FabSwingers.com forum: Dominate or be dominated

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Would you like to be told exactly what to do or would you like someone to do exactly as you would want or are you just not bothered.

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By *t0600Man
over a year ago

elvedon

I prefer to be in control

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to be dominated by a woman

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By *eaSlutsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

We are both switches so enjoy both sides of the coin. All in all though, A tends to be more submissive and I'm more dominant.

C x

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

Would love to be bossed by a woman sexually…..

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By *hrynWoman
over a year ago

Sussex

I can be a switch, with the right person. But my natural preference is to be dominated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I control my hubby but submissive to others xx

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By *ubmissive Cuckold CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Wife and bulls dominante me and bull dominantes wife

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By *moothandslimMan
over a year ago

North Walsham

I prefer to be controlled.

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By *ristol_nicolaTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

I prefer to be dominant, although I do occasionally to be dominated by someone who knows what they want.

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By *ilk and all things niceTV/TS
over a year ago

secret bunker

Dominated please xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am dominant and take control. I like BDSM .

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

I can't think of anything more boring

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By *_Mia_XTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkeston

I like ethical submission as long as my wishes are respected as the sub

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Neither

Just go with the flow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very much a switch

But also I don't think you always someone who is dominant.

There's something to be said about passionate sensual sex sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No expectations see what occurs can switch either way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends really, we tend to only be that comfortable with each other. Takes a lot of trust to let someone dominate you and boss you around.

I definitely prefer T being in control and doing what he wants with me. Luckily that’s how he prefers it too

Mrs

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By *mandamark99Couple
over a year ago

Bridgnorth

We live in a female led relationship. mark is naturally dominant and previously lived in a bdsm relationship as a Dom. However he has chosen to submit to me. He admitted that he had always been looking for the right woman to submit to but thought he would never find her.

I am dominant and don’t switch or sub but can play as an equal.

Amanda xx

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By *eastZMan
over a year ago

London

I enjoy both in different setups.

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

I found OPs question opaque, is he enquiring about swinger D/s, D/s BDSM style, and or topping and bottoming?

I know there are people that get upset by labels, however I find them a good initial guide into which detail is added.

My understanding of BDSM D/s is it's relationship based, there are obligations of all kinds (including) support on both sides. It is far more nuanced than telling people what to do. It exists beyond the bedroom and the sexual. Usually, there will be bdsm skills involved although it can be service orientated.

However swinger D/s does not seem to be relationship based but based on a temporary "connection". It seems to me about telling people what to do within the confines of the bedroom and is firmly sex based. Any other bdsm skills is an added extra.

Topping and bottoming you know about or can Google.

I am not kink shaming but in my view the three broad types of control (and there others such as "Gorean") are very different in terms of psychological control and surrender. As an example someone mentioned a female lead relationship I would suggest that type of control and surrender is very different from a Mistress/sl#ve relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer to be in control with cuffs & blindfold,cuffs attached from bedroom ceiling to tease a guys body before releasing him after ten minutes to attend to my body.

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By *ylonlickMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Love to be dominated by the female. Told what do, both verbally and physically is a big turn on for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can switch but I do prefer to be the one being dominated

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By *inkedKuntsCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

He loves the control, she loves to give it over to him. She has a little switch in her but never with him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Neither

Just go with the flow

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By *am_LincolnMan
over a year ago

Prestatyn

I am a switch so I can ho either way

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By *ostindreamsMan
over a year ago

London

Be dominated

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By *ubmissive guyMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Be Dominated, by FEMALES only

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer to be dominate in control

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By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Dominated please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Switch svp unless there’s 3 of you, then I don’t stand a chance anyway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dominated please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's so much more than just those two dynamics.

I'm naturally dominant in nature. That doesn't mean I "have" to dominate someone.

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By *ickingdelightMan
over a year ago

Cotswolds

I’m a switch and enjoy experimenting and experiences. It varies too with scenario.

Wife is more sub and I’m more naturally dom

Meeting a female that’s more mature I would prefer sub and I equally enjoy being dom for younger or those dabbling their toe in. As you need a connection to truly be a good dom and stretch their needs

If meeting a couple or exploring bi side preference would be sub…

But bdsm is something I enjoy but not a necessity

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By *uncouplerk40Couple
over a year ago

"Dominated please "

Snap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both switch and both are happy to control or be controlled, in a MFMF or MFM then males in control, FMF then ladies are boss.

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By *aughtymale1Man
over a year ago

Sandbach

Being dominated please

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By *mandamark99Couple
over a year ago

Bridgnorth

"I found OPs question opaque, is he enquiring about swinger D/s, D/s BDSM style, and or topping and bottoming?

I know there are people that get upset by labels, however I find them a good initial guide into which detail is added.

Topping and bottoming you know about or can Google.

We live in a female led relationship. This is bdsm based 24/7. It’s is sometimes called domestic discipline. This is definitely not play and yes he’s not my sl.ve

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

I've always been switchy more dom but now I'm only really interested in full sub.

Tie me up please.

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By *adyx4Woman
over a year ago

Durham

Large and in charge

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By *he_Rogue_RascalMan
over a year ago

north west

Dominated. Defo no dominant bones in my body lol. Although I can be very bratty

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By *enerifehotwifecplCouple
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Be dominated

Such a relief from life

Hubby x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to

Be dominated

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By *ainbowCheesecakeCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Wife here...

Be dominated. But of a control freak in normal day to day life. Everything is planned out. I love letting go and just following orders. Very obedient sub xx

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By *amantha ABCTV/TS
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I haven't had the chance to decide properly yet but I imagine it's going to be a lot of fun finding out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

each scene or session has its dynamics xx

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