FabSwingers.com forum: Couples meeting couples

By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

So we've never met another couple other than chatting at socials but I'd like to.

4 way attraction is bloody hard though, do you find it easy meeting couples on fab or are you more a social/club type meet?

I'd probably want to soft swap to start, how off-putting is this to other potential couples?

We've not actively looked however there's a few couples we'd like to go for a drink or two with.

Lastly do you have fab couple friends that just social with and no sex or are all meets sex meets?

Mrs

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By *inkedKuntsCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Since we still not had our first meet we find it bloody hard to meet anyone lol but then again we are looking for something very specific.

But we do want to look at couple meets too and for us these would be soft swap, to start with at least, the couples we have talked too are also looking at soft so I'd say its not that off putting.

And no, no fab friends yet but we do hope to change that! We are shy at first but very sociable and would like to add that element in to it.

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By *ose and her beastCouple
over a year ago

Watford

Social first is always the best way we have clicked with lots of couples socially and that made them even more attractive to us and have gone on to be good friends and we meet for normal socials as well as naughty stuff it's great when you find genuine people it's just very difficult nowadays after COVID the site got alot more singles rather than couples

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Since we still not had our first meet we find it bloody hard to meet anyone lol but then again we are looking for something very specific.

But we do want to look at couple meets too and for us these would be soft swap, to start with at least, the couples we have talked too are also looking at soft so I'd say its not that off putting.

And no, no fab friends yet but we do hope to change that! We are shy at first but very sociable and would like to add that element in to it. "

That's great to know people aren't put off by soft swap.

Hope you guys find what your looking for.

Mrs x

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Social first is always the best way we have clicked with lots of couples socially and that made them even more attractive to us and have gone on to be good friends and we meet for normal socials as well as naughty stuff it's great when you find genuine people it's just very difficult nowadays after COVID the site got alot more singles rather than couples"

Yes I totally agree, it's been through the organised socials that's made me want to meet couples more really, we've previously met women but no couples, it's hard online to know if that connection is there.

Mrs x

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By *eastZMan
over a year ago

London

Cute thread. Lovely couples !

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Cute thread. Lovely couples !"

Cute??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is hard, but we have found it. It takes lots of talking, lots of organising and lots of "are you OK with this?" multiple times throughout the encounter

Worth it though

Soft swap is what alot of couples seem to aim for first which is a good stepping stone imo

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

We are a soft swap couple and have met quite a few couples at the club...some we chatted to, some we played with and some we will again I'm sure.

Couples are our preference and the best way to gauge people is face to face, hence our preference for clubs.

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

A real issue and challenge: "4 way attraction is bloody hard though" ... but we are prepared to work at it .. G & A

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"It is hard, but we have found it. It takes lots of talking, lots of organising and lots of "are you OK with this?" multiple times throughout the encounter

Worth it though

Soft swap is what alot of couples seem to aim for first which is a good stepping stone imo

It's so much easier meeting a woman than a couple, maybe I'm too picky

Mrs

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By *asygoingcouple1000Couple
over a year ago

all over

Clubs give you more variety and less pressure.

And yes, soft swap is still good fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have found that meeting at clubs is so much easier. You can actually see faces and know quickly if they are right for you.

We have met couples who are stunning but we were totally put off by their personalities and others with personalities we just instantly loved.

We also try to go to an arrange social before a club with a few other couples so you can chat with no pressure.

We also do soft swap when first meeting. We don't want to be thought of as easy.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

my very first meet when me n hub started was a soft meet but in a real hardcore way we met 3 other couples who all agreed that they would play as if me n hubs was not in the room we all got naked me n hubs played with each other and watched them it was perfect way for us to see what happens it was the one and only time we played soft but boy it worked ... we wanted in fully in and 30+ years later we are still in

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"We are a soft swap couple and have met quite a few couples at the club...some we chatted to, some we played with and some we will again I'm sure.

Couples are our preference and the best way to gauge people is face to face, hence our preference for clubs."

Agree ,it's hard on fab as so many couples don't have pics of the man & as a straight woman that's who I need to be attracted to.

