FabSwingers.com forum: How often do you play

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

How often do you meet? I used to meet once or twice a month but really struggling in last few months

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Probably twice a month. Work and family life is hectic but they will always come first.

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By *andB130Couple
over a year ago

northampton

Precovid once a month, got out of the habit now

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Maybe 2-4 times a year.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe 2 or 3 times a year, it's not the fuckfest most think it is.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

Once a year, twice if I’m lucky.

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

Depends, night shifts really mess things up, but if we had clear weekends and Thursdays, it could be 3 times a week. But, the job always messes things up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only at clubs so depends when free to go along.

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By *ig_eric_tionMan
over a year ago

IPSWICH

I don't count. No need to.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Once or twice a decade.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Occasionally as and when I/we were free last few years added extra busyness

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By *actilenorfolkgentMan
over a year ago

Norwich

Try to go to club once or twice a month but that dosn't guarantee play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go to clubs a lot with my wife but it's all mostly social or playing with existing friends.

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By *tsJustKateWoman
over a year ago

London

So far this year, 15 meets with 10 guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’d like to meet / play more but travel and injuries have knocked us back a bit.

Almost back at the starting gate again!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When we can be available.

Sometimes often, sometimes not often at all.

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By *aggy dollsCouple
over a year ago

bradford

We don't get that many opportunities. We used to visit clubs 2 to 3 times a week but not been to one for over 6 months now. Its all been a bit hectic on the family/work front.

Luna

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Few times a year. Never enough

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By *ouseofhoneyCouple
over a year ago

North West

Couple of times a year, that's enough for us!

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By *orphia2003Woman
over a year ago

Tonypandy.

Meet socially several times a month.

Play depends on availabilities. Sometimes several play meets a month, or can be months between play.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We had some fun last week for the first time since last August, so a 10 month gap. We've had a few club visits inbetween but just played with each other. Hopefully it won't be so long until next time!

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By *ilth N KinkCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

We’ve been on the site three months and just had our first meet that wasn’t a social. Don’t think it’s too bad as we are new

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By *eteranSwingersCouple
over a year ago

Costa del Sol, Spain

Twice a month on average. Sometimes more, sometimes less

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

Prw Covid, we’d probably go to a Club every other month. Often we’d play on our own (which was fun), sometimes we’d play with others (which was also fun). We haven’t managed to get back since Covid as 3 of our fav Clubs are to more and we have moved to Cardiff where Clubs are less available.

We aim to get out again towards the end of the summer, once we decide which Club to start back with.

As others have said, it isn’t all about clusterfucks at Clubs, it is social, erotic, kinky and potentially everything you want - so long as you’re in the mood and meet people you fancy

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast

Back when I was in London and SE England it was like once a week with regular, and new meets maybe every other month?

Belfast is a different beast. When I first arrived, I met 3 people in one month, one became a regular, then had a GF for some time, we had 3 threesomes with an additional woman, they were each a month apart, now I split with her and on my own I play like once a month with ONSs. Hm. Wouldn't mind a regular again tho

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By *ichelle and DaveCouple
over a year ago

Tamworth

Not enough lol!

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By *phrodite_AdonisCouple
over a year ago

Once or twice a year

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Around 4 times a year but possible 12 to 15 parties.

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By *rincess-PeachWoman
over a year ago

irrelevant

Twice a week

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By *orfolk777Man
over a year ago

Matlock

My last meet was New Year’s Eve 2013 so at the moment I’m standing at at once a decade

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We started out 3 years ago and were completely new to everything . Ended up meeting a regular older guy and met up 2 or 3 times a week for over a year

We have always had sex 4 or 5 times a week since we met and just thought it was normal to play with this guy as many times as we did .

Wasn’t healthy to be honest we have learned a lot since .

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast

"My last meet was New Year’s Eve 2013 so at the moment I’m standing at at once a decade"

That's very long. Do you at least play outside of fabs?

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By *orfolk777Man
over a year ago

Matlock

No, I’ve been single since 2000 and the last time I had sex was at my last meet off her almost 10 years ago

"My last meet was New Year’s Eve 2013 so at the moment I’m standing at at once a decade

That's very long. Do you at least play outside of fabs?"

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Probably average once every month or two, but often doesn't work out like that, can be 2/3 times in a week or two and then nothing for a couple of months.

We have to work around alot of real-life stuff that limits our chances, which is why it's extra frustrating when those windows go to waste!

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By *herry delightWoman
over a year ago

Ilfracombe

Once a week,as I have a lot more selective this time around in what I am looking for. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Once a week,as I have a lot more selective this time around in what I am looking for. X"

Good for you x

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Rarely but it's not like I don't try. I just can't find someone I like who genuinely will meet me

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By *antricSeeker60Man
over a year ago

Durham

Usually play around once a month over the past year or so. Prior to last year hadn’t played regularly since 2019.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Rarely but it's not like I don't try. I just can't find someone I like who genuinely will meet me

The main issue - I find lots who I like but its finding that reciprocated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This thread is an eye opener. But no meets yet for me.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I do try, but of course, the ratios don’t work in my favour. But the answer would be not very often

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast

"Rarely but it's not like I don't try. I just can't find someone I like who genuinely will meet me

Maybe you need to stop waiting for the perfect first message and give nice looking profiles a chance. Not everyone writes a perfect first message, but with a little bit of dialogue, might get somewhere.

If the pics fit, you should see what comes out of a few back and forths in chat. "getting to know someone" often means "if you don't sweep me off my feet with your first message I won't even give it a chance".

First messages aren't that important really, I mean, do you even remember the first thing you said to any of your friends or lovers? It's just a "hi, I am here and want to get things going".

So if your current method doesn't work, you should try that one.

This definitely helped another woman here from fabs recently to find a good match. First message literally was just "hi how are you" and now she's very happy with him. (they're back in SE England, so I don't play with her any more anyway)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About once every three years.... Currently overdue!

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By *redwilma666Couple
over a year ago

Kilbirnie

Every week, sometimes twice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How often do you meet? I used to meet once or twice a month but really struggling in last few months"

We have only been in the scene for just over a year and still consider ourselves newbies...if we had a meet a couple of times a year that would suit us. However if we got to know Fab Friends we would probably meet more often

Mrs

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By *ussieChrisMan
over a year ago

Walsall

I'd almost forgotten what a meet was until you mentioned it.. I've had a couple.. over the last couple of years.. Kinda hope i have another one, this year.. lol

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By *ussieChrisMan
over a year ago

Walsall

"Rarely but it's not like I don't try. I just can't find someone I like who genuinely will meet me

Thats gutting, I get there has to be attraction both ways, but if your struggling to find that one that's also genuine, I feel for you.

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By *otbeefandonionsCouple
over a year ago

Bathgate

Once or twice a week

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