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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

So you meet a woman/couple have a play, the woman doesn't cum, does this bother you?

Just curious

Mrs

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By *ody.89Man
over a year ago

London

Given the outrageous state of the 'orgasm gap' between men and women in heterosexual encounters. Yes. I aim for a 3:1 ratio.

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By *runkensailor59Man
over a year ago

Bellshill

It absolutely would bother me! It’s an ego thing… I know some women don’t cum every time, but I always take it that I haven’t put enough effort in. I know some women are impacted by different factors, such as time of the cycle etc, sensitivity, alcohol consumption etc. but making a woman cum first is always my goal.

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By *ansexualPandaMan
over a year ago

cumallover

"So you meet a woman/couple have a play, the woman doesn't cum, does this bother you?

Just curious

Mrs "

Only if it bothers them.

It's nice to know that the woman has cum but it doesn't make it a bad meet as long as she's happy.

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By *ontWannaMissASwingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Depends if it bothers her and if she's had an enjoyable time anyway.

Ideally, of course I would like to make sure they cum, but so long as they enjoy the play time regardless I'm not going to push it.

Mrs for example is very difficult to send over the edge. It very rarely happens during actual sex and even with toys and other body parts there are certain tricks to make it more likely, but it doesn't always happen. I often have to help her get there after a meet when we get home.

In that scenario the last thing we want is a single-minded bloke smashing away because its some kind of badge of honour.

She can enjoy the meet without it.

It's provided me with a better guide of how to treat other women too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you meet a woman/couple have a play, the woman doesn't cum, does this bother you?

Just curious

Mrs "

Maybe she just has a good time, cumming is more impooirtant to men. Can't say anyone I hve met didn't cum though and many manage a squirt too.

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By *aveonMan
over a year ago

Dartford

This is actually quite important for me, it’s not an ego thing but if a woman I’m with has not had fun and enjoyed it, then I feel like I’ve let her down

I know that this is not the only measure if a woman has had fun, but seeing a woman enjoy her self just makes me get so turned on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It would bother me, as stated above it's to do with our male ego, you want to be able to make her cum at least once before you do, because of course it makes us feel like we are doing it right and we all love doing it right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you meet a woman/couple have a play, the woman doesn't cum, does this bother you?

Just curious

Mrs "

Whilst I would prefer to have made her cum, if she has enjoyed the meet and play, then perhaps it just gives something left to explore next time?

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

Not everything is about orgasms.

Having said that … reversing roles, there have been times where I haven’t cum on a meet and the woman’s been a bit confused or put out. Even though I’ve still had a great time.

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By *rpeggioCouple
over a year ago

Baughurst

It does, it would make me think I was not doing as best as I could have. I'm more of a pleaser than a pleaser, so I love all the playing partners involved having a great time, particularly Lena.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"It absolutely would bother me! It’s an ego thing… I know some women don’t cum every time, but I always take it that I haven’t put enough effort in. I know some women are impacted by different factors, such as time of the cycle etc, sensitivity, alcohol consumption etc. but making a woman cum first is always my goal. "

I very rarely cum with a new partner doesn't mean I don't enjoy it though.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to ask new sexual partners for guidance to get them there or how get them closer if they are not at that point. I was quite surprised to hear that not a lot of men do that.

Some women just can’t with new partners, others can place pressure on themselves to cum and that can ruin their entire experience.

It’s absolutely not every time but I don’t always cum the first time with a new sexual partner, I have no idea why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a partner for many years, before which she had been married with kids followed by numerous partners. All without experiencing a climax,until enjoying my tongue. So yes I would be disappointed, but would view it as a hiccup in the path of leading the lady to ecstasy (he says modestly).

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By *cing3894Man
over a year ago

Billingham

Yes it would, preferably I would give her an orgasm via oral before penetration, and again afterwards if my performance isnt up to scratch.

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By *ts the taking part thatMan
over a year ago

southampton

"So you meet a woman/couple have a play, the woman doesn't cum, does this bother you?

