FabSwingers.com forum: Stage Fright!

By *ottubcoupleSW OP Couple
over a year ago

WSM

Wondered if many couples have experienced the issue of inviting someone to join you, they arrive but seem to then get stage fright.

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By *ikingpairCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

If by stage fright you mean can't get it up, then yes, we've had our fair share of those.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah we’ve had this twice now.

Poor Dora takes it upon herself and feels that she’s unattractive.

We tend to stick to guys well verified by other couples now or club meets who are clearly ready for action.

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By *ottubcoupleSW OP Couple
over a year ago

WSM

"If by stage fright you mean can't get it up, then yes, we've had our fair share of those."

That’s the one - was being polite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It happens.

Sometimes you build yourself up so much, the psychological pressure to perform can put something of a dampner on things

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Wondered if many couples have experienced the issue of inviting someone to join you, they arrive but seem to then get stage fright."

Yep.

When we first got together we had several mmmf hotel meets with guys who claimed to be 'above average' down below.

All was well until we all stripped off, at which point it became obvious one or two had been telling porkies and when suddenly in a room with two guys who hadn't been bullshitting, suddenly suffered from 'performance anxiety' and made excuses to leave pretty sharpish.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How is that possible ?

they aren't hungry enough? I think it is important 1st to make some nice relationship with comunication,maybe that's why....

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By *ottubcoupleSW OP Couple
over a year ago

WSM

We’ve said ourselves it’s probably because it’s a lot and the head does funny things, frustrating for us and no doubt them!

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By *ikingpairCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"Yeah we’ve had this twice now.

Poor Dora takes it upon herself and feels that she’s unattractive.

We tend to stick to guys well verified by other couples now or club meets who are clearly ready for action. "

Yes, it has exactly the same effect on Mrs H, so much so that when a guy reveals a rock solid cock, the look on her face is priceless, a mixture of relief and lust. We once had three floppy cocks in a row, really not good for the self-esteem, and also tough on the guys. Those little blue pills can definitely come in handy

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes we have. Absolutely not a problem for us there are plenty of other things we can do and I think reassuring a guy that it's ok makes it less likely to become a 'thing' for him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, a couple of times but we don't make a big deal of it, we normally find another drink, a bit more flirting to help them relax and all is good with the wood, sometimes a step back and reset is all it takes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes we have. Absolutely not a problem for us there are plenty of other things we can do and I think reassuring a guy that it's ok makes it less likely to become a 'thing' for him "

I like that,it's important if that happend,thet to take this easy and realx...things will change.

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By *iniskirtcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln + roadtrips

'Stage Fright' can, in our experience, manifest itself in more ways than just a soft cock.

They might get hard ok - but then cum instantly.

Or: they might get hard ok - but are just never be able to cum no matter how stimulated they get.

And then there's the trembling legs, even before the action has begun.

We've probably all seen Stage Fright, and some of us have probably suffered from it too.

Sometimes it's really not so easy being the guy....

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Rob here. I'd say about 1/3 of our club visits have featured stage fright, and thats just from me playing with Steph.

Definitely all a mind game. Either I'm focusing too much on what's going on around us, thinking about having to put on a show (literal state fright) or just still being stuck in weekday work mode. Steph could be being the world's sexiest creature (actually is) and I still couldn't get it up if my mind wasn't in it. Don't take it personally.

I used to get really worked up about it but we've since learned to switch to oral or toys when the little guy isn't playing ball. Or just go to the bar or hot tub for a bit.

The more of a 'thing' you make of it, the worse it gets.

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By *lirtyAndFunCouple
over a year ago

Rushden

I've been with a couple of guys which was their first "swinger" meet. Nerves were very strong for them.One settled into after a long BJ & boob play session. The other it was too much too soon, we kissed, played, I licked his balls & got him to cum without being fully erect.

As long as they leave happy, whatever happens, I'm happy.

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By *leased to meet youTV/TS
over a year ago

Southend-on-Sea

Happy to say its never happened to me

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By *evonrobMan
over a year ago

Kingsbridge

"If by stage fright you mean can't get it up, then yes, we've had our fair share of those."

Blimey tha5 seems unlikely having seen your gorgeous profile pics!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the reasons I’m not even trying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had this happen to me twice on separate occasions around 5 years ago, it didn't help that both times the ladies were stunning and i felt the pressure was on me to perform but also was struggling with alot on my mind, sometimes these things happen, never look at it as you're not doing it for them as like me I bet their voice inside their head was screaming at the little guy to wake up lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can happen to women too.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

"Wondered if many couples have experienced the issue of inviting someone to join you, they arrive but seem to then get stage fright."
the woman yes all the time

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

On our first meet the chap didn't (couldn't?) finish, to the point that I was absolutely exhausted from the action so we had to end the meet

knocked my confidence because all the veris I saw (and still see....) make every women sound like a sex goddess who can induce male orgasm on sight! - Xeno

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By *leased to meet youTV/TS
over a year ago

Southend-on-Sea

It's all in the mind as soon as you start thinking it's not getting hard etc your done the mind is the most powerful tool.

