FabSwingers.com forum: Long term FWB?

By *eally_Rosie OP Woman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

So the main thing I have been hoping to find is a long term sex buddy/FWB. Someone I know the sex is amazing, we can hold a conversation, texting and keeping touch and occasionally have nights in with a takeaway/films and lots of naughty fun sending me home in the morning exhausted .

However it seems that 99% of the guys on here are after a quickie and to just shoot their load as fast as possible.

My hubby reckons that the guys I’m looking for don’t exist in this type of place and I fear he may be right.. what do you think, am I dreaming and should I lower my expectations and go along with the quickies?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

They do exist but like most things not everyone is honest about what they are looking for and it's never as simple as two people looking for a fwb unless they are compatible.

I have a long term fwb here and we knew each other a couple of years before even discussing the fwb tag.

We put equally if not more emphasis on the friendship part as we do on the benefits but it takes both to be on the same page right from the start and requires patience.

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

(Mr)

No such thing as a quickie with me and I can hold a conversation... but, that's why I'm already taken

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most men on here just want the fuck n go. Once they've cum the guilt sets in.

All my long term FWB's I met in person out and about.

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By *ister-mischiefMan
over a year ago

Trafford

After swinging for over 8 years , Mrs M only managed to find 1 fwb with similar interest to what you are looking for.So they are around just hard to find especially local enough for travel.

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By *eeliciouschaosWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

He might be right, I’m afraid.

Whatever you decide to do I hope you will never lower your expectations and I wish you all the best, hope you’ll find what you’re looking for.

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By *andd_bicoupleCouple
over a year ago

wilmslow

We r trying to find that no takers at the mo

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

I think this is what most men want on here?

I’m the complete opposite and struggle finding hot, decent guys who just want one offs. Everyone seems to want FWB vibes lol x

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By *ick34Man
over a year ago

Overton

there is a few of us around I love the FWB I am looking for that relationship for days out country walks cosy pub lunches but having the benefit of sometimes just having fun in bed on those occasions when you nee that close comfort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree I don't think they exist either and the ones that do rarely ends well as people can catch feelings especially. Some people confuse fwb with fb, 9 times out of 10 they want a booty call and nothing more.

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

Just to add confusion, a FWB for a couple being another couple, should be less likely to be the fuck-and-go but at the same time as rare as hens teeth

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By *eally_Rosie OP Woman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Thanks, it’s always good to get others opinions and it’s nice to see that’s it’s a mixed bag too

quite reassuring. I would love to meet guys in the real world but I wouldn’t know how lol

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By *mma29Couple
over a year ago

wirral

We had a regular guy for a year and it was fun. It definitely can happen. But it took speaking to lots of guys to find someone that was serious about it.

Something we will be looking for again soon but I understand it takes time and a good bullshit filter.

Good luck.

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

I don’t think it’s impossible, OP. It is sort of like the ultimate find for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi OP,

Don’t think it’s impossible, anything is possible, but remember there is very thin line between friendship and proper relationship, it’s easy to go a step to fare and one will want more than just friendship and fuck. It’s a risky game.

Keep trying.

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

I don't want anything exclusive, but I do want to have something better than one off fuck and go. Ideally I would like friends, people that I can get to know through repeat meetings, who I can talk about books with, or watch netflix together, cook food in each others houses, criticise each others clothing styles, give lifts to the tip when clearing out the garage, share a weekend break at Cleethorpes or Cardiff or Coventry with... And once in a while if we feel like it, yes have a fuck. But without any sense of ownership, in fact even taking delight that the others have got themselves some others, getting happiness out of their happiness...

Yeah, it is improbable, maybe even impossible. But a girl has to have some sort of dream.

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

What you’ve described is basically what the majority of men want…regular sex without any real commitment is the ideal situation for most men….considering how difficult it is for men to find just one woman who’s even remotely interested in chatting, let alone meeting, on this site why on earth would 99% of them prefer to meet once and then return to the excruciatingly painful and seemingly endless search to find another woman to meet rather than carrying on meeting the same woman regularly without any commitment? I think most men, if they’re being honest, would tell you that meeting a stranger for a quickie and leaving straight after is a lot less enjoyable than meeting someone you have established a connection with and feel safe and comfortable with for a prolonged period.

