FabSwingers.com forum: Group/gangbang advice

By *a_fun_30_couple OP Couple
over a year ago

Durham

Hi everyone. We’re hoping from a bit of advice from you all.

Mrs A is keen to try a group (more than 2 guys) but is a bit worried/nervous about it. We’ve had a few threesomes, couple swaps and multiple couple play sessions but never tried more than 2 guys.

It’s something that’s been on our list for a while but she’s a bit worried about how she’ll feel about herself during and after. The worry is she’ll feel like the guys are judging her, thinking she’s easy/slutty and she’ll feel almost worthless if that makes sense.

Are we being naive or is a respectful group session a thing? We were going to start trying to arrange something but got to this point and started having second thoughts about how to approach it. Not sure if we’d be better trying to arrange with individual guys, a small group of guys who already know each other or just try to make it happen at a club (maybe on a greedy girls night or something)

Has anyone else had similar worries? What were your experiences?

Think we’re rambling a bit now but hopefully that makes sense and some of you get what we mean.

All thoughts and advice gratefully received x

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By *oyandJulieMan
over a year ago

blackburn

I arranged small gangbangs for Julie. I invited 10 guys, knowing only half would turn up. The rules were laid down before we started and all attendees adhered to them. All sex was protected but they had to whip condom off and shoot over her body

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

Can be done - best at a club in our opinion - takes time and effort to organise. Today's play daytime date at Kestrels has taken four weeks of effort to get 5 couples, one single lady and about 14 guys sorted for "bukkake and more". x Anne

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By *a_fun_30_couple OP Couple
over a year ago

Durham

Thanks guys. It’s not so much the effort involved in organising it that’s the worry. It’s Mrs A feeling like she’s being judged or guys thinking she must be easy etc. Don’t want to feel degraded and things if that makes sense. Just wondering if I’m overthinking or if anyone has any advice on that side of things

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By *atandasmileMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Can be done - best at a club in our opinion - takes time and effort to organise. Today's play daytime date at Kestrels has taken four weeks of effort to get 5 couples, one single lady and about 14 guys sorted for "bukkake and more". x Anne "

I know the original question is more about the psychology, but I'll second the idea of going to a club for the practicality should you decide to go ahead.

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By *atandasmileMan
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Thanks guys. It’s not so much the effort involved in organising it that’s the worry. It’s Mrs A feeling like she’s being judged or guys thinking she must be easy etc. Don’t want to feel degraded and things if that makes sense. Just wondering if I’m overthinking or if anyone has any advice on that side of things "

Hopefully you'll get an answer or two from the female perspective too since my perspective can't really come as close to your wife's point of view. However, I have taken part in quite a few group events where men greatly outnumber women so maybe I'll have something useful for you.

* Mostly the men who attend will pick up on the vibe (or listen to the rules if there are any set explicitly) and follow along. Most there will want your wife to have a good time too and no-one wants to be the knob-head who ruined it for everyone. So set the vibe with your communication and actions (and maybe one or two men that you know who will act appropriately and lead the way). Make sure that they all know that your wife is worried about respect and I think you'll find they keep things in check.

* as with everything in life, there's the odd idiot who seems incapable of, well, doing anything properly. You will find that the other men in the group will not take kindly to this which makes things mostly self policing. If you're in a club they will usually have staff who can step in if needed.

* I don't know if this is helpful or not, but I personally do not think of women who like lots of sex with lots of men to be worthless. Quite the opposite, in fact: I find it hot as fuck and a trait to be valued.

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

I've been at a few years ago. I have to say the majority of the guys are respectful. Many will be thinking of getting their end away not whether the lady in question is 'easy'.

I think those that turn up are in to the whole idea and know it's all about the lady enjoying herself. Which is what you should do. Relax and enjoy.

As someone else has said, anyone that is disrespectful will soon be left in no doubt they are not welcome. Again many will enjoy watching the lady enjoy herself.

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By *ez669Man
over a year ago

East Kilbride

Lucky guys who get to be part of it as shes an absolute 10

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

number 1: a slut is only someone who enjoys casual sex be that male or female and its only society that makes the term derogatory

number 2: sex with multiple people is only a number, if she enjoys sex with 2 guys introduce a third and then a forth and build up gradually.

number 3: usually the guys involved wont be judging her, they will be grateful to be there and enjoying the sex as should she as thats what its about.

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