Just curious

Mrs "

I think it would dissapoint me if it was more than a BJ but situations vary.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it would.

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By *eliable guyMan
over a year ago

Biggleswade

I wonder if it bothers a women if their male partner doesn’t cum?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

speaking as a lady I like when the effort is put in ...even if I don't cum I might've had a good time.

Sadly most men I've met it's been solely about them cumming ...no thought/effort into even trying to make me cum .

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By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Given the outrageous state of the 'orgasm gap' between men and women in heterosexual encounters. Yes. I aim for a 3:1 ratio."

3 for you and one for her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wonder if it bothers a women if their male partner doesn’t cum? "
it would bother me in some cases ....with a regular partner I don't think as much as I'd know then enough to know what bits they did enjoy .

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By *eastZMan
over a year ago

London

"So you meet a woman/couple have a play, the woman doesn't cum, does this bother you?

Just curious

Mrs "

My existence there is to satisfy the lady. If she doesn't cum it means I am not pressing the right buttons. I will revaluate and do my best to achieve satisfaction.

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By *ustin time777Man
over a year ago

coalville

"Given the outrageous state of the 'orgasm gap' between men and women in heterosexual encounters. Yes. I aim for a 3:1 ratio.

3 for you and one for her

Seems fair

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By *oupot56Man
over a year ago

Ruislip

No but I would like her to every one needs that realese

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By *yesbeenopened2Couple
over a year ago

Rugby

I hate the fact that my ego would dictate that it would.

OP. To throw a different question back to you, what if, as a woman, you slept with a guy and he didn’t cum? Would that bother you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I Would feel like I could’ve done more. But I would just make sure she’s ok and ask if I can do anything more.

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By *yesbeenopened2Couple
over a year ago

Rugby

"speaking as a lady I like when the effort is put in ...even if I don't cum I might've had a good time.

Sadly most men I've met it's been solely about them cumming ...no thought/effort into even trying to make me cum ."

You’re meeting the wrong guys!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"speaking as a lady I like when the effort is put in ...even if I don't cum I might've had a good time.

Sadly most men I've met it's been solely about them cumming ...no thought/effort into even trying to make me cum .

You’re meeting the wrong guys!

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I entertained a guy who said this after I posted a frustrating stat ....and he did exactly the same thing , he came in two pumps and then asked if I wanted a cuppa ..... his reason was I'm too sexy (insert eyes rolls here . stupes) ...like if you know you are excitable, jerk off a couple times before the meet or have a plan like foreplay or oral... anything really

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By *tyoursecretserviceMan
over a year ago

J11 M5 Cheltenham

So you meet a woman/couple have a play, the woman doesn't cum, does this bother you?

Oh yes it does bother me. I am very tactile and love foreplay.

Sex gets better and more intense when you have made her cum just using lips tongue fingers and toys before my cock gets near her. Love it even more when they tell you they're sub. So you tease and tease and tease.( Just like edging) then all of a sudden they take over and fuck your brains out.

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By *otguy555Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Eyes been opened. I can honestly say that if I didn’t make you both come first time round then I would keep going all night until I did. You are both sexy as fuck

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By *yesbeenopened2Couple
over a year ago

Rugby

"Eyes been opened. I can honestly say that if I didn’t make you both come first time round then I would keep going all night until I did. You are both sexy as fuck"

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By *elshhung50Man
over a year ago

caerphilly

Be a long night I won’t fuck until you have cum

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By *iberius61Man
over a year ago

Pontefract

Slightly, some people orgasm easier than others, a lot of fun can be had even without orgasm. One lady I play with a lot it took a while, maybe three play sessions before she fully orgasmed. It was great when she finally did cum, but we had a lot of fun beforehand. Really we met up initially with spanking the main objective, it was quite funny that eventually we settled more on 'plain' sex and the spanking reduced from being the main interest.

But I digress. It didn't bother me too much the first time, as I say, some people cum easier than others. I guess it then became a case of seeing what she did require to orgasm, but once we got there, it became easier.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"I hate the fact that my ego would dictate that it would.

