FabSwingers.com forum: Cuckoldry and Dating

By *outhwest OP Man
over a year ago

Southwest

After a reassessment of my life, I now know that swinging and in particular, cuckoldry are something I don’t want to leave out of my life.

This however has posed a bit of a quandary for me… the thrill and excitement that I get from (conceptually) cuckolding is the deep knowledge of the romantic connection between myself and my partner and the trust that our bond is so strong that ‘not even’ sex with other men could break us like it would in the vanilla world.

Now ‘in the market’ for a new life partner, how would I go about establishing that bond during a period of swinging? Do you think it would naturally grow over time or would there need to be a period of vanilla to make the sharing more exciting?

Of course it is dependent on myself and that person but I’m Interested to hear your thoughts and experiences

By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

I think if you revealed it too soon it would potentially put women off

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve played with a few couples over the years on a regular basis as their bull, for want of a better term, and only one knew it and were open about it from the outset. I’d say they were a rarity. That said, it seems like poly relationships and attitudes to this are dramatically changing, so I wouldn’t be surprised if this didn’t increase or isn’t increasing already.

By *outhwest OP Man
over a year ago

Southwest

I agree… although really I would want to find someone who shared my open minded viewpoint… the flip side of that coin is that finding someone who already swings might mean that the close bond never crystallises? I’m not sure…?!

By *outhwest OP Man
over a year ago

Southwest

That’s a fair point, poly is absolutely becoming more normal. I am tempted to “identify” as that…

By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Many poly say cuckoldry isnt part of it for them. Most seem to be ambivalent at best about who else their partner sees