mrs "

The fact you even replied "no thanks" at all says the kind of people you are, polite, kind and caring. Combine that with sexy, that's why you are in high demand, people recognise that.

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By *ewsexycplCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

We do try to reply to everyone and generally people are really nice but occasionally you do get the odd one or two who keeps sending us pics after we have politely declined

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody ever messages me.... So hard to comment

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Kinda understanding why my polite "that's fine and thank you for replying" rarely gets read - if folks are being bombarded with pics/pleas/vitriol I can see why.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would honestly say I am a guy that falls into the solid 7 range, some think I’m nice others don’t. Life is such.

If I get a polite no thanks, which happened the other day, I do reply with a short email stating that I appreciated the email, say the world would be dull if we all liked the same thing and wish them well. I then, as I do with the odd dm that is deleted without a response, is use the private notes feature. Put a line that I was not their type or the dm wasn’t responded to and then I don’t contact them again.

That being said, I have had a few reach back out to me over time asking to meet….and I’ve politely said no thanks.

You have to hold respect for others here, they are allowed to say no if and when they want to. There’s never any need for people to be arseholes to each other,

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By *innerforthreeMan
over a year ago

London/herts

Fair enough, I get that, it's a bit like answering spam email, it then guarantees a deluge....but as you say that's what the block button is for.

But reading the stories on here, rather lose hope in your fellow man. Perhaps a new verification button is needed....the not a delusional twat single chap?

I do find it a little strange most have presumed these message I made the post about are from men when it's actually the women.

Mrs

Now I'm confused....you are saying you get a shed load of abuse from single women?!

Mrs

I didn't realise you are high profile, fab royalty!

I hope I've shown the appropriate level of respect!

Mrs "

Apologies was meant to be a jokey comment that didn't come out right.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

Fair enough, I get that, it's a bit like answering spam email, it then guarantees a deluge....but as you say that's what the block button is for.

But reading the stories on here, rather lose hope in your fellow man. Perhaps a new verification button is needed....the not a delusional twat single chap?

I do find it a little strange most have presumed these message I made the post about are from men when it's actually the women.

Mrs

Now I'm confused....you are saying you get a shed load of abuse from single women?!

Mrs

I didn't realise you are high profile, fab royalty!

I hope I've shown the appropriate level of respect!

Mrs

Apologies was meant to be a jokey comment that didn't come out right."

No need to apologise it was me who read it wrong so apologies from me.

Mrs

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By *ofiaxxx69Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

We've always tried to reply with a polite no thank you, especially if they have actually taken the time to read our profile. But recently we've received quite a lot of abuse from responding no thanks. So kind of puts you off taking the time to reply unfortunately.

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By *ellanbennyCouple
over a year ago

cambs

We sometimes reply with a thanks but no thanks. However, we often find that they use that as a conversation starter so often don't bother now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a chance. If the others have said we’re not for them then we thank them for letting us know and move on

It’s the demanding “whys” after a polite no thank you that frustrate us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply thanks for letting me know and that's the end of it for me. Some guys are just so desperate or high they don't give a crap...

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I reply thanks for letting me know and that's the end of it for me. Some guys are just so desperate or high they don't give a crap...

This post was actually about the women in our inbox not the men.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I reply thanks for letting me know and that's the end of it for me. Some guys are just so desperate or high they don't give a crap...

This post was actually about the women in our inbox not the men.

Mrs "

My bad

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