FabSwingers.com forum: Biggest turn off

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Single men get a hard time on here but what's their biggest mistakes that immediately make them a no for you?

Ours is sending messages ignoring we're a couple and acting like she's a single female

This isn't about bashing single men just a dont do this forum for the ones who are struggling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something along similar lines.

People who are on as "a couple", but somehow there's only ever the fella online at any given time. Who wants to meet you 1st without "his partner" to vet you. Which seems to be over 50% of "couples"

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By *FuckingDelightWoman
over a year ago

Sunny Bognor

Not reading my profile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not reading my profile!"

Makes for a good read

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By *FuckingDelightWoman
over a year ago

Sunny Bognor

"Not reading my profile!

Makes for a good read

One tries!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a guy message me all he has in his profile is 13 dick pics and one line bio, saying he is looking for fun.

If you are going to sell a motorbike you are not going to get much interest if you only showed 13 pics of the exhaust pipe.

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By *akingHayCouple
over a year ago

Mayfield

Basically the same here, people that don’t read profiles. The classic “hey sexy” opening line, whilst very flattering, does tend to get an instant block. I think our profile is quite straightforward and whilst there are some subtleties ( I let references to Hay as my wife slide) if you can’t read the most obvious bits then I don’t think you’re going to pass muster in the flesh.

The other is very long, clever and obviously copypasta opening messages. Particularly when second messages fail spectacularly. I do wonder when Fab will introduce a special tier with built in ChatGPT message creation!

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By *t0600Man
over a year ago

elvedon

I posted a topic yesterday about a single guy like myself having a sex video on my profile . From what I gathered that was a turn off . Although there were some positive responses

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

Close up cock pics, inboxes when they've clearly not read the profile or even the looking for bit.....

Mrs

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By *akingHayCouple
over a year ago

Mayfield

"I posted a topic yesterday about a single guy like myself having a sex video on my profile . From what I gathered that was a turn off . Although there were some positive responses "

Quite keen to see action photos/videos, although rather suspect if it’s not backed up with verifications

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couples that turn out to be wanting to use Mr as a bull, he has all the attributes to be but we definitely don’t play like that

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By *t0600Man
over a year ago

elvedon

"I posted a topic yesterday about a single guy like myself having a sex video on my profile . From what I gathered that was a turn off . Although there were some positive responses

Quite keen to see action photos/videos, although rather suspect if it’s not backed up with verifications"

Yeah I get that . But interesting to see someone else who sees it as a positive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a guy message me all he has in his profile is 13 dick pics and one line bio, saying he is looking for fun.

If you are going to sell a motorbike you are not going to get much interest if you only showed 13 pics of the exhaust pipe.

Love this. I do love seeing a nice big exhaust pipe but looking at the handlebars and fuel tank is always nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Something along similar lines.

People who are on as "a couple", but somehow there's only ever the fella online at any given time. Who wants to meet you 1st without "his partner" to vet you. Which seems to be over 50% of "couples"

I understand why a guy would want to meet a dude before he lets him have some fun with his wife/partner

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By *hilliplisa790Couple
over a year ago

Paignton

Photos that show a completely messy home in the background

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Photos that show a completely messy home in the background "

Good job some of us know how to clean then lol

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By *aughty Couple ABCCouple
over a year ago

West Bromwich

"Had a guy message me all he has in his profile is 13 dick pics and one line bio, saying he is looking for fun.

If you are going to sell a motorbike you are not going to get much interest if you only showed 13 pics of the exhaust pipe.

Absolutely!

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

Liars!!

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest

"Photos that show a completely messy home in the background "

Thats true, its something we always look at in pictures. We've had a few messages where the picture background as put us off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Messy women or couples

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By *omethingfun96Couple
over a year ago

greater london

Friends requests without even sending a message first

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By *pslad99Man
over a year ago

colchester

Fake people simple.

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By *rJandMrsJCouple
over a year ago

Hyde

"Single men get a hard time on here but what's their biggest mistakes that immediately make them a no for you?

Ours is sending messages ignoring we're a couple and acting like she's a single female

This isn't about bashing single men just a dont do this forum for the ones who are struggling "

Ours is them not reading the profile and sending a message. I can tell because in my profile I ask them to include a particular subject. If it isn't there, I don't even read the mail, I just delete it.

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By *tevebipiMan
over a year ago

staines

Was talking to a fella who was part of a couple. All was good messages and phone chat etc. date arranged to meet at their house.

Then the bombshell. They wanted £75 paid in advance to cover costs.