If my partner and I want to meet a couples together we prefer clubs.

You can see both people and chat ftf.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

couples meeting couples was easy when we started this scene as the years rolled on and more and more couples wanted socials then these meets become hard and harder to get especially online thankfully theres a bigger group offline who still want to swing like they did years ago fun with out knowing what you ate for dinner or did at work

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

Doesnt always work.

We chatted to a couple before meeting and explained what we wanted, everyone was happy and agreed.

Day of the meet they wanted to move the goalposts and do more.

Everyone had a good time and then few days later toys started coming out the pram and they explained they wanted more and more and was not happy with what was agreed.

Hard work trying to find a suitable couple, more trouble than its worth.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

First of all soft swap is rarely a barrier. We are a soft swap couple (bar a couple of times when naturally progressed further). We know there are couples out there who are full swap only, but we've never been rejected (to our knowledge) for being soft swap. And it's fair to say on the flip for us a no kissing couple wouldn't be for us.

We are very much club swingers. We agree four way chemistry is difficult. And over the years we've not found it that much. That's why we don't generally risk time and energy on arranging meets online because we feel there is a massive possibility of wasted time, disappointment and frustration. At clubs you basically get to speed date other couples and can fairly early on establish if there is any chemistry. All you need to do is arrange one free night, no ground work prior, no having to free up seperate nights per potential couple, no being stood up.

Generally from a club perspective you find couples that take your eye and you get chatting. You either quickly establish they're are not for you or you are not for them. Or you get on really well but you naturally drift more into the freinds zone. Weve also made some nice freinds that we dont play with. Or that 4 way chemistry is just electric and things progress nicely to the bedroom.

However not always that way. Sometimes you make freinds with a couple but there doesn't seem that sexual spark. But you keep bumping into each other over the visits and the 4 way chemistry grows from freinds zone into bedroom zone. Sometimes it just sort of happens in the play rooms where there seems to be an unspoken connection and they just join in with you (generally not our way but has happened and been hot). And then once we met a vanilla couple on a night out and ended back at their hotel room (they are not a vanilla couple anymore).

Sometimes the couples you meet and go with end up just of that time and space. Sometimes more than a one off. Sometimes you make good freinds who become good vanilla freinds outside of the scene too.

Also worth saying every encounter is different. Sometimes its a little bit of sexual heavy petting and snogging. Sometimes its a full blown hours of intimate sexual fun. And in our experience sometimes your boundaries naturally push outwards with the right people and atmosphere.

I suppose to put it a shorter way is it can be totally different from couple to couple and time to time. So it's best just to keep an open mind and get out there. Follow your gut with people and you will find what your looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So we've never met another couple other than chatting at socials but I'd like to.

4 way attraction is bloody hard though, do you find it easy meeting couples on fab or are you more a social/club type meet?

I'd probably want to soft swap to start, how off-putting is this to other potential couples?

We've not actively looked however there's a few couples we'd like to go for a drink or two with.

Lastly do you have fab couple friends that just social with and no sex or are all meets sex meets?

Mrs "

weve chatted to other couples like you have, but soft swap seems to be a major turn off for alot of couples. there have been some where everything has seemed right except distance!

were considering going down a soft swap with the possibility of full swapping if everything flows and not putting as many limits on.

we were going to do this after a soft swap but a soft swap seems more and more unlikely.

attraction is also difficult, especially as were both straight and everyone wants a bi female!

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By *ophie199Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Only ever really played with one couple I’m not good at sharing the other woman would get left out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve found fab hard to meet couples.

We find going to a club a much easier way to find the right couple for us.

Any meet we’ve had we’ve had a social 1st or spent time chatting with socially before at the club.

Fab works well as there’s been lots of couples we’ve meet at the club who we’ve either looked at their profile on fab or they’ve looked at ours before bumping into them at the club or been messaging them on fab and bumped into them by chance on a visit to the club.

Definitely a lot harder when couples are looking for couples for their to be all four have physical attraction and click socially together, it’s a lot easier looking for a single person to join us.

