FabSwingers.com forum: Straight guys saying they are Bi

By *oleraine-couple OP Couple
over a year ago

coleraine

We’ve increasingly been getting messages from guys with straight profiles who say they want Bi play.

Why are so many guys unwilling to be honest and set up Bi/Bi curious profiles?

To us saying you’re straight in your profile and then messaging suggesting you are bi in some form makes us suspicious and reduces your chance of a meeting.

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

Same here. We appreciate there are genuine reasons, everyone needs their first time etc, but if they aren't willing to explain their desires in the first message we usually delete.

If you're looking for hassle free bi guys, get a fabguys account. Works perfectly for us and removes 95% of the guess work if they are just looking for a woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few reasons I’d say. There is the stigma and embarrassment surrounding their sexual interests mixed with shame and possible low self confidence.

There are so many bi guys posing as straight to try and get more meets as some couples will state they don’t meet bi guys, as ofcourse if a guy is bi then he’s going to hold down the straight male half of a couple and utterly pump him silly at the earliest opportunity

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
over a year ago

Cambs

It can be as a form of deception or as a way to stay hidden in case of someone they know discovering their profile.

Personally I only go for honest profiles, but it's each to their own.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Majority of my recent messages are from straight guys, even though my profile states I won’t meet them. I don’t engage and just read, delete or ignore just don’t reply.

It’s Fab and the way it is on here

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By *oleraine-couple OP Couple
over a year ago

coleraine

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By *oleraine-couple OP Couple
over a year ago

coleraine

"Same here. We appreciate there are genuine reasons, everyone needs their first time etc, but if they aren't willing to explain their desires in the first message we usually delete.

If you're looking for hassle free bi guys, get a fabguys account. Works perfectly for us and removes 95% of the guess work if they are just looking for a woman

OK thanks for the tip we will take a look at that site

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

People hedging their bets, there are women and couples who state 'no bi guys'.

Social stigma around sexuality.

Embarrassment.

There are a bunch of reasons.

I take profiles at face value though. I get a lot of messages from straight guys and I always ignore them.

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By *ikeMassagesMan
over a year ago

Hove, Brighton

Well, I put straight on my profile, although I would describe myself as contextually bi, in that, when with a couple, I enjoy seeing, and feeling a nice hard cock, and love the sense that everyone can touch and feel and enjoy whatever and whomsoever they like.There isn't really a category of this on fabs, and perhaps using labels is too rigid anyway. The thing is most of my messages are from guys, even though I have put straight. If I put bi-curious, although I am beyond curious lol, let alone bi..I get deluged withh messages from single gay or bi guys, whereas I prefer to meet with couples. I don't think, therefore, there is anything dishonest in what I say about myself, or putting on straight, and then mailing bi couples. They are free to ignore me (which they often do lol).

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By *igfun911Man
over a year ago

East Lancashire

Having bi or bi curious on your profile puts a lot of couples off from my experience. A lot of the males in a mf couple being straight don't want a bi guy.

I've been told before that I'm not for them because I'm bi.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

Taken straight from our profile!

‘Being open and honest about sexuality and relationships is very important to is, so if you’re cheating, we don’t want to be part of that. Likewise if you’re one of the mostly men who list themselves as straight, but claim to be bi; have a long hard look at what you’re doing. While it sucks that some women and couples won’t meet bi guys, due to outdated assumptions, lying to get sex does nothing to improve this’

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

"A few reasons I’d say. There is the stigma and embarrassment surrounding their sexual interests mixed with shame and possible low self confidence.

I’m always concerned they’re just saying they’re bi to get to Kitty!

Frankie!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not just single guys though is it?

There's plenty of guys in MF couples who pertain to be straight, but will happily play with a bloke as long as there's a fanny in the room

'Bi-playful' is very much a Fab term

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By *oastal1968Man
over a year ago

London

Some guys don't want to be recognised in their local area, where everyone thinks of them as "straight". You are right to be suspicious. The world would be a better place if everyone was honest.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

We only meet bi couples/bi men so for us if they have straight on their profile even if they state their actually bi we won’t meet with them.

We’ve heard so many stories where men who claimed to be bi had no interest in the other man at all.

We are all about everyone being involved and no one should feel left out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

doesnt make a difference if a guy says hes straight or bi, he still gets propositioned by both sexes so why bother!!

same for my lady with other women and couples!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We’ve increasingly been getting messages from guys with straight profiles who say they want Bi play.