Reported and blocked.

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Not reading/only dick pics or asking for fun straight away !! but a fair few couples are just bad if not worse than some males and some males are 100% taken of advantage of and should remember the maxim ..If it seems to good to be true...xxx

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By *FuckingDelightWoman
over a year ago

Sunny Bognor

Oh and a dick pic sat down with trousers round ankles - nope!!

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By *inkyropecoupleCouple
over a year ago

carluke

One liners, not reading the profile, not taking no for an answer

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By *ogerroger69Man
over a year ago

West Yorks

When they ask for bareback!

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Having loads of action shots & just a bit of their hand or cock visible in the pic,it's an instant delete.

Also sending cock pics to me or asking to meet in a first message with no other chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Arrogance. So many treat you like a target rather than being geuinuely interested in hooking up.

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By *awg-mo-thoinWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

Slagging off other men on here. Does the opposite of what they think it’s going to do. I don’t fuck people who are nasty

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By *awg-mo-thoinWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

On a side note I’m a bit wary of threads like this for the tips that they can give men we otherwise wouldn’t want to meet

I like my dickheads upfront right where I can see them!!

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By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Had a guy message me all he has in his profile is 13 dick pics and one line bio, saying he is looking for fun.

If you are going to sell a motorbike you are not going to get much interest if you only showed 13 pics of the exhaust pipe.

Love this

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By *andN2Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

1. Dick pic

2. Messaging our couples profile to meet Nat alone.

3. Not reading profile

4. Un-meet-verified folk messaging

5. Abusive messages if we don’t reply

Take your pic lol all an instant turn off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What does appeal to us, is someone that's put in a similar effort into their profile as we have, someone that reads our profile and therefore already having some answers that many ask in the first few messages, having atv least a sight understanding of our dynamics and knowing who they are likely to be chatting with, via message.

I appreciate it seems like hard work reading profiles and sending a fitting message, but ask yourselves ..... Are you here for an easy time, or a good time?

Even with our latest picture captioned that we're unavailable and will delete the picture when that changes, we still have (a lot less, but) too many asking to meet now.

The very first line on our profile explains it's Mr that messages, and still get too many messaging directly to Mrs.

So, for us, match our effort.

Create a profile to appeal and read ours, there's enough there to give insight into what we seek, before you decide whether or not to message.

We find the biggest time waster here is having to send many messages get the basic info that could have been expressed in an profile, making it easier to know whether or not to contact.

I feel a lot of near blank profiles complain about time wasters because they've chatted for a while before the other has ended the conversation.

You could save yourself time by sharing the basics in your profile, appealing to some, while others will know much sooner they're not interested.

Effort is sexy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

NOT reading profile is my main peeve.

Second to that reading profile but still pushing your luck

Making up scenarios to get a response or a meet (had a guy make up a whe fake party just to get Mr over to his ....)

At the point where I have very little/no tolerance to deal with single males.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"NOT reading profile is my main peeve.

Second to that reading profile but still pushing your luck

Making up scenarios to get a response or a meet (had a guy make up a whole fake party just to get me over to his ....)

At the point where I have very little/no tolerance to deal with single males."

corrected typos ....

and in person the overly eager I know what I'm doing but really don't in person...

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By *roxhotwifecpl4funCouple
over a year ago

goffs oak

Getting a message and because you opened it and haven’t responded in two mins you get a abuse. As a cpl we tend to read messages and show each other before we respond. I have received some really horrible messages and it can really put you off.

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By *xXgemmaXxXCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Something along similar lines.

People who are on as "a couple", but somehow there's only ever the fella online at any given time. Who wants to meet you 1st without "his partner" to vet you. Which seems to be over 50% of "couples"

I understand why a guy would want to meet a dude before he lets him have some fun with his wife/partner "

Let’s him? I’m not sure how other couples who meet single men do things and obviously each to their own but for us as I am the one playing then ultimately I am the one who decides who I play with. I can’t imagine sending my hubby out to meet a potential guy alone to decide whether I’m allowed to go ahead with things

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By *kinandbonesCouple
over a year ago

dublin

Being told that we 'Don't have any manners' because we didn't reply to a random strangers message on a swinging site, who didn't even bother to read our profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reading a profile and instantly ignoring its contents

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Reading a profile and instantly ignoring its contents"

This

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By *ongueGuyMan
over a year ago

Warrington

Pictures where no effort has been made to at least tidy up a bit in the back ground. I dont want to see last nights half eaten takeaway next to a pic of your ass.

