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Advice: Single man playing with couples

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By *heekyChapUK OP   Man
over a year ago

South East

Hi everyone, hoping that your have a great Saturday and enjoying this glorious weather!

Any advice here would be appreciated so thanks in advance.

I’m a single male that has been flirting with the idea of joining a couple. It feels like a relatively courageous thing to do from a newbies point of view, I guess in a way, like losing your virginity again. You kind of don’t know what to expect!

Anyways, I’ve reached out to a few couples on here, and by no means expect to hit it off with everyone, but a common theme seems to be that couple prefer a single male that’s experienced in the couples scene. Is there a particular thing I can do to make myself more appealing to a couple whilst being inexperienced in that scene?

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By *otwife and MasterCouple
over a year ago

Derby

We only play with single men like yourself and I’d say your profile is, on the whole, pretty good.

The only feedback I would give is that we wouldn’t engage in conversation until HW has seen a face pic, so knows you’re her type. So not sending one early on would be a problem. I’m sure you’ll appreciate that couples just don’t have the time to message with someone who doesn’t fit their criteria.

Lack of experience is a worry as newbies often don’t turn up or get stage fright but with your profile I’m sure you’ll soon get some veris.

Good luck

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By *heekyChapUK OP   Man
over a year ago

South East


"We only play with single men like yourself and I’d say your profile is, on the whole, pretty good.

The only feedback I would give is that we wouldn’t engage in conversation until HW has seen a face pic, so knows you’re her type. So not sending one early on would be a problem. I’m sure you’ll appreciate that couples just don’t have the time to message with someone who doesn’t fit their criteria.

Lack of experience is a worry as newbies often don’t turn up or get stage fright but with your profile I’m sure you’ll soon get some veris.

Good luck "

Hey guys, thanks for taking the time out to reply! I generally do send a face picture once I’ve established my counterpart isn’t a family member ha!

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

As the female in the couple I really enjoy a single guy (or guys) joining us - but almost inclusively in clubs. My suggestion would be for you to become a regular at a club. Show that you're clean, polite and respectful and you soon build up a list of verifications that show you're safe and reliable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of guys think they’d like the group or couple scenario and all seems to be going well at the kissing, flirting and foreplay stage but at some point the trousers have to come off and another guy will be looking at your cock and you’ll be looking at his.

Will you stay hard?

No one knows until it happens and by then we’ve shelled out on a hotel room and she’s as horny as F.

Hence the verifications by other couples.

Get to a club. Get to work on your reputation.

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol/ Daventry

Attend group meets and social meets/club nights first. Get the veris that you turn up, are clean, and can perform with condoms on, and play well with others. That said, we have experienced that even with veris we still have people no-show. So now I report and block for no-shows. Good luck

Xx

K

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol/ Daventry

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Generally a couple will know what they want prior to contacting you or if you contact them. Their relationship has allowed each other to engage in sexual activity without any emotional connection with the other guy.

So in effect you are just an added person to satisfy a sexual itch, some couples will care about your needs and desires, others it’s about you fulfilling their needs.

Do you want to feel as if you’re being used ?

If it was a group thing, could you perform in front of other guys ?

I like meeting with couples, everything is generally agreed in advance and to be honest most care about your enjoyment as much as their own.

Good luck, consider going to a club as you’ll generally get more luck that way.

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By *heekyChapUK OP   Man
over a year ago

South East

Thanks for all the responses guys, appreciate it. You’ve all been really helpful!

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By *rumswingersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

My advice would be to hit the group socials. You can meet lots of people in one spot (with zero pressure).

It’s a great way to get veri’s and get to know people quickly.

Not sure what the actual nearest one to you would be but for anybody wondering the same in the West Midlands I can highly recommend Lichvegas Social (Lichfield) or Up the Brum (Birmingham).

Best of luck on your quest!

Mrs BS

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By *reg CMan
over a year ago

Wiltshire

I love playing with couples. Key thing is to be respectful, be grateful that they trust you and honoured that the man is good enough and proud enough of his woman to share her. I’m totally straight and was never sure how I’d feel about seeing another man’s hard cock so close up but by that stage all my focus is on the woman and her pleasure. Take their lead… and enjoy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest, people will say anything as a polite thanks but no thanks. Yes it’s a bit step for a first time, but finding the right couple is all important. You tend to find that most couples profiles are 98% her and 2% him, which helps no one.

Believe me, finding good matches is not easy, finding well balanced couples is hard to say the least.

Honestly, you need to sell yourself with good pictures.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

We like it when things just flow naturally. Like we just start chatting to a guy and hanging out with him. Naturally it becomes more flirty and tension builds to a point Mrs Misfit is kissing him and eventually it leads to the bed bedroom. All at our own speed and hopefully his too. Often the case guys want action now (which is understandable) but they get too pushy and heavy with the hints. Rather like they're so focused on getting Mrs Misfit to bed they lose focus of reading and building the vibe. It's sadly when some guys who seemed promising at the start become not for us because of pushy or beggy behaviour.

So our advice would be just be yourself, be open, don't forget to smile and treat people like people your genuinely intrested in them rather than making it feel you just see her as a sex receptacle to conquer. It takes a bit of time to read the room and the vibe. But eventually you'll get the feel if something is going somewhere and when it's time to move on.

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

The principle thing for us (after finding that the male's profile fitted our criteria), is that he's not at all pushy and is repsctful of boundaries and our relationship. So don't let the excitement of a developing situation with a couple cause you to message them more than you should. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some really good advice on here as I am in similar position to OP. I have made my mind up anyway; to try and be active on the forums so that I am seen by the community and get along to a club in the near future. Aiming for Afterdark sometime towards end of July or beginning august.

Great advice everyone!

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By *randMrs397Couple
over a year ago

durham

For us we would say be polite and not pushy. The amount of guys who try to hurry or pressure us is mental. Patience is key. Veris do definitely help but with us not completely a deal breaker.

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