FabSwingers.com forum: Honest opinion on body counts…

By *aytie0 OP Woman
over a year ago

Seaham

No judgement every opinion welcome just curious whether someone’s body count actually matters to you? It’s funny because I do think there is a double standard when it comes to men and women in the sense that even myself am guilty of not caring too much about how many women a man has slept with even into the hundreds I wouldn’t expect much else but I probably would judge a woman more harshly and kind of understand why a man would be put off but it.

Also, when I do see verifications and they have 50+ from sexual meets and I see it written down it does make me feel slightly uneasy…

No here to shame or criticise opinions. I’m genuinely curious about this

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By *quirtyndirty!Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

We are swingers and enjoy having sex with other people. We enjoy being promiscuous and admire others who are the same be they male or female. What society deems acceptable is not really of any importance especially as there are double standards involved.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I genuinely don't care about how many people someone has had sex with. What's important to me is how they treat me.

How do you easily define it anyway? Like during my lesbian years - are they half a body if I fingerblasted them or do I need to have scissored them?

I think that there's definite societal conditioning - men are cool if they fuck around but heaven forbid a woman does the same. We place value on a man's ability to prove his virility. Encourage it even. On a woman we place value on her virtue, see her as being better if *less* touched.

As far as veris putting you off or making you feel "uneasy"?

Fair. You're human. We all make judgements and that's yours telling you you might not be that compatible with the person/couple.

I'm not a swinger so someone who is meeting people every day wouldn't be for me. And my boring ways wouldn't be for them. I'm fine with that.

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

I doesn't bother me in the slightest, in some cases I find it a turn on.

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By *iasubTV/TS
over a year ago

Ilkeston

To me it makes no difference as long as im treated like a person and not your personal sex toy.

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

We are "what you see is what you fuck" honest, candid and courageously open ... we know that we have experience, we know that others want some verifications (we do) and we recognise that the way we treat others (respect, raunchy arousal) is the key, xx Anne

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Doesn't bother me at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As the lady said, "That don't impress me much." I'd be put off by a large number of in-person verifications from different people. For me, there has to be a connection, and I can't see that happening here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't care about someone's body count.. in the dating world I'd never even ask someone what theirs is. I do think women are seen as worse than men for high body count though. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The numbers game can do your head in.a man sleeps with 50 + now he's a stud lol a lady sleep with 50+ well she would be xxxxx but in this world of swinging it seems not a issue as long both are treated with respect x

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By *amesnplanesMan
over a year ago

Banbridge

There is definitely two sides to this.

The first is the conservative side that most have, namely to be a bit of an underdog and play everything low key.

That said, in the swing circles, if you're planning to meet folks in person, the verifications received and displayed is very much a badge of honour! Whilst it's not a blow by blow review of how good a lover they might be, its reassuring to know they are who they describe, and they are pleasant and reliable.

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By *os_GoddessofdawnWoman
over a year ago

In the clouds

I love people who love people... a number is just that

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

As we predominantly play at clubs, unless we asked (which we don't) we wouldn't have a clue if it was someone's first time or there had been hundreds before but it doesn't matter if we all mutually agree to play.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Despite my age I've only just reached double figures in sexual partners which is a pretty low number for here.

As I'm only interested in women on a similar journey to mine with similar experiences I'm not going to be compatible with someone who has had many more partners so I don't chat to those who do.

I've no issue at all with numbers but moreso the fact they have probably experienced most of the things I never have and therefore we are on different levels.

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By *oupDragonsCouple
over a year ago

East Ridings of Yorkshire..

First thing that come to mind was the Forrest Gump quote about the box of chocolates.

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By *ife NinjaMan
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Nah. Not fussed in the slightest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't really care about peoples count. I would never ask.

I have however experienced some comments from people (even on here) about how women are seen that have had a lot of partners. One guy from here told me that he would never consider dating a woman who had used Fab!! Pot kettle comes to mind. Asshole!

I keep a list of all of my encounters, I enjoy counting how naughty I have been, even set myself targets!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't care about someone's body count.. in the dating world I'd never even ask someone what theirs is. I do think women are seen as worse than men for high body count though. X"

Totally agree with this. We have been conditioned to think that a sexually confident woman who has sex with who she wants as often as she wants is a slut. Where as a guy doing the same is a stud.

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

tf1

I hate this judgment. We are on a swingers site so no one should bloody care.

And to OP someone will judge you for having sex with more than 1 man. I’m shocked that you would judge women but not men. Maybe you are in the wrong place with those attitudes

I never ask anyone what their body count is. No one’s business

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By *ee And MikeCouple
over a year ago

Cannock

As a cuckold couple we often get messages asking how many guys Dee has played with over the years, not sure it’s relevant, but there does seem to be a weird attitude about a woman enjoying multiple partners over the years whereas as it’s cool for a guy to do the same.

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By *urious is the VoyeurMan
over a year ago

Rickmansworth

Whether it is none, 1 or 100, isn't it about happiness?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's up to us, as individuals, to challenge the double standards and to challenge why we think in certain ways.

As in, is the thought yours or do you think its yours because you've heard it and attached to it?

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By *ustauseerTV/TS
over a year ago

Sedgemoor

I personally think they’re moot. They are no guarantee of anything.

It’s more about ego imo.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"I love people who love people... a number is just that"

That is such a gorgeous way of putting it. Yes. Exactly how I feel too.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes there's a double standard which won't go away any time soon.

I prefer not to know especially if someone has had sex with very many people.

Also I really don't like the term 'body count' it has a certain throw away, dehumanising quality to it that implies disregard for the people involved. But I do know that makes me wildly out of touch with modern parlance

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

Honestly.. we both gave up counting ages ago.

We just make sure we’re happy.