I’m very surprised that you’re finding it so difficult to find what you want because I reckon most men would relish the opportunity to enjoy that kind of relationship with you.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Thanks, it’s always good to get others opinions and it’s nice to see that’s it’s a mixed bag too

quite reassuring. I would love to meet guys in the real world but I wouldn’t know how lol

I'm in the similar position. I'm not overly keen on one nighters but think I deserve more than being used as a sex toy. I get more stimulation out of knowing the person well. But most of the messages i get on here are thinking I'm their wank bank. Especially at this time in the morning!

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"What you’ve described is basically what the majority of men want…regular sex without any real commitment is the ideal situation for most men….considering how difficult it is for men to find just one woman who’s even remotely interested in chatting, let alone meeting, on this site why on earth would 99% of them prefer to meet once and then return to the excruciatingly painful and seemingly endless search to find another woman to meet rather than carrying on meeting the same woman regularly without any commitment? I think most men, if they’re being honest, would tell you that meeting a stranger for a quickie and leaving straight after is a lot less enjoyable than meeting someone you have established a connection with and feel safe and comfortable with for a prolonged period.

I’m very surprised that you’re finding it so difficult to find what you want because I reckon most men would relish the opportunity to enjoy that kind of relationship with you. "

Disagree from my experience from fab. Maybe they struggle with knowing how to behave with the opposite sex, most are socially very immature

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Or totally self centered?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is possible to find someone for FWB but I wouldn’t say it’s common. When I was a single lady on here I was looking for the same but struggled to find anyone wanting the same.

Then I found T on here and we ended up married

Mrs

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"It is possible to find someone for FWB but I wouldn’t say it’s common. When I was a single lady on here I was looking for the same but struggled to find anyone wanting the same.

Then I found T on here and we ended up married

Mrs "

Lucky you, I do hear many swingers meeting on fab and marrying. Just got to read a billion unsuitable messages to find a decent guy who mature enough to create fwb or even fall in love with the right person. I get way too many weird messages and my profile isn't even the type to encourage it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is possible to find someone for FWB but I wouldn’t say it’s common. When I was a single lady on here I was looking for the same but struggled to find anyone wanting the same.

Then I found T on here and we ended up married

Mrs

I was really lucky! I had pretty much given up all hope and then T sent me a really normal message and we went from there. It’s a shame that there’s so much spam and weirdos to get through because there’s some genuinely amazing gents on here

Mrs

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By *ercury oneMan
over a year ago

Chippenham

We do exist. I had a regular FB fir 3 years but in the end she moved to Scotland and that was a bit to far to travel sadly, but we had some great times.

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By *uri00620Woman
over a year ago

Croydon

"So the main thing I have been hoping to find is a long term sex buddy/FWB. Someone I know the sex is amazing, we can hold a conversation, texting and keeping touch and occasionally have nights in with a takeaway/films and lots of naughty fun sending me home in the morning exhausted .

However it seems that 99% of the guys on here are after a quickie and to just shoot their load as fast as possible.

They exist for sure, although I'm probably after what you think 99% of blokes are looking for now. I had a 5 year fwb from here.

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By *hruxtonrboyMan
over a year ago

shurburn in elmet

I would much rather find a regular Fwb I find it far more pleasurable where two or three ppl can be more relaxed and get to know mind and body

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By *iniskirtcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln + roadtrips

Maybe you need to be a bit more flexible on the age range...

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By *akingHayCouple
over a year ago

Mayfield

Well Hay and I have been FWB for about 10 years, which includes a long period where there was no sex, just chatting/emailing and the occasional pub. We met through the other place and only got a profile on here after we started playing as a couple.

I do think it takes time though.

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By *ee And MikeCouple
over a year ago

Cannock

As a cuckold couple it can be difficult finding a long-term fuck buddy that is happy to fit in with a ‘regular lifestyle’ go out for a drink, meal, that sort of thing as well as the regular sex. Most looking for one-offs rather than regular commitment.

