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Is A Full Year Without A Nett Normal On Fab?

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By *alleyDave OP   Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

Been here a year now and not had even the slightest opportunity of a meet. Is this normal on here, or is my total lack of any interest in me from other members telling me something.?

I have tried to make sure I have a detailed, informative profile with a good selection of public photos updated regular. I take time before sending a message to anyone who grabs my eye, to make sure I compose a polite and respectful message before hitting the send button. Basically, all the things that are recommended by other members.

. I fully appreciate than single guys vastly out number single ladies and couples on here. I really am scratching my head now as to what else I can do either my profile to make myself more appealing.

I accept it's a numbers game and just wondered if my stats of 1 year as a member on here and zero meets is standard or makes others wonder why I havnt had any meets during my time on Fab.

I would love to hear people's opinions.

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By *alleyDave OP   Man
over a year ago

Sheffield

Thread title should say Meet. Bloody fat fingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, it is. Most single men are on here for about a yearbefore getting their first meet. Some fair better, others less so.

You have to understand that single men massively outnumber single ladies and couples, and you're only going to appeal to a select few.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After a year I'd be changing my approach maybe attend socials or a club and see if that leads to something

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

(Mr)

Before the couples profile I had a singles profile.

After a week I was on the cams, got a veri.

After 2 weeks went to a local club, no expectations, chatted to people. Was lucky enough to be noticed and was invited to play with a couple.

I was lucky, other aren't, but at least they have glory holes.

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By *alleyDave OP   Man
over a year ago

Sheffield


"After a year I'd be changing my approach maybe attend socials or a club and see if that leads to something "

I'm more than happy to meet a lady or a couple who might be interested in me for a one on one social in a public place for a coffee or a pint to see if there is a spark or attraction, but I have no interest in going to a club or a large social gathering. It's not for me.

So do you think a full year without a meet is not normal?

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By *orfolk777Man
over a year ago

Matlock

My last meet on here was New Year’s Eve 2013 so if you’ve had a meet in the last year you’re doing very well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After a year I'd be changing my approach maybe attend socials or a club and see if that leads to something

I'm more than happy to meet a lady or a couple who might be interested in me for a one on one social in a public place for a coffee or a pint to see if there is a spark or attraction, but I have no interest in going to a club or a large social gathering. It's not for me.

So do you think a full year without a meet is not normal? "

In that case a year without a meet is perfectly normal couples get lots of messages and sometimes.its purely down to luck who gets a meet, you could be waiting another year easily or maybe you'll get a meet next week because you'll be relying on your message getting to the right person at the right time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was a single guy on here it was tough but I went to the clubs and social events as it’s easier for single guys.

On here I only had a couple of meets and most were socials, played with one and ended up marrying her so maybe meets off fab aren’t for the best anyway

Mr

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By *obbymonkMan
over a year ago

york


"When I was a single guy on here it was tough but I went to the clubs and social events as it’s easier for single guys.

On here I only had a couple of meets and most were socials, played with one and ended up marrying her so maybe meets off fab aren’t for the best anyway

I’d say that was a success lol

Mr"

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire


"Been here a year now and not had even the slightest opportunity of a meet. Is this normal on here, or is my total lack of any interest in me from other members telling me something.?

I have tried to make sure I have a detailed, informative profile with a good selection of public photos updated regular. I take time before sending a message to anyone who grabs my eye, to make sure I compose a polite and respectful message before hitting the send button. Basically, all the things that are recommended by other members.

. I fully appreciate than single guys vastly out number single ladies and couples on here. I really am scratching my head now as to what else I can do either my profile to make myself more appealing.

I accept it's a numbers game and just wondered if my stats of 1 year as a member on here and zero meets is standard or makes others wonder why I havnt had any meets during my time on Fab.

I would love to hear people's opinions.

"

These types of posts do single guys no favours. When guys moan they can't get even a social meet its very unattractive

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By *ong-leggedblondWoman
over a year ago

Next Door

You need to start going to group socials.