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

We let a lot slide but the biggest one has got to be sarcastic and furious messages over the smallest of perceived slights.....always breathe a sigh of relief after they out themselves!

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

Not reading my profile.

Namely, male halves of couples thinking they’ll be the exception to my “no couples” rule because they are well verified.

As a single gal on here for 7 years now… single men aren’t the frustration in my inbox haha

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

"Pictures where no effort has been made to at least tidy up a bit in the back ground. I dont want to see last nights half eaten takeaway next to a pic of your ass."

This!!!

If you make it passed the first message and I check the profile out and see messy pics I’m out.

Also single male profiles with loads of pics of women…. Straight out ha

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By *ofiaxxx69Couple
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Had a guy message me all he has in his profile is 13 dick pics and one line bio, saying he is looking for fun.

If you are going to sell a motorbike you are not going to get much interest if you only showed 13 pics of the exhaust pipe.

Hahaha brilliant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ahh yes and I forgot ....messaging from a thread in the forum .....

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"ahh yes and I forgot ....messaging from a thread in the forum ....."

It takes me a good 5 minutes to realise what the hell they're on about

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By *ose and her beastCouple
over a year ago

Watford

"Single men get a hard time on here but what's their biggest mistakes that immediately make them a no for you?

Ours is sending messages ignoring we're a couple and acting like she's a single female

This isn't about bashing single men just a dont do this forum for the ones who are struggling "

Pretty much this we are a couple first and foremost address us as such

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not reading my profile.

Bathing into my DMS kink first.

And dick pics in a message, like I can tell your a massive cock without the visual thanks

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By *ongueGuyMan
over a year ago

Warrington

"Pictures where no effort has been made to at least tidy up a bit in the back ground. I dont want to see last nights half eaten takeaway next to a pic of your ass.

This!!!

If you make it passed the first message and I check the profile out and see messy pics I’m out.

Also single male profiles with loads of pics of women…. Straight out ha "

if you cant tidy up for a pic makes me wonder if they would for a meet. Straight no thanks. Hygine!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes people, the ones who say yes to anything or who lie and wing it drive me nuts, it always always always fails so what’s the ruddy point

Finding someone who can be honest and open is extremely difficult

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By *mmyesplease2Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

1.not reading profile calling me hun etc

2. Unsolicited friends request

3. All cock pics

4. Obviously only male on a couple of profile not well out shopping got permission etc etc

5.lovely tidy house. ….not

6.pic always taken from same spot. The door on the landing in the background one lol

Etc etc. lol

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Not reading the profile and messaging me when they are clearly outside of my preferred age range. They then get arsey when I point this out... not my fault they wasted their time x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When the message says they’ve read your profile and then ask you something that clearly states in our profile we’re not looking for!!!!

Wont send a face picture and get offended when we say we’d prefer not to continue to message people we don’t know what they look like as there needs to be some physical attraction, even when we’re very polite with how we say this to them

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By *leased to meet youTV/TS
over a year ago

Southend-on-Sea

I always mention both in a couple always polite dont do crude chat. But saying that I hardly message any one now days as like this post us singles get a hard time thanks to the few idiots.

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By *wendolineFoxWoman
over a year ago

Chester

Photos that show more of someone else than them - always makes you wonder if these people know they’re front and centre on someone elses’s profile.

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By *end1Man
over a year ago

southend on sea

Personally I don't think anything us singles guys do gets you any where I always read profiles never start off with hi or how are you. Always address both in a couple attach a face picture if its stated to do so in 1st message. Then to see its deleted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh and a dick pic sat down with trousers round ankles - nope!!"

I was going to say this! Skid mark angle. That and cock picks over a sink or a sky remote /lynx comparison

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By *end1Man
over a year ago

southend on sea

Haha the good old sky remote or a can of

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Just not being interesting to me

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By *.T.Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

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By *.T.Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

Amended to un-autocarrot.

If this thread title could be changed to biggest turn ons, but with the same answers, it would create the perfect template for those who write a profile to get laid, rather than write about who they are or what they want.

Lets face it, some people won't take advice. Others will latch on to every titbit of advice hoping it will increase their chances of success. Some profiles will end up as people pleasers and not be anything like the person actually is!

Let nature take its course...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Phew! I thought I was doing something wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

how could I forget these:

1.untidy /dirty background in pics

2.Profile with just several dick pics

3.Dick pics that just look infected

4. Photos or videos playing with loads of different ppl without protection...I only play safe

5. Crude /demeaning stats

6. Offensive or point of views that rub me the wrong way on the forum

7. And possibly another blood boiler ...messaging under false pretense of concern/ to sympathize abt something I said when it's plain your goal is just to get laid.