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By *agicroundabout3100Couple
over a year ago

Camberley

It’s not easy but we have managed to meet some lovely couples over the years.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah it’s been super hard making a 4 way attraction work, but haven’t tried soft swap or clubs yet. So I get the sense it’s fairly common, generally seems like 3somes might be easier if you aren’t going to a club.

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By *ersuasion22Couple
over a year ago

Herts

4 way attraction is tricky! We've met and become friends with a couple that we don't play with, but we all get on well. So, that's been a good thing.

I'm not sure it's any easier to find couples at a club, but it does speed up the process!

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

We only look to meet bi couples so looking for that 4 way attraction is extremely hard.

We don’t meet people on fab anymore everyone we have met has been via group socials .

We have a group of friends that we meet up with for vanilla evenings but also non vanilla it takes us longer to meet new people as we prefer to build friendships also as we find it’s a much better experience if we are also friends.

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By *atnSolCouple
over a year ago

Selby

"So we've never met another couple other than chatting at socials but I'd like to.

4 way attraction is bloody hard though, do you find it easy meeting couples on fab or are you more a social/club type meet?

I'd probably want to soft swap to start, how off-putting is this to other potential couples?

We've not actively looked however there's a few couples we'd like to go for a drink or two with.

Lastly do you have fab couple friends that just social with and no sex or are all meets sex meets?

Mrs "

We know a few couples as just friends, we have also met a couple we've played with and have gone on to be good friends, we have always been quite clear on the friends and fingers crossed friends with benefits approach, mutual attraction can be instant but also grow in time, someone may not be physically attractive to begin with but once you know them a little you can appreciate them in a slightly different way, but meeting new friends is hard to arrange without a little chatting online first,

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By *f.I.Like.It.I.Do.ItCouple
over a year ago

Keighley

4 way attraction on fab is hard, and often you meet people at socials, clubs etc and you hit it off but might have had no attraction had you seen their picture first. I think a good sense of humour is a sexy quality.

I don’t think soft swap is a barrier, it hasn’t ever put us off meeting a couple

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By *irty-pairCouple
over a year ago

Essex

We love Fab, but it is hard! Continual one line responses in DMs, only attracted to half the couple, distances, getting dates in the diary… it’s often tough. We’ve met a handful of couples on here who we’ve hit it off with - and the sex has been amazing - but it takes a lot of time and effort.

Clubs are different: spur of the moment, meet loads of different people, group play. It’s often so much easier!

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By *aggy dollsCouple
over a year ago

bradford

That illusive 4 way attraction will always be a minefield. We have become very close friends with a couple and there's never been anything sexual between us.

Mr Hayes.

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By *est kept secretsCouple
over a year ago

Tamworth

Really tough. Only found a couple of couples we've both got on really well with and we all go on so well that we've not played as its become more of a friendship thing now rather than a swinging thing

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By *iberatedduoCouple
over a year ago

Ashbourne

"Really tough. Only found a couple of couples we've both got on really well with and we all go on so well that we've not played as its become more of a friendship thing now rather than a swinging thing "

We can testify to that. The first ever couple we met have become good friends. We socialise more often than we play. We’re Jay & Kat from Ashbourne looking to meet couples for ongoing friendships. x

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest

Prior to covid, we had a great little tribe of couples- we met through house parties and have lots of great memories but everyone has since left the scene or split, so have found ourselves looking again and it seems soo much harder than before!

We have sort of got out of the jig of things and find it hard to approach couples at events because its been soo long since we have played with couples/met new ones that we actually feel a bit shy (though when we start talking, you can't shut us up!)

Soft swap is never a problem and no one should feel uncomfortable with their boundaries.

We have found guys are easiest because it's an easier dynamic than 4 people, couples you tend to socialise with and guys are normally fuck and gos.