I appreciate that’s not everyone on here but harder to find long term fun on here than you’d think !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

FWB do exist, but both of you have to be after the same thing to begin with and the dynamic has to be there too, i.e the pair of you have to get along, enjoy each others company outside as well as inside the bedroom, be on similar sexual wavelengths and be available to meet regularly enough to satisfy each other. That is the holy grail of FWB as far as I'm concerned and I have been lucky enough to find and enjoy this dynamic in the past with a girl only afew miles away from me. Unfortunately she has since moved away and while we're still very much friends, the benefits side is now hampered abit by logistics and distance.

It's a shame you only seem to find the "fuck and go" type guys, but on the flip side I've chatted with quite afew women on fab who seem seriously uncomfortable with the idea of a meet being anything but sex, which I respect, but for FWB I can't see the harm in repeat meets also including chats, walks, or a drink, and potentially a meal out together, cinema etc. But I suppose that's my definition of FWB versus someone else's definition; which I'd more describe as fuck buddy/NSA dynamic. I do understand some women may see FWB as a road to acquiring a clingy, possessive or jealous guy who suddenly expects monogamy, cohabitation, marriage and kids, but I'd guess that risk is pretty rare! Were all adults and on a swinging site after all! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We guys are out their im still looking for the perfect bi couple retired so we can meet daytime weekdays regular is so sensual

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By *weetCruellaWoman
over a year ago

somewhere sweet and sour

I have a FWB. We have been each others lives for past 4 years. But we have the respect to know thats exactly what it is. We spend time together and text everyday, but not in each pockets. He is one of my closest friends and even without the benefits, we will always be there for one another.

We are happy, it works well. But unless someone is stating they want a regular FWB, then you will have to just keep looking.

I think men may think that a reg fwb will try and change them or manipulate them into going down the "couples" route.. (and vice versa with men trying to get the female to be exclusive) that is one thing I have never done with a reg fwb... isn't my jam.

Just be prepared to search and if or when you do find one, male sure that there isnt a nutter lurking in the background... lol

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By *weetCruellaWoman
over a year ago

somewhere sweet and sour

Ffs make sure * not male lol bloody autocorrect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" We spend time together and text everyday, but not in each pockets. He is one of my closest friends and even without the benefits, we will always be there for one another.

We are happy, it works well. "

Exactly that! Lucky you and long may it continue for you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Harder than we've imagined to find a unicorn we could both play with and be regular fwb. We'd love the social experience with another girl. Meals, events, clubs etc.

Seems like a lot of couples that choose the mff route are in the same boat. If it was mfm we're seeking. Could have a quickie in 5 minutes time arranged so I see the problem you guys are also facing.

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By *rbane PlayerMan
over a year ago

London

However it seems that 99% of the guys on here are after a quickie and to just shoot their load as fast as possible.

It isn’t a big ask if all parties want it. Just it can be “complicated” and it is such wide spectrum of what long term sex buddy/friends with benefits can be. So many factors like distance, how often you meet, how much you want to be in a person’s vanilla life and they want to be in yours. And then life gets in the way and situations can change. Still it can work. Hope you find what you want.

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By *weetCruellaWoman
over a year ago

somewhere sweet and sour

" We spend time together and text everyday, but not in each pockets. He is one of my closest friends and even without the benefits, we will always be there for one another.

We are happy, it works well.

Exactly that! Lucky you and long may it continue for you!

Thank you. Plus its a turn on to hear about his other plays lol and vice versa lol

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

Most of my fwb I have had for a very long time.. so they do exist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This would be perfect for me

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By *tagmeupMan
over a year ago

wirral

I can easily get the fuck and go off the dating appa but I actually want a partner to swing with now. Iv done this in the past and loved it and want to again. Im not just looking to sleep with lots of other women either as a big kink for me is mmf.

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By *tagmeupMan
over a year ago

wirral

And im more than happy to travel too so maybe one day

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By *irtyKittenCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

A lot only want a FB (Fuck Buddy - just a plain old booty call) instead of FWB.

So I think you need to make clear you want a FWB which means someone who is a friend. You hang out sometimes. Do stuff together minus the official "BF/GF" title to them as a lot don't understand that FWB means this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love to find this .....apply within!

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We have a regular FWB guy that we both meet but I imagine if it’s a Hotwife scenario it would be a bit more difficult.

Finding the right people regardless of dynamics is like sifting through mud on here but they are there if you search.