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By *adCherriesCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire/Northwest

"Something along similar lines.

People who are on as "a couple", but somehow there's only ever the fella online at any given time. Who wants to meet you 1st without "his partner" to vet you. Which seems to be over 50% of "couples"

I understand why a guy would want to meet a dude before he lets him have some fun with his wife/partner "

I dont, it's odd. Mr BC has never said this to any guy I've met.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

If it's 90% plus about their needs, seemingly forgetting to consider mine. Conversely, men who reveal little, asking for lots of details about my sexual tastes for when we'd meet (bad enough, if they're just wanting wank fodder) but just stating that they want what I want.

Men who want to meet at least several hours

after a shower, such as straight from work.

Evasive and vague, when asked things.

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

"Single men get a hard time on here but what's their biggest mistakes that immediately make them a no for you?

Ours is sending messages ignoring we're a couple and acting like she's a single female

This isn't about bashing single men just a dont do this forum for the ones who are struggling "

Whenever i message couples i assume it's the male messaging 9/10 times it is

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By *he_13th_ghostWoman
over a year ago

Swindon

Trying not to write a novel here but..

- dick picks I didn't ask for.

- not reading my profile

- men who claim to be straight but messages me anyway because any holes a goal.

- people who JUST want sex

- intros less then two sentences long. (Hey xxxx wanna fuck? Xxxxxx)

- if you don't reply right away you get 7 in a row like 'hey xx''hiii xx' like, please.

- gaslighting because it took me a second to reply.

- misgendering

- HeY bAbe WaNt sUm FucK

- First comment is about my tits

I don't care if I sound like a kill joy. I block like 10 people a day I swear. Please, I love talking to people but if you read my profile you'll like...know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Violation of consent in any form.

Unsolicited dick pics,

Continue messaging when politely turned down,

Not reading our profile and asking to meet not as a couple.

"Hi how's you?" Or other copy paste messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yeah i forgot to add in mine

"Impatient messages"

Ffs... Once opened a nice intro while at a traffic and then got going... 30 min later a barrage of abuse for not replying in his required timeframe...

Cishet men.....(eye roll)

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By *he_13th_ghostWoman
over a year ago

Swindon

"Oh yeah i forgot to add in mine

"Impatient messages"

Ffs... Once opened a nice intro while at a traffic and then got going... 30 min later a barrage of abuse for not replying in his required timeframe...

Cishet men.....(eye roll)"

This x 1000000.

Like, calm down. I'm going to want to fuck you even less if I come back to 10 missed messages all yelling.

Touch grass.

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By *omoflexible84Woman
over a year ago

Couples who say in profile please respect us as a couple and address us as a couple (as I do) yet they can't sign off with who has messaged me.

Seeing multiple men in the female and all are bare back.

Mucky mirrors along with mess in the background.

Profile not been read at all.

The continouse messages of fancy a fuck that start from about 6pm on a Thursday till the same time on a Sunday.

Dirty finger nails tho that turns me off in general.

The multiple messages if I don't reply yet profile says I havent logged out since I joined.

The expectation that when I'm on here im playing with meself in lingerie when in reality I'm drinking tea, me hairs whacked up and I'm in joggers resembling a hobo of some sort.

Thems afew without stating like others have said a novel haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh and a dick pic sat down with trousers round ankles - nope!!

I was going to say this! Skid mark angle. That and cock picks over a sink or a sky remote /lynx comparison "

Don't forget the can of Stella

Like seriously?!?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This x 1000000.

Like, calm down. I'm going to want to fuck you even less if I come back to 10 missed messages all yelling.

Touch grass."

And ALL IN CAPS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The expectation that when I'm on here im playing with meself in lingerie when in reality I'm drinking tea, me hairs whacked up and I'm in joggers resembling a hobo of some sort.....

This!!!

First message ever and it seems like they're trying to live vicariously through us

"What filth have you two been up to today" not even a hi

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By *inkyAddamsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Any sign of being a fake - or obsessing about their fantasy… it may not be ours x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What put me off is when a guy from a couple account messages to say "his wife" wants a cum tribute but gives me his number to send them too. Surely if the wife wants a cum tribute then it should be her asking right?