Katie xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been really lucky so far I feel. We have met one couple for drinks and have another one lined up for next week. We also planned a club night and mentioned it to a few couples on here who were going at the same time which worked out great. We are now at the stage of looking to go further. X

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By *irty-pairCouple
over a year ago

Essex

For the record though, if any couples in the London/Essex/Kent/Suffolk area are lurking in this thread, then make sure you drop us a DM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It really is like alchemy isn’t it! We have had some disastrous meets and some gloriously exciting ones, and learned something about each other and what we want each time.

Time is our challenge, so maybe it’s time to look beyond one other couple and attend or even host a party.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So does it ever happen that couples socialise and get on together but only 2 or 3 of the 4 end up playing if the chemistry doesn’t line up right?

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By *tarting2exploreCouple
over a year ago

Biggleswade

"It really is like alchemy isn’t it! We have had some disastrous meets and some gloriously exciting ones, and learned something about each other and what we want each time.

Time is our challenge, so maybe it’s time to look beyond one other couple and attend or even host a party."

Well if you are hosting are party, please invite us!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It really is like alchemy isn’t it! We have had some disastrous meets and some gloriously exciting ones, and learned something about each other and what we want each time.

Time is our challenge, so maybe it’s time to look beyond one other couple and attend or even host a party.

Well if you are hosting are party, please invite us!

Consider yourselves first on the guest list

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes finding a couple who you really click with is definitely difficult, I think we’ve only really found 2 and then the sex, second time around, was nowhere near as good as it was the first time

Perhaps try a club - try Quest on couples night or on a Sunday when it’s more chilled

Happy swinging

Mrs

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

Thanks for all the replies, I'm pleased it's not just me that finds it difficult online.

Mrs

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

"Thanks for all the replies, I'm pleased it's not just me that finds it difficult online.

Mrs "
It is a huge challenge - finding people who like your play style (some), finding people attracted to you (some) finding people that you like (some) finding the right time and alignment for all four (hard) ... finding single men to play with the woman in a couple (like we do at clubs) .. quite realtively easy .. x A & G

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

Nightmare finding a really good couple that are looking for the same thing then there is trying to arrange a day to meet.

Not worth the hassle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So does it ever happen that couples socialise and get on together but only 2 or 3 of the 4 end up playing if the chemistry doesn’t line up right? "

Yeah it’s been good to read that it’s more common, doesn’t seem as deflating when everyone seems to have the same issue with it

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Nightmare finding a really good couple that are looking for the same thing then there is trying to arrange a day to meet.

Not worth the hassle"

It does seem like quite the task.

Mrs

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By *ellanbennyCouple
over a year ago

cambs

We've not had a meet from fab yet. We do have one booked in at the end of the month. We do enjoy the club scene, once we go enough I'm sure we will make friends.

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By *om and kellyCouple
over a year ago

dundee

we have co-hosted a number of parties and find this the best way. Took a few parties and then you realise you have a good core and add others to the mix gradually. We are also happy playing in separate rooms which makes it easier

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By *eastZMan
over a year ago

London

Happy to help.

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

"Clubs give you more variety and less pressure.

And yes, soft swap is still good fun!"
wise counsel x

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

Prefer clubs, much more relaxed environment. Soft swap shouldn't be a problem to anyone although not our thing personally we always respect ppls boundaries. At the end of the day you should always feel comfortable. Xx

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By *ap-scarCouple
over a year ago

Sleaford

We tend to meet for a social first...I think sometimes it's not always physical attraction that's a turn on (although I'm not saying it isn't) we have met a few couples and socially but only a few that we have played with because the chemistry was there xx

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

Thanks all, I completely agree definitely socials 1st it's been the organised socials that's made me think I'd like to give it a go, we've met some great couples but only had sexual meets with women previously.

Mrs

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby

I agree 4 way attraction isn't easy.We have met lots of couples social & at clubs.Sometimes we have had great social but no attraction but have reminded friends and gone to clubs etc.Friendship is important.

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By *om_Sub69Couple
over a year ago

Derby

Following this as we are very much similar. Would be great to find a couple to socialise and explore with, starting own partner same room then soft swap. X

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By *ookie_and_NookieCouple
over a year ago

Kent

Although the couples we’ve played with all have FAB, we actually connected through chats away from fab and then met at clubs for the most part. We do find it difficult to find couples that tick all the boxes and being soft swap most definitely limits you because there are some full swap couples who won’t interact with soft swap couples at all. We’re also group play rather than straight up swap so that adds another layer to everything. Once you find the right couple, it’s amazing!