Why are so many guys unwilling to be honest and set up Bi/Bi curious profiles?

To us saying you’re straight in your profile and then messaging suggesting you are bi in some form makes us suspicious and reduces your chance of a meeting. "

Every guy that has messaged us in this situation and we say no straight guys and they say they are bi but don't put it on their profile because it puts off fully straight male couples etc

We just give them a polite no thanks as it to us feels a little bit of deception/lie.

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By *ilberryMan
over a year ago

Scarborough

It took me a long time to change my profile, because of the reasons above in this tread.

Even now I won't be found in gents toilets, or dribbling over guys in lycra! I think our society/ culture pigeonholes all of us not being free and able to to do as we might like to do, there is a strange culture with guys on here? Who want to watch their over half playing with pussy, but are themselves repulsed by the thought of touching a cock? As for DVP, how does that work with two very straight guys?? Even spit roasting etc??

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"It's not just single guys though is it?

There's plenty of guys in MF couples who pertain to be straight, but will happily play with a bloke as long as there's a fanny in the room

'Bi-playful' is very much a Fab term

Yep & I've seen women claim to be straight too when it's obvious they're not

Some genuinely dont see themselves as bi ,unless they want to have a relationship with someone of the same sex too.

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By *ootyfruityCouple
over a year ago

andover

We are searching for single bi guys, or bi guys in couples, but any profile with straight we don’t bother with

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By *hyguy187Man
over a year ago

Maybe near to you!

"Having bi or bi curious on your profile puts a lot of couples off from my experience. A lot of the males in a mf couple being straight don't want a bi guy.

I've been told before that I'm not for them because I'm bi. "

Same here, I've been told this a number of times

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By *leased to meet youTV/TS
over a year ago

Southend-on-Sea

Same here I get loads of dms from the straight guys wanting me to fuck them etc, I'm mostly looking for bi couple's on here and other tgirls.

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By *otgirl32Woman
over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

I get contacted by a fair few bi men who say they're str8 on profile. I ALWAYS call them out on the discrepancy and I've come to realize that there are two groups of "str8-bi" discordant men

1. The majority - they're NOT being deceptive deliberately, they're bisexual, like men and women BUT ...... a lot of couples and women won't meet bi guys mostly for outdated prejudices (AIDS, the straight husband will get pounced on and shite like that). So they write "str8". I give these men a pass because the odds are already so stacked up against them that I get where they are coming from. And I've enjoyed playing with bisexual men who feel they have to pretend to be str8 I don't hold it against them.

2. This is the smaller deceptive lot that will say anything just to get to a woman. Ive seen "bi" guys invited to bi parties hoping shag a few girls and they're literally walking with their hands over their cocks, hoping that only a woman will approach them LOL. Those need to be kicked in the bollocks and thrown out of these parties they spoil it for everyone.

ps: one word of advice to "str8-bi" men if your profile has a lot of TV friends and/or veris from other men talking about how hot your cock was to suck, you MAY AS WELL change your status to bisexual

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By *nly us 4448Couple
over a year ago

London

We prefer it when the profile says their bi... it winds me (Mrs) up, when they say straight but suddenly become bi. I myself am bi friendly but have put bi curious as there is no bi friendly button.. if there's attraction I don't mind playing bi but essentially prefer c***. Hubby is fully bi, it don't mean he is going to overstep the mark with a straight guy..all stated in our profile. We do understand there are people out there that look down on Bi People.. but we would much rather put it out there than not, if you're not comfortable with it fine pass us by..no hard feelings.

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By *ornywelsh2sumCouple
over a year ago

Neath valley.

"We’ve increasingly been getting messages from guys with straight profiles who say they want Bi play.

Why are so many guys unwilling to be honest and set up Bi/Bi curious profiles?

To us saying you’re straight in your profile and then messaging suggesting you are bi in some form makes us suspicious and reduces your chance of a meeting. "

Sone guys say they are bi hoping to get to fuck the female of the cpl. Had a few try this on hoping they will get to fuck joanne. We just block and move on. John

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By *ickingdelightMan
over a year ago

Cotswolds

There is also the group me included where they are curious and wanting to explore yet not tried it yet.

So in this weird limbo land of not straight, not bi, curious and interested.

I appreciate that’s the group the ‘fake’ guys seeking just women sit in too.

