FabSwingers.com forum: Non consensual touching!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’m not saying where as it’s not the club’s fault and negative press isn’t good but why do SOME men think it’s ok to touch a woman in a hot tub without consent?

This pm we were in hot tub somewhere where clothing is optional. We are always naked because we like that. I was the only naked lady in a big tub of a number of men and one other lady in a cossie.

Man is sitting 2ft away from me, reached out and touched my thigh. I wondered if I had made a mistake because of force of bubbles and so just gave him a hard look and then there it was again. We told him what we thought and left.

One bad apple so trying to keep it in perspective but please if anyone thinks they want to touch in a tub just ask. Asking may get a pleasant surprise as an answer. The worst is a no thank you! Non consensual touching is never going to have a happy ending … well not from our point of view anyway!

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By *eaSlutsCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

No excuse for non-consensual physical interaction. Some people seem to assume that, because of the environment, anything goes. Sadly, I'll bet it isn't the last time the fella would do something like that...

Sorry you had to experience that and it drew a close to your hot tub time

C x

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
over a year ago

near Putney Heath

"I’m not saying where as it’s not the club’s fault and negative press isn’t good but why do SOME men think it’s ok to touch a woman in a hot tub without consent?

This pm we were in hot tub somewhere where clothing is optional. We are always naked because we like that. I was the only naked lady in a big tub of a number of men and one other lady in a cossie.

Unfortunately, this is very common. Basically yes you have to tell them to stop. Piss off. Fuck off and or/ get out and report them to staff.

It's happened to me several times in the jacuzzi at Rio's. Unfortunately, there are a lot of men who think this is ok.

I've had men touch me non-consensually when I'm with a male partner and I've told them to stop that they have to ask. Kills the mood for sure.

I'm not sure what happens at gangbang and greedy girl events but not every women swinger or otherwise is up for that sort of thing!

Even men should be asked if they want to be touched also.

Some people think it's ok for me as a woman to go up and grab a man and I'd rather not! Especially as a trauma survivor. You don't know if I or someone else might be triggered but unexpected and unwanted touching.

Always ask and don't let anyone get away with touching you when you do not want it! Regardless of gender or sexual orientation.

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham

Every club has at least one handsy fool who spoils it for everyone else.

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By *ulldog_71Man
over a year ago

Sedgefield

I hope you reported it, the clubs are supposed to be a safe space where you have physical contact by permission not assumption, if people don't feel safe then they will stop going and that would kill the club.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

It's horrible isn't it. I experienced this on a social recently, really shook me up.

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

In our experience, it's been the women who have been the main culprits of this. We've both had our bums groped while walking up stairs ahead of a lass who's had a few. I've had unwanted lady hands in my crotch in more than one hot tub.

Rob ended up with claw marks on his cock after one 'lady' physically dragged me off of him, mid ride, because "it wash myyy turrrnnn"

Management didn't seem to care when we reported her. Apparently she was a regular and a friend of theirs.

The worst we've had from guys is when one went to stick a finger in my bum after he was told he could just spank me lightly.

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By *eelGoodIncMan
over a year ago

Mids

Yeah that's a big no no in my opinion. I always respect boundaries in clubs. It's always good to at least have a chat with a lady and see if you have any attraction to one another. On the opposite end though I have also seen ladies openly groping men in clubs without consent too. It's actually caused arguments between the men and their wives/partners because another woman has groped them. All you can do in these instances is go to the club management and tell them what's going on and let them handle it

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By *ainbowSonicCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I love playing with the ladies but when a guy says it's okay to touch the lady, I don't take heed and I always double check with the lady herself if it's okay to touch. I find it's all about respect and wish there was more of it with others. As some men unfortunately ruin it for the best of us. There's no biggest turn off having a guy groping you like an leech without consent.

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By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

Oh these filthy men !! Despicable aren't they ladies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had it in public twice, once at a bar a woman grabbed my ass and the ex took it out on me

Then in Morrison with the Mrs looking at Easter eggs when a woman walks passed grabs my ass smiles and says nice ass, luckily this time mrs saw that I wasn’t guilty

To say I was shocked is an understatement, it put me in a bad situation that’s was completely unnecessary

As a MAN I can say I don’t want this so I can only imagine how women feel

Not fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's just not on.

Hope you reported them to club staff.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had this happen at Chameleons (Darlaston) and the staff were amazing.

The Wife walked to the Bar naked to get some drinks and a chap lunged at her pussy who then ran off. Fortunately this was witnessed by another chap who reported it to the staff.

The staff then got both the witness and my Wife to independently find and identify the bloke in the club and once they had done so, the bloke was ejected from the club and banned for life!

Fantastic staff.

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