C x

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By *omething4theweekend2023Couple
over a year ago

newcastle

Agreed 4 way attraction is ridiculously hard to come by.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Agreed 4 way attraction is ridiculously hard to come by."

It really is, I think this may take some time

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’ve only played with couples at clubs but wouldn’t rule out meeting outside of a club - soft play isn’t off putting as we both enjoy watching each other and others play

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By *asha86Couple
over a year ago

walsall

"So we've never met another couple other than chatting at socials but I'd like to.

4 way attraction is bloody hard though, do you find it easy meeting couples on fab or are you more a social/club type meet?

I'd probably want to soft swap to start, how off-putting is this to other potential couples?

We've not actively looked however there's a few couples we'd like to go for a drink or two with.

Lastly do you have fab couple friends that just social with and no sex or are all meets sex meets?

Mrs "

Have to say we have done 4 socials now and have found it easy to chat. Yes not everyone is everyones cup of tea but it gets you working the room. Everyone has their own pace and we think soft swap is a good place to start we wouldnt find that off putting in the slightest... if anything it shows that you are doing it for yourselves and not preforming to someone elses needs.

Weve now built a circle of friends in the swing life that we keep in contact with about daily life, and go out for food and when we are all free we might play.

The social we got to regularly is lichvegas and they do speed dating so we get to meet singles and couples it breaks the ice abit better and you get to speak to more people. Sorry op if ive gone on abit lol

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By *ilth N KinkCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

We’ve yet to actually meet with a couple from here. We’ve spoken with a few but when it’s come up meeting it’s never actually happened. We’ve met more through club nights. Still going to keep trying.

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

"So we've never met another couple other than chatting at socials but I'd like to.

4 way attraction is bloody hard though, do you find it easy meeting couples on fab or are you more a social/club type meet?

I'd probably want to soft swap to start, how off-putting is this to other potential couples?

We've not actively looked however there's a few couples we'd like to go for a drink or two with.

Lastly do you have fab couple friends that just social with and no sex or are all meets sex meets?

Mrs

Weve now built a circle of friends in the swing life that we keep in contact with about daily life, and go out for food and when we are all free we might play.

To be honest we find club meets much easier.

We have met and still play ( when time allows) with one cpl from fab. But in general

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By *asha86Couple
over a year ago

walsall

We love the club scene we just find it easier to meet socially first and go from there

there is no right way to do it its whats comfortable for each peron

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

We always meet up 1st socially as we do think no matter who you meeting up with it does take abot of pressure off everyone ! and we've met afew great couples and gone on to be friends with aswell !!

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

Would just like to add that we were at a club and bumped into a cpl that we had met as a social. It was agreed at the social that 2 of us weren't feeling it. One from each side.

At the club I said hello, gave her a kiss an said you look amazing, the rest of the night was incredible.

So never say never.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would just like to add that we were at a club and bumped into a cpl that we had met as a social. It was agreed at the social that 2 of us weren't feeling it. One from each side.

At the club I said hello, gave her a kiss an said you look amazing, the rest of the night was incredible.

So never say never.

So only 2 of the 4 played?

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

Would be happy to meet a couple where only the females played together, not many couples are looking for this though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have met couples before and would happily do so again but it wasn’t as great as we’d hoped so we stick to clubs now for the most part

Always happy to chat and make friends but people seem to be very different on here and over text compared to meeting in person.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"We have met couples before and would happily do so again but it wasn’t as great as we’d hoped so we stick to clubs now for the most part

Always happy to chat and make friends but people seem to be very different on here and over text compared to meeting in person.

Mr"

Yeah totally get that, sometimes people just don't click in person.

We've met a few & thought we'd get on amazing but that connection just wasn't there, there's others we wouldn't choose to message the profil but in person had the best time.

