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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Over the recent months I have come across many people on here who’s partners are not aware that they are on here, I have nothing against it it’s their decisions, just wanted to find out if others find this hot ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is something hot I have found about giving something to a woman she’s fantasied about obsessively enough to take these levels of risk. But if there’s kids in that relationship then it’s a hard no. F*ck that.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Hot - no.

Mrs

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

I find the woman hot not the idea of them playing behind someone's back. The number of women I've played with there's no doubt there's more than a few with partners who weren't aware.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

Not hot to us, it's just sad that people feel the need to continue unhappy relationships to that extent.

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By *ink and inkedCouple
over a year ago

Essex

If I’m honest I don’t see that as swinging. They aren’t swingers they are just cheats

Fab , so it seems is so well known now it’s simply an extension to Tinder etc which is as we know used a lot for cheating

You will never stop it , there’s a huge single market for real single swingers but there’s definitely a lot of people use this to cheat on partners

Social media is fantastic but I do think it’s an aid for people that can’t be faithful

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By *estinysswingersCouple
over a year ago

Worsley

For us, its a no and not hot.

This is called cheating and something we won't help facilitate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheating isn't swinging they are 2 completely different things.

One is built on trust, love, respect, sexual empowerment and a mutal desire to enjoy sexual adventures openly and with total support.

The other is about lies, hurt and causes untold damage to the victims mental health. Don't get me started on the damage done to the children often stuck at the epi centre of the inevitable fall out left to pick up the pieces.

KJ

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


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Cheating isn't swinging they are 2 completely different things.

One is built on trust, love, respect, sexual empowerment and a mutal desire to enjoy sexual adventures openly and with total support.

The other is about lies, hurt and causes untold damage to the victims mental health. Don't get me started on the damage done to the children often stuck at the epi centre of the inevitable fall out left to pick up the pieces.

KJ"

Agreed though there's lots of nuances. I know I've played with people in open relationships, some on breaks, others divorcing or living separately. Of those I had an idea of, sex wasn't a way to split their relationship or 'get back' at their partner, just a basic need.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See I'm going against the grain here and I actually like a wife/partner who's being naughty , yes morally it's wrong but adds to excitement

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville


"See I'm going against the grain here and I actually like a wife/partner who's being naughty , yes morally it's wrong but adds to excitement "

It's hardly naughty, most people would be wrecked if you found a partner casually shagging people.

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By *byeguysCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Paisley

Not hot to us. Tends to be the folk who think swinging is a way to get easy sex without exposing themselves too much like tinder might do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"See I'm going against the grain here and I actually like a wife/partner who's being naughty , yes morally it's wrong but adds to excitement

It's hardly naughty, most people would be wrecked if you found a partner casually shagging people."

Totally agree imagine them finding out and the devastation you have been part of….

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Some people do find it hot. Someone described feeling good that they'd chosen them above their partner. I thought that was a little deluded since they hadn't, they were just using them for sex then going home to their partner.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Nope it's not for us ,

We've turned down couples when one of them is on here behind a partners back.

We prefer all to be aware.

Miss

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth


"See I'm going against the grain here and I actually like a wife/partner who's being naughty , yes morally it's wrong but adds to excitement

It's hardly naughty, most people would be wrecked if you found a partner casually shagging people."

The idea that something potentially life ruining is simply "a bit of naughty fun" is why I already had 99% of people on this thread blocked

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Hot? No.

I don't want to fuck people who lie and hurt the people they supposedly care about for the sake of getting off.

They're not my kind of people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not swinging in any way what so ever.

It's cheating and it destroys marriages.

Swinging brings couples together unlike cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely a No for us. Don’t do cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dishonesty is more often weak than hot.

Admittedly, I'd be happy if Mrs wanted to sneak a meet to be caught out, but not to effectively laugh in my face in secret.

Yes I'm aware there are exceptions to every rule, I'm answering the question as asked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's cheating and breaks people's hearts. The other partner must feel so low and be left with low self-confidence. Wondering what they have done wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hot" OP, in what way??

Most of the guys that contact us are cheating on their OH, easy to tell most of the time

I would not want my wife here and me not knowing and no sensible person in a sound union would want that ie someone doing something like this behind their backs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Over the recent months I have come across many people on here who’s partners are not aware that they are on here, I have nothing against it it’s their decisions, just wanted to find out if others find this hot ? "

I don't feel comfortable being intimate with someone who is capable of such deceit

If it's an open relationship and both partners are on here then it's different but people cheating on their partners without the other one being aware is a hard no for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Over the recent months I have come across many people on here who’s partners are not aware that they are on here, I have nothing against it it’s their decisions, just wanted to find out if others find this hot ?

I don't feel comfortable being intimate with someone who is capable of such deceit

If it's an open relationship and both partners are on here then it's different but people cheating on their partners without the other one being aware is a hard no for me"

Toally agree and this is why we never meet anyone like that we are aware of IRL or even phone chat.

You can only face value what others say but often those claiming to be single and cant accommodate is a warning sign for us unless they say they are leaving with mummy etc

I would not like to be decived and no sane person in their right mind wants to be decived and we are playing no part in it to the best of our awarness.

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

Nah it's definitely a no from me.

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By *eaSlutsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Absolutely not. Consensual non-monogamy in a couple is one thing but actively hiding it is a totally different situation.

We have kindly turned down profiles which, while messaging, elude to the fact that their partner isn't aware. We wouldn't want to be part of something which could be very damaging and traumatic for the unknowing person.

C x

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By *ilth N KinkCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Definitely not hot! Cheating isn’t swinging and if your partner isn’t aware of you being on here then it’s cheating

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By *r HopefulMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I must say, nothing makes me harder than seeing a wedding ring on a finger wrapped around my cock covering said wedding ring in my cum is the ultimate turn on

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