Or don’t search - most of time things happen when you’re least looking

Our hardest match is finding regular locals.

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By *aconteur69111Man
over a year ago

eastbourne

I would love to find a FWB being divorced, I am not ready for a full blown relationship, but miss the company of a nice woman. Someone to do the day to day stuff with but with out the commitment of a relationship.

I believe the more you get to know someone the better the benefits side of things gets.

I think you just have to be honest and upfront with each other about boundaries and expectations, from the start….

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

I like the idea of finding someone/couple we can chill with have drinks as well as the other stuff.

I'm not really looking to be fair but if it came along I think it would be great.

Mrs

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Anyone interested in fwb or open relationship who can travel to Oxfordshire?

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By *iniskirtcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln + roadtrips

"Anyone interested in fwb or open relationship who can travel to Oxfordshire?

Yes.

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By *educerMan
over a year ago

Brentwood

Easier picking the winning lottery numbers.....

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By *b72Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

Like many I'd love a FwB, but they are hard to find and people define it differently!

I work long hours during to the week so it would be nice to be able to go out with some company, without it having to mean sex!!

P.s I do still want sex though

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By *rs-Naughty_Mr-CuddlesCouple
over a year ago

Nr coleford

We would love a fwb tho unfortunately bi guys are bit of a unicorn

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"We would love a fwb tho unfortunately bi guys are bit of a unicorn

Do you know you can edit the filters of your search to just show you bi men’s profiles? There are loads on this site so i don’t know why you consider them to be a bit of a unicorn.

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By *tagmeupMan
over a year ago

wirral

"Anyone interested in fwb or open relationship who can travel to Oxfordshire?

Most definitely x

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"We would love a fwb tho unfortunately bi guys are bit of a unicorn

I've had many message me. Have you tried asking for them on your profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think it’s an issue of survivors bias.

The guys with more long term fwb situations are probs less likely to actively be looking for new things compared to the guys you talk about just wanting to cum and go…

Think building a connection is key for me. The sex always gets better with time and understanding

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

"We would love a fwb tho unfortunately bi guys are bit of a unicorn

Not as much unicorn as women that fancy a (non-op) trans woman for a friend and occasional lover...

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By *nselfishpleaserMan
over a year ago

kent

"Think it’s an issue of survivors bias.

The guys with more long term fwb situations are probs less likely to actively be looking for new things compared to the guys you talk about just wanting to cum and go…

Think building a connection is key for me. The sex always gets better with time and understanding"

Exactly how I look at it

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By *arl17Man
over a year ago

Central Portugal

"Think it’s an issue of survivors bias.

The guys with more long term fwb situations are probs less likely to actively be looking for new things compared to the guys you talk about just wanting to cum and go…

Think building a connection is key for me. The sex always gets better with time and understanding

Exactly how I look at it

Ain't incorrect...true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always wanting fwb over come and go. Though gotta have some sort of connection of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A FwB you say? A dream for many …

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By *isteaMan
over a year ago

Around

I am looking for a FWB... People tend to push it towards a relationship situation. My previous fwb was more focus on making us an item, even tho we did talk about it. I place more emphasis on the friendship, as for the benefits, that's a bonus. Inbox if interested.

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

Nope we do just other end of the country

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still see my Fwbs been seeing around 5 years now they are out there just keep looking

Hope that helps

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By *tevieg3222Man
over a year ago

Brighton

"I still see my Fwbs been seeing around 5 years now they are out there just keep looking

Hope that helps

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I have inbox you x

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

"We would love a fwb tho unfortunately bi guys are bit of a unicorn

Well try putting straight on your profile, it draws them Straight to like peas peas to Honey . Plus TV and gay couples baffles me.

I think it's a long term FWB is the holy grail as your time together, and he gets better and better the more you know each other.

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By *uckMan
over a year ago

Scunthorpe DN15

I am in Scunthorpe but outside your age range.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had 3 over the years that I've been swinging.

Its not easy to find but they're here.

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By *eally_Rosie OP Woman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

So it is out there, it’s just about finding the right guy that I connect with and developing a friendship beyond, just love the idea of the cinema, long evenings, Netflix etc.. I just find that they suddenly don’t have time or just message for a booty call and to be honest it makes me roll my eyes. Don’t get me wrong I still really enjoy it a lot but a daily friendship where we get to enjoy all the naughty stuff too and build on it to go to clubs etc is the goal.

