FabSwingers.com forum: Bondage for beginners

By *eGinge OP Man
over a year ago

Halesowen

Meeting a new FWB in a day or two. She wants to have all control taken away. She has some basic bondage kits. Has anyone got any ideas on hot things to try out.

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By *ickD80Man
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"Meeting a new FWB in a day or two. She wants to have all control taken away. She has some basic bondage kits. Has anyone got any ideas on hot things to try out. "

You could take away all her control using the basic bondage kits that she has…

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

id suggest meeting her first and listen ... thats if you get on or meet again after ... bdsm is like everything else its between the couple/people in that setting its individual its not one thing for all ... its a humongous spectrum from mild to eye watering

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

If it’s a completely new relationship then you will both have to sit down and discuss everything you’re willing to do.

If you do go down the bondage route with ropes I recommend always having a pair of paramedic type scissors handing in case you need to cut them in a rush

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't do anything that you're not sure how to safely do. Don't tie too tight and don't mess around with breath play. Restraints are good....slapping is good, edging is good. Telling her what to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't do anything that you're not sure how to safely do. Don't tie too tight and don't mess around with breath play. Restraints are good....slapping is good, edging is good. Telling her what to do. "

This is a great starting point! Take it steady, we learned pretty quickly that rushing ruins it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Never enter into that dynamic with someone you've never met. Discuss first what she means by having all control taken away because I'm darn sure she doesn't actually mean that. You both need to understand what her actual boundaries are.

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By *oggoneMan
over a year ago

Derry

"Meeting a new FWB in a day or two. She wants to have all control taken away. She has some basic bondage kits. Has anyone got any ideas on hot things to try out. "

If you have no experience with ropes and knots, don't start now.

A blindfold, maybe some earphone with some music. Sensations can be intensified when senses are limited. A toy when she can't move can be fun, maybe a little tease or orgasm denial. You could try a bondage massage.

Go Slow have a safe word, communicate beforehand and don't forget the aftercare.

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By *inkedKuntsCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

As mentioned bondage is a big spectrum, are you talking cuffs or full body mummification in a vacbed?! But the main thing communication, communication, communication, communication, communication, communication. Sort your safe words. If she has also mentioned the words 'no limits' run away.

As mentioned stay away from rope as it can be incredibly dangerous, ropes laid on the wrong part of the body, incorrect tension, dangerous knots can all do serious damage. Start easy, maybe some ties to the wrists only, handcuffs, things that can be easily removed.

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By *inkyguyUKMan
44 weeks ago

worcester

Take it slow and make sure she or he is safe, use a safe word.

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