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By *iniskirtcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln + roadtrips

"It's all in the mind as soon as you start thinking it's not getting hard etc your done the mind is the most powerful tool."

all true

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

I'm sure it happens but for me it's not it ever will I'm a nightmare soon as my boxers are off it's rock hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's all in the mind as soon as you start thinking it's not getting hard etc your done the mind is the most powerful tool.

all true"

If the mind can give you physical pain when you've no injury it's not surprising it can make your cock go soft..

So much we don't know about our brain and how it works

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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent

Blue pill chemist..lol

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By *ay19720Man
over a year ago

Ashford kent

Plus a lot of couples dont do kissing...why i dont know..so that can also not help as kissing can get ya going...willing to suck ya cock just not kiss..that always makes me chuckle...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's probably happened to most males at some time.

It's extremely embarrassing when it happens and the more you worry about it the worse it gets, it's happened to us a couple of times, we don't make an issue of it, it's why God gave us a tongue and fingers.

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

Loads and loads and also ppl that cum too quick.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

Hasn’t happened to us, but we’ve seen it happen loads at a club and best thing to do is not focus on it as it’s a snowball effect.

Nearly came too quick a couple of times during threesomes when both women have been focusing on me. Can be a bit of a sensory overload.

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By *iniskirtcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln + roadtrips

"Blue pill chemist..lol"

That might work, or it might just transfer the nerves from 'can't get it up' to 'can't stop myself ejaculating immediately'.

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By *roxhotwifecpl4funCouple
over a year ago

goffs oak

Yeah it has happened but I will normally get Andy to disappear for a few mins and let the guy relax with a nice sloppy bj. It usually works wonders.

Kelly x

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By *lam rockerMan
over a year ago

Tain

I had this once. It took me an hour or so to get hard - but that hour was spent making sure the lady had been pleasured in other ways. After I was more relaxed it was fine.

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By *leased to meet youTV/TS
over a year ago

Southend-on-Sea

"Plus a lot of couples dont do kissing...why i dont know..so that can also not help as kissing can get ya going...willing to suck ya cock just not kiss..that always makes me chuckle..."
haha I used to meet a couple did everything anal dvp etc just no kissing aloud

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By *leased to meet youTV/TS
over a year ago

Southend-on-Sea

I've not suffered cuming to quick more the opposite I can go on for ever. To the point sometimes I've had to finish myself off.

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By *ee1967Man
over a year ago

watford

Yes, when me qnd ex swung we met maybe 50 men, most didn't get it up 1st time

Natural

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By *ee1967Man
over a year ago

watford

"Yeah it has happened but I will normally get Andy to disappear for a few mins and let the guy relax with a nice sloppy bj. It usually works wonders.

That's spot on. That's what we used to do. I used to leave the room

Kelly x"

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

"Wondered if many couples have experienced the issue of inviting someone to join you, they arrive but seem to then get stage fright."

Yes last club meet…

Put a proper downer on my confidence if I’m honest, basically as soon as we got to the hotel room and I get naked he can’t get it up

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By *iniskirtcoupleCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln + roadtrips

"Wondered if many couples have experienced the issue of inviting someone to join you, they arrive but seem to then get stage fright.

Yes last club meet…

Put a proper downer on my confidence if I’m honest, basically as soon as we got to the hotel room and I get naked he can’t get it up

Please don't allow it knock your confidence.

It really ISN'T because of you.

The fact is it is MORE likely to happen when someone REALLY fancies you because this increases the pressure on the man - and that pressure can cause loss of performance (with most men - although there does seem to be a breed of man who simply doesn't ever have such mental issues sexually).

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By *hawn ScottMan
over a year ago

london Brixton

It's happened to us all! Relax and take it slow. Viagra helps or if you can get it PT141 which is also in melanotan 2

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By *arrenandhisduckCouple
over a year ago

blackpool

"Rob here. I'd say about 1/3 of our club visits have featured stage fright, and thats just from me playing with Steph.

I used to get really worked up about it but we've since learned to switch to oral or toys when the little guy isn't playing ball. Or just go to the bar or hot tub for a bit.

The more of a 'thing' you make of it, the worse it gets. "

Darren here I have it at home sometimes if playing on cam and I get a bit nervous or smoked too much 420. Just happens she normally sucks or we wait have a laugh and defo for it again. Just a normal thing especially as I’m middle aged nearly fml

. I’ll have to disagree as well my ducks is the sexist thing alive

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