FabSwingers.com forum: The sudden block….

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So first off, no need to come at me I know couples and single woman get a lot of messages, a lot of crap, and worse!

I’m not precious or believe I must be responded too……

But when your chatting with someone/or couple, then for no reason they block you (and this is verified accounts too!)…..would it be so hard, after conversations that may have lasted days and days, to just say, changed my mind……?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It does come as a bit of a surprise but often people feel very awkward turning someone down after a period of chatting so prefer to avoid it.

I would say that people rarely block for no reason, they always have a reason

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By *ister_ee_1981Man
over a year ago

Sunniest Exeter...

"So first off, no need to come at me I know couples and single woman get a lot of messages, a lot of crap, and worse!

I’m not precious or believe I must be responded too……

Probably (and I hate saying it) you were a backup. So you were discarded. Sorry

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

People block for different reasons op,but there is always a reason I block.

I might not be feeling it or they've put me off with something that's been said.

It's easier for people to block ,if they say they've changed their mind people can be abusive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I totally get all those comments. And with more and more abuse being thrown around these days, I do get that point.

Personally I don’t think it would hurt to send a final message saying thanks, but I have changed my mind, then block.

As for being the back up…..while again, not the nicest feeling in the world……you can sort of see it. Given the amount of no shows……or better offers……

Like I said, this is not “me me me”, been here long enough to know the score…..just would be nice to have known……..

Thanks all…..really appreciate the comments.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Well, it's a definite no isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get it and yes can feel a bit disappointing. But if they weren't feeling sure it's better they didn't drag it out, or meet you in person to then say its a no

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By *ustlooking3189Man
over a year ago

Same happing me atm but not block just not opening messages…traded pics and she made sent first message and wanted to organise a meet but then cold shoulder

Maybe bombarded with mails and missed mine or I duno it’s hard cause makes u wander

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Same happing me atm but not block just not opening messages…traded pics and she made sent first message and wanted to organise a meet but then cold shoulder

Maybe bombarded with mails and missed mine or I duno it’s hard cause makes u wander"

I really wouldn't waste your energy on it, just crack on and have a laugh

. What is for you won't go by you!!

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

You say ‘for no reason they block you’ but no one would block you without a reason and you should consider what that reason might be before you assume the worst of them. You say that it’s not difficult to message you to say they’ve changed their mind but you don’t know what the person’s situation or frame of mind is at the time, maybe that isn’t so easy for them. You don’t know why they’ve blocked you, maybe they have a family emergency that they need to focus on, maybe they’re having personal problems, they could have serious health problems, maybe you inadvertently and unintentionally really upset or offended them….in any of these situations I think that sending you an email is way down on their list of priorities or something they don’t feel is necessary to do. There are many reasons why emailing someone they have only known for a matter of days and have never met suddenly becomes very unimportant and unnecessary in their life. Maybe their situation hasn’t changed and they are just being rude and inconsiderate by not messaging you before they block you but you can’t assume that’s always the case, i know that when I’m under pressure or in a stressful situation I don’t always think straight and often do things that could appear inconsiderate when I’m just trying to deal with a bad situation as best I can and maintain my sanity. I’d hope that people would be compassionate and understanding of my situation rather than criticising me and holding it against me.

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal

"You say ‘for no reason they block you’ but no one would block you without a reason and you should consider what that reason might be before you assume the worst of them. You say that it’s not difficult to message you to say they’ve changed their mind but you don’t know what the person’s situation or frame of mind is at the time, maybe that isn’t so easy for them. You don’t know why they’ve blocked you, maybe they have a family emergency that they need to focus on, maybe they’re having personal problems, they could have serious health problems, maybe you inadvertently and unintentionally really upset or offended them….in any of these situations I think that sending you an email is way down on their list of priorities or something they don’t feel is necessary to do. There are many reasons why emailing someone they have only known for a matter of days and have never met suddenly becomes very unimportant and unnecessary in their life. Maybe their situation hasn’t changed and they are just being rude and inconsiderate by not messaging you before they block you but you can’t assume that’s always the case, i know that when I’m under pressure or in a stressful situation I don’t always think straight and often do things that could appear inconsiderate when I’m just trying to deal with a bad situation as best I can and maintain my sanity. I’d hope that people would be compassionate and understanding of my situation rather than criticising me and holding it against me."

