FabSwingers.com forum: First time

By *ouise69t OP TV/TS
over a year ago

midlands

This may sound like a crazy question for a swinging site but my partner and myself, me being in male mode and her obviously female.

We have discussed a few times now about swapping and more than often about how we would feel with her being fucked by another man. The thought of seeing her fucked by someone else is really quite a turn on. I know I would have to be in the same room as I don’t think I could handle seeing her just go off into a room with another man knowing that see is getting fucked in there! (Were talking about doing this at out local swinging club btw)

During discussions I have pretty much admitted that it is something I am very open to but I have said to her that I don’t mind her being fucked but I wouldn’t like her kissing him. Is this normal as I see kissing as more intimate that being fucked!

If so does anyone have any advise on how this would? How do you initiate the situation and how do they getting to the fucking stage with out the foreplay it seem it would be difficult to get in the mood without that bit but like I say I don’t think I could handle her kissing and making out with the guy?

I know a few may say that may be this isn’t for us then but I think one day this will happen I am just nervous about the kissing thing.

Would be great to hear from other who have similar views and who have actually done this with out the kissing part!

Suppose one way would be just to offer her in the club as a duck and go but to start with we would just like to try it with just one guy!

On the flip side we have talked about me with another female and her views are quite strong as she wouldn’t like me doing oral on them which is something I enjoy and I know gets a women in the mood so again how would this wotk?

Sorry for the long winded question, hope so of you can relate to this and give us some advise!

Thanks in advance

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

We have the same limits, but there's more to foreplay than kissing.

Set your own boundaries and stick to them. If others don't like them, don't play with them. Communication between you is important and if it becomes too much for either of you, either person should be able to stop play.

Pick a guy who is on your wavelength. Chat it through with him and explain your boundaries beforehand.

Enjoy!

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By *avid 50Man
over a year ago

kendal

Set off with a social meet and discuss what you want to happen, in my experience as an intro it’s usually more acceptable for another male as it’s usually the wife or girlfriend who is most apprehensive. Foreplay is always a must no one goes into sex straight off and as for kissing, several times this has been one of the boundaries for couples I’ve met but as lovemaking takes over kissing usually starts and is enjoyed by all. Most important is the chat afterwards between yourselves and the guy you invited in, it helps set the scene for your next meet.

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By *kmaleMan
over a year ago

Bedford

There are many couples that keep kissing between themselves. So it's not just you guys.

I do find that kissing is very sensual and can feel like something is missing on occasions though.

But it's your choice

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By *otwifingVixenCouple
over a year ago

Northants

Would be great to hear from other who have similar views and who have actually done this with out the kissing part!

We play like this. We're upfront about it as part of our profile, and I make sure that boundaries are discussed before meeting.

I like to kiss but it was hubby's one request/boundary so it's a small price to pay for all the other freedom and fun I get. There's so much more to foreplay than kissing so it's easy to get into it and be turned on without it.

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By *anuel ducatiMan
over a year ago

leyburn

Stick to your agreed boundaries and after each meet have a deep heartfelt conversation on how it went and your feelings for each other, your likes and dislikes about the meet and how eager (or not) you both want to do it again.

You might find that as you gain experience that you may want to adjust boundaries as you become more comfortable with each others role in any given scenario. Communication as always is key. Have done it with a previous partner and after some initial nerves and doubts, had some fantastic experiences. Good luck

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Lots of couples have a no kissing rule, if the people you are meeting don't like it then they aren't for you there will be others that are happy with it.

Stick to your boundaries.

Personally I couldn't have sex with no kissing, for me it's cuddling, the cuddles are all mine!

Mrs

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We don't kiss our casual partners, we're clear about that and have it on our profile. While we're not fabs most wanted we do have people willing to meet us.

There are various ways to initiate foreplay including playing things like strip poker or truth or dare or giving each other a sensual massage.

Would you be comfortable seeing your partner kissed on the neck or all the way down her back?

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