I’ve loved reading all your experiences and some of you have been really lucky and still are xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So it is out there, it’s just about finding the right guy that I connect with and developing a friendship beyond, just love the idea of the cinema, long evenings, Netflix etc.. I just find that they suddenly don’t have time or just message for a booty call and to be honest it makes me roll my eyes. Don’t get me wrong I still really enjoy it a lot but a daily friendship where we get to enjoy all the naughty stuff too and build on it to go to clubs etc is the goal.

I’ve loved reading all your experiences and some of you have been really lucky and still are xxx "

You'll get there I'm sure x

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

This is very much me too - one off's often don't do a lot for me. I love building up that connection, enjoying each others company as well as the fun stuff. The sex is always better too.

I've met FWBs through Fab previously, as with anything it takes time to find the right person

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By *adtaffladMan
over a year ago

Rhyl

I'm hoping to find a long term fwb as well

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By *enuine_J87Man
over a year ago

Eastleigh

The problem is both people need to be completely into it from start to finish… and after.

Sometimes I think I may have met a perfect fwb potential but then the sex is… not great, or maybe their is something about their personality or humour that just doesn’t click well with my own.

Equally they could think something similar about me or pick up on a bad habit that I don’t even know I have etc

I have had long term fwbs, one of them I may be meeting again next week for first time in a year, before that been seeing each other on and off for over a decade! It can happen

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By *tagmeupMan
over a year ago

wirral

Has anyone had any joy off this thread?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A long term FWB situation would be perfect for me ….

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I'm not sure all that many guys would be up for something like this with someone who is already married

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By *tagmeupMan
over a year ago

wirral

"I'm not sure all that many guys would be up for something like this with someone who is already married "

Am sure they would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately I agree with your hubby op,fwb don5 exist on fab ,I'm single and even though some guys tell me there looking for a fwb they actually. Just want a quick fck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can assure you from a guy’s perspective that we do exist lol. That’s exactly what I’m here for.

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By *r_PinkMan
over a year ago

london stratford

However it seems that 99% of the guys on here are after a quickie and to just shoot their load as fast as possible.

I think you have not found the right man whos "up for the job" as it where!

I for one would LOVE to have that kinda situation. I actually have had it in the past with a few couples. One couple and i lasted 18 months before things and situations changed stopping us from carrying on.

Admittedly, most men on here are only after a quicky but I assure you not all, maybe 75% are quicky guys but keep looking for the 25% of us who would love a long term friendship/FWB with you.

AND................... YOU ARE WORTH IT and it will be worth the wait when you find "the one"x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

However it seems that 99% of the guys on here are after a quickie and to just shoot their load as fast as possible.

There are a good few of us that do look for this sort of relationship here but location is a very important among other things, it's one thing to be able to find someone you connect with enough to have good sex but to have enough in common to also become friends can be a little difficult, then there is the risk of feelings getting in the way especially if you are married already, I had an amazing FWB for around 6 months but when her hubby pulled the plug on it in the end as he started getting concerned she had court feelings for me it was devastating even though me and her were content with what we had neither of us wanting to disrupt each others family lives, he couldn't live with the risk anymore and for that reason I'd be extremely hesitant to becoming an FWB to another married woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a Fuck buddie for 10 years, great fuk so she was.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had a Fuck buddie for 10 years, great fuk so she was.

A fuck buddy isn't a fwb,

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By *sianTravellerMan
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

I have always looked for a Long Term fuckbuddy female or a couple however it is quiet tough

It would be nice to find someone within a reasonable distance as i have recently met a couple where the distance is quiet a bit but just about do-able

If there is anyone else looking, please feel free to message or wink me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thing is, to find a fwb you have to meet people. The fwb situation isnt available 'off the shelf'.