Not even a verification but still got an essay

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal

Ain't easy here matey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our view...

Giving a response when you have decided no just allows people to 'try' and convince you..

Like seriously people can't just accept no and move on a lot of the time.. they either become abusive or start coming across as desperate and/or asking why?...

We don't need to give a reason... no is no and blocking is a big no.

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By *itnakedladMan
over a year ago

Ashtead

Just got the block. Nothing more than shared a face pic. I mean, just say I’m not your type or something. The block seems an over reaction to my face

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

"Our view...

Giving a response when you have decided no just allows people to 'try' and convince you..

Like seriously people can't just accept no and move on a lot of the time.. they either become abusive or start coming across as desperate and/or asking why?...

We don't need to give a reason... no is no and blocking is a big no."

All due respect but your profile invites mass attention, both of you are gorgeous....

Unfortunately, this means you get more dickheads that haven't read your profile so blocking is probably essential for you.

We only block as a last resort, we still have that shred of faith in humanity.

But it's fading fast

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Our view...

Giving a response when you have decided no just allows people to 'try' and convince you..

Like seriously people can't just accept no and move on a lot of the time.. they either become abusive or start coming across as desperate and/or asking why?...

We don't need to give a reason... no is no and blocking is a big no.

All due respect but your profile invites mass attention, both of you are gorgeous....

Unfortunately, this means you get more dickheads that haven't read your profile so blocking is probably essential for you.

We only block as a last resort, we still have that shred of faith in humanity.

But it's fading fast

Haha thanks however we are not that popular! Much hotter people on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just got the block. Nothing more than shared a face pic. I mean, just say I’m not your type or something. The block seems an over reaction to my face

No one owes anyone anything though... not even a reply.

It's up to the individual/s how they work things.

Some may reply, some may delete and some may block.

Just take it as a no and move on.

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By *uiet_69Man
over a year ago

Near

It is strange. Face pic swap anyone ?

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By *itnakedladMan
over a year ago

Ashtead

"Just got the block. Nothing more than shared a face pic. I mean, just say I’m not your type or something. The block seems an over reaction to my face

No one owes anyone anything though... not even a reply.

It's up to the individual/s how they work things.

Some may reply, some may delete and some may block.

Just take it as a no and move on. "

Just seems a really passive aggressive way to do things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just got the block. Nothing more than shared a face pic. I mean, just say I’m not your type or something. The block seems an over reaction to my face

No one owes anyone anything though... not even a reply.

It's up to the individual/s how they work things.

Some may reply, some may delete and some may block.

Just take it as a no and move on.

Just seems a really passive aggressive way to do things "

If you were a woman or couple you would understand.

A lot of people can't accept a "no"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't take it personal, blame the masses of disrespectful guys on here.

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By *itnakedladMan
over a year ago

Ashtead

Ok fair enough. I don’t have the issue of being over loaded with messages / repeat offenders

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By *cotty_01ukMan
over a year ago

birmingham

Don't take it to heart, just be yourself head held high & try again

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

"Don't take it personal, blame the masses of disrespectful guys on here."

Sadly, the curse of the scene, the price of being visible in a liberated lifestyle...

You say your profile isn't the hottest, but you know exactly what you want, that's something rare and desirable

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don’t….have broad shoulders…..just seems more and more disrespectful people on here these days.

"Don't take it personal, blame the masses of disrespectful guys on here."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just got the block. Nothing more than shared a face pic. I mean, just say I’m not your type or something. The block seems an over reaction to my face

No one owes anyone anything though... not even a reply.

It's up to the individual/s how they work things.

Some may reply, some may delete and some may block.

Just take it as a no and move on. "

Not saying they do…..in fact, I’m respectful of people being honest and up front. Some profiles say “we don’t. Reply” or we delete….and that’s great! But is it not just being human and polite?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always reply and say if somebody isn’t for us, even if we’ve never spoken before. I don’t think anybody owes anyone a response on here but we think it’s only polite to say, we prefer a bit of open honesty so it’s only right we do the same.

