FabSwingers.com forum: clubs

By *itnkat OP Couple
over a year ago

in lincs between lincoln grantham boston

for everyone who goes to clubs regular do you notice new people and does your club staff / members go say hi or wait for the shy new couples to come chat or leave been told all clubs are non clicky and stay with ppl that know but the two we visited no one spoke after the show round

By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

You should always get shown round a club if you let them know your new. They'll also answer and questions and may give you some tips and/or introduce you to some regulars. As to how you are received at a club depends to some extent to club and its size. Some clubs/nights have different vibes than others. You tend to find in big clubs you can get lost in the crowd. But small clubs, often frequented by regulars week in, week out you'll show up as fresh meat straight away. In our experience in small clubs people will be a bit more forthcoming and excited to welcome new people (I guess because its nice to see new faces). Bigger clubs where many people won't know each other or you're not as easily identifiable as new maybe not so much. Now that doesn't mean people are less friendly in bigger clubs, far from it. Just means you maybe need to make a little more effort to introduce yourself to others.

Most importantly remember most couples are shy. You may not think that but in our experience they are and thus wont always be forthcoming to people they don't know, even if they really fancy them. I think this is sometimes why people seem clicky because they are in their comfort zone we people they know, not because they don't like outsiders. Although it's hard being shy you do sometimes just have to make the effort to say hello. And don't take it to heart or give up if it doesn't work out. We can't be everyones cup of tea. So keep making the effort and you'll find your people.

We have been to many different clubs over the years. Some we've found more friendly than others. But always had a good time and met some good people. So if you don't have a great experience at a club, try a different one.