For those who simply want to explore and are genuine it’s quite overwhelming with guys that come across very pushy and literal 1 word answers which is a instant no or you’re trying to find the small couples that seek bi and a newbie…

Lastly it’s a sad time seeing women on here openly saying ‘no bi guys’ in some instances they’re bi themselves. All fo everyone’s has their type but hypercritical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some bi men just don't want the risk of being outed. It may cause them real life problems. Can't blame them at all.

Just tell them the men will play first and that will put off the true straight men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There is also the group me included where they are curious and wanting to explore yet not tried it yet.

So in this weird limbo land of not straight, not bi, curious and interested.

I appreciate that’s the group the ‘fake’ guys seeking just women sit in too.

Lastly it’s a sad time seeing women on here openly saying ‘no bi guys’ in some instances they’re bi themselves. All fo everyone’s has their type but hypercritical "

It's not hypocritical. They can choose who to fuck.

Bi men are not the same as bi women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There is also the group me included where they are curious and wanting to explore yet not tried it yet.

So in this weird limbo land of not straight, not bi, curious and interested.

I appreciate that’s the group the ‘fake’ guys seeking just women sit in too.

Lastly it’s a sad time seeing women on here openly saying ‘no bi guys’ in some instances they’re bi themselves. All fo everyone’s has their type but hypercritical "

It's similar to all the gay guys here, pertaining to be bi-sexual but not wanting to meet other gay men - just wanting to meet 'straight curious guys'

That said, it's not for you, or I, to call it out

Fab doesn't come with set criteria for membership

Despite the cliché, we are mainly here looking for very different things

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By *4bimMan
over a year ago

Farnborough Hampshire

If someone doesn't meet your strict policies decline and move on.

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By *iredhandMan
over a year ago

Manchester

"doesnt make a difference if a guy says hes straight or bi, he still gets propositioned by both sexes so why bother!!

same for my lady with other women and couples!!"

On fab you have option to filter who can message you. As a straight guy while I get a lot of fabs from guys, they are unable to message me let alone proposition me, and I make it clear to any couples that I might chat with that I have no interest in male to male play.

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By *oding1Man
over a year ago

marlow

Have taken to including in my profile.

That if your straight don't message me.

Still about half the guys who message have straight in their profile.

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By *heshire fun couple 123Couple
over a year ago

Nantwich

We found if Steve put bi we got pestered by gay men rather than couples or straight guys who want to play with me.

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By *oleraine-couple OP Couple
over a year ago

coleraine

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By *oleraine-couple OP Couple
over a year ago

coleraine

"I get contacted by a fair few bi men who say they're str8 on profile. I ALWAYS call them out on the discrepancy and I've come to realize that there are two groups of "str8-bi" discordant men

ps: one word of advice to "str8-bi" men if your profile has a lot of TV friends and/or veris from other men talking about how hot your cock was to suck, you MAY AS WELL change your status to bisexual

Spot on the last part

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

"We’ve increasingly been getting messages from guys with straight profiles who say they want Bi play.

Why are so many guys unwilling to be honest and set up Bi/Bi curious profiles?

To us saying you’re straight in your profile and then messaging suggesting you are bi in some form makes us suspicious and reduces your chance of a meeting. "

Because there is straight straight, then there’s only straight in front of my friends straight.

The mr

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By *iss_Cali_xxCouple
over a year ago

Herne Bay

"Well, I put straight on my profile, although I would describe myself as contextually bi, in that, when with a couple, I enjoy seeing, and feeling a nice hard cock, and love the sense that everyone can touch and feel and enjoy whatever and whomsoever they like.There isn't really a category of this on fabs, and perhaps using labels is too rigid anyway. The thing is most of my messages are from guys, even though I have put straight. If I put bi-curious, although I am beyond curious lol, let alone bi..I get deluged withh messages from single gay or bi guys, whereas I prefer to meet with couples. I don't think, therefore, there is anything dishonest in what I say about myself, or putting on straight, and then mailing bi couples. They are free to ignore me (which they often do lol)."

This is known as hete

exible, it's very common but the term is not well known.

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By *iltsTSgirlTV/TS
over a year ago

chichester

Damages chances of getting laid with others that don’t like bi/gay/t at all I guess

Just simpler if these chaps just ran two profiles one for each. Couple of my man friends do that here and it works fine for them .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m bi curious (oral only so far) would like to experiment a little more under mmf situations as not ready for mm only meets YET and when my profile was set to bi not straight every single message sometime 10 a day would be single bi or gay men wanting to “ruin” me so that why me personally I set to straight

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose I never though of it like that I guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bi and proud and after bi single gents who are honest on their profile.having straight and messaging saying they are bi does not cut it for us

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

The flip side of this is that I'm straight and clearly say so in my profile and yet I get messages from couples telling me they know I don't really believe anything I've written in my bio.