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"Personally I don't think anything us singles guys do gets you any where I always read profiles never start off with hi or how are you. Always address both in a couple attach a face picture if its stated to do so in 1st message. Then to see its deleted. "

These are just things that help people whittle down who they're talking to, not deciding factors of attraction. - Xeno

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Using the terms penis and pussy interchangeably in profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The long copy and paste mills and boons style message of a scenario of me waiting for them at mine and what they will do to me. Gives me the ick!

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"I posted a topic yesterday about a single guy like myself having a sex video on my profile . From what I gathered that was a turn off . Although there were some positive responses "

I find it too brash. It's like he would never offer me the privacy I wanted if he openly shares his past sex life like that, bragging what he did do in the past. Massive turn off for me

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"The long copy and paste mills and boons style message of a scenario of me waiting for them at mine and what they will do to me. Gives me the ick! "

Super cringeful. Instant block for me. Usually these men can never offer you mills and boons. Too much of a fantasist. Most likely to just not turn up if you agreed with a meet.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Copy and paste messages using "hi guys" or "your missus look hot" to me, a single woman...then denying they did it

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

Saying "hi, lets meet"...when there's no photos or bio. Just empty profile. Don't even introduce themselves in the intro message. Just like 'caveman grabs a woman, throws her over his shoulder and takes into his cave' springs to mind!

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By *onaldandjacquelineCouple
over a year ago

wirral

A hard on pic with the toilet seat in the pic down as they have just used it and then used the opportunity for a pic uurgh

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over a year ago

those who don't take the no /no thanks , they want to know why , then challenge you on the why ...like cheez.

This is why most times when I say no thanks I just block.

It's exhausting.

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over a year ago

"A hard on pic with the toilet seat in the pic down as they have just used it and then used the opportunity for a pic uurgh"
cringe ..yes ekkk...let's just snap a pic of my pissy willy while I have it out

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By *omoflexible84Woman
over a year ago

"What put me off is when a guy from a couple account messages to say "his wife" wants a cum tribute but gives me his number to send them too. Surely if the wife wants a cum tribute then it should be her asking right?"

Yes this annoys me when a male of the couple will say my wife wants this and this to happen so I always say well if your wife wants it then can I chat to her? They always seem to be in the shower for like 5 days haha I always message back and say well 1 I hope your not on a water meter, 2 glad I'm not paying your energy bills for these 5 day showers and 3 if this is your wife's fantasy then she needs to speak to me

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By *landfordfabbersCouple
over a year ago

Blandford ish

My biggest and it generally it gets blocked instantly is I’m better/ I’m bigger etc.

You know nothing about me, or him or our sex life. We are not looking for others because our sex life is lacking, it’s an extra, like cherry on the cake.

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By *anillaboyMan
over a year ago

london

Because i'm that guy who likes to be dominated and serve, most of the message i get is about paying tribute £££. Send me or us this £££ to demonstrate that you are loyal etc. I get it from couples, females and TS so many times.

What can i say, life goes on.

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By *oreAgainForeverCouple
over a year ago

doncaster

Copy and paste message and they forget they have already sent you the exact same message only 1 week before…

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By *lcoupleneCouple
over a year ago

morpeth

I’m not into bald men. For some unknown reason this pisses people off! If we’re chatting with couples or single males and they’re bald we politely say ‘not for us but thanks’ every single time they question why! Surely not for us is enough?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not into bald men. For some unknown reason this pisses people off! If we’re chatting with couples or single males and they’re bald we politely say ‘not for us but thanks’ every single time they question why! Surely not for us is enough?"

I'm not sure this is in line with the thread, as it's not a mistake a guy can simply rectify in his actions here.

Could you possibly state something in your profile to hopefully avoid some messages from the likes?

Maybe add that you like a good head of hair, or such words.

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By *anillaboyMan
over a year ago

london

"Copy and paste message and they forget they have already sent you the exact same message only 1 week before…"

I never did that even if my english îs not so good i always put some efort. You right many people complains about that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Messages like “are you free now”

“Do you want a big hard dick”

That sort of thing can kill a mood for us.

Even if we are in the mood that won’t get a response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We will take your bald men. (Especially if they have beards and a masculine dad bod) We will send you our men with hair if you would like ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Messages like “are you free now”

“Do you want a big hard dick”

That sort of thing can kill a mood for us.

Even if we are in the mood that won’t get a response "

Exactly, we're looking for like minded, people that know what they want and for a mutual appeal.