It's so difficult to tell via online conversations.

Have you guys managed any more socials or did that one out you off?

Mrs

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

It’s made all the harder by many couples not having pics of Mr on their profile or just dick pics.

We like to chat to both people and get a connection going as we want to be friends or friendly first.

So many more dynamics with 4…matching everyone’s needs/wants/desires.

We would love a local couple to do social stuff with as well as play.

But 3 is so much easier.

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over a year ago

" Yeah totally get that, sometimes people just don't click in person.

We've met a few & thought we'd get on amazing but that connection just wasn't there, there's others we wouldn't choose to message the profil but in person had the best time.

It's so difficult to tell via online conversations.

Have you guys managed any more socials or did that one out you off?

Mrs "

Yeah exactly that, hard one to judge isn’t it! No we’ve not bothered with any more social events, they just didn’t work for us and felt much more at home in the club approaching and chatting to people.

So I think we’ll stick to clubs and event nights for the most part. Arranged a few socials from here which were good but more like a night out with friends than anything else so we’re still figuring out what works best for us.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

" Yeah totally get that, sometimes people just don't click in person.

We've met a few & thought we'd get on amazing but that connection just wasn't there, there's others we wouldn't choose to message the profil but in person had the best time.

It's so difficult to tell via online conversations.

Have you guys managed any more socials or did that one out you off?

Mrs

Mr"

Ah best of luck to you both, we've not got as far as meeting with other couples yet, I didn't like the club that much the socials seem better for us except that crazy busy one

Have you tried quest yet?

Mrs

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"It’s made all the harder by many couples not having pics of Mr on their profile or just dick pics.

We like to chat to both people and get a connection going as we want to be friends or friendly first.

So many more dynamics with 4…matching everyone’s needs/wants/desires.

We would love a local couple to do social stuff with as well as play.

But 3 is so much easier.

I totally agree the no men pics is so hard, I don't like investing my time if there's zero attraction.

Mrs

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over a year ago

" Ah best of luck to you both, we've not got as far as meeting with other couples yet, I didn't like the club that much the socials seem better for us except that crazy busy one

Have you tried quest yet?

Mrs "

Same to you guys! No we’ve not tried Quest yet, just been to Pandora more as we really like the crowd there and the atmosphere is always good

we’re looking to visit some more but go a bit further afield and make a weekend of it.

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By *endricks321Couple
over a year ago

Oxfordshire

Still finding our way here but given our limited experience so far the couple for social and more seems to be becoming our favoured option.

Again as many have said not that easy to get the four way appeal going enough to make it work, plus finding others whose hoped for end result matches!

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

" Ah best of luck to you both, we've not got as far as meeting with other couples yet, I didn't like the club that much the socials seem better for us except that crazy busy one

Have you tried quest yet?

Mrs

Same to you guys! No we’ve not tried Quest yet, just been to Pandora more as we really like the crowd there and the atmosphere is always good

we’re looking to visit some more but go a bit further afield and make a weekend of it.

Mr"

I haven't been back since the social I think I'd had enough at that point

may have to try it again under a better mindset, I was curious about quest though.

Mrs

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By *ickedwillyCouple
over a year ago

Bangor

Always a social for us and any sex is a bonus.

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over a year ago

" I haven't been back since the social I think I'd had enough at that point

may have to try it again under a better mindset, I was curious about quest though.

Mrs "

Was a long night wasn’t it! Once we got comfortable we really enjoyed it. Only haven’t bothered with Quest cos we’ve been super busy and when we got free time, wanted to go somewhere we knew and felt comfortable already. Really want to try Libs or maybe Penthouse next

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By *weet and SpiceCouple
over a year ago

Around the Midlands

We are definitely more club type meets as chatting on fab can be such hard work, plus who knows who you are actually chatting to at times!

We are soft swap only so not off-putting at all.

Finding friends for social only is something we'd love to do, but again it seems so hard to find/arrange.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

" I haven't been back since the social I think I'd had enough at that point

may have to try it again under a better mindset, I was curious about quest though.