If we then get a load of messages from them saying “but this” or a lot of why messages, we then block them.

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

No public pics is put off

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not even a verification but still got an essay

That’s an opinion, and think that’s the beauty of this lifestyle…..it’s here to be open and express, no matter how experienced you may or may not be.

Of course in my original statement I did not give names or full blown details. And while I agree, it could well have been any of those reasons….after the conversations we had, I would have hoped it would have granted at least a “no thanks”….then block of feeling that put off.

But, like I said…..that’s a valid point.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Clear as day and that’s totally fine ….. being able to take a no is far more important than enjoying a yes at times!
"Well, it's a definite no isn't it? "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We always reply and say if somebody isn’t for us, even if we’ve never spoken before. I don’t think anybody owes anyone a response on here but we think it’s only polite to say, we prefer a bit of open honesty so it’s only right we do the same.

If we then get a load of messages from them saying “but this” or a lot of why messages, we then block them.

Mr "

Thanks for being polite mate!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No public pics is put off "

Get that….and get it stops some people from even replying or sending a message in the first place. That’s an initial choice, and respected. The individual in question had seen all my private pics so my look was not a shock to them lol……

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't take it personal, blame the masses of disrespectful guys on here."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blocking is just a method to filter, at whatever stage you choose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't take it personal, blame the masses of disrespectful guys on here.

Touché

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By *t0600Man
over a year ago

elvedon

I think that’s just downright rude . Anyone who doesn’t have the decency to say look we or I have changed my mind isn’t worth talking with anyway

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't take it personal, blame the masses of disrespectful guys on here.

And of course there is the people who converse when your not what they are looking for, and show respect and politeness. Thank you!

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Well this always comes around and people rarely block just for the sake of blocking ? and most who do don't want to get into a conversation and being forced into giving reasons ?? s that sometimes ends badly it seems ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So first off, no need to come at me I know couples and single woman get a lot of messages, a lot of crap, and worse!

I’m not precious or believe I must be responded too……

Could be an accidental block. I've almost hit the block button when half asleep and going to reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just got the block. Nothing more than shared a face pic. I mean, just say I’m not your type or something. The block seems an over reaction to my face

No one owes anyone anything though... not even a reply.

It's up to the individual/s how they work things.

Some may reply, some may delete and some may block.

Just take it as a no and move on.

Politeness isn't a requirement of anyone. Yes it's good to be polite in our opinion but that's just an opinion.

We wouldn't just block someone mid chat unless they didn't get the message of no and carried on...

If we "feel" like replying or explaining we will... but again we do not have to.

Expecting a reply in any form is rather entitled.

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By *actilenorfolkgentMan
over a year ago

Norwich

It's when you've arrived for a meet, been chatting up to half hour before then get a no show and blocked!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just got the block. Nothing more than shared a face pic. I mean, just say I’m not your type or something. The block seems an over reaction to my face

No one owes anyone anything though... not even a reply.

It's up to the individual/s how they work things.

Some may reply, some may delete and some may block.

Just take it as a no and move on.

Politeness isn't a requirement of anyone. Yes it's good to be polite in our opinion but that's just an opinion.

We wouldn't just block someone mid chat unless they didn't get the message of no and carried on...

If we "feel" like replying or explaining we will... but again we do not have to.

Expecting a reply in any form is rather entitled."

Sorry, if it sounded like I was expecting a reply …. I was not, and 100% on a first message or after a few I would not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think that’s just downright rude . Anyone who doesn’t have the decency to say look we or I have changed my mind isn’t worth talking with anyway "

Some people feel awkward, you may have said something they didn't like. They owe you nothing at all and thinking such is very entitled.

We do reply to people if they match what we are after... but if you say something we don't like we will block... we don't owe an explanation of any kind at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's when you've arrived for a meet, been chatting up to half hour before then get a no show and blocked!! "

I think I'd turn into Liam Neeson after that

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