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What is a sub to you?

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By *Misschiefx OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

London

I've always identified as switch and in the past leaned more towards Dom but recently realising I'm much more on the sub side than Dom side. I think I've just had very submissive partners in the past so someone had to be in charge in the bedroom.

The problem is I really don't have sub energy, and feel weird identifying as a sub because I don't relate to expectations of subs. Maybe 'kinky bottom' is closer than sub but I've also found myself domming from the bottom in the past which isn't good for anyone involved.

What's your own dom and sub experiences and how would you approach this?

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By *idlandiaMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

For me it's a type of sandwich.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

terrible navy humour: the dolphin mafia ... but in this space: power by being submissive and giving the allusion and ilusion of subservience when often yu hold the reins of control and offer ... xx Anne

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By *hrough the looking gla55Couple
over a year ago

Epsom


"For me it's a type of sandwich. "

that made me giggle

But for me sub means giving over control and trusting in my Dom

Bx

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By *Misschiefx OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

London


"For me it's a type of sandwich. "

Meatball obvs

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By *Misschiefx OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

London


"terrible navy humour: the dolphin mafia ... but in this space: power by being submissive and giving the allusion and ilusion of subservience when often yu hold the reins of control and offer ... xx Anne "

Yeah that makes sense

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I guess it very much depends on what you sub energy means and what you perceive as expectations of a sub are. No two subs are the same, so I don't particularly like to define what a submissive is. I don't particularly follow the stereotypical version of a sub, but then again most of the subs I know don't either.

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By *melie LALWoman
over a year ago

neverland


"I guess it very much depends on what you sub energy means and what you perceive as expectations of a sub are. No two subs are the same, so I don't particularly like to define what a submissive is. I don't particularly follow the stereotypical version of a sub, but then again most of the subs I know don't either.

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Don't you know how to be a TRUE sub?

As much as I know how to be a true human

That's me in agreement btw

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"I guess it very much depends on what you sub energy means and what you perceive as expectations of a sub are. No two subs are the same, so I don't particularly like to define what a submissive is. I don't particularly follow the stereotypical version of a sub, but then again most of the subs I know don't either.

Don't you know how to be a TRUE sub?

As much as I know how to be a true human

That's me in agreement btw "

The only true thing about me, is being truly annoyed if I'm questioned about being a true sub lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something that goes under the water and full of seamen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Something that goes under the water and full of seamen."

Like Luton on holiday?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I guess it very much depends on what you sub energy means and what you perceive as expectations of a sub are. No two subs are the same, so I don't particularly like to define what a submissive is. I don't particularly follow the stereotypical version of a sub, but then again most of the subs I know don't either.

"

Well said. Everyone is different and in the same way no two dommes are alike, neither are any two subs.

What matters is what works for you and the person you are serving

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By *Misschiefx OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

London


"I guess it very much depends on what you sub energy means and what you perceive as expectations of a sub are. No two subs are the same, so I don't particularly like to define what a submissive is. I don't particularly follow the stereotypical version of a sub, but then again most of the subs I know don't either.

Well said. Everyone is different and in the same way no two dommes are alike, neither are any two subs.

What matters is what works for you and the person you are serving "

Hmm I think that last line hit the nail on the head. I hate the idea of 'serving' someone.

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