They have said I'm too old and too straight to ever get anywhere on here but if I'm prepared to play bi they will consider putting me on their to-do list for future events.

I also get winks and friend requests from couples who have it written in capital letters in their own profile that they will block any straight men that get in touch.

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By *ocoTemptationMan
over a year ago

london

I have no interest in meeting anyone who wouldn't be interested in me because of my looks, height, build, cock size, sexuality etc etc

So mine is a "you get what it says on the tin" philosophy. So if you like what you see and I do too everyone's gonna have an awesome time and no one is just "making do"

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

the vale

Not going to lie I am bi

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

"We found if Steve put bi we got pestered by gay men rather than couples or straight guys who want to play with me. "

Use your filters then!

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By *mie subCDTV/TS
over a year ago

Doncaster

I get loads of straight guys asking me for meets, they say putting bi puts off women and couples they try to meet x

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By *N4funCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

As a couple with a Bi curious male it's amusing how many straight males get in touch knowing that the profile says Bi oral male. We've had a couple of guys say when asked they are orally Bi and then some say enjoy being sucked by husband and wife.

It's disappointing how few couples get in touch but we think this is more about the better half being straight.

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By *untimes wantedMan
over a year ago

Huddersfield

"We’ve increasingly been getting messages from guys with straight profiles who say they want Bi play.

Why are so many guys unwilling to be honest and set up Bi/Bi curious profiles?

To us saying you’re straight in your profile and then messaging suggesting you are bi in some form makes us suspicious and reduces your chance of a meeting. "

As a gay man most of messages i had was from so called straight men with not looking for single guys on their profile.If MR makes a profile on fabguys you would find a large number of supposed single 'straight' guys here are on fabguys.where there is no option to put straight. i have used it being on both as a good filter to out the liars in the past.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How sad that even on a swinging site people still feel the need to be dishonest about their sexuality.

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By *laisir erotiqueCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

We to are fed up with straight guys saying they are bi when there profile states they are straight, its just an excuse to fuck the female side of the couple without any interaction with the guy or they just can't be true to there sexuality and they wonder why we don't reply and block them.

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By *heltenhamBiGuyMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

As a bi guy myself I have had messages from straight guys looking to meet on the low down....always the old excuse of "the ladies/couples don't want to play with bi guys, so I put straight"

Well, there are many ladies/couples who are happy to meet and play with Bi guys, (best of both worlds IMO)....Yes, it sucks that some people don't want to meet, but just move on, there are others that do. As in all walks of life people have preferences, respect that and above all be honest!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We to are fed up with straight guys saying they are bi when there profile states they are straight, its just an excuse to fuck the female side of the couple without any interaction with the guy or they just can't be true to there sexuality and they wonder why we don't reply and block them."

Not necessarily. They may not be Out in life.

Just say the men will fuck and suck first before the woman joins in later. That puts off the straight ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a bi guy myself I have had messages from straight guys looking to meet on the low down....always the old excuse of "the ladies/couples don't want to play with bi guys, so I put straight"

We won't play with any guys who are listed as straight... lot of couples also like this too.

Even if I say so myself and it may be a little bias but look at S... its surely their loss :D

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By *aggy dollsCouple
over a year ago

bradford

"We only meet bi couples/bi men so for us if they have straight on their profile even if they state their actually bi we won’t meet with them.

We’ve heard so many stories where men who claimed to be bi had no interest in the other man at all.

We are all about everyone being involved and no one should feel left out. "

This is us down to a T. We won't entertain "fab straight" guys, mostly as we have limited time as it is without increasing the risk of meeting chancers and wasting our time. And also we find it dishonest all be it to straight couples but nevertheless it simply doesn't sit right with us.

Mr H

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By *ev_1Couple
over a year ago

Bickliegh

Opposite for us Bi guys saying they are straight

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By *rs-Naughty_Mr-CuddlesCouple
over a year ago

Nr coleford

We gat that I'm straight on profile but I'm bi really

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

"Opposite for us Bi guys saying they are straight

So guys saying whatever it takes to get sex then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I put a status saying i wanted to arrange a mmf with 2 bi men? Every guy that messaged me had straight on their profiles

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