It's what I'd like too but I realise I have to meet different people and allow something to develop and grow. I'm not going to stumble across the perfect fwb for me and definately wont know if it's right till we've seen each other a few times. It has to develop naturally I think. Issue I've found here is when I am clear that fwb is my aim, I'm accused of looking for a boyfriend....I'm not, I'm looking for a man friend who can preferably socialise as well as fk like the proverbial beast

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By *ubicon MangoMan
over a year ago

willenhall

Noooo some of us men seek the same not just a quickie. Love a weeekend of filth and fun.. but sone people want fuck and go like a Macys drive through wheres the fun in that.

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By *tagmeupMan
over a year ago

wirral

"Can assure you from a guy’s perspective that we do exist lol. That’s exactly what I’m here for.

I second this - same

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By *m3232Man
over a year ago

maidenhead

The dream is to find a long term fwb.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like everything in life issues like work, family etc have to be balanced. Im sure with patience you can find a fwb.

Personally Im still friends with people I have met on here. A lunch, coffee, and a few hours together is bliss

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By *tagmeupMan
over a year ago

wirral

I’m more look for a partner that i can enjoy the lifestyle with than a fb

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can go the other way though with a long term fwb.

I had a fwb for a while and was great but then he started to get a bit demanding and started to push the boundaries we had previously agreed on.

We had to put a end to it unfortunately

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By *evonrobMan
over a year ago

Kingsbridge

However it seems that 99% of the guys on here are after a quickie and to just shoot their load as fast as possible.

I think they exist but probably not in your immediate vicinity!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

However it seems that 99% of the guys on here are after a quickie and to just shoot their load as fast as possible.

although quickie meets can be a lot of fun, i do agree with you OP. fwb scenarios are great long term. am looking for the same scenario myself, but am being patient as it's definitely something worth waiting for. i'm not 99% of those men, so i can't say for certain that's what they are all looking for, but never just accept things as they may be and go with it. if you want a fwb, keep that in mind and wait until you do find it... otherwise you're just denying what you were seeking and lying to yourself. having certain necessary expectations are okay, but i would say (not aimed at anyone in particular here) in general, having high expectations can definitely affect your mood on the actual reality of a situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thing is, to find a fwb you have to meet people. The fwb situation isnt available 'off the shelf'.

Avoid the ones who whine about boyfriend stuff. They just want fuck and go. They will lie to get a fuck claiming they want fwb.

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

A local FwB would suit me down to the ground. I thought I’d found one but it wasn’t to be.

Offers?

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By *mf123Man
over a year ago

with one foot out the door

I cant do it again prefer to stay out of all that drama and emotion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thing is, to find a fwb you have to meet people. The fwb situation isnt available 'off the shelf'.

Avoid the ones who whine about boyfriend stuff. They just want fuck and go. They will lie to get a fuck claiming they want fwb."

Dont they just

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By *eretoplease2606Man
over a year ago

Chorley

I would be great to have a meet and also someone to hang out with out of the bedroom

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By *arried West End CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

However it seems that 99% of the guys on here are after a quickie and to just shoot their load as fast as possible.

I would love something like this for my wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love a fwb

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By *abyblues2023Woman
over a year ago

Everywhere and Nowhere baby thats where im at

I'd love one too, someone I could do things with away from fab, so no married men

Someone who's not ashamed to be seen with a fat bird

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd love one too, someone I could do things with away from fab, so no married men

Someone who's not ashamed to be seen with a fat bird "

You’re gorgeous

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By *asual_WandererWoman
over a year ago

A spot you want me

They def exist... I've a fwb of 2.5yrs and another lovely encounter that lasted 18 months.

I think as someone who's partnered it's just about seeking that match-make on motivations / boundaries as there's many many spectrums to what an FWB might look like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They def exist... I've a fwb of 2.5yrs and another lovely encounter that lasted 18 months.

I think as someone who's partnered it's just about seeking that match-make on motivations / boundaries as there's many many spectrums to what an FWB might look like."

Could not agree more...was a fwb/lover to a wonderful couple for 4years. Best times ever...based on respect and trust....the hubby loved knowing his wife was being looked after whilst he was away. The mmf scenario was great too

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By *onyMad123Couple
over a year ago

nottingham/ derby

Had one for 13 months who lied cheated and risked me.and screwed up my head,but without going through that I wouldn't have found my FWB I have now, we are best friends who have amazing naughties, gets on well with my partner, is very respectful, and depote occasional up and downs, it works for us right now and I hope for the considerable long term. Also has taught me about true friendship, we came into one another's lives at tricky times for us both, but we deffo have a interesting connection without the need for any formal labels.