Try the cam rooms and clubs.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots


"(Mr)

Before the couples profile I had a singles profile.

After a week I was on the cams, got a veri.

After 2 weeks went to a local club, no expectations, chatted to people. Was lucky enough to be noticed and was invited to play with a couple.

I was lucky, other aren't, but at least they have glory holes."

I would say you weren't lucky, you made an effort and got out there.

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)

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By *aucasian GhandiMan
over a year ago

from my dad's left nut (Warwick)


"Been here a year now and not had even the slightest opportunity of a meet. Is this normal on here, or is my total lack of any interest in me from other members telling me something.?

I have tried to make sure I have a detailed, informative profile with a good selection of public photos updated regular. I take time before sending a message to anyone who grabs my eye, to make sure I compose a polite and respectful message before hitting the send button. Basically, all the things that are recommended by other members.

. I fully appreciate than single guys vastly out number single ladies and couples on here. I really am scratching my head now as to what else I can do either my profile to make myself more appealing.

I accept it's a numbers game and just wondered if my stats of 1 year as a member on here and zero meets is standard or makes others wonder why I havnt had any meets during my time on Fab.

I would love to hear people's opinions.

"

If your relying on fab alone then prepare to complete p0rnhub and spankbang.

Get to socials and clubs. They open up fab so much more. I don't know why single men don't use this side of fab. Unless there not really single of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"(Mr)

Before the couples profile I had a singles profile.

After a week I was on the cams, got a veri.

After 2 weeks went to a local club, no expectations, chatted to people. Was lucky enough to be noticed and was invited to play with a couple.

I was lucky, other aren't, but at least they have glory holes.

I would say you weren't lucky, you made an effort and got out there."

This^

The results will be determined by the effort you put into anything in life.

If you post your profile like a second hand car. You won't be very "lucky" I assume the single women and couples on here aren't browsing the single men section playing "snog, marry, fuck, suck, social, avoid"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a Newbie (sortof) I can only say, keep on Messaging, don't let it get You down..

The Ladies are far outnumbered by Guys on here and regretfully there's a small chunk who feel entitled to meeting and are Pushy which scares off New Ladies/Couples.

You're doing the Right thing, Read the Profiles, make sure You "Match" what they're asking for and make your message relevant to the Profile and ask questions. You'll get there and have a few Meets soon, just don't give up

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By *enusandmarsCouple
over a year ago

Buryish

We look at the profile straight away, is there enough there to hold our attention for more than 3 seconds. If they meet our basic criteria (age, straight, accomodate) then we'll glance at the pics. If they meet our basic criteria on that (right sort of l9ok, shape, cock size) then we'll see what you've written about yourself. If that shapes up then we'll read the message and maybe answer.

Your profile kinda meets OUR basic expectation (but you're nowhere near) so in our case we'd chat and see if there's a connection.

Only my opinion, but I think couple wise it's usually more about the connection than the six pack. So how much EFFORT do you make to connect?

Read the veris, are they meeting guys of your age? Of your physique?

I've often said it's like applying for a job. Your profile is your CV. It's not enough to just have a CV, you need to sending it out to companies that have vacancies. And there's no point applying for a mechanics position if you're a Baker.

Verifications are your references, so you need them (in my opinion). I can see you have at least one but you're not displaying it, why not? That raises red flags to me, its off a man (we're not looking for bi), or it's off someone you're otherwise ashamed of (even worse), or it's a bad reference.

Cams are an easy veri, probably (we've never used them), and clubs or social gatherings are easy veris if you're actually willing to talk to people

Also look at other single guys profiles, the ones with lots of veris, why do they have lots? They aren't necessarily twentysomethings with six packs and monster dicks - most aren't looking for that.

Just my thoughts

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester


"(Mr)

Before the couples profile I had a singles profile.

After a week I was on the cams, got a veri.