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By *ndiiiMan
over a year ago

Paisley Scotland

Who should care. As long as your happy in yourself it doesnt matter.x

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By *egDaySkipperMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

If she's not at least in triple digits I'm just going to assume she's crap in bed

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Since day one I've never counted my own. So I don't really care what someone else's number is.

When I was younger, I did turn down a couple of people because they were virginity, and I preferred to have people who knew what they were doing. But other than that I don't care at all

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By *eastZMan
over a year ago

London

I don't give a fuck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not fussed although it does show experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm only interested in meeting nice people. If they like me too, there's a good chance that the sex will be good.

On the other hand, someone with low standards is probably more likely to to pick me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm only interested in meeting nice people. If they like me too, there's a good chance that the sex will be good.

On the other hand, someone with low standards is probably more likely to to pick me

I have about 5 verifications or something on here, but I'll let you all into a secret.... I've had sex with way more than 5 people!

Verifications are not an indication of numbers AT ALL.

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By *ose-tinted GlassesMan
over a year ago

Glasgow / London

"When I was younger, I did turn down a couple of people because they were virginity, and I preferred to have people who knew what they were doing. But other than that I don't care at all

This was how I always felt too. (Yet again you’re speaking my brains, Prey …)

I’ve always preferred partners who’ve been around a bit. I want someone who loves sex and isn’t afraid to indulge themselves. I want someone who thrives on their sexuality.

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By *ixenandhoundCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth, South west

We mostly play at clubs so there isn't usually a conversation about numbers... but we like the swinging scene, we like adding othes to our fun so as long as its safe then the number isn't important to us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never understand why people are put-off by high numbers of verifications - for a lot of people this is a lifestyle, a hobby if you like - so of course fucking a lot of people is absolutely part of the deal.

If you're here to meet one person only, then it might be offputting, but it is a recreational sex site so numbers will be high for a lot of people.

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By *oxy jWoman
over a year ago

somerset

"We are swingers and enjoy having sex with other people. We enjoy being promiscuous and admire others who are the same be they male or female. What society deems acceptable is not really of any importance especially as there are double standards involved."

100% this ... perfectly said

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By *isterE ManMan
over a year ago

Taunton

Nope, never has!!

1 or 1000. As long as you habe been safe and tested. I will appreciate the experiance.

Not sure why it bothers some, but not me!

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By *ildGroverMan
over a year ago

rathfarnham

A high number of veris makes me go... Now that's dedication

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

My own little world

Higher the number the lower the standards no matter the sex of said person/people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Body counts put me off. I won't meet people with veris on their profiles.

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

Well it's a strange one this. We're on a swinging site which would mean people meet up and have sex, so why it puts people off I don't know!. I've been told by some that I have too many veris! .

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

"Higher the number the lower the standards no matter the sex of said person/people "

Utter rubbish!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eloquently put think you smashed the nail on the head in the first comment

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

tf1

"Higher the number the lower the standards no matter the sex of said person/people "

How do you work that out. I only fuck good looking sexy people. There have been a few

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

tf1

"Higher the number the lower the standards no matter the sex of said person/people "

Maybe you are in the wrong place

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By *amierebelMan
over a year ago

My own little world

Was just my opinion wich the post asked for no need to get in the feelings

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

"Higher the number the lower the standards no matter the sex of said person/people

Maybe you are in the wrong place "
in our humble opinion - yes that would be a fair comment

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

How many people a person has had sex with doesn’t bother me in the slightest, I’m interested in what sort of a person they are.

There are societal double standards with the comparison between men and women on this obviously… If a guy sleeps with lots of women he’s more often thought of a stud still, whereas if the situation is reversed, the woman is viewed in an “unflattering” manner

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By *tsJustKateWoman
over a year ago

London

I couldn't care less. My body count is pretty high anyway.

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Body count doesn’t bother me much, not something I would even ask, cause let’s be honest do you really really wanna know?

We on a swingers site after all, here to fuck & mingle not read bible scripture haha

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By *uckmonkeyMan
over a year ago

devon

Who cares as long as they have no std’s…….have fun and enjoy the individual….

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By *ympho6969Woman
over a year ago

glasgow

Anyone who questions or judges my body count isn't someone I want to talk to let alone do more with.

I think it's a ridiculous double standard for men to get a slap on the back and women to get named unsavory things. Let me give you some food for thought.... if all those heterosexual males are all "players" and all women should be virgins, who exactly are these men sleeping with

Worst of all is that most of it stems from our parents and theirs and society in general. Sons get a high five for their first time. Daughters gets a hit squad.

Then there's the responsibility of birth control, the automatic assumption that women should take the primary parental role and domestic jobs while working and a man.

Sorry but society needs to get with the times and get rid of that Alpha male chauvinistic bs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you care about somebodies body count on a swingers site, your definitely in the wrong place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"Op a guy organised you a bareback gangbang and your worried about someone with 50 plus verifications lol"

Priceless.

If anyone really thinks that veris show a true picture of someone's full sexual history......? Then I have some magic beans to sell you and a collection of magic lamps guaranteed to contain a genie.

People don't list every person they've ever fucked, gobbled, fingered, buggered, wanked, swapped bodily fluids with or even spanked with a wet piece of lettuce. Worrying about numbers you see on here is futile because you can guarantee their true count is higher.

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By *MisschiefxTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Don't care at all. In my opinion caring about that comes from personal insecurity.

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

"Op a guy organised you a bareback gangbang and your worried about someone with 50 plus verifications lol

Priceless.

If anyone really thinks that veris show a true picture of someone's full sexual history......? Then I have some magic beans to sell you and a collection of magic lamps guaranteed to contain a genie.

I’ll have you know that I list EVERY wet lettuce spankee on my profile

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By *aytie0 OP Woman
over a year ago

Seaham

Keen to hear more views

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