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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I get on well with all if my exes, we've stayed friends, even seen each other when out and about. But tonight is the first time I'm meeting one of them for a meal and drinks.

We dated 5yrs ago, was only 6 months but was fairly intense and very physical. She couldn't commit to long term with me, said it didn't feel right because she was interested in someone else. We separated, she got with her someone else, got married, we moved on but stayed in touch.

Fast forward to now, she is divorced, her someone else liked booze and being in the pub more than being with her. We met last week for coffee and catch up and decided to arrange dinner and drinks tonight.

So, here's where things get complicated...

Her ex-husband is a friend of mine, known him 20+yrs. As far as I know he never knew I dated her before they got together. My friend has said if I wanted a few drinks tonight that I'm welcome to crash in her spare room...I know deep down I won't be in no spare room if I stay there tonight.

So, do I be a gentleman and not drink and drive home (possibly upset my friend), or do I drink and stay and possibly one thing leading to another and piss off her ex-husband (my friend) if it turns into more than just the one time.

Am I attracted to her still...too right I am, but there's this little voice telling me what a shitstorm thus could cause.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s tough but you know the only part of you that’s saying this is a good idea, is your dick.

Could be great, could cause numerous problems, could lose a great lifelong friend.. is it worth it? Really? I’d hate to think any of my lifelong friends would choose getting laid over our friendship.

No offence intended, just my thoughts.

Mr

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By *amesnplanesMan
over a year ago

Banbridge

I think you're making things overly complicated.

Your ex girlfriend might not actually wish to get intimate.

Staying over and post drinks having a fuck fest are two very different concepts, especially when the lady's are calling the shots.

We're all adults. Best to see what transpires and not worry. It's too presumptuous to assume the ex girlfriend will want to play, and after all, she will play and meet whoever she wishes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Always been an over thinker...probably why I'm 59, married 3 times and single...

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By *hrimper36Couple
over a year ago

Central France dept 36

Alls fair in love and war and friends are overrated so stay the night and enjoy.

T

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex

If someone gets offended by things their ex does they need to consider why

If someone gets offended by a friend and their ex getting together they need to understand that it's none of their damn business

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Was an enjoyable night, food was great, the wine went down too easy, the company fantastic.

The spare room was used briefly

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