What those messages suggest is they're in fantasy mode, masturbating and want someone to simply relieve them in that moment and so check who is online and close.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it a red flag if someone has a couple profile with a man and a woman in different pictures but not one together?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cock pics when it says on our profile not to send

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By *hePerkyPumpkinTV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol

Biggest turn off is when they send me nice and thoughtful messages with sincere compliments.

Just show me your cock and call me a slut... it's not difficult

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By *lcoupleneCouple
over a year ago

morpeth

I'm not sure this is in line with the thread, as it's not a mistake a guy can simply rectify in his actions here.

Could you possibly state something in your profile to hopefully avoid some messages from the likes?

Maybe add that you like a good head of hair, or such words.

The issue isn’t the baldness. It’s the persistent messaging after we’ve said no thanks x

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By *itonthesideWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I posted a topic yesterday about a single guy like myself having a sex video on my profile . From what I gathered that was a turn off . Although there were some positive responses "

Single men profiles with action shots are a turn off for me. I am never confident the other party have their permission for the image to be used. Its even worse if its bareback action shots imo.

I know the same could apply to pictures on couple profile but i guess when there is group fun & photos taken you have a fair idea that the people involved are clued in on swinging and swinging sites. On a single profile i always have the fear its been an ex or tinder date that has no idea this place even exists

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By *eniandMikeCouple
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"I posted a topic yesterday about a single guy like myself having a sex video on my profile . From what I gathered that was a turn off . Although there were some positive responses

Single men profiles with action shots are a turn off for me. I am never confident the other party have their permission for the image to be used. Its even worse if its bareback action shots imo.

100% this!!!! J&M xxxx

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By *ick1111Man
over a year ago

Near Spalding

Please feel free to view my profile and give me any advice and constructive criticism, but I treat both halves of a couple as equals...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure this is in line with the thread, as it's not a mistake a guy can simply rectify in his actions here.

Could you possibly state something in your profile to hopefully avoid some messages from the likes?

Maybe add that you like a good head of hair, or such words.

The issue isn’t the baldness. It’s the persistent messaging after we’ve said no thanks x"

Ah I see, it seemed otherwise with the mention.

I get you, we get the same with any reason we may state, age group is the main one for us.

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By *ezebel100Woman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Within a couple of messages start talking about what positions I like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because i'm that guy who likes to be dominated and serve, most of the message i get is about paying tribute £££. Send me or us this £££ to demonstrate that you are loyal etc. I get it from couples, females and TS so many times.

What can i say, life goes on. "

Do state on your profile that you're not into financial domination,

Not a pay-pig (god i hate this terminology)

P.s I'm sorry you've experienced that

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By *eaverfeverCouple
over a year ago

nr Manchester

"Single men get a hard time on here but what's their biggest mistakes that immediately make them a no for you?

Ours is sending messages ignoring we're a couple and acting like she's a single female

This isn't about bashing single men just a dont do this forum for the ones who are struggling

Whenever i message couples i assume it's the male messaging 9/10 times it is "

We're a couple and it's the Mr's who always messages, must be the minority

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im sorry but this smells a little of the "but im a nice guy" mentality.

Everything you've listed is the bare minimum, the "I am not a dickhead"

But you don't get a medal for not being a dick. Being nice is the BARE minimum.

Expecting something just for that is an indication of a certain entitlement that invalidates the claim that you're a nice guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thats why I dont do couples on here knowing 99% of them is run by males or single guys pretending to be in a couple profile

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"Is it a red flag if someone has a couple profile with a man and a woman in different pictures but not one together? "

They might be in friends only if they are pics that show their faces

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

"My biggest and it generally it gets blocked instantly is I’m better/ I’m bigger etc.

You know nothing about me, or him or our sex life. We are not looking for others because our sex life is lacking, it’s an extra, like cherry on the cake."

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I can't stand beards or dad bods but get stated for having a preference. Sorry I'm meant to love everybody and want to meet everybody?

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

I can't stand beards or dad bods but get stated for having a preference. Sorry I'm meant to love everybody and want to meet everybody?"

People slate you? That's ridiculous! I must admit I've been really careful with how I word my preferences on our profile

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By *he Silver FuxMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

"Had a guy message me all he has in his profile is 13 dick pics and one line bio, saying he is looking for fun.

If you are going to sell a motorbike you are not going to get much interest if you only showed 13 pics of the exhaust pipe.

Just LoL’d wine out my nose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't stand beards or dad bods but get stated for having a preference. Sorry I'm meant to love everybody and want to meet everybody?"

You see, i have a beard, and a dad bod and I totally accept that that is not everyone's preference. Same as I like certain things and not others.

