FabSwingers.com forum: No sexual fantasy’s

By *verready5000 OP Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Talking to the Mrs and she says she has no sexual fantasies while I have loads I’d love to do.

Surely she can’t be that vanilla?

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By *IG G77Man
over a year ago

GATLEY

Maybe she's tried all her fantasy's already

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By *verready5000 OP Man
over a year ago

mansfield

"Maybe she's tried all her fantasy's already "

Nope lol. She’s only been with me. Been together a long time, I’m just trying to spice things up a bit.

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By *ottodot123Couple
over a year ago

Gillingham

Maybe they're so filthy in her mind she feels she can't share them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Talking to the Mrs and she says she has no sexual fantasies while I have loads I’d love to do.

Surely she can’t be that vanilla?"

Maybe she doesn’t trust you enough to share. I know I wouldn’t

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually you know what, this has pissed me off.

Fucking going on to a public forum, on a sex site you’re on as a single male, slating your wife.

Poor woman deserves better.

I hope you stand on Lego asap

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

What fantasies are you wanting her to have ?.

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By *umbriaman1962Man
over a year ago

outside of penrith

"Maybe they're so filthy in her mind she feels she can't share them "

I had a ex very very vanilla apart from on holiday love going nude. She booked capde agde not understanding what it is. First couple days very very shocked by 3rd day sex on beach people watching foam party play just with me not let anyone join use.

When back home would not even talk about fun we had. We went back again couple years later had fun beach foam party clubs. Back home it was like nothing happened. It was like she thought it was wrong to admit what you enjoyed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe they're so filthy in her mind she feels she can't share them

Maybe the activities on holiday were all part of living out her fantasies, but back home she didnt feel the need to indulge any further.

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By *verready5000 OP Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Don’t get ya panties in a twist.

Maybe know the facts before having a rant?!!

"Actually you know what, this has pissed me off.

Fucking going on to a public forum, on a sex site you’re on as a single male, slating your wife.

Poor woman deserves better.

I hope you stand on Lego asap"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t get ya panties in a twist.

Maybe know the facts before having a rant?!!

Actually you know what, this has pissed me off.

Fucking going on to a public forum, on a sex site you’re on as a single male, slating your wife.

Poor woman deserves better.

I hope you stand on Lego asap"

Hes got a point though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP hasn't actually stated whether he's here with her permission........well, OP?

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By *empusMan
over a year ago

Poole

I think the first step to exploring fantasies is trust.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex would say the same. During the course of 15 years, I begged her to share her fantasies. I knew she had them, I don't think there is a person on the planet that does not have a fantasy or two. Anyways, after many years, she admitted she was bi-curious and fantasised about women and that she was just too embarrassed to admit to her fantasies. Still on good terms and speak frequently, she still has not acted out on her fantasy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe they're so filthy in her mind she feels she can't share them "

Sounds like that’s what it is to me!

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By *verready5000 OP Man
over a year ago

mansfield

Yes she knows I’m on here. Only for forums and photos. Obviously haven’t met anyone. Even if I wanted a meet seems like it’s difficult even if I wanted to.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Why don't you believe her?

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I have no fantasies.

When something occurs to me that I want to do, I ether do it or figure out it's not a viable option and stop thinking about it.

Maybe your wife is the same.

Or maybe she just doesn't want to tell someone with loose lips.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Talking to the Mrs and she says she has no sexual fantasies while I have loads I’d love to do.

Surely she can’t be that vanilla?

Maybe she doesn’t trust you enough to share. I know I wouldn’t "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should create some for her !! Talk them through together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t get ya panties in a twist.

Maybe know the facts before having a rant?!!

Moaning about your wife being vanilla on an open forum whilst you’re on here for extra-marital casual encounters. I truly feel for her, imagine she read this.

She deserves better and that’s the only fact that counts pal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually you know what, this has pissed me off.

Fucking going on to a public forum, on a sex site you’re on as a single male, slating your wife.

Poor woman deserves better.

I hope you stand on Lego asap"

Ouch! lego hurts

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By *oulou22Woman
over a year ago

Sutton

I have lots of fantasies but none I would ever do in real life. I can't afford that kind of production! In my experience mens fantasies are more about specific situations and womens are more elaborate scenarios. Or maybe she has not been able to develop an erotic imagination for various reasons. You could gently suggest she finds some good erotic fiction and see if that inspires her. But still she may not want to share!

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"Talking to the Mrs and she says she has no sexual fantasies while I have loads I’d love to do.

Surely she can’t be that vanilla?"

Maybe they don't involve you so she just tells you she has none

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She’s well wise to you mate.

She knows about your profile and when she found out she started an affair with that guy at work that she’s been thinking about for years.

Now she fulfils all her fantasies with him whilst your desperately trying to get women to sympathy fuck you on Fab.

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By *im4play4uMan
over a year ago

Hemel Hempstead

"She’s well wise to you mate.

She knows about your profile and when she found out she started an affair with that guy at work that she’s been thinking about for years.

