FabSwingers.com forum: One on one meets

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I used to do these with my former Master watching on cam... was always by our rules.. ie straight in.. no small talk.. straight to it.. then kicked out once the guy had cum.

Now single I am getting lots of guys wanting to spend a few hours with me, and have one on one.. Now I decided to arrange one.. but I have had to cancel telling him honestly I am to scared to meet.

Has anyone else found that they have lost their nerve.. Now clubs I am fine... as long as a guy doesnt want me in a private room..but I am finding that I am getting increasingly cold towards meeting..

Its faceless, nameless group play or nothing.. and I am thinking its not actually that good for me all the time..

but I cant get over this fear...

( its the fear that they will want to be intimate rather than just a fuck one on one.. ie kissing and foreplay)

Cali

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"I used to do these with my former Master watching on cam... was always by our rules.. ie straight in.. no small talk.. straight to it.. then kicked out once the guy had cum.

Now single I am getting lots of guys wanting to spend a few hours with me, and have one on one.. Now I decided to arrange one.. but I have had to cancel telling him honestly I am to scared to meet.

Its faceless, nameless group play or nothing.. and I am thinking its not actually that good for me all the time..

but I cant get over this fear...

( its the fear that they will want to be intimate rather than just a fuck one on one.. ie kissing and foreplay)

Cali "

You don't have to view kissing and foreplay as being that intimate. I love the kissing and foreplay and can then happily show them out of the door when we are both happy and satisfied and never set eyes on them again.

I think your fears are probably much deeper seated. I have seen a number of your posts and they have concerned me (I am not having a go or making judgements, believe me). You seem to be going through a crisis - though I may well be totally wrong - in which case I apologise.

Do you think you should perhaps take a step back and consider exactly what you are looking for? Give yourself some space, perhaps to get to know yourself a bit more. I think you have been through a bit of an emotional roller coaster lately - from what I can glean from your posts. Taking some time out might be beneficial.

Just my opinion - for whatever it is worth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Cali

Only you can decide whats best for you; but only advice id offer is make 100% sure who your meeting understands "you"and what you are looking for and if your not wanting to be treated in same way your used to; then go for a social meeting - last but most important stay safe

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I did take time out.. I need sex though.. like I need food and water.. I need cum.. for me sex has always been about that bit..

I dont mind meeting guys for just sex... but to many times they start telling me about how they will pleasure me.. well thats not what I am doing this for.. I dont even care if I cum... Its about if the guy does.. and that is my enjoyment in it.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

You need to be very firm when they start telling you what they will do and make it clear that you don't want that.

Put it in the first line if your profile that you don't want kissing, intimacy or them to go down on you. That you want them to arrive, possibly fuck, then suck them and cum in a place of your choice. (I've been paying attention).

That way if any protest then simply refer them back to your profile.

Everyone wants something different, sometimes it can vary from week to week. But we can all state what we are after and be strict at enforcing that. The advantage of being a single fem is that we are more likely to get it just when we want it!

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By *ottinghamPaulMan
over a year ago

nottingham

Hi Cali

I agree with _empting devil.

State what you want and more important what you don't want.

It's all about meeting the right person that respects your boundaries and doesn't try to push you into things.

I have seen you at a local club and you know what you like and you can do the same thing in a private room with the right person.

It's all about trust

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By *lderguy4funMan
over a year ago

ROTHERHAM

WOW KALI you are a rare sexy girl indeeed a girl who likes to please a guy till he cums and not botherd about a guys pleaseing you but i like to do both seams like you need to get your own glory hole lol just let the guy put his dick thro and you never have to see him lol just a thought trev x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks to all.. I have pretty much worked out from chats on here.. and on chat.. and some people that mailed me privately that what is wrong is that I am not yet ready to swing as a single..

Not sure to be honest I ever will be... it just seems pointless..

So for now I think I will just see my friends at clubs..( if mode takes me I can play.. if not no worries) and just stay for the forum.

I miss being part of something that to me was the most amazing thing ever... and I am finding that it doesnt work now.

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By *teve oneilMan
over a year ago

manchester

So a blowie's out then lol ....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

has anyone actually gone from playing as a couple to a single...??

If so did you find like I am that its so different... and it lacks something with not being in a couple.

The thing is I played MOSTLY without my partner present.. but it didnt matter.. we still shared the build up, he would have a lot of input in what I would be doing during the meet... Then I would take photos for him... and after.. well afterwards was always amazing.

I know if I get in the mood at a club I will... but I think planning to play would be wrong just now.. not even sure about the greedy girls nights..as when I come down.

I know that for a recovering sex addict.. just the fact I can say no is a good thing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

blame ur ex

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"blame ur ex

I do.. but also myself for not seeing the wood for the trees.. but then love is blind.. and if not blind is some what rose tinted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

true. give urself some time and u`ll get over it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You know I have to say thank you to all that messaged me and those that shared experiences

I've had a good think. Done lots of talking with friends old and new

And I've decided that I need to just try new things till something works.

I've had such support and it's been lovely.

Thank you. I have a direction to head in and the confidence to do so

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