Mrs

Mr"

Let us know what you think, yeah it was a long cramped night

to be fair I should have just headed back to the hotel I wasn't feeling it, left a full bottle of gin at pandora too, gutted!

Mrs

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"We are definitely more club type meets as chatting on fab can be such hard work, plus who knows who you are actually chatting to at times!

We are soft swap only so not off-putting at all.

Finding friends for social only is something we'd love to do, but again it seems so hard to find/arrange.

It is quite tricky online I find, in person can be so much different, we've been lucky to make friends via the arranged group socials we'd love to meet more and see what happens.

Mrs

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By *heekyDemandCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

4 way attraction is extremely hard, but it never stops us from engaging in the social aspect. Even if we don't play, we could make a good friend. Even non-swap same room sex is fun because it tickles the exhibitionist/voyeurism side.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Since we still not had our first meet we find it bloody hard to meet anyone lol but then again we are looking for something very specific.

But we do want to look at couple meets too and for us these would be soft swap, to start with at least, the couples we have talked too are also looking at soft so I'd say its not that off putting.

And no, no fab friends yet but we do hope to change that! We are shy at first but very sociable and would like to add that element in to it.

That's great to know people aren't put off by soft swap.

Hope you guys find what your looking for.

Mrs x"

We're a bit of an oddity.

When we were meeting couples it was tricky sometimes due to our dynamic. I haven't slept with anyone other than Fox since months before we got married. I haven't had any interest in doing so at all and no idea if that will change at any point. She does. So when we met couples in clubs it was a mix of soft (on my part) and full (on hers) swapping, which occasionally led to obvious frustration on the part of the woman in the other couple, even though we always explained things in advance.

Hence we've currently put couples on the back burner to avoid such situations and if anything happened at all in a club with a couple now it would just be her playing with both with me as an observer.

For us it's much easier meeting single guys for now as there's no chance of any confusion or expectations on their part for something that's not going to happen.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Since we still not had our first meet we find it bloody hard to meet anyone lol but then again we are looking for something very specific.

But we do want to look at couple meets too and for us these would be soft swap, to start with at least, the couples we have talked too are also looking at soft so I'd say its not that off putting.

And no, no fab friends yet but we do hope to change that! We are shy at first but very sociable and would like to add that element in to it.

That's great to know people aren't put off by soft swap.

Hope you guys find what your looking for.

Mrs x

We're a bit of an oddity.

For us it's much easier meeting single guys for now as there's no chance of any confusion or expectations on their part for something that's not going to happen.

I get how it can be a bit tricky, I'm (Mrs) probably more looking for soft swap however I don't mind the Mr doing full swap, kind of similar I don't really have much interest in the men halfs although I don't think we've found the right couples for us yet, there's a few I'd definitely want to meet and see where it goes but it is more me on the soft swap side

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By *endricks321Couple
over a year ago

Oxfordshire

We're very much softies too at present! Every day is a school day...

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over a year ago

Nope we don't find it easy finding couples in clubs.

Usually we both like the women, but the man isn't Mrs type.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Nope we don't find it easy finding couples in clubs.

Usually we both like the women, but the man isn't Mrs type.

This is my issue too, as soon as the cock pics come I'm out.

Mrs

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over a year ago

"Nope we don't find it easy finding couples in clubs.

Usually we both like the women, but the man isn't Mrs type.

This is my issue too, as soon as the cock pics come I'm out.

Mrs "

On here most couples only have pics of the women. Maybe the occasional Dic pic, but that's pretty much it.

We just go to clubs so doesn't bother us anyway.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Nope we don't find it easy finding couples in clubs.

Usually we both like the women, but the man isn't Mrs type.

This is my issue too, as soon as the cock pics come I'm out.

Mrs

On here most couples only have pics of the women. Maybe the occasional Dic pic, but that's pretty much it.

We just go to clubs so doesn't bother us anyway.

Yeah I've noticed this too it is a bit frustrating I've just given up with any profiles with no men pics, my time is precious there's no point talking for days to find your not interested when you finally get a photo.