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By *hoirCouple
over a year ago

Clacton/Bury St. Edmunds

However it seems that 99% of the guys on here are after a quickie and to just shoot their load as fast as possible.

This is why we haven't met many. We want a classical swinging experience as that is what we grew up around and we're not willing to budge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

However it seems that 99% of the guys on here are after a quickie and to just shoot their load as fast as possible.

Your hubby is wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a couple that have lasted a few months but they always inevitably get bored and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They do exist but now days is harder for people as a lot of people ain’t honest

And I feel women have very high standards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They do exist but now days is harder for people as a lot of people ain’t honest

And I feel women have very high standards "

Do they have high standards or do they just want to engage with people that they like and find physically attractive?

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By *eretoplease2606Man
over a year ago

Chorley

Your beautiful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They do exist but now days is harder for people as a lot of people ain’t honest

And I feel women have very high standards

Do they have high standards or do they just want to engage with people that they like and find physically attractive?"

Exactly

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By *ugarplumpfairyWoman
over a year ago

scotland

I would love a FWB arrangement.

If anyone’s interested then message me and we can see if we’ve got any common ground

Nobody attached though please!

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By *iver_lover_6969Man
over a year ago

South Liverpool

When ibwas younger had thought I had lots of cool FWBs but looking back it was women who were waiting for me to commit and eventually getting tired and finding someone else to settle down with

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By *ibLeiMan
over a year ago

Manchester

From what I’ve understood, a lot of guys who advertise themselves as being single here aren’t single by any stretch of the imagination. So it’s normal they’d be looking for quick f*cks over a fwb arrangement, which would require a greater time investment.

But there are guys on here (including me! Hello potential fwbs around Manchester!) who would absolutely love to find (a) great fwb arrangement(s). Always nice to make more friends, and repeat sexual encounters are always more fun and enjoyable IMO

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By *ilfCrumpet9Man
over a year ago

Wirral

However it seems that 99% of the guys on here are after a quickie and to just shoot their load as fast as possible.

Shame you live so far looking for a fwb was seeing an older couple but moved away. Not had any luck since

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"From what I’ve understood, a lot of guys who advertise themselves as being single here aren’t single by any stretch of the imagination. So it’s normal they’d be looking for quick f*cks over a fwb arrangement, which would require a greater time investment.

That’s true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would love a FWB arrangement.

If anyone’s interested then message me and we can see if we’ve got any common ground

Nobody attached though please!

Why did you have to be so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They do exist but now days is harder for people as a lot of people ain’t honest

And I feel women have very high standards

Do they have high standards or do they just want to engage with people that they like and find physically attractive?

Exactly

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They do exist but now days is harder for people as a lot of people ain’t honest

And I feel women have very high standards

Do they have high standards or do they just want to engage with people that they like and find physically attractive?"

Hmm maybe a bit of that but mainly high standards I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They do exist but now days is harder for people as a lot of people ain’t honest

And I feel women have very high standards

Do they have high standards or do they just want to engage with people that they like and find physically attractive?

Hmm maybe a bit of that but mainly high standards I think "

Is there anything with having high standards?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They do exist but now days is harder for people as a lot of people ain’t honest

And I feel women have very high standards

Do they have high standards or do they just want to engage with people that they like and find physically attractive?

Hmm maybe a bit of that but mainly high standards I think

Is there anything wrong with having high standards? "

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I met my FB on here 8 years ago. We split up earlier this month. They can be found but it's not easy.

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over a year ago

"They do exist but now days is harder for people as a lot of people ain’t honest

And I feel women have very high standards

Do they have high standards or do they just want to engage with people that they like and find physically attractive?

No each to there own really but I think some people not all should be more realistic

Hmm maybe a bit of that but mainly high standards I think

Is there anything with having high standards? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They do exist but now days is harder for people as a lot of people ain’t honest

And I feel women have very high standards

Do they have high standards or do they just want to engage with people that they like and find physically attractive?

Hmm maybe a bit of that but mainly high standards I think "

Curious, what's you idea of a high standard that women on here expect?

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