OP. To throw a different question back to you, what if, as a woman, you slept with a guy and he didn’t cum? Would that bother you?"

I guess it might, it's less common for a guy not to though, women on the other hand don't far more often than men, I'm not a fake it kinda person either, I just rarely orgasm with anyone new.

Mrs

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By *yesbeenopened2Couple
over a year ago

Rugby

"I hate the fact that my ego would dictate that it would.

OP. To throw a different question back to you, what if, as a woman, you slept with a guy and he didn’t cum? Would that bother you?

I guess it might, it's less common for a guy not to though, women on the other hand don't far more often than men, I'm not a fake it kinda person either, I just rarely orgasm with anyone new.

Mrs "

My wife is the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So you meet a woman/couple have a play, the woman doesn't cum, does this bother you?

Just curious

Mrs "

Absolutley.

My first proper girlfried and who i lost my virginity to had multiple orgasms from penetrive sex and so couldnt be with a woman that doesnt cum that way,

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By *oding1Man
over a year ago

marlow

"speaking as a lady I like when the effort is put in ...even if I don't cum I might've had a good time.

Sadly most men I've met it's been solely about them cumming ...no thought/effort into even trying to make me cum ."

I'm so sad to read this! Then I'm the odd one out, my main drive is to get both of us to a happy end.

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By *inkyJamesMan
over a year ago

80020 Broomfield

That's a very intelligent post

Thx for the great food for thought

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By *inkyJamesMan
over a year ago

80020 Broomfield

_rpeggio is such a perfect match made in heaven

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hate the fact that my ego would dictate that it would.

OP. To throw a different question back to you, what if, as a woman, you slept with a guy and he didn’t cum? Would that bother you?

I guess it might, it's less common for a guy not to though, women on the other hand don't far more often than men, I'm not a fake it kinda person either, I just rarely orgasm with anyone new.

Mrs "

Same. I let them know beforehand and if they start going on about how they always make women have an orgasm with their amazing skills and guarantee I will cum, I cancel the meet.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

"So you meet a woman/couple have a play, the woman doesn't cum, does this bother you?

Just curious

Mrs "

No it doesn’t

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By *inkyycurvyyWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

My sensitivity is affected by my contraception so I find it hard to cum without toys, and I especially find it hard to cum with a new partner. But I still love sex and pleasure comes in different forms. I get pleasure from lots of sensations even without an orgasm and sex isn't just about orgasms.

If a guy starts behaving like a dick because I didn't cum and making me feel bad about it it's a massive turn off for me and would make me not want to see him again. I get so tired of apologising to men and massaging their fragile egos because I don't cum. Just accept that I am still enjoying myself and having a good time and it's nothing to do with you. Before I have sex with someone now I have to explain to them that I probably won't cum and that's okay

And if a bloke becomes obsessed with trying to make me cum and makes me feel like I am under pressure/rushing it it absolutely won't happen at all.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"My sensitivity is affected by my contraception so I find it hard to cum without toys, and I especially find it hard to cum with a new partner. But I still love sex and pleasure comes in different forms. I get pleasure from lots of sensations even without an orgasm and sex isn't just about orgasms.

And if a bloke becomes obsessed with trying to make me cum and makes me feel like I am under pressure/rushing it it absolutely won't happen at all. "

I'm exactly the same, although this post is putting me off meeting with couples seems the end game big O the main focus, I've never had another women feel bad she couldn't make me cum, as long as everyone has a great time I dont understand the need for the orgasm, it's fairy common knowledge woman dont all cum easily.

Mrs

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By *inkyycurvyyWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

And if a bloke becomes obsessed with trying to make me cum and makes me feel like I am under pressure/rushing it it absolutely won't happen at all.

Mrs"

100% agree! Clear to see from this thread that men and women in the majority tend to have a different focus when it comes to sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as everyone has had fun and an enjoyable time, it doesn’t really matter to either of us. Fun and pleasure is what we’re interested in! C might not orgasm just from being a bit nervous with someone new, that wouldn’t mean she hasn’t had a great time.

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