FabSwingers.com forum: Saying no…and yes.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So if you’re outside playing and some guys turn up how do you indicate politely to individuals yes or no?

Always seems harsh saying “you can touch but you can’t”

Cheers.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

Ask them all to keep a distance and say you’ll let them know if you want anyone to join in.

If they don’t like being told no, then that’s their problem

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

George often will "direct" the traffic and I will be blunt .. if I want a man to touch me and / or offer pleasures I will indicate quite directly ... never assume but always be prepared to make an offer .. x Anne

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"George often will "direct" the traffic and I will be blunt .. if I want a man to touch me and / or offer pleasures I will indicate quite directly ... never assume but always be prepared to make an offer .. x Anne "

Yes I’m quite good at managing but Dora isn’t great with her indications.

I can tend to be a bit firm if guys get too pushy and it may spoil the mood.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ask them all to keep a distance and say you’ll let them know if you want anyone to join in.

If they don’t like being told no, then that’s their problem "

Sound advice thanks.

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By *p4fun60Couple
over a year ago

Hampshire

Mr directs while we play & will simply say" sorry m8 you're not what she's looking for"

That normally does the trick, if they still don't take the hint or choose to ignore he'll Sall "you can watch but not touch" if they still insist a firm "fuck off before you spoil everyone's fun " normally works - with me if I'm presented with a cock for oral & I don't want it, for whatever reason I simply turn away from it & give it no time, Alan will see this & simply ask the guy to "stand aside as you can see she's not interested m8"

& to date, never had a drama

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Mr directs while we play & will simply say" sorry m8 you're not what she's looking for"

& to date, never had a drama

That sounds like a good approach. Cheers.

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

these direct and unambiguous messaging and communications work in a club environ as well ... I will generally suck any cock present but if a guy is arrogant or disrespectful I will pass him and say so ... at this stage I have a 92% success rate with men .. of the others from about a sample of 16 .. half got the hint, and the other half got the hint from George being his "military" self ... x

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

just say no or yes , I am not remotely concerned with offending someone feelings on it . its life they will get over it ..

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By *eastZMan
over a year ago

London

It is your body/bodies, consent is above all. Simply, be kind, direct, and decisive. Enjoy the experience! And don't allow anyone to bully you out of your comfort zone just because you are too kind or nice.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I used to say no "thank you" or more forcefully "back off" if necessary. But we only allowed watchers not touchers although I guess it works in either situation

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By *aui.Man
over a year ago

around here

I've never been lucky enough to stumble across a couple playing outdoors before. I'd love to but maybe I just don't hang out in the right places.

If I did though I wouldn't expect to play and would be more than happy just to watch. I certainly wouldn't be offended if I wasn't invited to touch.

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By *atnayCouple
over a year ago

STEVENAGE

Had this very experience the other day. Just be honest and say it politely. 'You may watch, but not touch'.

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

Hoping the warm weather will hold and we can do some alfresco play, but hoping to join with an existing couple. The concept of 2 girls kissing across the bonnet of a car whilst both being fucked is too compelling to ignore. Leicester area couples message us x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've never been lucky enough to stumble across a couple playing outdoors before. I'd love to but maybe I just don't hang out in the right places.

If I did though I wouldn't expect to play and would be more than happy just to watch. I certainly wouldn't be offended if I wasn't invited to touch."

Good to know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I’m quite good at managing but Dora isn’t great with her indications.

I can tend to be a bit firm if guys get too pushy and it may spoil the mood. "

my lady is similar in that she doesnt communicate so much what she's not wanting/taking charge of a situation, although trying to work on a traffic light system

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