People just hate hearing a "NO"

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By *xXgemmaXxXCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Single men get a hard time on here but what's their biggest mistakes that immediately make them a no for you?

Ours is sending messages ignoring we're a couple and acting like she's a single female

This isn't about bashing single men just a dont do this forum for the ones who are struggling

Whenever i message couples i assume it's the male messaging 9/10 times it is

We're a couple and it's the Mr's who always messages, must be the minority "

Us too Mr generally leaves the messaging to me as at the end of the day it’s my decision who I’d like to meet

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

"Single men get a hard time on here but what's their biggest mistakes that immediately make them a no for you? "

1. Those who clearly haven't read our profile(s) or even the last message !

2. The 'fuck now' brigade and those who put pressure on to meet way too soon.

3. Those who are clearly and falsely operating from a couples profile or behind their partners back.

4. Those with no or unclear photos who come up with all kids of excuses why they can't supply better ones if any.

5. Those who make it clear they are 100% focussed on Cherry as if Tony doesn't exist or try to meet her alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

one liners

assumption that were meeting tonight with no meet posted

not reading profile

asking to meet when over an hour away

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By *ixenandhoundCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth, South west

For me, vixen, and one of the reasons I never delete messages, is the 'copy and paste messages.

You get a message, you don't get around/don't want to reply and then get another message from the same person word for word the same a week or so later.... they obviously only have the one message they send to everyone and hope for a response lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who don't read profiles really annoy me but tbh if I see feet on a profile, I rapidly hit the back button

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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago

BEDFORDSHIRE areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat

"Getting a message and because you opened it and haven’t responded in two mins you get a abuse. As a cpl we tend to read messages and show each other before we respond. I have received some really horrible messages and it can really put you off."

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Couples who do not even respond to really nice messages.

Like you failed to 7 months ago LOL.

BLOCKED NOW LOL

Happy fabbing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Couples who do not even respond to really nice messages.

Like you failed to 7 months ago LOL.

BLOCKED NOW LOL

Happy fabbing.

Mate... You and your entitlement is exactly the turn off most people here talk about.

No one is obliged to answer your "really nice" messages.

And judging by your reaction... Doubt your perception of 'nice' is same for everyone.

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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago

BEDFORDSHIRE areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat

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Same

Know how you feel lol

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

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Same

Know how you feel lol"

Majority of them are just male run profiles anyway wouldn't worry leave the hunt for couples alone for a bit

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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago

BEDFORDSHIRE areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat

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Couples who do not even respond to really nice messages.

Like you failed to 7 months ago LOL.

BLOCKED NOW LOL

Happy fabbing.

Mate... You and your entitlement is exactly the turn off most people here talk about.

No one is obliged to answer your "really nice" messages.

And judging by your reaction... Doubt your perception of 'nice' is same for everyone."

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And you are entitled to your own opinion like I am.

Have a nice morning

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

Sending a dick pic on a first message and calling me darling sweetheart or love etc.... you've never met me before so don't use pet names.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"First of all I look to see if they will meet smokers, then read the profile, then the pics and message from there if Im interested..

I'll send a well crafted message that's polite humorous and what I'm about, but 9 time out of 10 I rarely get a reply or a polite no thankyou.

Now

if I read in a profile send pics with first message or you will be blocked and if I don't like the look of you take my no reply as a no I get myself the feck out of there, I think if someone has done as you've requested and they don't have the decency to say no thanks they are not for me..

I don't know if you're aware, but many times a polite NO only opens the door for questioning and pestering.

This might not be every single bloke, but enough do that that it makes it not worth engaging.

Specially if your inbox has more messages than you have minutes a day to open them all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"First of all I look to see if they will meet smokers, then read the profile, then the pics and message from there if Im interested..

I'll send a well crafted message that's polite humorous and what I'm about, but 9 time out of 10 I rarely get a reply or a polite no thankyou.

Now

I don't know if you're aware, but many times a polite NO only opens the door for questioning and pestering.

This might not be every single bloke, but enough do that that it makes it not worth engaging.

Specially if your inbox has more messages than you have minutes a day to open them all"

Oh shit someone seen it lol speed read the post on the way in as it's late as feckkk

Oh I totally get it, understand completely why this happens and the reasons for it,,feck sending a no thankyou to 50 thousand profiles, but on the same note there's a few decent guys here you can tell from the profiles if there worth sending a no thankyou back to...

Is what it is, it's fab lol

Night nighttttt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Couples who do not even respond to really nice messages.