Mrs

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Since we still not had our first meet we find it bloody hard to meet anyone lol but then again we are looking for something very specific.

But we do want to look at couple meets too and for us these would be soft swap, to start with at least, the couples we have talked too are also looking at soft so I'd say its not that off putting.

And no, no fab friends yet but we do hope to change that! We are shy at first but very sociable and would like to add that element in to it.

That's great to know people aren't put off by soft swap.

Hope you guys find what your looking for.

Mrs x

We're a bit of an oddity.

For us it's much easier meeting single guys for now as there's no chance of any confusion or expectations on their part for something that's not going to happen.

Mrs "

Sounds like you're the opposite to us!

If only there were more couples like you we'd probably put them back on our 'looking for' list. It's especially hard to find in clubs sadly.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"Since we still not had our first meet we find it bloody hard to meet anyone lol but then again we are looking for something very specific.

But we do want to look at couple meets too and for us these would be soft swap, to start with at least, the couples we have talked too are also looking at soft so I'd say its not that off putting.

And no, no fab friends yet but we do hope to change that! We are shy at first but very sociable and would like to add that element in to it.

That's great to know people aren't put off by soft swap.

Hope you guys find what your looking for.

Mrs x

We're a bit of an oddity.

For us it's much easier meeting single guys for now as there's no chance of any confusion or expectations on their part for something that's not going to happen.

Mrs

Sounds like you're the opposite to us!

If only there were more couples like you we'd probably put them back on our 'looking for' list. It's especially hard to find in clubs sadly.

Yeah it would make things easier wouldn't it, we've only chatted to one couple back on our old profile where the man was more into watching and wasn't arsed really if I did anything with him and that was perfect for me, no pressure at all but I got to watch the Mr, join in with him and the other woman and didn't feel any pressure at all to swap, unfortunately they left fab.

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over a year ago

We're here for the sex. Finding friends on the way is nice but if there's no full swapping we wouldn't see the point.

What are people here for? To voyer and then go home and fuck their own partner? How is that even remotely part of 'the lifestyle'.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"We're here for the sex. Finding friends on the way is nice but if there's no full swapping we wouldn't see the point.

What are people here for? To voyer and then go home and fuck their own partner? How is that even remotely part of 'the lifestyle'."

Because swinging isn't just one dynamic.

What's right for you isn't the same for everyone.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"We're here for the sex. Finding friends on the way is nice but if there's no full swapping we wouldn't see the point.

What are people here for? To voyer and then go home and fuck their own partner? How is that even remotely part of 'the lifestyle'."

Each to their own I'm not here to fuck everyone and everything, friends are good it's great to have friends with similar interests, not just about the sex for us.

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By *enedict2020Man
over a year ago

London

Good looking couples attract other good looking couples …

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By *inkedKuntsCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"We're here for the sex. Finding friends on the way is nice but if there's no full swapping we wouldn't see the point.

What are people here for? To voyer and then go home and fuck their own partner? How is that even remotely part of 'the lifestyle'."

Nice bit of kink shaming there. Everyone has different tastes, it's not your way or the highway. And yes there is plenty of voyeurs on the site, I have met with plenty of couples where he just watches and then claims her back after.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

"We're here for the sex. Finding friends on the way is nice but if there's no full swapping we wouldn't see the point.

What are people here for? To voyer and then go home and fuck their own partner? How is that even remotely part of 'the lifestyle'.

Each to their own I'm not here to fuck everyone and everything, friends are good it's great to have friends with similar interests, not just about the sex for us.

Mrs "

I would agree...swinging is a lifestyle, not a fuck fest. For us it's a state of mind, accepting of other people, being relaxed, flexible in outlook and much more. Does that also include ethical non monogamy, absolutely.

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By *uncpl187Couple
over a year ago

Ramsgate

We found it hard at first as we were looking for bi couples and soft play. But we did experience it in the end.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTable OP Couple
over a year ago

Leeds

"We found it hard at first as we were looking for bi couples and soft play. But we did experience it in the end.

Pleased you found what you were looking for

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