FabSwingers.com forum: Where do you get the confidence?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’ve been on fab for a little bit now and I’ve enjoyed chats and camming with many people, my problem is taking that next step, I get nervous and loose confidence that they will like me or be what I expected, worried I might not perform or I might chicken out when I’m there. How did you get that confidence to take that first plunge ?

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

I too get very nervous about this.

I constantly message about my appearance and 'are you ok with this', which oddly most people are.

I can imagine that all this and also 'having to perform' from a male point of view is a total stress nightmare.

I think TBH you just have to click over the edge and do it. It normally becomes a lot easier once you're there.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I was really very worried at first. I imagined that everyone was 'very good at sex' or expected me to be. I never worried that they wouldn't like me because there's nothing anyone can do to influence that.

The truth is nearly everyone has an insecurity about something. I prefer to meet people who want to experience pleasure with no pressure and who don't have an end goal in mind .

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By *arialoueWoman
over a year ago

bradford

My confidence has alot to do with other people coz it's the other people that have helped to make what very little confidence I had to next to none at all it's all linkef to arranged stuff n being let down I hate planning anything too far in advance with ppl,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Continue while nervous, even attending swinger club’s repeatedly and regularly I’ll still be nervous each time, same for meets

I had one meet a few days ago, the third time I met that person and was nervous, I have another next week with someone else and am really anxious about meeting her, she’s hot af and way out of my league but I won’t let my nerves stop me, she’s too beautiful to miss out on

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By *ansexualPandaMan
over a year ago

cumallover

If you're looking for hookups with guys, saunas are far easier than one on one random hookups. Once you're over the threshold and you're in you'll quickly be put at ease. If it's meeting with females or couples, organised events and clubs are probably the best bet for dipping your toes in.

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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago

Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk

It's not necessarily about confidence this is also one reason I like first meets to be a no promises of play social, I find it's easier if you feel comfortable with whoever and when there's no expectations things can be a lot more relaxed things tend to flow from there if it's ment to

I used to get nervous about meets but not it's just like talking to someone while out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first joined I was terrified. I'm a curvy girl and felt the need to constantly reiterate that in case I'm a shock in real life.

After meeting several people and realising pretty much everyone has some hang ups about something I now just get the usual pre-social nerves.

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