Now she fulfils all her fantasies with him whilst your desperately trying to get women to sympathy fuck you on Fab. "

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

"She’s well wise to you mate.

She knows about your profile and when she found out she started an affair with that guy at work that she’s been thinking about for years.

Now she fulfils all her fantasies with him whilst your desperately trying to get women to sympathy fuck you on Fab. "

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By *anny34500Man
over a year ago

Luton

iv got afew inbox

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By *ave0070Man
over a year ago

Sleaford

Me and the wife both have quite a few fantasies and we share most of them with each other but there are some that I'm sure she keeps from me like I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See if she'll watch some porn with you and ask her to chose- worked for me before

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Maybe like a lot of people she suffers from Aphantasia.

She doesn't have fantasies because she doesn't have the ability to picture sensory images in her head.

It's not uncommon and has nothing to do with being vanilla.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes she knows I’m on here. Only for forums and photos. Obviously haven’t met anyone. Even if I wanted a meet seems like it’s difficult even if I wanted to.

Yet you have been verified by a meet....

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Talking to the Mrs and she says she has no sexual fantasies while I have loads I’d love to do.

Surely she can’t be that vanilla?"
i don’t have any either and I'm neopolitan

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

"Maybe they're so filthy in her mind she feels she can't share them "

Indeed, and they’re probably not even slightly filthy.

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Maybe it's about the dynamic of your relationship. On the face of it, you seem to have a different outlook in some respects, i.e. you have a singles profile on here, rather than a couple's profile, so even if she apparently 'knows about it', she's not engaging with this side of your life, or being a part of it. This would suggest that you are not on the same page in this respect at least and if this is the case why would you expect her to engage with the fantasy discussion, even if she has them?

Maybe she finds you too pushy / always going in about them / always wanting to talk about sex, when she has other priorities (home life, work, family, keeping your relationship together, etc), so it's easier to withdraw, than get into a conversation about them, because she knows that if she does talk about them, you'll be straight onto trying to arrange them, when she would prefer it just as a fantasy.

Just because you have particular desires, outlook etc, it doesn't mean that she does too. Your relationship is not all about you!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Actually you know what, this has pissed me off.

Fucking going on to a public forum, on a sex site you’re on as a single male, slating your wife.

Poor woman deserves better.

I hope you stand on Lego asap"

I like this man!!

Maybe she's like you and getting it elsewhere!

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually you know what, this has pissed me off.

Fucking going on to a public forum, on a sex site you’re on as a single male, slating your wife.

Poor woman deserves better.

I hope you stand on Lego asap

I like this man!!

Maybe she's like you and getting it elsewhere!

Mrs "

As a single male profile he’s likely not getting any, whereas a single female…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps she doesn't want to share them

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"My ex would say the same. During the course of 15 years, I begged her to share her fantasies. I knew she had them, I don't think there is a person on the planet that does not have a fantasy or two. Anyways, after many years, she admitted she was bi-curious and fantasised about women and that she was just too embarrassed to admit to her fantasies. Still on good terms and speak frequently, she still has not acted out on her fantasy."

Exactly what I shared with D after about 2 months, he shared his previous experiences of swinging as a single guy and here we are.. No longer curious. Mrs

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"She’s well wise to you mate.

She knows about your profile and when she found out she started an affair with that guy at work that she’s been thinking about for years.

Now she fulfils all her fantasies with him whilst your desperately trying to get women to sympathy fuck you on Fab.

Ouch!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Talking to the Mrs and she says she has no sexual fantasies while I have loads I’d love to do.

Surely she can’t be that vanilla?"

Itll be things like fucking a mutual friend or work colleague and even though she'd never do it, knows saying it would leave a seed of doubt in your mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Talking to the Mrs and she says she has no sexual fantasies while I have loads I’d love to do.

Surely she can’t be that vanilla?"

have you ever considered its not about being vanilla?

maybe she had a bad experience in her past and any fantasies overlap with those bad experiences. she maybe willing to try something in the moment if it arises but thinking about things may cause overthinking about previous bad experiences that she would rather avoid

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By *xXgemmaXxXCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Yes she knows I’m on here. Only for forums and photos. Obviously haven’t met anyone. Even if I wanted a meet seems like it’s difficult even if I wanted to.

But you’ve been verified by a meet and does she also know your profile is asking for ladies to message you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Actually you know what, this has pissed me off.

Fucking going on to a public forum, on a sex site you’re on as a single male, slating your wife.

Poor woman deserves better.

I hope you stand on Lego asap"

OMG love this reply. Couldn’t have put it any better.

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By *ischiefManaged69Couple
over a year ago

Preston

Maybe she doesn't have enough varied experience to draw on...maybe she thinks things in the moment and doesn't share at the time....maybe she doesnt feel comfortable to share...maybe she's reactive to stimulation when she sees or hears something. And maybe she is happy with your sex life as it is now.

Maybe, maybe, maybe...

There's loads of advice online about how to talk to your partner, how to explore wants, desires, ideas. I think Google is your friend on this not Fab.

Good luck OP

Vixen xx

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