FabSwingers.com forum: Is it all about the sex?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is the swinging lifestyle just about having sex with others or is it a social thing.

Of course it could be both or it could be you want to know everything or nothing about the other person(s).

What is swinging to you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's definitely about more than just sex to Me.

But for some I feel it is definitely just another knotch on the bedpost next.

And that's coming from a man's perspective and we are often painted as the one's who want one off meaningless sex.

Go figure

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

A bit of extra fun as & when we require and can fit it in. Definitely not a lifestyle.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

For us swinging is about fulfilling our sexual fantasies and sharing each other's sexual pleasure. So purely about sex. We have a full social life with vanilla friends, although a few swinging partners have become friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both for me. I like the social side and i like the sex. When sex is the sole focus, sometimes ppl forget you're a person too, and treat you like some service provider. (Thats been an observation in my experience anyway).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't get a social never mind a sex meet.

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By *ornysquirtingcoupleCouple
over a year ago

somerset

Purely about physical pleasure and fantasy for us. We get social side from normal life friends.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

"Is the swinging lifestyle just about having sex with others or is it a social thing.

Of course it could be both or it could be you want to know everything or nothing about the other person(s).

What is swinging to you?"

Swinging is both for us. We want to make connections and friendships as well as good sex. Sex is cold and clinical without them both as a mix.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

"Purely about physical pleasure and fantasy for us. We get social side from normal life friends."

But nice to maje friends on the same wavelength sexwise i feel. Joanne

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Purely about physical pleasure and fantasy for us. We get social side from normal life friends."

Same for me

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By *ustamanMan
over a year ago

weymouth

Social and sex, without the social side it's purely a mechanical act and for me I like a connection of sorts

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By *eastZMan
over a year ago

London

Let's lay the groundwork. Fab is not a dating site or a social network. It is a platform for swinging and pleasure!

Now, I am not opposed to the idea of forming connections and supporting mechanisms and dynamics, but I am against shaming anyone who is here simply for sex.

For me, I love socials, making friends, and love mixing both and haveing fuckbuddies for life, I have few! I also enjoy intense out-of-the-blue fuck sessions. Unapologetically.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

It started out as hobby as I love sex but has become my lifestyle for sex and new female friendships & relationships. But it’s no more than that.

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By *aximus74Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

For me it's a mixture of everything... I love it all,the sex and the social side.. My friends don't know about this side of me so it's nice just to talk to someone in the lifestyle about it...just wish I had more time for the social side....but won't have sex with somebody just because...there has to be some sort of connection.

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By *ornysquirtingcoupleCouple
over a year ago

somerset

"Purely about physical pleasure and fantasy for us. We get social side from normal life friends.

But nice to maje friends on the same wavelength sexwise i feel. Joanne "

I hear you

We have got friends who swing and its nice to talk about our adventures.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Sex is just a part of it for us. We are very club/party swingers. Yes we love filth. We love the opportunity to share our filth with others and enjoy 3somes, 4somes and outright orgies. We love the variety and excitement of being able to encounter new people sexually. Also sometimes the sex is just fun sex but sometimes there's something more, a proper connection (sometimes just of that time and space). Sharing that intimacy and those connections with people is really a beautiful thing and so rewarding for us. This is something that although linked we'd say is something more than sex so something we get out of this other than the sex. Of course that also tends to consequently make the sex hotter. But we also have a great sex life as a couple and this can make it difficult for the scene to offer something better than what we do together alone. So I would say the actual sex is only a part of why we love the scene.

Also a big part of the scene (especially the club/party side) is the social aspect. Its like going out to the pub but far better. We love meeting new people, sharing a few drinks and having laugh. A lot of us are naturally like minded and you get such a diverse mixture of people from different places and backgrounds. Also the atmosphere is just far more liberated and more us than many vanilla venues. Through the scene we've made some true freinds. Some who we are very close to and meet outside of the context of the scene too. You can strip down and be comfortable (which as naturist in the everyday world works well for us). In tends to be a cheaper night out too. Plus you can get away from the kids, have sex where you like and make as much noise as you want.

For us the sex is only part of the appeal of the scene for us. We love the complete package.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mainly for the sex, looking to explore together

(if we ever find a first meet with a couple for what were looking for!)

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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkeston

Way more the social side sex is just a added bonus.

I go to clubs mainly for the social but with zero expectations of sex.

For me ive met amazing friends who just happen to love swinging/kink

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby

For us it's always be about the social side making new friends we have formed longtime friends where no sex is involved.Obviously the added benefit is if there is chemistry we get amazing friends with benefits too.Win win

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By *herryEatersCouple
over a year ago

East Cheshire

"Is the swinging lifestyle just about having sex with others or is it a social thing.

Of course it could be both or it could be you want to know everything or nothing about the other person(s).

What is swinging to you?"

One off meets can be exciting but we always hope for more and have almost got there a few times. We love having naughty, regular friends. Sex just gets better, trust grows, boundaries and fantasies can be explored. We're happier meeting individually too once we get to know them. So yes to us it's more than just sex, certainly a no to cold unfeeling, unemotional sex..

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By *atnayCouple
over a year ago

STEVENAGE

We're very much about chemistry and connection. Physical attraction based on a photo is one thing, but you can feel differently meeting in person. Without attraction and chemistry, we're just not turned on. Meeting for a drink with no expectation before playing means we get to see if its realy there. If its not, well we enjoyed a drink with you. But if it is, then lets play and do it again sometime.

I guess thats why we like clubs so much. Mingle and chat. Play if all feels right. If not, we play on our own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like the social side and have been to some arranged social events also been to clubs we think a combination of both suits us xx

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