After 2 weeks went to a local club, no expectations, chatted to people. Was lucky enough to be noticed and was invited to play with a couple.

I was lucky, other aren't, but at least they have glory holes.

I would say you weren't lucky, you made an effort and got out there."

You are right, I did make an effort and it helps. It's still a numbers game and people need to do more to make themselves stand out. Thank you, by the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You must be doing something wrong to not get a meet in an entire year. Unfortunately there’s no dramatic secret to unlocking the fab world - different people want different approaches, most peoples profiles will explain what they want so you need to sell yourself to them how they want to be sold.

Good luck man, you ain’t ugly, you just need to change your methods of approach.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it’s been a year then look at what you are doing and how you are communicating. No point doing the same thing awaiting a different result.

I’ve found fab is ok but mostly I’ve had meets from other sources.

As others will tell you, try clubs.

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By *trideMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

On Fab, single men can have as many meets as they want, as often as they want.

If you’re looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with, you may never find your perfect match on this website because of the competition.

If you’re looking for someone to play with this evening, click on the “Home” tab after about 23:00, and scroll down to “Local Updates”. Contact the women who are requesting urgent attention. You may not find them especially attractive, but you will get plenty of meets!

High mutual attraction = low meet frequency

Low mutual attraction = high meet frequency.

Simple!

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By *alleyDave OP   Man
over a year ago

Sheffield


"We look at the profile straight away, is there enough there to hold our attention for more than 3 seconds. If they meet our basic criteria (age, straight, accomodate) then we'll glance at the pics. If they meet our basic criteria on that (right sort of l9ok, shape, cock size) then we'll see what you've written about yourself. If that shapes up then we'll read the message and maybe answer.

Your profile kinda meets OUR basic expectation (but you're nowhere near) so in our case we'd chat and see if there's a connection.

Only my opinion, but I think couple wise it's usually more about the connection than the six pack. So how much EFFORT do you make to connect?

Read the veris, are they meeting guys of your age? Of your physique?

I've often said it's like applying for a job. Your profile is your CV. It's not enough to just have a CV, you need to sending it out to companies that have vacancies. And there's no point applying for a mechanics position if you're a Baker.

Verifications are your references, so you need them (in my opinion). I can see you have at least one but you're not displaying it, why not? That raises red flags to me, its off a man (we're not looking for bi), or it's off someone you're otherwise ashamed of (even worse), or it's a bad reference.

Cams are an easy veri, probably (we've never used them), and clubs or social gatherings are easy veris if you're actually willing to talk to people

Also look at other single guys profiles, the ones with lots of veris, why do they have lots? They aren't necessarily twentysomethings with six packs and monster dicks - most aren't looking for that.

Just my thoughts"

Thank you for the feedback. The one veri I have is a cam veri from a couple, but they have since left the site so I hid it. But I take your point about hiding it, so I've put it back on now so people can see it was from a couple, and I have nothing to hide.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve been on here for a while and had 0 meets from using fab itself, all our verifications are through meeting people at clubs, a lot easier and less time wasted!

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By *alleyDave OP   Man
over a year ago

Sheffield


"You must be doing something wrong to not get a meet in an entire year. Unfortunately there’s no dramatic secret to unlocking the fab world - different people want different approaches, most peoples profiles will explain what they want so you need to sell yourself to them how they want to be sold.

Good luck man, you ain’t ugly, you just need to change your methods of approach. "

Thanks for the feedback. I have worked on my profile constantly since joining a year ago,and I regularly post new up to date pics so people can see exactly what I look like now. I study a profile, and check any verifications they may have to see what type of single blokes they meet. I put a lot of effort in before sending someone a message.

I have no idea why I havnt been lucky enough to experience a meet yet, but it's not through a lack of hard work and effort reading profiles, compiling messages etc.

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By *ittle Miss BipolarWoman
over a year ago

Up My Own Arse Apparently

I think it's a sign.

You should consider becoming a monk.

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