FabSwingers.com forum: Soft Play

By *arrot_in_a_box OP Couple
over a year ago

kinda dublin

I didn't find a lot on this topic in previous chats. What are your opinions on this? Ive been introduced a year ago by my more experienced Mr., but Id say Im still only a beginner. Attending events and doing soft stuff is as far as Im comfortable going. But often times I feel like people will judge and think "what are you doing here then", or agree to soft play but expect more anyway. Especially those who know Mr. from before, as he was open to much more than I am. How do you overcome this and gain more confidence in validity of your boundaries?

Donna

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By *ittlemisssassypantsCouple
over a year ago

South East Wales

No one will judge your boundaries, if they do then they’re dicks.

Personally soft swap isn’t for us, but in now way would we ever judge another person/couple if their limited and boundaries were different to ours, or suggest they didn’t belong in this scene because of it.

You do exactly what you want and are comfortable doing. It’s your body at the end of the day and you decide!

Sassy

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I see soft play and think of where I take the kids....

But there's lots of couples not put off by soft swap, as long as you make it clear that's what you want, don't ever feel like you have to push your boundaries because someone is trying to push them.

There's absolutely nothing wrong with soft swap, it's what we are looking for to start, we've previously only met with women, no one's ever questioned it.

Mrs

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By *andB130Couple
over a year ago

northampton

That's entirely your choice, would suggest you are best to be up front about it when meeting others as its not for everyone.

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By *angtidy42Couple
over a year ago

Redditch

Each to their own, you go in and say soft swing only and the other couple know up front and are happy on all sides.

If every thing is going OK then with permission you can push the boundaries and enjoy a bit more

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By *exy Black JenWoman
over a year ago

London/Eastbourne weekends

If your partner has more experience and is confident, maybe he can the conversation with people beforehand, so that they can either walk away or know what to expect...

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

Your boundries and limits are nobody elses business. We rather full swap and have since our first meet as thats what me and john discussed and wanted to do. But everyone has their own starting point and their own set limitations which they agreed on. Stick to your limitations until you both decide to move them. Do not get pushed to move them as many on here have tried with us during meets. Joanne.

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