Like you failed to 7 months ago LOL.

BLOCKED NOW LOL

Happy fabbing.

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entitlement like this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also what puts me off is couples looking at my profile after claiming they not looking for single men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not reading my profile!"

Love your profile

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By *rFoxAndXenoCouple
over a year ago

Weymouth

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Couples who do not even respond to really nice messages.

Like you failed to 7 months ago LOL.

BLOCKED NOW LOL

Happy fabbing.

The forum is such a good filter!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single men aren’t the only people who make mistakes.

My biggest turn off, by a mile, is when a couple sends me an unsolicited message with a list of demands. Eg “Come to ours now. You must be xyz, abc, do this, do that, gift us this, travel there, blah blah blah”

Always from couples I’ve never even said a word to before. The misplaced confidence from a lot of couples is crazy.

It absolutely does my head in and it happens ALL the time.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Not reading my profile, I know it's long, but it gives you a very good idea of what I'm about.

Multiple dick pics

Action shots

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I'm not sure this is in line with the thread, as it's not a mistake a guy can simply rectify in his actions here.

Could you possibly state something in your profile to hopefully avoid some messages from the likes?

Maybe add that you like a good head of hair, or such words.

The issue isn’t the baldness. It’s the persistent messaging after we’ve said no thanks x"

Ah, but you have shown interest. Yhey will be like a dog with a bone.

I like a profile to say what they like. Being bald it allows me to move on weithout bothering them.

I am not into people who aren't into me. Its fine. If so.eone takes offence...block and move on.

It should be enough to day you're not interested...but often isn't.

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By *inkyAddamsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"Single men get a hard time on here but what's their biggest mistakes that immediately make them a no for you?

Ours is sending messages ignoring we're a couple and acting like she's a single female

This isn't about bashing single men just a dont do this forum for the ones who are struggling "

This!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Close up cock pics, inboxes when they've clearly not read the profile or even the looking for bit.....

Mrs "

It's the close up ones and the several different angles for me, it's the same cock whichever way I look at it

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

All these women demanding sex. I'm not a machine ladies, such a turn off.

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By *ootyfruityCouple
over a year ago

andover

"Single men get a hard time on here but what's their biggest mistakes that immediately make them a no for you?

Ours is sending messages ignoring we're a couple and acting like she's a single female

This isn't about bashing single men just a dont do this forum for the ones who are struggling "

I love when they assume it’s the female, specially if they are straight, I have some fun winding them up

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By *inkyAddamsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

"All these women demanding sex. I'm not a machine ladies, such a turn off.

Yeah we believe you!!

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

as has been said, cock close up pics, especially when they use the telly remote or something to demonstrate size

pms, that show they haven't read our profile, dropping in the message box, crudely asking for a quick shag with the Mrs like we aren't a couple

terms like bull, breed, smash, destroy, anything disrespectful

and mrs pet hate... I'm in your area on such and such a date, are you going to be available?

No.

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

"All these women demanding sex. I'm not a machine ladies, such a turn off.

Yeah we believe you!!

Thank you, it's good to have some support with the pressure I'm under.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

Single women profiles that within 2/3 messages drop in the boyfriend / hubby / fwb wanting to meet only as a 3way.

Usually ends with me reporting them for incorrect profile and ignoring them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not bothering to read my profile.

Or 'wanna fuck' on first message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Single women profiles that within 2/3 messages drop in the boyfriend / hubby / fwb wanting to meet only as a 3way.

Usually ends with me reporting them for incorrect profile and ignoring them "

This really bugs me too, so annoying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Couples who do not even respond to really nice messages.

Like you failed to 7 months ago LOL.

BLOCKED NOW LOL

Happy fabbing.

The forum is such a good filter!"
The best of filters !

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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago

BEDFORDSHIRE areas SOCIAL or fun let's chat

You take time to read a profile.

Even if 10 pages like mine.

He/she/couple say FACE PICK or BLOCKED.

Next line says for privacy I will NOT SHARE my Face pic.

WOW!.

Cheeky.

Your Blocked.

Is all I can say LOL.

BigT

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had a guy message me all he has in his profile is 13 dick pics and one line bio, saying he is looking for fun.

If you are going to sell a motorbike you are not going to get much interest if you only showed 13 pics of the exhaust pipe.

Love this. I do love seeing a nice big exhaust pipe but looking at the handlebars and fuel tank is always nice"

I like an exhaust pipe, but I would much like to see the bodywork. X

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